When I was 4 or 5 years old my older brother got lost, he went out of our house and never returned. Years and years went by but he was never found even after all the effort from my parents, my mother especially. It killed her slowly not knowing whether her child was alive or dead, and if he was still alive was he in good condition? Uptil date we don't have those answers, we only pray that wherever he is he is at peace. Growing up I used to resent my mother so much, as her youngest child she never showed me love or affection and I didn't understand why, I was just a child after all. I was basically raised by my older sisters, my mother didn't behave like my mother, she was always angry, always cursing us, always beating us, always blaming us for anything that goes wrong and I began to resent her for it. Now that I have grown up I kind of understand why she was the way she was, it's never easy losing a child, she lost hers and it drove her crazy. It's still no excuse to neglect your other children but I understand and I pray for her to find peace in her heart, and despite it all I still love my mother and I don't resent her anymore. It has been over 20 years now and our relationship has definitely improved and we still hope to find him someday biiznillah.

I was scrolling through social media and I came across a recent photo of my ex boyfriend and his wife, she has given birth and I felt jealous, I did not even know he had married let alone having a child. He and I used to date and we were very much into each other but he was even more into me than I him. The last time we spoke was in 2021, we didn't fight, we never broke up, we just didn't contact each other. Then one time like that I just saw that he had unfollowed me on social media, I was just like whatever I don't even care and moved on with my life, I didn't try to find out why (back in 2021). Fast forward to October 2023, 2 years after we stopped talking, I saw photos of him and his wife and Wallahi it hurt me so much. I don't know why because I really thought that I didn't care but Wallahi seeing that made me cry, I realized that I miss him and I wished that it was me. I feel bad for feeling this way because as someone whom he once loved I should be happy for him but instead I'm feeling this way. Prior to seeing the photos I can safely say that I had forgotten about him, so I don't understand this feeling. This has never happened to me before with any of my exes. Is this normal? I feel like it shouldn't affect me the way it did given the fact that we have been apart for such a long time.

I'm not an Abuja babe, however I do stay in Abuja sometimes. I've met a few guys here in Abuja, mostly on social media, they seem nice then as the conversations start getting deep my guy will now say I should come to his place mu yi hira and mind you he doesn't even know me well enough to know whether or not I'm "that kind of girl", and I don't dress anyhow o I'm always in my Abaya. Wallahi there's this person I started talking to, respectable looking person and mature too. I told him I'm in Abuja, we exchanged contacts and all I was blushing thinking maybe I found my future husband😂 he gave me a call and we talked fine and the next thing that came out of my niggas mouth was that he would do Uber for me in zo wajen shi mu yi hira😳 on the first day we started talking o!! Honestly ayam tired, I find it very disrespectful Wallahi. What's this wayward behavior? Mutum na murna thinking an hadu da responsible guy then suddenly sai ka ce in zo wajen ka? Haba! It's a HUGE TURN-OFF, you guys should stop this nonsense please. But come o, why do they actually think it's okay to just invite a lady they don't even know to their place? Is it an "Abuja" thing? I mean where are our Morals as Muslims? Where's our Hausa/Fulani cultural teachings? Our ancestors must be rolling in their graves right now!😤

I have a probable bad approach regarding relationship and how it should play out. To me I feel a girl should be the one to message me good morning on a normal basis, I'm afraid to show affections and emotion because I feel I'll be perceived as weak . Most times I like to allow my partner to lead the conversation because I feel if I talk too much she'll lose interest , I like to be reserved and mysterious. From what I've heard, as a man,don't show a woman how much you love her . Notions like that have prevented me from being emotionally available in a relationship. It is affecting my relationship so much.

what is happening with our ladies /women that they are no longer patience and supportive ?

