am single parent, a lawyer, fixer, corporate practitioner, certified dispute resolution, mediation and a councilor! am in my late 30s, a straight forward and simple going individual, friendly, reserved/outspoken (depending on who u ask), I have one principle "don't do what you don't want to be done to you! so I try to treat ppl with kindness... BACKGROUND!during my undergrad because of my nature ppl tend to wonder who/if am dating anyone, an generally liked but nobody can say with certainty if an dating.... don't get me wrong I was like an enigma a lot of failed attempt to date me, fighting even between prospective suitors students and lecturers alike, believe me am not blowing my own horn I carry with me a charismatic aura.... U will be surprised am just an average lady, with my own sense of style, tall, slinder and fair complexion, I never use make up, or follow trends of any kind... so if any guy approaches me I will tell them straight up but politely am sorry am not interested, I will never intentionally mislead anyone I try to be clear on that. I came from a royal family I was well known which I don't like, I want to answer my own name, ppl male/ female gets into relationships for one reason or the other money, beauty, fame the list goes on, hardly love! for me I want to get married to someone who loves me, whom I can tolerate/accomodate matured enough to care for me, not necessarily rich, I don't mind catering for myself and him, I have always been a hustler, I like being financially independent, (yeah I know foolish of me😂)

Dear Singles, Do not destroy your imaan by engaging in haram love. A haram relationship always gives anxiety and depression. Stay pure, wait for Halal and make dua for a righteous spouse. Allah will grant you the best reward for your patience. In’Sha’Allah 💝🤲

pls i need an advice,i'm a lady in my mid twenties,and mashaallah i'm a bit attractive,and as such i'm being asked out alot,but the problem is the moment i started having something serious with someone they will just ghost me with no reason,this has happened countless times,but this last one got me thinking that its not normal.we started getting to know each other and eventually fell in love,and he was serious about getting married to me and all,he even asked me to pls inform my dad about us because after sallah he will inform his dad and send his people to mine,the last time he came everything was ok,we talked about us getting married and all and he left,but everything changed from that day,he became distant,stopped calling and texting and when i complained he said everything was ok i was just overthinking,but its obvious he has changed but he denied it,now it's been a week since he last called,and i'm sure he is also going to ghost me. This experience has made me realize that this pattern isn't normal. I've started wondering if I might have a jinn accompanying me that's creating obstacles in my life. I've read that it's possible, and I'm considering undergoing ruqya to cleanse myself. Please advise me on what to do."

pls I wan to understand something my boyfriend since tahajjud started to decided to stop talking to me because of Ittikafi he said he joined for the last 10 days tho I'm not complaining I just wan to knw and understand is it normal thing or he's deciding to distance his self from me cos we had issues before the last 10 days started

It was January 2022 when I first said, "I do." A promise that once felt so pure, so full of hope, made in front of family, friends, and a future we both believed in. My university fiancée, a woman I thought I knew so well, became my wife on that crisp winter day. The first three months were perfect—like a dream. We were inseparable, laughing at silly things, sharing inside jokes, and finding solace in each other’s company. But as the fourth month approached, a subtle shift started to unfold—quiet at first, almost imperceptible, but powerful in its reach. It began with the small things. I would come home from work, and there was a sense of disarray that made my chest tighten. Dirty dishes in the sink, laundry piling up in corners, and the overwhelming scent of a space that wasn’t cared for. When I mentioned it, she would apologize, but the next day would be the same. I could see her exhaustion, the quiet struggle in her eyes. Still, it didn’t feel like she was trying. Then, there was the food, never on time, and rarely satisfying. I remember a time when we would cook together, and our conversations would flow effortlessly, but now, eating had become a mundane task. It wasn’t just the house or the food. It was something deeper. I found myself wanting her attention, craving her presence, and longing for the affection we once shared. I would try to talk to her, but she seemed so absorbed in her own world, in her routines, her studies, her ambitions—anything but me. Her indifference began to pierce through my thoughts like an unspoken accusation. I wasn’t important enough to demand her attention. I wasn’t enough. Our conversations about this went round and round, always ending in her promises to try harder. But nothing ever changed. And soon, I realized something: I had stopped feeling the love I once had for her. It had faded quietly, almost imperceptibly, like the slow burn of a fire that had no more fuel to feed on. There was nothing left to sustain it. By the end of last year, I had reached a breaking point. I sat her down and, with a heaviness I can never quite describe, I told her: "I don't love you anymore. And I don't know what to do." The words felt like a final verdict, a conclusion to a chapter I hadn’t expected to close. The woman who was once my everything, my best friend, had become a stranger in my eyes. We spoke about separation. It seemed inevitable. And yet, we didn't act on it—not immediately. There was a sense of inertia, a fear of the unknown, and perhaps, the remnants of some misplaced hope. But last week, something inside me shifted—more like a release than a decision. I realized I didn’t have the emotional bandwidth to keep living in a relationship that had long since lost its essence. We separated. And for the first time in a long while, I felt free. The weight that had pressed on my chest for so long was gone. I have zero regrets. The love, the promises, the dreams—some things just weren’t meant to last. Maybe we outgrew each other. On the night of the divorce she cried and it was heartbreaking but maybe we were never meant to be. But all I know is, for the first time in years, I have hopes of finding love again

