Disclaimer: not generalising, not stereotyping, just a series of questions that has been baffling me for long and opinions that I can be wrong about....but want to hear what others think. In my experience and for those I've seen around me, most young Hausa girls are reluctant marrying a man if they feel he's not rich or from a rich home, now I'm not even talking about those from rich homes or how rich parents are so concerned about money that even they themselves made mostly in the later part of their life, sadly mostly through unlawful or doubtful means, that's a topic for another day....I am talking about daughters that are from middle income or even poor homes, why does many of our young girls lack the knowledge and maturity to understand that for an average commoner in this country mostly life begins at mid 20s, 23-27yrs or even beyond due to the system we operate and it takes time, effort and labour to build legitimate wealth. From what I've seen many young Hausa girls are not fully armed or equipped to go into relationships with the mindset that this is what I want to do or achieve in life myself and I am looking for someone to support me achieve these dreams. How's it that in the Hausa society, young girls are willing to abandon young men in pursuit of older men (other peoples husbands oo) just because they are looking for comfort, is it that the our young men are not trust worthy or are they really just looking for a quick hack to life? Of course it works to some extent but not to a larger extent. Generally, alot of young men are been pushed by the desire, demand or expectation to be rich into many shady and illegal dealings which previously where not prevalent in our society.....money or wealth has always been a symbol of status and an emblem of luxury, prosperity and prestige, so this is not to say that it's not, but the egregious elevation of wealth to an unparalleled status, the obsessive prioritization of material riches above all else, and the warped attribution of supreme value to it has come to what one can call: a corrosive force in our society, our hyper-fixation on wealth has led to a perverse idolization by many parent and families, where thse things are valued above human dignity, relationships, and personal growth.....and the truth is that it is this kind of distorted mindset, which regards wealth as the ultimate benchmark of success, that has and is creating an unhealthy pressure that drives our youth to desperate measures, including illicit activities, pushing them to engage in unscrupulous behavior to project an image of affluence.....these foreign, unknown and many other ill and harmful cultures of our society perpetuate a destructive cycle of social pressure and moral compromise amongst our youth and it's your duties as the women, future mothers and guardians of our society to prevent it and change these narratives for the future of our kids Now, to be clear.....a lot of older girls seems more sensible and more atuned to our realities....probably because they are older, have more experiences and know better. I'll encourage them and parent to educate and create more awareness amongst the younger generations because young people like me needs to get married too not necessarily to older women which is something I'm strongly considering

meyasa matan yonxu basu taba son mutum dan Allah sai don wani interest

I act like an okay but deep down I need someone to call mine, someone to share my feelings with, how my day went and so on.

You talk to women about having so many male interests and they tell you it is not by quantity because they are just meeting only stupid guys. You talk to men about same thing and they say na nonsense full outside. Yet, every one thinks they are the real deal. So who is the nonsense? Social media and the illusion of options keep biting people in the ass. Nevertheless, I believe there are many good people out there because I see them often. Vetting problem and unrealistic standards are your major problems. In the end, you'll still go and choose rubbish after all these.

why are men now not talking about marriage to us, is it that they have who they really want to marry and just want to throw smoke around. we are tired of irrelevant talking stage that is not leading to nothing

Aslm inuwana please i need you advice Wlh rayuwata tun tasuwata naki fuskanta kalubale daban daban harzuwa yanzu ina fuskantasu Labarina yanada fadi Yanzu matsalar d tafi damona itace gidanmu mahaifiya ba abunda banayi wurin kukarin kyautata mata d biyaya aduk abunda tasani tun ina karami haka naki kullum gurina tayi farin ciki To saidai awajenta Bahaka abunyakiba kullum bana samun soyaya awajenta kullum saita kirkiru abunda zataci nayima tayita aibantani kullum agaban kanina kumai nayi laifi ne ta tsanini sosai Abu kadan zatayimin maganar d sai na tafi toilet nayita kuka kullum bibiyar aibina taki ku kuskurina bata fadar alkhairina ku daya sanan wasu kanina yanzu basa ganin mutuncina wanan yasa kullum nakiganina mai laifi akulum amma nakasa fahimtar laifin wani lokaci ma masalolin d muki fuskanta awajen mahaifina saita dauramun laifin Na (2)wurinda naki Sana'a tarida mahaifina muki Kullum bacin rai naki Kalo d rashin gaskiya Sana'a gyra muki dayaga nasamu gyran zaiyi kukarin kaucishi saina boye gyran kada yagani da dai sauran wasu abubuwa Wlh natsani zama gidanmu d shagunmu Ina iya rashin lfy sati 1 ku fiye maganin naira 100 bai sawumunba Wlh wani lokaci har aikin soji nakijin kamar nashiga Ji naki kamar nabar kasar nan wlh Yanzu dai ina krt a university saura shikara 2 nakari wlh kullum idan banji mkrnt b bana samun sauki Kubani shawara dan allah Yanzu haka banida lfy Ina kwanci amma kullum kukarin Kagu laifina taki Kuma matsalar dana ki ciki Ina famada d matsalar Damuwa deffresstion . I have 21 ages

