When I started sensing the confusion in this person I love, I asked him to be honest with me about his feelings and he said " I am confused" I don't know what to do " I was heartbroken I wanted to do anything to take away his confusion! I asked what's going on? He replied "when I met u, I was in a serious relationship we lost touch and now we started talking, it's complicated 😭. I was speechless and my heart shattered into millions of pieces, tears started rolling on my cheeks controllably. I said but I asked u if there is someone else because I don't want to step on anyone's toes, and u assured me there wasn't, I couldn't hold myself,I was ashamed of myself. He started apologizing, I then asked y didn't you say anything ? We are friends 1st! All he could do or say was he was sorry! I gathered myself to ask what was the issue between them, I might be able to help(it's part of what I do professionally). at the end he rejected Even my friendship, with all the heartbreak I sincerely want him to be happy, love is indeed dumb.

You cannot help who you love, believe me I know! It was suggested that I should know what I want in a partner, thats begs the question! does real love allows u to see or have choice? I fall in love with this person without knowing why, this love is unconditional, it knows no bound, I love him with all his baggage, the good the bad the ugly, I have prayed every day for the past 2years, he's still the only one I love, I made peace and accepted my faith! I know all kinds of love there is in this world, parents,siblings, husband, children etc, I genuinely love this person I have no control over what am feeling! I want him to be happy even though it's not in my favour, my love for him is selfless this is a fact. Being in love, the feeling is new for me! How can someone love this individual that does not reciprocate? With little to no reason! This kind of selfless committed love and affection is rear... it's sad 😢

I am far from home a female student that's lost I don't know anymore I lost 4 important people in my life there just no more then the man I love so dear breaks my heart after losing my brother that takes care of me I don't have even a friend Oo Allah help me. I have school to go back too I have much to do not only is school fees on me but food and rent I don't know where to go or start Yes I know I should pray that's Allah I have been doing and I know Allah hears my cry's 💔 I wish I could die

Aslm My friend i have a deffresstion ciwon damuwa i am 22 year Ban taba sanin dadin rayuwa ba tunda natasu Na hadu da qadarorin rayuwa daban daban Idan kafadawa wani matsalan ka tu zaka dan ji sanyi ka rage jin radadi

First of all, salam alaikum everyone, and good night. I hope you’re all doing well. I want to share a story about heartbreak, and I would really appreciate your thoughts. If you feel that I did something wrong, or that I didn’t try hard enough, please let me know. We’ve already made a decision about this, and we don’t want to go back to the same situation or relationship, because it may just end in pain again. So, here’s my story: I had a best friend. We talked a lot, we vibed together all the time—she understood me, and I understood her. We were close like that for almost two years. Then one day, we started developing feelings for each other. She was the one who proposed that we start dating, and I accepted. The truth is, I had always been avoiding a romantic relationship with her because she’s older than me. She’s around 31, and I’m 27. Culturally, my family wouldn’t accept me marrying someone older than me, and I knew that. So I tried to stay away from anything romantic, even though I loved her too. But when she finally proposed, I accepted—because I loved her. I explained to her that even though I loved her deeply, I wouldn’t be able to marry her because of cultural and family reasons. She was devastated and disappointed. Eventually, she decided that we should separate and stop talking to each other. That decision was incredibly hard for me to accept. For a while—about three to five days—we didn’t talk. But after that, we started talking again, just as friends. Still, she said it would be painful for her if either of us decided to move on and be with someone else. So, she insisted again that the best thing for us is to distance ourselves completely. But for me, I want her to accept that even though we can’t marry, we can still be friends—because even her family has accepted me. I’ve built a relationship with them, independent of her. Even now, if we stop talking, I don’t think my relationship with her brothers or family will end. That’s one reason I don’t want to stop talking to her. But she insists we should stop. She said if I have anything to do with her family, that’s okay—but she and I should be over. So, after everything I’ve said, here’s my question: Should I have tried harder to convince my family to accept her, or was walking away the right decision? Thank you for listening.

