please is it true that all men cheat? i am beginning to lose my mind. please if there is anyone here that will listen to me and advice me accordingly a taimake ni, i can't afford therapy ko wani session da Specialist. and i can't share my problems with my family, i also don't want to make a mistake i will regret. dan Allah a taimake ni.

From my perspective, I’ve had the opportunity to meet several people on this platform. I’ve made good friends with some, while with others, we just didn’t connect. I often read posts mostly from women expressing how hard it is to build real connections or find serious relationships here. But from what I’ve observed, it goes both ways. First, many people here are still hurting. They’ve gone through heartbreaks and come here seeking solace because of the anonymity the platform offers. Some just want to vent or feel heard. The truth is: if you haven’t healed from a previous relationship, getting into a new one often leads to more pain, both for you and your partner. Healing should come first. Second, honesty is lacking, especially among some men. Not everyone on this platform is looking for a relationship, and that’s okay. But if you're not, say it upfront. If you’re just here for companionship or conversation, be clear about your intentions. Be honest about who you are: whether you're still in school, a salary earner, or running a small business. Not every woman is chasing after luxury or status. Some just want someone they can build with, someone who brings peace, shares their values, and grows alongside them. Faking a lifestyle only leads to disappointment down the road. Lastly, we all need to tone down our expectations and focus on what truly matters, someone who is financially stable, respectful, kind, religious, caring and loving (if that matters to you), and has good character. We all dream of a partner with millions in their account, a flawless body, or a garage full of cars. But that’s not most people’s reality. Every Friday, we see couples getting married on social media, how many of them truly fit those idealized checklists? Very few. There’s nothing wrong with wanting good things, some ladies here that I'm friends with, their phone is my 6 month salary 😂 go for your size but let the basics be your deal breakers, not superficial qualities. If we’re all just a little more honest, with ourselves and each other—things would be so much better.

the first few days I got this app I felt it's really going to work, but guess what happened shortly after? my people don disappear one by one 😂 sai fah amiki request kiyi accepting, da an gaisa an karbi numbernki sedai kiji shuru mamana. Allah ya kyauta

My girlfriend is someone who doesn't like to take corrections, also I notice whenever she asks for something and I said I don't have she changes. Ever since she stumbled on my bank app and saw my account balance, i noticed her demands increased. She works under federal government. But let's keep the work aside, last night her data was about to expire, she asked how to transfer it out I said she can't, it'll expire by 12 am and the data is much. I suggested her to do rollover that is buy 200 naira own, the data will carry on. She now asked me to send money for her to buy 200 own . Under normal circumstances she wouldn't ask me this. But since the day she saw my account balance. Things changed. I want to eat this, i want to buy that and I rarely tell her no. Now my issue is not even about the request. I'm the man and the provider it's how she behaves when i say i don't have. If i send money to her she's all sweet and lovely but if I say i don't have toh shikenan. Last night i told her i don't have. She stopped responding to my message immediately whereas we've been talking normal since. I called her out and check her response. I'll share the screenshot of the chat. After you've read the screenshot what do you think of everything? Personally for me, respect is very important i can't marry a woman who disrespects me. Even if your partner is wrong there's a you address it without disrespect. The date for our wedding will be set in two months from now but right now I'm thinking of calling it quits. This one is raini and see finish. What if i don't have is that, is that how she'll behave when we're married? Is that how she'll talk to me as her husband? I couldn't send the screenshot of the other chat but here's the The continuation of the conversation in text format. [7/11, 8:15 AM] her : What's interesting there ? [7/11, 8:16 AM] her : I can't sleep because you didn't buy me data or I've been living on your data or what [7/11, 8:32 AM] Me : Me I'm just correcting you. If you talk to other people that way. Continue but me i won't take such. So please check how your talk [7/11, 8:33 AM] Her: What will you do [7/11, 8:33 AM] Her: Which one is if I talk to people that way [7/11, 8:33 AM] Me: I won't do anything [7/11, 8:34 AM] Me: But i won't take such [7/11, 8:34 AM] Her: Don't insult me o [7/11, 8:34 AM]Me: So it's just me that you Raina abi [7/11, 8:34 AM] Me: Leave insult out of this [7/11, 8:34 AM] me : Your reply was very disrespectful [7/11, 8:34 AM] Her : How did i talk [7/11, 8:34 AM] Her: Yours too [7/11, 8:34 AM] Me: Okay continue [7/11, 8:35 AM] Her : You don't know how disrespectful you sound saying i didn't reply cus of data,,how much data you dey send ? [7/11, 8:35 AM] Her: You first disrespected me [7/11, 8:36 AM] Me: It's fine continue

hello. please to the doctors/pharmacist in the house, I need a cure for exzema ASAP. Be it creams or tablets, please help.

