My marriage is just months, and I am pregnant I am Yoruba by tribe so is my husband When we we're courting I got to know he has a very big extended family where is mom is the 3rd wife... I came from a family where it is only my mum and dad and we were brought up with lots of Islamic knowledge and ways.... Few months to the wedding I told him I am not interested because I am afraid of his family, I don't think I can deal with the stress of a big Yoruba family in which he is the only Sunni among them ...... He begged me not to worry and even said we won't be living in the same state as they are so as to avoid the drama, he gave me lots of assurance But it is not it anymore I love my husband and he loves me But with the family trouble I feel I can't stay in this marriage I got lots of scenarios and I noticed my husband doesn't have a say in the family, even though he talks about what he wants or not he is always not answered 1. He said he doesn't want any singing and dancing during the wedding in their own house.... His mum said that he is the first born and she have never had a wedding they had the singing and dancing, he had to pack his friends to another place 2. He said he doesn't want the Yoruba ritual of performing ablution when they bring the wife home, I was told to do it and I had no choice... And this moments I knew what I entered My MIL calls my husband and says there is one wedding or that wedding I am suppose to go and he tells me..... I had to stop it by telling them I am working , in the space of 8 months I only went for 1 wedding .. When I got pregnant my husband told his mum She was happy Early Ramadan I was calling all my in-laws to say Barka for Ramadan shocking for me everyone is asking me how I was feeling and how am I faring ( I am shocked and sad ni dai in my house we don't say anything about pregnancy until when people see it, just like what the prophet said) I wanted to talk to him about it, but it will be as if I am attacking his mum, since it is his mum that is telling them, I asked someone that is also in an extended family she. Said that is how it is done. My siblings came to stay for the holiday, he told his mum, his aunt called me when school resumed that when are my siblings leaving .. I was shocked cuz must you tell them everything The worst of all is that He told me I am going to give birth in my MIL house that is not my problem, but the problem is they do ritual again, a woman that just gave birth is not allowed to eat salt, sugar or maggi until after 7 days WTF I asked him, he said I will talk to my mum about that But it just for talking sake I will just have to through this trauma too Sorry for the long post But this is it I am not use to this life style I am used to the lifestyle of me my family and few people I feel I knew I can't talk to my husband because it will be as if I am attacking his family So I thinking after delivering my baby I am walking out of this marriage But I don't know if it worth it Please advice me 😭😭😭 I didn't even tell my husband my exact pregnancy month because he said I will have to go to my MIL place on my 8th Month I am open to counselling and therapy if someone feels I am over reacting

following the kind of pains i'm going through, life has shown me shege

Choosing the wrong life partner might be due to family pressure, pair group or the society. Dear She/He, this is a lifetime matter. No matter the pressure you're in, endure it till the right time comes. Better marry late than wrong. Rush in = Rush out. keep praying especially in this Month of Barakah. I pray Allah Accept the silent prayer's of each & every one.

Haka kawai saurayina yadaina daga wayata banyi masa komaiba yaxanyi dashi please

I was 18,fresh out of secondary school with high expectations and hopes for my future . I started a teaching job so that I can have something to do while waiting for admission into higher institution. All my life ,I've never ever fallen in love ,I get scared by the thought of it,at that age I couldn't look at a girl eye to eye and have a normal conversation,not even my female classmates ,I was that shy . There was this certain girl, a few streets away from my house, we don't talk or share anything in common ,they normally pass our house when going to Islamic School in the evening. For the sake of privacy I'll refer to her as Aisha . The first time I met Aisha was when I was in Ss2, my school and hers had a football match . My mind was on the action going on in the field when I heard someone tapped me from my back . A girl came behind me and said someone wants to talk to me,she pointed at a small clique of girls sitting ,In their midst was Aisha. My mind started beating, I tried to pay attention on the football match but my focus was clouded . I left the field and went back to class , berating myself for not having the guts to accept her invitation. Two years later, I found myself teaching in the same school she is attending. Luckily for me I was given primary class to teach while she is in secondary. For the first week I couldn't see her in the school, I subtly asked my younger brother who's also attending the Same school if she's still attending the school. He said yes that it's because the session just started that's why . The next week I was outside observing the assembly when Aisha walked in and casually joined the queue . Everything was going okay till our eyes met,then the second time ,then the third . I looked away and walked back to the staff room . I tried to avoid her by all means. Some days later ,the school director called me into his office ,he asked if I can teach Islamic Religious Studies to the secondary as their Former teacher had left and I'm the only Muslim teacher in the school. I gladly accepted. Walking back to class ,reality of the situation dawned on me ..... I'll have to face Aisha , and worst teach her ....(to be continued) -M-

Pls how can a person know if a lady is a virgin or not?

Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Remember often the destroyer of pleasures: death.” Source: Sunan al-Tirmidhī 2307 Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Al-Nawawi Anas reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Remember often the destroyer of pleasures: death. Verily, no one living a hard life remembers it but that it expands his contentment, nor one living in prosperity but that it constricts his vain hopes.” Source: Musnad al-Bazzār 6987 Ibn Umar reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Remember often the destroyer of pleasures: death. Verily, no one living with plenty does so but that it diminishes his vain hopes, nor one living with little but that it increases his hope in Allah.” Source: al-Mu’jam al-Awsaṭ lil-Ṭabarānī 5780 May Allah guide us all and make us amongst the inhabitants of jannatul firdaus

Abu Sa’id al-Khudri reported: The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Whoever recites Surat al-Kahf on Friday, a light will shine for him between this Friday and the next.” Source: al-Sunan al-Kubrá lil-Bayhaqī 5996 Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Al-Albani Abu Darda reported: The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Whoever memorizes ten verses from the beginning of Surat al-Kahf will be immune to the False Messiah(Dajjal)". In another narration, the Prophet said, “From the last ten verses of Surat al-Kahf.” Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 809 Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Muslim

I wanted to ask , is it possible for shyness to be too much ? Am often told am too shy and I should reduce it , And that how can I get married if am being this shy ? This is what alot tell me . I don't really like going out except it's for going to visit my relatives or seeking knowledge because of how shy I am , I don't look at people much ( females ) not to even talk of men , even when am with my friends , am still very shy . Or at times when I see someone I know , even when am wearing my niqab I feel shy to talk to them not to talk of me not wearing the niqab , but Alhamdullilah I muster the courage to say Salam because it's what our religion teaches . Even talking alot of times when am with people , I feel so shy to talk much except when absolutely necessary if not I just smile and listen to them . Shyness is part of Iman Alhamdullilah , May Allah bless us all and increase us in goodness and guide us to the straight path . But I wanted to ask , can shyness be too much ?

I work in healthcare,this lady I plan on marrying we are in a long distance relationship. I work till evening and we normally chat during the night. we didn't talk during the day this certain day and we had a quarrel . I recently had promotion and I'm having a hard time creating time for talk during the day except at night.I'd like to know if I was the one in the wrong here . Here's the chat [4/4, 5:47 PM] My World: amore [4/4, 5:47 PM] My World: 😔 [4/4, 6:51 PM] My World: Iftar Mubarak ife [4/4, 7:18 PM] Me: Baby [4/4, 7:18 PM] Me: Thank you [4/4, 7:22 PM] My World: You're too busy to even say hi tunsafe [4/4, 7:22 PM] My World: Haka akeyi? [4/4, 7:24 PM] Me: Sorry Not my fault [4/4, 7:27 PM] My World: My fault? [4/4, 7:27 PM] Me: Nope but understand [4/4, 7:28 PM] My World: Hmmm [4/4, 7:32 PM] Me: What brought hmmm here now [4/4, 7:32 PM] My World: You now [4/4, 7:33 PM] My World: Instead of apologising properly you're saying "sorry not your fault [4/4, 7:33 PM] Me: Apologize? [4/4, 7:33 PM] Me: For working ? [4/4, 7:33 PM] My World: Yes [4/4, 7:33 PM] Me: Wait you expect me to chat like before ? [4/4, 7:33 PM] Me: Do you even know what I was doing ? [4/4, 7:34 PM] Me: You can't even ask me how was work [4/4, 7:34 PM] My World: Sorry Mr busy no vex [4/4, 7:34 PM] My World: Bye [4/4, 7:34 PM] Me: Good night Two days later [4/6, 8:09 AM] My World: Sannu [4/6, 8:12 AM] My World: Pompous [4/6, 8:58 AM] My World: You sent this to me yourself but i don't have it anymore.......you said no man can be too busy with the woman he loves . ,and that's just the fact .there's no way you'll be too busy from morning till night that you won't be able to say a word to the person you claimed to love,even if you owns the place ..hmmm ,i told you the night before that day that I'll be done with *****(a computer school), but what did you do?no call no messages throughout the day ?have i ever treated you that way?or because I'm not working and you felt you're the busy one here do you know how busy my schedule's are?or you think in a relationship you only talk at your convenience time ? You were saying was i expecting you to chat me like before?like you just started this week?of course it's almost 2 weeks since he left and we've been talking so you didn't start that day,you were saying that i couldn't ask how your day went ,did you ask about my day too?or you're the only human here,you only think of yourself, our cousin's son had accident that day and killed someone, did you ask of my day?but just trying to talk to you you started talking like you're talking to your child ,you feel this relationship you can do what ever you like and I'll be just there accepting every shit you bring .no I'm not desperate, you can't treat me anyhow you like and expect me to just sit back [4/6, 8:58 AM] My World: If you're done just say it ,not attitude [4/6, 9:42 AM] Me: We were talking normal, we talked in the morning,I happened to be busy that certain day. I wasn't free till in the evening,I replied your messages, you asked me is this how it's done I apologized and said it wasn't my fault ,I asked you to understand. Do I normally go the whole day like that without chatting ? You went ahead with it , asking me to apologize ’properly’, I asked you apologize because I was busy at work ? You got angry and I got angry too and said goodbye . How did I talk to you like a child?for all the times you've had to go off for a reason or the other I've never asked you to apologize or something like that. I get it You had a rough day,I should have reminded earlier about ****** but there's nothing wrong if you had simply told me about your day and reminded about ******* as I tend to forget easily . I was the calm one that day ,I apologized but you kept on pushing it till I couldn't take it.