A similar experience happened to me. A girl first proposed her love to me, and I accepted. We continued, and it was amazing at first. We spent two incredible years in extreme love and caring for each other, probably the best two years of my life. We couldn't pass a day without talking to each other, planning our lives, including the number of kids we wanted to have, and other important things that you couldn't imagine. Our love was amazing, and everyone around us knew we were together. However, all of a sudden, her behavior towards me started changing. She began ignoring me, snubbing me, and displaying a lot of strange attitudes. I tried talking to her, asking if there was an issue that we could resolve together, but she said no. The night we were chatting, she dropped a bombshell: she had found someone better than me and loved him. I tried begging her not to leave me, but it was all in vain. That night was devastating. I couldn't sleep, and for a month, I couldn't eat properly. I continued praying and asking others to pray for me. It's been three years since we broke up, and I still can't stop loving her. Despite the pain, I'm still single, searching for someone who can fill the void in my heart. Being single can be a profoundly lonely experience, especially when it feels like the world around you is moving forward while you're stuck in place. I've tried countless times to find love, to connect with someone on a deep and meaningful level. There have been so many attempts, so many false starts, and so many disappointments. Each failed relationship, each unrequited crush, and each fleeting romance has left me feeling more isolated, more alone. The city is full of people, yet I feel like I'm walking through a crowded room, invisible and unseen. I've tried online dating, social events, and even asking friends to set me up, but nothing seems to stick. It's as if I'm stuck in a never-ending cycle of loneliness, with no escape in sight. Despite all this, I still hold onto hope. I hope that someday, I'll find someone who sees me, who truly understands me, and who loves me for who I am. I hope that someday, I'll experience the joy of being in a loving relationship, of waking up next to someone who cares for me deeply. Until then, I'll continue to hold onto this hope, this dream of finding true love. I'll keep putting myself out there, keep taking risks, and keep believing that someday, I'll find the love and connection I'm searching for. it's been lonely since that break I'm not the same since that day imagine 3 good years and I can't still get her off my heart

I decided let me ask what's happening, if something is wrong so that we can fix it! I explained what I was feeling his vibe towards me , like am forcing things, is there someone new or old? am his friend he can talk to me, I will understand and accept whatever it is our friendship is important for me! hmmm he just flared up he felt I am going to break his heart is better we stop seeing each other 😭😭, and just went offline for a week, texted call no response and that is the beginning of the end, this is 2years now, am still in love with him, I have been to therapy, I prayed, almost started drugs to numb my feelings (gradually it's becoming easier Kun San irin rubutun Nan da ake wa babies Idan zaa yaye su! shi akayi ta Yi min) I was becoming suicidal. unstable, since he gaslight me and ghosted me I have only talked to him on his birthday mostly chat, I realized I cannot force him to love me or even be friends with me no matter how I tried, he claimed he reconciled with his ex, that's y he couldn't be friends with me. I continue to pray with time am getting better though still so much in love with him, the worst part, I can't be in relationship with another person 💔 believe me this kind of love with the right person is the best thing that could happen to u, what are u r experiences with 💕

🤔 God tested me, my faith, my sanity and my very being, from besties, we started falling in love at least on my part, I asked him what's our relationship for u, because I cannot explain, I want to know if this is just a fling for u, atleast let me know how to manage my feelings towards you, he assured me his feelings are real, I got to comfortable falling deeper for him, my heart race without talking to him, if u know the description of the sahaba on the feeling of their affection towards the prophet, imagine that kind of affection towards a fellow human being! I was crazed even I don't know how to explain, I am in too deep, out of no where I can feel him pulling away...., he stop responding to me like he use to I felt he was just managing me, abinda ake cewa Kora da hali😭😭😭, when he calls I will be the one trying to make a conversation, I can sense I was being managed, like he was looking for a reason to end things, my emotions all over, I was all over the place, running crazy in my mind this is my first love, probably the only love I will have in my life, I decided today let me keep my phone try not waiting for his call, I usually have my WhatsApp on my office laptop so when it's on it will show am online, hmmm that's the day world turn upside down .....

in February 2023, I was taking a walk when suddenly a car parked near me, like play he asked my number, and I gave him correct digit, which I never did b4 then,I have this strange feeling because I don't talk to strangers on the street especially in a car😅😅😅. like joke we started talking, became friends we talked all day and nights even when ever we are free, I don't have a lot of friends, only 2 one is deceased, he became my best friend, we talked about everything, Idan na samu guri I can be fun to talk to, I am free spirited, am a crazy wild individual that is if I accepted someone am that kind of friend you will call and tell you killed someone my 1st natural response will be how to cover for you, when I love someone I can sacrifice my own happiness to make sure they get theirs! we all have that one person that u think of calling to gist when ever something happens in your life or day, abokin gulma abokin shawara, the 1st person u think and talk to 1st when u wake up and last b4 u go to sleep. we became that to each other... we told each other about our past, relationship, life etc... something stuck with me about how he ghosted his ex girlfriend it was very concerning to me, but he managed to explain y, which I seasoned with him, forgetting about that saying " when someone shows u who they are believe them" wait for it 🤔

