Rant about Abuja/Lagos men

I don't want to generalise but its seems all these rumours about Abuja men seems to be true. Majority of them feels nothing bad about zina, it's like a normal thing to them. If you refuse to indulge them, the next thing is to start making you feel inadequate, like "ke baki waye ba". The situation is even worst when you are divorced and living alone. Lagos men on other is a discussion for another day. Those ones will call themselves Ustaz, once you start getting used to them and think you have gotten "your missing rib", the next thing is coming to visit but this people will insist on staying in your house during their visit. Like its a normal thing for them. So far, I have had experience from 3 Lagos men back to back. The 3rd one happened recently, I have to tell him my dowry has been paid and walimatu nikkah is after Ramadan. I am thinking of staying of relationship for now, maybe in future.