Why is it so hard finding the right man? why is it so hard? The pressure is real out there....the fear and doubts is real.... when family are already pressing you to get married...You see your mates already settling down and then you become conscious of time, the fear gets real... But its hard ..soo hard I think the good girls find it harder to find real commitment why? I feel really scared, so scared that I might mark time and not be settled with a man after my heart... I pray daily that I do not make a mistake in marriage and more of, that I find real love soon.... I pray this too for every other girl seeking the same thing .

I'm a divorcee ,bantaba haihuwa ba. Though I had a miscarriage before we got separated with my ex husband.i haven't been into any relationship since my divorce.All I did was focused on my career.I met this man through a dating app, all was going well.Thinking I found the right one,not until he told me that he loves me but inyatuna cewa kwanciyar aure yashiga tsakanina da tsohon mijina sai yaji kyama that bayason yarunga mun wani kallo.And bayason ya tuna haka shi kallon dayakemun yanzu irin kallon wacce bata taba auren nan ne ba. I felt bad and told him does he really love.At some point banga laifinsa ba saboda bakowani namiji nada nashi muradin.Saina mishi uzuri nakuma nuna mishi shi aure ba'a yinsa idan zukata basu aminta da juna ba.Inzai aureni Yana kyamata to gara yasamu wacce bata tabayin auren ba.Ni zan iya hakura. Na tunatar dashi tunda na rabu da mijina kusan 4 years hannuna babu namijin daya balle haryakaiga anyi sexs dani. Narike mutuncina Kuma ko mutuwar aurena kaddara ce.As time goes on dai,things didn't go on well and we broke up. Nayi addua Allah yasa hakan shine Mafi alheri. Then I met the last one whom was a family friend.we fell in love, inyazo zance cikin parlor muke hira.Bamu taba fita tare badai. Last last he asked to sleep with me and told me he's not ready for marriage.wai yaga ni bazawara ce, zawarawa sunfi dadin sha'ani.I am in pains wallahi I want to fall in love and get married again and have my own kids.Amma nayi Imani Allah zai dubeni. Meyasa divorcees ba'a daukarmu mutanen kirki?? Akwai nagari dayawa agari.

Islamically is it allowed for a lady to partake in politics ?

this Generation women prioritze money/materialism over decency, true love and self worth.

everyday I Wake up feeling like a bad person.. I don't know why. each time I wake up in the morning I take my time to understand myself and if I miraculously feel okay then before the end of the day my mood will change.... I don't know what is wrong with me

Alhamdulillah I've always gotten a positive feedback from this forum and am forever grateful to the kindly advices. Am in a relationship with a married man that has 2 kids. We have decided to meet for the very first. We agreed on him coming to my house but he is insisting he won't enter inside my house because it is too early for him to meet my parents. I actually understand his point, but I feel is not a big deal if he gets to great my parents. And sometimes I feel he doesn't trust me that is why he don't want to come inside my house. Pls house kindly advice me we'll be meeting soon and I really want him to see my dad because he will be travelling for almost 3 years before he returns In Sha Allah.

