Assalam. I am someone who loves lovemaking in a stylis way. I love deep cuddling, romance and extreme intimacy. I love to enjoy diffrent sex styles/position with my wife. Unfortunately this girl doesn't learn. It is sad that I watch a lot of porn videos I have been exposed to so many sex styles. Because of these things, I made a decision that I will not marry a Hausa girl because I know our Hausa girls are not that romantic and they pretend to be shy atimes. I married this Igbira girl I met at ABU during my undergraduate studies. This girl unfortunately is not diffrent from what I run for in Hausa girls. Even simple doggy style, this girl will not bend for me she will be "No I don't want do that" she will just lie on bed looking up to ceiling and open her legs for me to drill. This is only position she allows me do. I am already bored of this as I feel as if I am making love wth a dead body. I tried to engage her in a cowgirl, wheelbarrow, reverse cowgirl, snowgirl e.t.c but this girl doesn't cooperate.
Food she no de cook. She goes to school to teach both in afternoon and evening. From my part, I try to do everything within my pwer to make this girl happy. I even renovated her parents house in Okene and her sister who attends BUK in Kano lives in our house, I give her transport money and atimes even pocket money.
My question is, do I have right to force this girl to make love with her the way I want, the style I want, or she is the own with sole right to decide how I sleep with her? Please advise me on what I should do about this.
My wife is 27 years and I am 34. It is been 3 yrs since we married. We have 1 daughter.
What were you doing during courtship? You skipped the important questions? The issue of cooking, you can enroll her into a cooking class if she's willing to learn. But when it comes to romance that one is a serious issue. Just add another wife. If you say you will endure you'll remain unfulfilled and it can later on resort to bitterness and resentment. Romance is very important and when the energy isn't the same, it becomes a problem.
add a second wife and look for a Hausa girl you thought they were not romantic, believe me the result will be different
it feels like people think that we the Hausa's are not exposed and we have no knowledge when it comes to stuffs like this and the issue is you said she is not willing to learn and it doesn't sit well with her at least try some to make you happy your own way , well my advice here is try and have a heart to heart conversation with her, show her how this is important to you and how is really affecting you in your marriage ka nuna baccin rai sosai you mu mata munfi fahimta in that manner.Allah yasa a samu mafita
But on a honest note hausa ladies and being romantic is 1 and 10. All other aspect(cleanliness, taking care of the home etc) is A+ but you see that other side there are issues there. Although not all hausa ladies are like that but most of the people who complain about it are mostly hausas. If i were the poster, i can't really talk to my wife about it... I'll feel I'm trying to turn her into who she's not. I won't be happy as well. I'll feel she's doing it to make me happy and not because she's into it. It'll feel one sided.
that’s one of the damages of watching Porn.. anyway, you have no choice but to keep teaching her, and also reduce your expectations. if you are buoyant enough and fear extra marital affairs, then add another wife. but take note, she will also be lacking in something
I'm sure she'd be as romantic as you are had she watched as much porn as you did, may be you should try making her watch some porn, hopefully she'd learn or train her yourself.
On a deeper thought, why not look for a porn star and just get married to her or if you can't afford just seek for a retired porn star/karuwa and just get married to her. Why would you marry an innocent, chaste lady from her parents house and be expecting her to be like a trained porn star, go back do the dictionary and check the meaning of the word Romantic...what a pity! mtsww
It's so sad, very disheartening, appalling and disgusting that this post is made by someone's husband, I feel ashame as a man, I feel ashame reading the nasty post and many peoples comment, it exposes the sickness and shallowness in our thinking.
Thanks, you've said it all
Mtcheww al Hakin mu ne ya kama ka how will you just conclude that hausa girls don't know how to have sex or even know how to be romantic have you tried one? good for you enjoy your igala woman al'ada ya ce mu guji all these things until marriage and shyness yana cikin beauty din mace I feel like you genuinely deserve that wife you got
Exactly what I think.
please may I have your number?
exactly my point sis, they are really underrating us and I don't know why, he clearly states that baya son ya auri bahaushiya and he went ahead to marry whom he thought is better that the hausa ladies har ya kai da kun samu rabo for me I think there's no need for you complain or throw some shade to we the hausa's anyways Allah yasa mu dace
I don't think there is need to prove anything to people like this who think marriage is all about sex, i love our hausa ladies for their modesty more than the others, he is just a narrow minded person.
Exactly, thank you for seeing it that way. Some things just don’t need proving dignity speaks for itself. good morning 😃
he even stated his reason why he didn't marry bahaushiya so I assume auren sha'awa ne kawai yayi I hope he heals from all these
we love you too brother and thank you always
i was reading this post and the time I saw porn I was shocked and disappointed in you brother may Allah make you understand the bad deed you are doing even if you are married porn is not halal for you to watch note that you are the creator of your own problem all because of your behavior and mind yaa Salam Allah ya shiryaka yasa ka ganevka Bari.
bro sorry to say but you're.....
you even have the audacity to tell the public that you're into watching porn. baka tsoron Allah, you need to check out your Iman (Iman and shyness are going simultaneously) if 1 is absent definitely the other will.
since you she's halal to u mene yasa ba zaka lallabata har ta iya ba but because of stupidity da jahilci kazo media kana talks akan hausawa.
bro you need to go back to islamiyya
As the porn addict you’re just go and marry a porn star you’ll enjoy whatever it is that ur wife isn’t doing or giving you instead of coming here and shamelessly telling us about ur marital affairs with ur wife.
You want to practice the haram things you’ve watched on ur innocent wife and you’re angry Bcox she’s not cooperating? if she’s too exposed to things kuce her eye don tear if she’s innocent kuce she’s too religious or too innocent 🙄Omoh what do men really want? gaskiya you’ve FAILED! as a man sorry to say, go back to islamiyya bcox you lack Islamic knowledge
Allah ya shirya mu baki daya
But how come when you were dating you never knew she can't cook well since you said you have talk to her and she's not changing but talk to hear and let her know is affecting your relationship let her know if she changes fine if not you know she would not change then you can get another wife
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