the story might be lengthy but I really need your advice and views This is a man whom I trusted and loved for the sake of Allah, I respected him and always prayed for him, i gift him even though he never gives me a dime, he sometimes borrow money from me but never for once refunded a penny, Until he borrowed a sum of 120k+ from me which my school fees is included cause i was given the money two months earlier before registration commences, this man shows no mercy at all, I managed and settled my school fees and he promised to pay back as soon as possible, he gave me excuses always, this are some of the red flags i see, so, i told him that I cant continue with him with this habit and drewback from him, he called me and said that he wants to settle things between us that I should come over to their house and discuss things, all i told him was i am not coming if you really needed to come meet me at my fathers house, the next day he met me at school and asked me if I am ready to have the conversation, I said ok but still said that the conversation will be better at their house, and i know that he's alone his family are out of town, I reject him and went back home cause I was terrified, that night i ended everything between us, he just started to rain insult on me including my parents, he called me karuwa (prostitute)and so on and that's the end. He now comes back seeking for forgiveness that all the insults and accusations he did is bacause of anger, I should forgive him and even promised to pay back what i borrowed him saying that he knows he will never find someone better than me, I can forgive everything he did to me but calling me a prostitute is something I can never forgive, because I really respect myself and try my best to safeguard my chastity even though I am currently in University wlh I tried my best not to have many male friends, until part 3 I manage to have two female friends, they say i have ego, people call me" me tsoron maza" even for once i never gave him the chance to talk dirty even if it through chat messages, he never touches my hand but he called me " "karuwa " this word hits me that I cried in sujood whats ur take?

what is that thing you're doing and you know it's not good but you want to stop?? Me: 1. listening to music/singing 2.i used to start eating food on my way from kitchen to where I'll sit and eat / eating my last spoon of food on my way back to the kitchen Astaghfirrullah

i am Sooo Lonely .. Most Of The Times That is How I Feeel Very Bored. Honesty am Not A Sad Person But Am Almost Bored All the Time. am I The Only one Feeling this way

assalamualaikum, gaskiya Naga abunda ya Bani tsoro yau wani bawan Allah ne neighbour dinmu basida aiiki ataikaice kullum sai ya roka yakesamun abinci Amma Yan uwansa Sunada Hali basa taimakonsa wallahi shekaranjiya ya tsaidani cewa wallahi bashida komai agida nikuma 1k ne Dani nabashi 500 jiya naganshi yasake yimun magana har ga Allah banida ITA nasanardashi har nayi masa alkawari cewa idan anbiyamu albashi Zan bashi wani Abu. toh da safe anyi rasuwa kusa damu munje MUNA Shirin tafiya makabarta sainagansa da matarsa sunyi overload a commercial bike kamar asibiti sukatafi yanzu nadawo MUNA kofar gida sai mugaji matar tana ihu wai a taimakesu munje muka tarar idonsa yayi fari numfashinsa baya bugawa sosai. wallahi motarda ma zamu kaishi asibiti babu munyi iya kokarinmu wallahi ko motar bamu damu ba kawaii sai mukacigaba da yi masa salati wallahi nan take yamutu.😭 wallahi mutuwarsa ta daga mun hankali ganin yanda yake Neman taimakon mutane kwanannan Amma baisamuba Allah kadai yasan abunda yakeji ajikinsa Amma wallahi number one abun yunwa ne. kuma wallahi ya nemi taimakona Amma ni yazo alokacinda HARGA Allah banida ITA, sai gabadaya nakasa yin sukuni inaganin kamar inada laifi a wajan Allah........kuma yabar Yara biyu wallahi yanzu ma nakejin cewa matar har bara takeyi domin suci abinci. Allah ka yafemana kabamu abunda zamu taimakawa mutani .