So I met this guy last year (2022), a month after our meeting he kept insisting that he wants to move things to the next level and wants to go home, I got scared and didn't want to jump into a marriage of 1 month relationship I told him that I'll have to tell my parents first. So I went home and informed my sisters and aunts, so I was told to just let him come home tunda ba immediately ne zaayi auren ba. I told him that it's okay he can come meet my Dad, he visited home and introduced himself. but a few days later, he began to complain as to say I act too "composed" around him and as to why I don't want to hug him or even hold his hands when we meet. I began to have 2nd thoughts about him. told my siblings and they said maybe he's trying you give him time and see. We kept moving he visits and calls a lot. His name is Aleeyu. we kept talking and discussing as normal, when it was my birthday he took me and my siblings for dinner. he'd visit home with gifts to see my younger siblings and greet my aunts. everything was normal and we talk about marriage which he wanted before Ramadan or after. With the discussion we kept having, the marriage is supposed to happen after Ramadan. to cut the story short 2days ago he called me on a video call on his way to the airport traveling to Lagos. we talked and gisted and he called me "his wife" as usual. wished him a safe trip. Yesterday night, I checked Aliyu's status and I saw Aleeyu posted his pre-wedding or should I say Post wedding pictures with another woman. I couldn't believe my eyes and I commented, to last month you went to Maiduguri for your wedding?? I asked him what happened I didn't even know what to say because I was very shocked and confused! Only for Aleeyu to reply that it was his "immediate brother" I went blank for a few minutes and then decided to forward to my friend. She called and she was shocked as well. she's in school so I guess she showed her roommate and the roommate told her to go on instagram and check @She_said_yes_to_Ali 💔💔 My friend called me back this morning and shared the news only for me to check the account and to God who made me it was "Aleeyu" wedding events Aleeyu "IMMEDIATE BROTHER"??? An "IMMEDIATE BROTHER "who looks exactly like you and bears the same name as you??? I still went back to ask ALEEYU and he still denied the fact and said that it's his brother I am just exaggerating things. So after seeing the instagram page I decided to go ask him of his immediate brother's name. and he still hasn't replied yet!! I want to; Should I go ahead and forward the page to him, or should I just ignore him and move on with my life?? I AM HURT VERY VERY VERY HURT BY HIS BEHAVIOR!! ALEEYU got married last week, which means he was already a married man the day we spoke while he was on his way to the airport which was 2days ago😭😭😭 ALEEYU ALLAH YA ISA, this pain you've caused shall be done upon you too InshaAllah, I don't know what your motive was behind doing all this but denying "Your marriage" to my face just to make me feel like a fool alone is what hurts more!! ALLAH YA BAKU ZAMAN LAFIYA BUT ALLAH YA SAKAMIN ALEEYU. Dear men, Put the girl's you hurt in your sister's shoes before doing anything to hurt their feelings Danallah! Emotinal Damage is real and Mental health is important!

Islamically it is said that music is harm I'm a bit confuse, pls malaman aji fill in my curiosity my question here is those is include islamic songs, love songs? are this all haram or is it just the ones with vulgar words

these days getting a decent source of income is hard to come by, anyone has a suggestion on how i can get a good source of income at least to support myself

Please, who knows any online class that teaches Quran and it's meaning. Please help me. Thank you

There’s a reason I am telling this story there are some lessons in it😊 but before that let me tell you the funny part😹😹😹😹 nobody ever tell us about the shit we will go through when we are heartbroken😭💔 sai ta sameka zaka ji yanda ake ji💔💔 akwai ranar dana shiga toilet wai abinci zan zuba fa😹😹 nasha kuka tukun na tuna a inda nake da asr kuma na shiga kitchen wai sallah zanyi haka zanta zarya daga palour zuwa kitchen na rasa me zan yi ashe wai sallah zanyi I went through alot wlh haka zan wuni tun safe banci komi ba har dare na rame kamar mara lfy kuma dama na danyi ciwo a tsaye😢 gashi dai a gida ban isa nace sbd wani nake wannan abun ba kuma dama fuska na da wuya ya nuna abunda ke damuna ko jiya dana kalli pics din da nayi lokacin nace ikon Allah kman ba abunda ke damuna lokacin. Let’s get back to lbr It was one of the hardest moments of my life I hardly sleep so I started doing tuhajjid and since I don’t eat I started fasting abun haushin na kasa daina kula shi but I killed him in my heart I told myself he’s dead and the person I’m with now is a stranger who I will let go one day. Nida bana yarda da soyayya saboda da wuya kaga saurayin arziki yanzu sai dai kawai sometimes a scul ayi catching cruise da anyi hutu a watse Nasha cika baki idan aka ce wance tayi kuka akan wane ( Kada mu yiwa kaddarar wani dariya dan suna abunda muke ganin ba zamu iya ba) Allah shi ya jarabta su muma zai iya jarabta mu Mamana ta koya mun neman zabin Allah akan zabi na amma akan shi wallahi mantawa na dunga yi da zabin Allah ( Astagfirullah) shi din kawai nake roka a wajen Allah😭😭😭😭 Abunda ba rabonka ba ba zai taba zama naka ba duk nacin ka akan shi Alhamdulillah this made me more closer to my lord😢 things happen for a reason maybe I was getting far from Him so He tested me with Him or maybe He is preparing me for the best😊 I’m still not over him yet almost a year nayi addua amma duk sanda na sake nayi tunanin shi to in shaa Allah na kwanta sai nayi mafarkin shi😭😭😭 although na daina kuka kuma na roki Allah ko a hanya karya sake hadamu🤲🏾🤲🏾🤲🏾 Allah ya bani wanda ya fishi. Shi kuma idan ya cutar dani Allah ya yafe mishi amin. Dan har yanzu ban taba jin haushin shi ba tsabar rashin zuciya😹😹😹