There is this guy new in our estate, i see him time to time, we both wave at each other and greet. I like his looks and the whole way i am just seeing him. its like 2 weeks now, its just greetings and hi. what should i do?

So I am getting married next month, based on our culture in Arewa? what are general expectations from both sides, husband and wife. From, emotional, financial, welfare and all Lets discuss

I don't mean Hausa Fulani ladies should be classless, but they should work on their attitude. The way ladies are complaining babu mijin aure is the same way the guys are complaining ba matar aure. Ji ji da kai irin na matan Arewa is making it difficult for many responsible guys to approach them, even the ones that develop the confidence to approach them end up being disrespected in the name of jan aji. Please idan mutum yazo miki kuma kin yarda da ɗabiun sa and everything just give him greenlight. To be honest ba kowa bane zai iya tsayawa sai yayi ta maida kanshi wani soko soko a gaban yarinya kafin ta nuna mishi so, wannan aikin sai samarin shaho. A zamanin nan da muke ciki in kika samu namiji Mai ilimin addini da na boko, kyawawan ɗabiu da sana'ar yi, baya shaye shaye to ki rufa wa kanki asiri yana zuwa kice ya turo iyaye ayi magana. Ba yadda za ayi ina namiji mai qualities din nan da aka irgo in dauki raini agun wata in the name of jan aji.

hi actually, I act like an okay but deep down I need someone to call mine🥺 someone I can be talking to everyday

Yan uwa nazo da gudu gudu sauri sauri ku bani shawara. Al'amarin babba ne wlh matsananciyar sha'awa nake fama da ita kuma na dade cikin wannan hali abun ba'a cewa komai ni namiji ne dan Allah ku bani shawara ko akwai wanda ya shiga cikin irin wannan halin kuma ya yayi ?

I have a friend that was married last year, we are good friends and i visit her often and i think i like her husband and he likes me too, we ended up being in contact but she doesn't know.. he hasn't made any serious move but we communicate lightly. Is what i am doing wrong? what are your opinions?

Assalamu Alaykum.. Ina da wata friend wacce is close to 30 years Yanxu. She really wants to get married, however har Yanxu babu wani serious person. Tana dan zuwa aiki haka, bata tara samari Kuma ta Kama mutuncinta. The issue is her dad is really "tormenting" her about getting married. why do I call it "tormenting", duk lokacin da yaga wani wa'azi Akan Aure sai ya tura mata. Recently, she celebrated her birthday, sai ya tura mata message a WhatsApp, after wishing her happy birthday, the next thing he said was "Kash, gashi nan u are getting old and u are not married"... his action is really making her depressed. Do u guys think what he is doing is right?

I don't know you guys but this app kinda sucks, it is slow and constant glitches And for the matchmaking part, that's even worst. I think in my opinion it should be mandatory to put on some pictures/images on profiles because Gaskia even though we want marriage, everyone has physical preferences too 🤷🏾‍♀️ At least a picture one can access to when matching or before accepting a request

it's sad when someone you know becomes someone you knew. people hurt people cheat people misjudged people behind your back Allah yabarmu da masoyanmu na kwarai.

pls just say something nice for me ko zanji saukin kuncin dake damuna.

Don Allah ina cigiyar wani bawan Allah yau muka hadu a Runjin Sambo layin gidan Muntari Shagari yana cikin wani mota dark blue yamin horn na jiyo sai aka kirani a waya ina receiving kawae naga ya wuce please Say Hi if you're seeing this

Dan allah wane card ne zan iya payment a app store/icloud. duk cards dina sunkiyi?

love

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