I have disobeyed my father

My father's behaviour is harmful to my mental and emotional well-being. I am a widow aged 34,he doesn't allow me make my own choices. Career wise😭 nasamu admission a KASU sau biyu after finishing secondary. He never allowed me go because,medicine was what he wanted 4 years went just like that.I later found out he wanted me to study medicine so he can brag to his family members.I obeyed him and got admitted into the university to study medicine , amma dayake ba rabo an issue came up and i changed my course. He is constantly monitoring and interfering in his my decisions and activities. Like my phone calls with my suitors, banda ikon waya da sauri😭. He sits and watches me through CCTV in his room idan ina zance a tsakar gida.He is never happy if been approached da maganar aurena. My father gets happy any time my relationship fails. In anzo maganar neman aurena he doesn't even give listening ears. He says to me insamu aiki kawai shine damuwarsa. He told my mother cewa nina taba aure basai nayi aure ba kawai insamu aiki kawai. Yahanani neman aiki , nasamu aiki har guda biyu nayi aiki dasu yace nabari aikin nadawo gida zai dunga bani albashi duk wata. Idan zai bada kudin yayi gori yana cewa ba aikin danake nakarbi kudi. I have never disobeyed him, with all these i believe he is doing it to protect me. Bayada buri wadda yawuce nayi aiki uniform( force).I was recently invited for a job interview in Abuja, i seek his permission and he approved for my trip. Bayan nadawo sai yacemun wai ina abunda nagadama acikin gida naje abuja yawo😭😭i cried my eyes because wallahi rabona da wani da namiji tun mijina yana raye. Mamana saitayi ta bani hakuri tacemin komi lokaci ne inyi biyayya. My problem now he monitors and interferes in my activities and decisions sabida ina gida agabansa, he told me cewa dazarar kinsamu aikin (uniform) din danake miki pursing kinsamu freedom😭. I don't have freedom to have suitors or move freely saidai na zauna agida bana zuwa ko ina?Sannan banason aikin uniform din dayakeso yakaini i have tried talking to him to get something related to my field. Amma yaki😥 infact he has threatened not to get the job, yace nafita nabar mishi gida, inbiyashi kudinsa. Narasa meke mindadi