2years into the marriage everything was going well, 1baby. I go extra mile to be a good wife, everything u can imagine I was that and more.... there comes the 2nd pregnancy unknown to me the man doesnt want many children from the day that I told him I was pregnant I did not know what happiness is in my home, he showed me 🌶️, he moved away from the town we whr, he only visited 2ws in a year, I move heaven and earth to make things work nothing was working, because of the warning prior to the marriage I couldn't complain to anyone that's how despite all my efforts the marriage ended. I became single parent , my life became about my children feeding, clothing, school and all for 5good years though I have male friends mostly at work I didn't date, no social life, I focused on being the best version of myself

something tragic happened in my life just b4 I graduated from uni, as a coupping machanism, I decided to get married to escape from my grief, I wanted a change of scenery, I decided to settle for one elderly guy I have already ruled out despite all the warnings about his questionable character and stinginess... I was like an not after what he has, I pray I have enough to give him, believe me I can see the warning signs but decided what the hell, I called him and told if he truly want to marry me let's get married next months! surprised he was with the sudden change of heart he said he want to but next month wasn't ready we agreed on a later date, I walked to my guidians and told them, I want to get married, all my family whr surprised most don't know him, or even have knowledge I was dating anyone one at all! all they know I had a lot of suitors rejected some holding royal titles ,high government official, acting governor at the time, political office holders, dignitaries of all sort, y not any of them? my family asked! I was fixated on this one person whom I was warned about... u will think I was blinded by love, no, not at all am just strong willed, he's my idea of peace no.money no title just him, because he's elderly I assume he knows life, marriage and relationship with the age gap he can be patient with me.. and there I was getting married most of my family angry with my decision

am single parent, a lawyer, fixer, corporate practitioner, certified dispute resolution, mediation and a councilor! am in my late 30s, a straight forward and simple going individual, friendly, reserved/outspoken (depending on who u ask), I have one principle "don't do what you don't want to be done to you! so I try to treat ppl with kindness... BACKGROUND!during my undergrad because of my nature ppl tend to wonder who/if am dating anyone, an generally liked but nobody can say with certainty if an dating.... don't get me wrong I was like an enigma a lot of failed attempt to date me, fighting even between prospective suitors students and lecturers alike, believe me am not blowing my own horn I carry with me a charismatic aura.... U will be surprised am just an average lady, with my own sense of style, tall, slinder and fair complexion, I never use make up, or follow trends of any kind... so if any guy approaches me I will tell them straight up but politely am sorry am not interested, I will never intentionally mislead anyone I try to be clear on that. I came from a royal family I was well known which I don't like, I want to answer my own name, ppl male/ female gets into relationships for one reason or the other money, beauty, fame the list goes on, hardly love! for me I want to get married to someone who loves me, whom I can tolerate/accomodate matured enough to care for me, not necessarily rich, I don't mind catering for myself and him, I have always been a hustler, I like being financially independent, (yeah I know foolish of me😂)

Dear Singles, Do not destroy your imaan by engaging in haram love. A haram relationship always gives anxiety and depression. Stay pure, wait for Halal and make dua for a righteous spouse. Allah will grant you the best reward for your patience. In’Sha’Allah 💝🤲

pls i need an advice,i'm a lady in my mid twenties,and mashaallah i'm a bit attractive,and as such i'm being asked out alot,but the problem is the moment i started having something serious with someone they will just ghost me with no reason,this has happened countless times,but this last one got me thinking that its not normal.we started getting to know each other and eventually fell in love,and he was serious about getting married to me and all,he even asked me to pls inform my dad about us because after sallah he will inform his dad and send his people to mine,the last time he came everything was ok,we talked about us getting married and all and he left,but everything changed from that day,he became distant,stopped calling and texting and when i complained he said everything was ok i was just overthinking,but its obvious he has changed but he denied it,now it's been a week since he last called,and i'm sure he is also going to ghost me. This experience has made me realize that this pattern isn't normal. I've started wondering if I might have a jinn accompanying me that's creating obstacles in my life. I've read that it's possible, and I'm considering undergoing ruqya to cleanse myself. Please advise me on what to do."

pls I wan to understand something my boyfriend since tahajjud started to decided to stop talking to me because of Ittikafi he said he joined for the last 10 days tho I'm not complaining I just wan to knw and understand is it normal thing or he's deciding to distance his self from me cos we had issues before the last 10 days started