This days I've been dreaming my Ex that we broke up since 2017. almost everyday hope I'm safe?

Slm barkan mu da shan ruwa, I have this girlfriend and there are things she does that doesn't sit well with me. Though it might be minor to some but it messes with my mental health. I work from 10 - 5pm, then I'll get home by 6 or 7 if there's traffic. Im working in a data analytic firm, my work demands topnotch focus..... So I'm not opportune to chat most times during the day except at night when im back home. During my free time I'll send random hellos check up on her and disappear. She hates it, she wants my full attention at work and it's not possible. Since checking up on her and disappearing is causing issues, I decided to stop, I only message when I'm home. This got her mad too. Nevertheless I decided to just try and create more time for her while at work for peace to reign.There are times I'll be busy, stressed, and I might not be able to chat for most of the day, when I get back home, I want her to ask me what happened at work that kept me away from her, what stressed me, I should gist her about my busy day at work... You know stuffs like that, that will calm me after dealing with a days stress. But no, she'll start giving attitude, sometimes it ends in quarrel and honestly I'm sick of it. When I'm back home, anything 9pm she'll say she's feeling sleepy. And I don't complain. I feel I've been away for the whole day so why should I complain if she decides to sleep at night? Also, you know how men are? We don't like to share our problems with people, whenever something is disturbing me and I'm distant,rather than checking and asking why I am like this. She'll turn it into quarrel making things worse for me. My peace of mind is at stake here. I'm planning on introducing our parents to one another after Eid but I don't know. I'm just here second guessing things. She loves me but I don't find peace with her.....

what and what do you knw about sokoto guys their habit and the rest

Lately, I’ve been struggling with one illness after another it feels endless, and honestly, I’m exhausted. The pain I go through every day is overwhelming. I’ve lost interest in friendships, and I’ve distanced myself from many friends and even family. I’ve become quiet because I no longer have the strength to engage with people. Deep down, I wish someone could truly understand the pain I’m going through it’s unbearable. I’m battling hyperprolactinemia, and the symptoms of endometriosis are beyond what words can describe. Add to that ulcer pains, severe headaches, and constant fatigue it’s just too much. My skin keeps getting worse, I’m losing weight rapidly, and people keep asking why I look thinner every day. The truth is, I ask myself the same thing. It’s frustrating because, despite all this pain, when I go to the hospital, they rarely find anything serious. The bills pile up, and I leave without answers. I’m tired of explaining, tired of complaining it feels like no one understands. Even at home, people assume I’m lazy, not knowing the silent battles I face daily, especially the sleepless nights. I’ve reached a point where I just keep my struggles to myself because talking doesn’t seem to help anymore. If death comes, I only pray Allah takes me in a state of Ibadah. I’m truly tired

When deciding on who to marry, make the wise choice, choose character over beauty, person over money, mind over body and religion over degree. When making Dua to Allah ask for the total package! 😊

Slm, anyone here to talk? I'm distressed and I'll like a listening ear. Note : I'm a male

Salam Alaikum everyone please I need you guys advice saurayi na hadu da be fi wata biyu da haduwa ba,yazo da maganan aure gadan-gadan...bamu jima ba yache min ya sama hatsari an kwantar dashi(2months) Chan kuma yache min Wai za'a mai aiki kuma kap kudin hannun sa sun kare ko Zan iya Nemo mai aro nikuma wajen yaya na ne kadai Zan iya arowa kuma shima yayi ordering goods dinshi Basu shigo ba Ko na tambaya ma ba Bayar wa zeyi ba na fada ma saurayin nawa haka dan nasan bazan ma iya zuwa ma mama da wannan maganan ba dan she won't take it lightly with me what do you guys think about this? do you think he's genuine dan ni har ga Allah Ina San shi Amma zuchiya ta bata kwanta dashi sosaiii ba I just feel like there's something about him that am not okay with but na kasa gane Ko menene koma I don't think am the right person daya kamata ya tambaya bcos yana da siblings yana da friends ba abun in nemo masa aron kudin ba ni kuma na shiga matsala