𝑸𝑼𝑬𝑺𝑻𝑰𝑶𝑵❓ : Does a firm intention to break the fast, without eating or drinking cause the fasting person to break his fast? : 𝑨𝑵𝑺𝑾𝑬𝑹❗️ : It is well known that fasting is a combination of intention and abandoning, for a person makes the intention by fasting to draw near to Allaah, the Almighty, the All-Powerful by abandoning the things which break the fast. So, if he makes a firm intention to stop it, then the fasting is invalidated; but if it is in Ramadan, he must refrain from eating, drinking and sexual intercourse until the sun sets, because every person who breaks his fast in Ramadan without an excuse is obliged to continue fasting and to make up for it. However, if he did not make a firm intention, but was undecided, then it is the subject of disagreement among the scholars: some of them say that his fast is invalidated, because indecisiveness invalidates a firm intention. Others hold that it is not invalidated, because the basic principle is that the intention remains valid until such time as he makes a firm intention to break it and end it and this is the more correct view in my opinion as it is more weighty. And Allaah knows best. Shaykh Muhammad bin Saalih al-`Uthaymeen Fatawa Arkaanul-Islaam, DARUSSALAM, vol.2, p.646

𝐓𝐀𝐌𝐁𝐀𝐘𝐀❓ : Idan mace mai ciki taga jini kafin haihuwar ta da kwana ɗaya ko biyu shin zata bar sallah da azumi ko ya zatayi?? : 𝐀𝐌𝐒𝐀❗️ : Idan mai ciki taga jini kafin haihuwar ta da kwana ɗaya ko biyu idan tana cikin nakuda ne to wannan Nifasi ne, zata bar sallah da azumi, idan kuma ya kasance ba ta cikin nakuda to wannan jinin cutane bazatayi i'itibari dashi ba, bazata bar sallah da azumi ba.