It was January 2022 when I first said, "I do." A promise that once felt so pure, so full of hope, made in front of family, friends, and a future we both believed in. My university fiancée, a woman I thought I knew so well, became my wife on that crisp winter day. The first three months were perfect—like a dream. We were inseparable, laughing at silly things, sharing inside jokes, and finding solace in each other’s company. But as the fourth month approached, a subtle shift started to unfold—quiet at first, almost imperceptible, but powerful in its reach. It began with the small things. I would come home from work, and there was a sense of disarray that made my chest tighten. Dirty dishes in the sink, laundry piling up in corners, and the overwhelming scent of a space that wasn’t cared for. When I mentioned it, she would apologize, but the next day would be the same. I could see her exhaustion, the quiet struggle in her eyes. Still, it didn’t feel like she was trying. Then, there was the food, never on time, and rarely satisfying. I remember a time when we would cook together, and our conversations would flow effortlessly, but now, eating had become a mundane task. It wasn’t just the house or the food. It was something deeper. I found myself wanting her attention, craving her presence, and longing for the affection we once shared. I would try to talk to her, but she seemed so absorbed in her own world, in her routines, her studies, her ambitions—anything but me. Her indifference began to pierce through my thoughts like an unspoken accusation. I wasn’t important enough to demand her attention. I wasn’t enough. Our conversations about this went round and round, always ending in her promises to try harder. But nothing ever changed. And soon, I realized something: I had stopped feeling the love I once had for her. It had faded quietly, almost imperceptibly, like the slow burn of a fire that had no more fuel to feed on. There was nothing left to sustain it. By the end of last year, I had reached a breaking point. I sat her down and, with a heaviness I can never quite describe, I told her: "I don't love you anymore. And I don't know what to do." The words felt like a final verdict, a conclusion to a chapter I hadn’t expected to close. The woman who was once my everything, my best friend, had become a stranger in my eyes. We spoke about separation. It seemed inevitable. And yet, we didn't act on it—not immediately. There was a sense of inertia, a fear of the unknown, and perhaps, the remnants of some misplaced hope. But last week, something inside me shifted—more like a release than a decision. I realized I didn’t have the emotional bandwidth to keep living in a relationship that had long since lost its essence. We separated. And for the first time in a long while, I felt free. The weight that had pressed on my chest for so long was gone. I have zero regrets. The love, the promises, the dreams—some things just weren’t meant to last. Maybe we outgrew each other. On the night of the divorce she cried and it was heartbreaking but maybe we were never meant to be. But all I know is, for the first time in years, I have hopes of finding love again

This days I've been dreaming my Ex that we broke up since 2017. almost everyday hope I'm safe?

Slm barkan mu da shan ruwa, I have this girlfriend and there are things she does that doesn't sit well with me. Though it might be minor to some but it messes with my mental health. I work from 10 - 5pm, then I'll get home by 6 or 7 if there's traffic. Im working in a data analytic firm, my work demands topnotch focus..... So I'm not opportune to chat most times during the day except at night when im back home. During my free time I'll send random hellos check up on her and disappear. She hates it, she wants my full attention at work and it's not possible. Since checking up on her and disappearing is causing issues, I decided to stop, I only message when I'm home. This got her mad too. Nevertheless I decided to just try and create more time for her while at work for peace to reign.There are times I'll be busy, stressed, and I might not be able to chat for most of the day, when I get back home, I want her to ask me what happened at work that kept me away from her, what stressed me, I should gist her about my busy day at work... You know stuffs like that, that will calm me after dealing with a days stress. But no, she'll start giving attitude, sometimes it ends in quarrel and honestly I'm sick of it. When I'm back home, anything 9pm she'll say she's feeling sleepy. And I don't complain. I feel I've been away for the whole day so why should I complain if she decides to sleep at night? Also, you know how men are? We don't like to share our problems with people, whenever something is disturbing me and I'm distant,rather than checking and asking why I am like this. She'll turn it into quarrel making things worse for me. My peace of mind is at stake here. I'm planning on introducing our parents to one another after Eid but I don't know. I'm just here second guessing things. She loves me but I don't find peace with her.....

what and what do you knw about sokoto guys their habit and the rest

Lately, I’ve been struggling with one illness after another it feels endless, and honestly, I’m exhausted. The pain I go through every day is overwhelming. I’ve lost interest in friendships, and I’ve distanced myself from many friends and even family. I’ve become quiet because I no longer have the strength to engage with people. Deep down, I wish someone could truly understand the pain I’m going through it’s unbearable. I’m battling hyperprolactinemia, and the symptoms of endometriosis are beyond what words can describe. Add to that ulcer pains, severe headaches, and constant fatigue it’s just too much. My skin keeps getting worse, I’m losing weight rapidly, and people keep asking why I look thinner every day. The truth is, I ask myself the same thing. It’s frustrating because, despite all this pain, when I go to the hospital, they rarely find anything serious. The bills pile up, and I leave without answers. I’m tired of explaining, tired of complaining it feels like no one understands. Even at home, people assume I’m lazy, not knowing the silent battles I face daily, especially the sleepless nights. I’ve reached a point where I just keep my struggles to myself because talking doesn’t seem to help anymore. If death comes, I only pray Allah takes me in a state of Ibadah. I’m truly tired