I don't want to generalise but its seems all these rumours about Abuja men seems to be true. Majority of them feels nothing bad about zina, it's like a normal thing to them. If you refuse to indulge them, the next thing is to start making you feel inadequate, like "ke baki waye ba". The situation is even worst when you are divorced and living alone. Lagos men on other is a discussion for another day. Those ones will call themselves Ustaz, once you start getting used to them and think you have gotten "your missing rib", the next thing is coming to visit but this people will insist on staying in your house during their visit. Like its a normal thing for them. So far, I have had experience from 3 Lagos men back to back. The 3rd one happened recently, I have to tell him my dowry has been paid and walimatu nikkah is after Ramadan. I am thinking of staying of relationship for now, maybe in future.

Mind you this person on green lights from each and every corner they know you will notice😢 hmmm you start staring at their picture becoming more obsess meanwhile they don’t tell you they like you yet but there’s nothing you will do that will not impress them🙄 yeye you can’t wait for him to say it😏 you start saving nice name that you will be calling them ( well done oo lover girl)🤦🏾‍♀️ you start dreaming of how your children will look like😲 ( person wey no propose to you) then you found out he’s a laborer😹😹😹😹 (not trying to disrespect this job just an example oo kafun azo ace nace) a whole you ouuuhch😹 but because you are obsessed with him you tell yourself for better or worst you will be with him even when he will not be able to bring food to the house ( wahala be life sacrifice) you are praying to god now to make this person propose kashhhhh🤦🏾‍♀️ ana ta tafia lokaci nata wucewa😹 amma har yanzu shiru rannan kuna hira ya shaida miki ai mace ma zata iya cewa namiji tana son shi ba abun kunya bane🙆🏾‍♀️🙆🏾‍♀️🙆🏾‍♀️🙆🏾‍♀️🙆🏾‍♀️🙆🏾‍♀️ amma ke kuma kina da kunyan ki🥺🥺 kika kasa fada masa 😭😭😭😭😭😭 Ana haka kawai sai kika gan matar da zai aura🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭🙆🏾‍♀️🙆🏾‍♀️🙆🏾‍♀️🙆🏾‍♀️🙆🏾‍♀️😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭🙆🏾‍♀️🙆🏾‍♀️🙆🏾‍♀️🙆🏾‍♀️🙆🏾‍♀️🙆🏾‍♀️🙆🏾‍♀️ ya dora ta a page nashi har an saka rana ( wayyo rayuwa) da can idan kika tambaye shi yan matan shi yace miki babu ko daya fa he’s single🥵

Last year breakfast was nominated as international cake😹💔💔💔 But what do we call one sided breakfast? I mean when the love is one sided and you got served hot and chilly😭 Oh my god You know... you just meet someone and you exchange contacts start talking and the person is just sooo kind and cool possess some qualities you want your partner to have 😐 then this person start telling you you are cute I love your voice I like this thing about you I like that yenyenyenyen😏 filled your head with lies and then they start asking if you are single or not😏 trying to know more about your ex what makes you part ways🥴 and of course you’re single so you tell them you are and everything .... they start calling more often and even promise to come and talk to you in person coz they have alot they want to discuss with you💔💔 Boom 💥 with your yeye head you start fantasizing things😹😹 you have already seen your wedding day in your imagination and your marriage is the perfect one your mother in-law loves you bcos of the way you’re taking care her of her child and the way you respect all his family🙂 poor thing🥺 you become so obsess with the person you never knew anything about but you have already told them not only your story but also the history of your great grandparents 🙆🏾‍♀️