Daga Malam Aminu Ibrahim Daurawa SUFFOFIN DA SUKE HANA A AURI MACEí 1-Mace mabarnaciya 2-Mace mai yawan son ado idan zata fita 3-Mace mai yawan fara'a ga kowa 4-Mace mai kaifin harshe ABUBUWAN DA SUKE JAWO LALACEWAR JIKI 1-Karancin abinci a jiki 2-Yawaita yin jima'i 3-Yawan shiga bandaki 4-Bacci bayan magrib ABUBUWAN DA SUKE JAWO TALAUCHI 1-Share daki da sutura 2-Cin abinci akan tafin hannu 3-Fyace hanci lokacin da ake kashi 4-Cire farce da hakori 5-Susa da itace ABUBUWAN DA SUKE JAWO MANTUWAR ZUCIYA 1-Yawan maganganu 2-Yawan dariya 3-Yawan cin abinci 4-Cin haramun LOKUTAN DA AKA FI KARBAR ADDU'OI 1-Lokacin kiran sallah 2-Lokacin ikama 3-Bayan shiga masallaci 4-Daren juma'a da yininta 5-Lokacin sahur 6-kashi uku na karshen dare Tsakanin magrib da isha'i DALILAN DA SUKE HANA KARBAR ADDU'A 1-Barin sunnar annabi 2-Rashin godiya da ni'imar Allah 3-Rashin bada hakkokin ubangiji 4-Shagaltuwa da laifukan mutane etc Da fatan duk wanda yayi recieving wannan sako shima zai tura wa wasu yan uwa maza da mata Allah ya karawa annabi daraja...Allah kuma yasa mu dace duniya da lahira... Ameen summa Ameen.. Watarana annabi muhammad(s.a.w) yana cikin damuwa sai Allah(s.w.t) ya aiko mala'ika jibrilu ya tambayeshi me ke damunsa sai manzon Allah(s.a.w) yace:-ummati sai mala'ika jibrilu ya kware masa kaburbura baki daya sai yaga wasu na cikin murna wasu na cikin damuwa sai mala'ika jibrilu yace masa wadanda ka gani suna murna to sune masu fadin kalmar LA'ILAHA ILLALLAH wadanda kuma suke damuwa sune wadanda basa fadin wannan kalmar amma duk da haka manzon Allah(s.a.w) bai bar damuwa ba sai Allah(s.w.t) yace afadamasa ولسوف يعطيك ربك فترضي watau dassannu zamu baka ceto har sai kace ya isa sai manzon Allah(s.a.w) yace dako zan ceci duka ummati sai wanda yaqi. Allah kasamu cikin ceton manzon Allah(s.a.w) sannan "yan uwa mu yawaita anbaton LA'ILAHA ILLALLAHU koda zamu samu shiga cikin wadancan mutanen. Allah ka jikan duk wanda ya tura wannan ga koda mutun biyar??

Dan Allah ina azimi but Always i'm thing akan muamalar aure nidai banyi aureba amma kullum ina cikin yin tunane tunani haka yahukuncin azimi na yake please

Good day dearies how is RAMADAN going Allah ya bamu ladan dake ciki! my cousin's husband wants to marry me and she's just like a sister from thesame mother to me a gidansu na tashi mamana da babanta are from thesame parent tun Ina karama aka mayar dani gidansu can nayi wayo bansan dadin gidanmu ba coz ban zauna da kowannen su ba not even my mother! Sunyi aure da mijin ta 12years back for the past 5years yana bibiyata shi aurena zeyi and all. Haka kawai idan ya tashi yimun kyauta ze turamun 50k wai insaya abunda nakeso wallahi akan shi har banason zuwa gidan ta na rasa ta yanda zan bullo mishi banason fadama matarshi directly saboda banason abunda ze taba aurenta kuma banaso tazo daga baya ta gano bansan wanne kallo zatayi mun ba

I actually don't know my problem 😢 I have been in a relationships, but must of them left me without a reason and nikuma ban iya takurawa mutum in a relationship ba if you're not longer interested then you leave bansaniba ko ban iya soyayyabane oho but it paind me sometimes 😥😰😢

pls don't judge me me I find it very hard to pray at all time and it's not that I don't want to pray Neh fah whenever I want to pray I feel something is dragging me not pray at all time I tend to fight myself at all time but I find it very hard and it makes me feel very bad about myself and I really struggle to pray and people tend to judge me because I don't pray as a bad person sometimes I cry 🤧because I don't pray on time and some are telling me it better I convert to Christianity because I don't pray I find it very hard. pls what did you think is the solution to my problem because it's really getting out of hand . I saw a tweet on twitter which someone was talking about his struggle to pray 5 times daily salat that he started with one daily till he was able to praying 5 daily salat of is