Please what's the difference between Arewaup matchmaking and meetup

Hello everyone. Please I need information and guidance about jobs that you can do online (remote Jobs) and get paid. I am a university student. I can operate computer (Microsoft word, power point, excel and data analysis)please if possible help me with some links if available. Thank you

Everybody has his own red flag in any kind of relationship. What is your red flag? Let's learn new things

Ya kuka dauki kyauta a soyayya Na lura kusan mafi yawan soyayya maza ake bari dayin kyauta wa 'yan matansu, su matan basu damu da yiwa mazan ba (bance dukan mata haka suke ba). Ni a nawa bangaren kyauta tana daya daga cikin abunda nake auna soyayya, hankali da tarbiyya, ina da yawan kyauta (ba yabon kai ba, amman har Mamana ta gayan haka). Ya ka dauki kyauta a naka bangaren? Ya kika dauki kyauta a naki bangaren?

Enough of the bad side of your ex. What mistakes did you make in your previous relationship that you wouldn't want to repeat now ?

Hi everyone, a post by a lady in one group on Instagram about chubby ladies finding it difficult to get a boyfriend prompt me to do this survey. I am a guy in my late 20s, a degree holder with a decent job, my salary is around 150k, alhamdulillah I am not handsome amma dai kuma bani da muni, but I'm fat daidai gwargwado. I tried toasting many girls on different occasions unfortunately duka sun kasa ni. The question I want to ask here is that do you ladies also don't like chubby guys? Ko dai kawai lokaci ne bai yi ba. In Baku yi ne kawai sai mu ci gaba da azumi😅

girls pls does it hit differently when someone you know much like cousin says he loved you and didn't except that from him and you know he is above your class?

A times, Guys come into your life as friends but you become close and like each other but neither of you makes any move to turn it to a relationship. In this cases, what goes through the guys head? likewise what goes inside the lady's head? Lets discuss and share your experiences

Akwai wata yarinya danake so tun tana Ss3 amman ban fada mata saida tana year 3 first semester a school of health technology har na dan fara samo kanta a lokachin kuma sai naga ta canza gaba daya har na janye jikina nima, so yanzu kuma tana gayama wani Abokina cewar na yarda ita, sannan kullun muna chat sosai amman inda babbar matsalar take shine inajin jita-jitar cewar an bada kudin auranta ita kuma ta karya ta kuma gaskia yanzu tana bani lokachi sosai. Nima din inason ta har yanzu

So guys, i need your opinions on this. There's this guy, we've been talking for almost a year now, he never said it(the words) buh the vibe is always there. He gives me green light like Masha Allah he's okay buh after some time, he seizes kamar an dauke nepa. No message no calls, in short the last time daya dauke it was for a month plus amman wlhi in muna waya or smthing you'll think he dosnt want to loose me. Kuma ba duk wayan da zamuyi, that respect was always there, bai taba barin hanya ba wai irin maganan iskanci haka or the likes of that. Do you think if he comes back I should keep vibing koh dai in barshi because its like yana wasa da hankali nane because i feel kar inzo in tanka shi back and it will be looking as if ive been waiting koh desperation haka.

dear Badiyyah, I am sending you this text to tell you how much I love you from the bottom of my heart. since from the very first day I came across your TL, I automatically fell in love, with everything about you. me and you have never talk or meet. and it is not like I didn't know your TL to D.M you on how I really do feel about you. Badiyyah I never believe that I love you that much till, after I finish my prayers today an imagination came into my brain. oh Badiyyah I had little experience from woman, and I know what a woman can do. definitely they are so many men's around you that want to get married to you. like the way I also want to get married to you. in case such happen you married someone I swear to almighty Allah direct from my heart I am happy for you, and Allah knows the best. Badiyyah I didn't send you a D.m, because I don't want feeling's crash, it leave soul with no life. my heart was touch time without numbers, but god time is the best. but Inshallah if I click the Era and you are not married or engage. I will drop a sign if am okay for you to walk with me for the rest of ours life. and Inshallah if that time appear Inshallah everything will happen so fast that you will be all mine till death don alfarman annabi da Al Qurani. i am so much happy I told you the way iove you and I will go more extra miles to tell you more Badiyyah I'm glad I did. Allah knows the best and his time is the best. I love you so much Badiyyah December 5 Amor. everything will be fine Inshallah. salam.