Assalamualaikum, how's our fast? So I want to share with you guys something that has bothering me. .. So I've been silently bearing this but I'd like to know is it a woman thing or I'm in a toxic relationship? My girlfriend has this annoying habit of going distant or giving silent treatment. Most of the times I won't be at fault, maybe wani Abu ne ke damun ta ko wani ya Bata Mata rai Rather than tell me she'll just be distant and that habit is disturbing me. I'm the closest person she has and I feel hurt that I'm the one Wanda take huce wa akai na. So she has been distant Since Friday, I felt maybe it's the fast or something or she need rest. I decided to give her space. Today I got tired of it, I tried talking to her to know what's wrong. she was giving me short distant replies. I asked her if I'm disturbing her and forcing her to talk she replied with "yes abeg leave me alone". Honestly I've had enough of all these silent treatment for stuffs I know nothing about or doesn't concern me. As at this moment, out of self respect and for my own peace I'm deciding to take a break from her and be on my own because I'm sick of it. I can't even joke without her taking it personal. I feel restricted in terms of communication, I talk well with other people but I have to put effort in getting to talk to her. Before I carry out on my decision I will like to know is this a woman thing? Or it is just mine?

As we welcome the blessed day of Ramadan, our hearts are filled with gratitude and anticipation. May Allah accept our prayers, forgive our sins, and guide us on the righteous path. May He bless us with the strength to fast, the wisdom to recite, and the compassion to give. As we prepare for this spiritual journey, let's pray for: Peace and unity among Muslims worldwide Guidance and protection for those struggling Health and wellness for those in need Forgiveness and mercy for ourselves and our loved ones During Ramadan, let's strive to: Detach from worldly distractions and reattach to Allah's guidance Reflect on our actions and seek forgiveness Recharge our hearts with Quran's wisdom and blessings Reconnect with loved ones and strengthen bonds Fasting is not just about abstaining from food and drink, but about cultivating self-control, empathy, and compassion. May Allah grant us strength to make the most of Ramadan, and may we emerge as better versions of ourselves, with renewed faith, hope, and love. Ramadan Mubarak! Ameen!

i meet a guy through my best friend when I was going through a lot in life which is break up, I my heart was into pieces and he was also going through break up when we met and we were friends for a month when he expressed his love to me then we started dating after 8 months of us dating he said he want to come see my parents because he wants my family to know him i told my parents he is coming to meet the , the meeting was successful (tho it was long distance we were doing ) recently I don't want went wrong he just broke up with mean while I loved so much right now I suffered from heart issues and right the painful thing is I don't know how to stop loving him I am really hurt badly this is my story

It started as a gradual process but now Its become a part of me. I'm at a stage where I feel I don't have the strength to bond with anyone. I can comfortably stay for months without meeting up or calling any of my friends unless they call me to check up themselves. I have declined invites to a lot of get together, honestly I'd like to go but I don't find the strength nor excitement. I view family gatherings now as a burden. As a kid I use to be excited whenever we have a family gathering as a kid but now? I just wish the day would zoom off. A lot of people have tried to check up on me but my replies are sometimes cold. I swear it's not my intention. Later on when I realize I will feel bad and guilty. I have no strength for relationship. It wouldn't even work given how busy I am. Is this the direct result of experiencing numerous episodes of disappointments, betrayal from friends and heartbreaks? Or this is a phase everyone else passes through? Or this is who I am? I just want to know if it's normal.

Innalilahi wa'inna ilaihim Raji'u 😭 just feel like sharing what happened to me sbd mata sukiyaye have met this guy recently in November yashigo cikin Rayuwata muka fara soyarya magana haryakai gun manya akasa Rana se within last week nayi bincike akansa sbd abunda yakeyi yayi yawa Ashe mutumin Nan yanada mata harda Yara uku 😭 Amma yacemin matarsa tarasu wajan haihuwa yacemin mamansa tarasu Ashe tana Raye mahaifinsa ne Yarasu bayan cemana yayi mahaifinsa na Raye duk abubuwan daya fada mana karya Yakeyi Ashe infact gidan dayake zaune mah haya yakeyi banasa bane bah komai karyane Dan Allah kubani shawara Yazanyi Yanzu😭😭😭 am devastated my heart is broken ga depression feel like killing myself or running mad innalilahi wa'inna ilaihim Raji'u

pls can someone explain how this app work, I registered for basic and I keep seeing the same people, is that how it works?

I'm curious to know🙂have any of you found love or had successful matches through this platform? Abun na daure min kai.Share your stories, experiences, and testimonials please, I would love to hear about your journey and the connections you've made.

Who's in for a heart to heart convo