LOKACIN SHAN RUWA (BUƊA BAKI) : 𝐓𝐀𝐌𝐁𝐀𝐘𝐀❓ : Assalamu Alaikum malam khamis Muna godiya sosai. Allah ya saka muku da alkhairi Ameen. Tambaya ta anan shine Yaushe ne lokacin buɗa baki (shan ruwa)? : 𝐀𝐌𝐒𝐀❗️ : Lokacin buɗa baki ya na tabbata ne da zarar rana ta faɗi. Dalili kuwa shine, hadisin da aka karbo daga Sahk ibn sa'ad, ya tabbata acikin Sahīhul Bukhārī daga Sahl Ibn Sa’ad yace: haqiqa Manzon Allah yace: Mutane ba zasu gushe tare da alheri ba matuqar suna gaggauta buɗa baki. Amma abin mamaki ayanzu sai kaga waɗansu mutane suna jinkirta buɗa baki har sai sunyi sallar magriba. Haqiqa yin haka ba qaramin kuskure bane, domin ya saɓawa koyarwar Manzon Allah ﷺ. Waɗansuma sai kaji su na cewa sai taurari sun bayyana, sannan suyi buɗa baki. Irin waɗannan mutane a tunanin su yin haka shine daidai, alhali kuwa ya saɓawa Sunnah, kamar yadda akayi bayani a hadisin daya gabata. Manzon Allahﷺ Yana cewa: قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم ﺑﻜﺮﻭﺍ ﺑﺎﻹﻓﻄﺎﺭ ﻭ ﺃﺧﺮﻭﺍ ﺍﻟﺴﺤﻮﺭ ‏ [📕ﺻﺤﻴﺢ ﺍﻟﺠﺎﻣﻊ.(2835)] Manzon Allah (saw) Yãce: Ku Gaggauta Shan-ruwa, Kuma ku Jinkirta Sahur. قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم ﺛﻼﺙ ﻣﻦ ﺃﺧﻼﻕ ﺍﻟﻨﺒﻮﺓ: ﺗﻌﺠﻴﻞ ﺍﻹﻓﻄﺎﺭ، ﻭﺗﺄﺧﻴﺮﺍﻟﺴﺤﻮﺭ، ﻭﻭﺿﻊ ﺍﻟﻴﻤﻴﻦ ﻋﻠﻰ ﺍﻟﺸﻤﺎﻝ ﻓﻲ ﺍﻟﺼﻼﺓ [📗ﺻﺤﻴﺢ ﺍﻟﺠﺎﻣﻊ.(3038)] Manzon Allah (saw) Yãce: Abubuwa Uku Suna daga Cikin ɗabi'un Annabta, 1- Gaggauta Shan-ruwa, 2- Jinkirta Sahur, 3- 'Dora hannun dãma akan hagu a Sallah. Haka hadisin da aka karbo daga Abdullahi Ibn Abī Auf yace: "ya kasance tare da Manzon Allah ﷺ a lokacin tafiya suna azumi, sai rana ta faɗi, sai Manzon Allah ﷺ yace da wani daga cikin sahabbansa ya sauka ya shirya musu kayan buɗa baki sai, sahabin yace: "Ya Manzon Allah da sauran rana, akayi haka har sau uku, Manzon Allah ﷺ na cewa dashi ya shirya musu abin buɗa baki. Daga karshe bayan sun kammala sai Annabi yace: “Idan kuka ga dare ya gabato daga nan (wato rana ta faɗi), haqiqa mai azumi ya buɗe bakinsa (ana nufin koya sha ruwa ko bai sha ba) Bukhari da Muslim suka ruwaito shi. Daga Ansa bn Malik(RA) ya ce: Manzon Allah(ﷺ) ya kasance yana yin buɗe baki kafin ya yi sallah da danyen dabino, idan bai samu danyen dabino ba sai yayi da busassun dabino, idan kuma bai samu busasshen ba, sai ya kurɓi wasu kurɓi na ruwa". Tirmidhi ya ruwaitoshi ALLAH NE MAFI SANI

Dan Allah masana su kara mun haske naga brown din ruwa almun jinin al'ada zai zo da naje tsarki sai naga jinin kadan da tsantsi. toh yanzu tunda nayi tsarki ban sake ganinshi ba. hasali ma koh danshin brown din babu. yanxu bansan matsayin azumina da sallah na ba.

Assalamualaikum my dear brothers and sisters yh kuke y ibada Masha Allah may Allah accept our ibadah Amin pls I have a question my question is that idan mutum yayi mafarki kuma Yana azumi pls akwai azumin sa Koh Babu and Ya zaiyi da Alamarin is he going to just wash it or wash it and get birth as in Islamic birth or what thank you.