Yau kimanin shekara takwas kenan ina wata kasa, bayan na gama karatu na a kasar na samu aiki se na cigaba da zama a kasar. Kamar shekaru 3 kenan na auri wannan yarinyar daga Kano na kawo ta wannan kasar. Komai ni nayi mata tin daga kan passport, family visa, na biya mata flight da sauransu. Da tazo nan se ta samu aiki a wani company tanayi, bayan ta fara aikin se na fara fuskantar wasu abubuwa game da ita. Akwai abubuwa da banson fada anan amma dai ina dan zargin tana wasu abubuwa da basu dace ba a gurin aikin da sauran maza abokan aikinta. Se na nemi ta dena aikin kawai ta dinga zama a gida tinda ban dauke mata komai ba, kuma Alhamdulillah ba abinda zata nema ta rasa a guri na har da wasu nata ma. Baiwar Allah nan tace ita bazata iya dena aiki ba. Kuma ni ne na samr mata aikin ma, komai ni na mata. Ta nuna itafa akan ta dena aiki sede na sake ta. Na yiwa magabatanta magana amma ina ganin kamar a baynta suke. Haihuwa yanxu kauce mata take, tinda ta haifi yaro guda daya. Bansan dalilin ta ba. Ina matukar nadamar kawota wannan kasa walh. Yanxu in na sake ta ma ba barin kasar nan zatayi ba, zanci gaba da ganinta raina yana baci. Don Allah kuban shawara ya zanyi akan wannan abu. Kuma ina kiran maza 'yan uwa da kada suyi kuskuren kawo matansu kasashen turai, don walh mata in suka goge anan fin karfin mazan su suke. Allah ya mana magani.

Asslm. it has come to my notice that I have been living a lonely life... I only know the road to my office then back home everyday from 9am to 8-9pm... and it's becoming depressing on a workfree days...therefore, I'm in search of a healthy friendship preferably in Abuja. 3 friends at least... I will inform the admin of my request thank you and stay blessed... Bissalam

guys I cannot withhold my emotions any more, I feel like I should hear an advise from someone, there is this guy, he's a twin, he's cute, admirable, loving, and most of all kinda and very religious, he said he likes me, and I told him I like him too. I feel like we should get married right away, not because I am eager but because I feel that's the right thing to do, we met in UBA bank, OMG, he's my account officer but nevertheless that's not the problem. I am feeling someone to tell him to come see my dad, I don't want him to feel like I am eager or desperate or you know kamar na rasa dinna, I want to be his halal wife and also he to be my halal husband, I wanna have kids with him, (excuse my honesty and transparency), I am ready to sacrifice my career as a working class lady and work from home(i cannot stat without doing nothing,). there is another problem, I am more financially stable than him and I think he isn't comfortable(even though he's not showing it) with that. I need advise, I don't care, I am ready to help him out, get him on his feet, but I need to be sure he mine and he's sincere and genuine. all I want is true and genuine love. awwn my hussy

Aslm I apply for census ad-hoc and my dashboard showing me pending and also I want to my LGA for screening they told Me that am not among the shortlisted candidate for the screening. I'm here ko akwai Wanda xai taimaka amin approved, dan yanxun kuma naga abun wai ya koma na kudine Muda bamu da wani sai mun biya kudi kafin Amana approving Pls help your sister inda hali

Help a sister, my cousin is going to be 20 this year and still bedwet. she did almost everything, wlh she is suffering mentally but no choice ko irin fitan nan ayi sleep over with friends batayi sabida tsoro gashi ta shiga buk hostel still bar yanzu. she is ashamed sincerely, u can see it in her eyes. And she is scared no one will agree to marry a girl that bedwet, Allah had it been i was a guy i would have married her amma ina am a girl. some said sae tayi aure after her first nyt wae zata bari . tou is there no way apart from that. help a soul pls

Y is it that whenever i show that I don't want to marry a young guy or be d first wife people look at me like am an alien. am not interested in dating a guy that's not emotionally matured, i prefer an old guy that will understand all my mental state. i just prefer old people around d age of 45-50 mind u am only 20. i prefer being d last wife also, a fourth wife also known as d amarya. i don't just want my husband to see me or treat me as a baby, i want him to knw yes this girl is my baby, mine to pamper and take care cause she is just a child. is that abnormal pls