Hello, good day all , I want to ask about how do I claim/ request a transfer of deceased company shares ,as a next of kin. What are the processes? Anyone that experienced this before, or a legal practitioner should help please, thank you. NB:- the shares was acquired in the year 2003 ;- I have never received any payment from the company , although I retrieved a cheque of payment of dividend from the company, through my late father's P.O Box ;- my Father was late about 8yrs ago

Good evening everybody pls I don't know if there's anyone that'll help me fisabilillah I graduated from nursing schl last year currently pursuing my degree DLC. The thing here is I'm tired of staying at home doing nothing apart from house chores and attending online classes I took my CV and application letter to different hospitals but haryanzu shiru babu feedback shine nake Neman alfarma if there's somebody here that knows any hospital that's looking fr a nurse I want to volunteer kar karatu na ya dinga tafiya a banza I want to put my knowledge to practice ni zanyi volunteer ma saboda banida wani experience sosai so I want to learn and practice. jazakhallah khairan🙏🏼

salam everyone please I wan to understand something pls and pls my bf ones mentioned tools that his friend adviced him that if he really wan to get married to me that he should used the the tool I have been asking him he refused to tell me can pls someone explain it well to me

Assalamu Alaikum Good day everyone please I really need your help wannan KARIF BASE NIG. LTD. akace min company ne a kaduna that's what wanda ke sona da aure ya gayamin he has been hiding the name to me shiyasa ni kuma yanzu nake son nasan wane irin company ne me akeyi a nan kuma did anyone knows anyone working so I can ask about my boyfriend da gasken a nan yake? help me find out please

I read a recent post here where someone was complaining on avoiding hausa girls because he believed they cannot fulfill his pornographic fantasies, he married an ibra lady and ran into the same issue. If i marry a woman and i come to find out she knows all these things then i would loose interest because it means she is not clean. There is nothing better for me than to marry an innocent modest woman that is not corrupt or vulgar in her acts. what is so good about the ladies on the other end when it comes to the bedroom activities? what do they do that you would sacrifice modesty over explicit and vulgar behavior that is indeed not femininely attractive. i will choose a Hausa girl 100 times than any lady who knows to do anything on bed. Marry for peace, growth and spirituality not animal behaviour on bed

assalamu alaikum brothers and sisters in Islam I'm so pissed off I read a recent post that states that arewa women don't know how to be good in bed pls what manner of disrespect is that? and the person saying this was an arewa man in a world full of biased people and disunity you should love and support your women we the arewa women where born and brought up in absolute modesty we where thought to dress modest and keep close until our wedding night which is why most of us are shy pies but that doesn't hide the fact that one day we will get married and definitely open our legs for another man and nobody is running away from that if only they know how bad we learn about sex education they won't say that trash I personally met an older woman who said idan de har kinyi aure ki zama karuwa(ashawo) a gidan mijin ki it was all good and funny but don't shame arewa women you can go ahead and marry other people we don't mind but pls let us be. but note if we get married we are opened to learning new things this might not apply to every woman but mata ba wuya an sha kan su and to tell you that if you stay virgin you have won everything in life you have won your husband you have won respect from people you have won as a woman and the society as a whole don't let a man deceive you to do zina in the name trend or prove a point stay modesty sister idan maza sukayi ado ne a wajen su( wannan kuma su da Allah) but you as a lady it will destroy your life and future.

Assalamu Alaikum, Hope this finds you well. I need sincere advice and especially a third person's perspective to understand the predicament I'm in at the moment. Its regarding my dad. I am Male, a university student. I used to admire and respect my dad growing up wanting to be like him. He's not working in the same city we lived so sai public holidays yawanci muke ganin shi before retirement. Yanxu ya dawo da zama gida. I'm the eldest of my siblings so responsibilities fall on me and I'm also studying a good course in uni alhamdulillah. When I make mistakes, my dad shames me, calls me selfish, ba irin halin da ba a cewa banda shi. it used to bother me and I try always to improve. but there always seems to be a problem....its really hard to impress him. And I dont mind being corrected, its the constant downgrading and insult that pains me. Har ta kai ta kawo sai a hadan tarko dan nayi ba daidai ba ai ta fada. ko a ki mun magana na satuttuka. Ni kuma seeing he's my father I always try to figure out what I've done wrong, apologise sometimes even with tears. wani lokacin idan naje apology sai yanuna kamar bai San mai ya faru ba. He likes to put us including my siblings and mum in a situation he can control. ko gani yayi ka cika murmushi to ka sani ka kusa laifi. He also tries to create rifts between us siblings. I will discuss one thing with him but he will say another thing when he complains about our character. If someone outside admires our character, he'll be very quick to condemn us. It reached to a point ko muryar sa naji gabana faduwa yake. His relationship with my mum too is not ideal, haka itama ko yaushe fargaba take kar yace an mai laifi. hes isolated her from family, controls her finances and always shames her every chance he gets. da duk ban ganin haka because she tries to shield us from it but yanxu growing up I'm noticing and now my admiration for him is gone. I still love him and pray for him and always wished our relationship wasnt like this, financially he tries and provides more than enough but he also doesnt want us to be financially independent. He always frowns at my mums attempts at businesses, i hide my scholarships from him, because it would create rift between us if he knows i have a secondary source of income he cant control. The rapport i had with him when I was young I'm now discovering was just him using me to know what happens at home when he used to work. he will say things that made me doubt my mothers integrity and sense of responsibility growing up. There are details I can't say to keep this anonymous but wallahi my mum has being very patient with him. I'm now depressed with stress and anxiety both from home and school. I have a constant fear of marriage and parenthood because I dont want my wife or kids to feel this way if I ended up like him. I now avoid him except when he needs me or when I greet him and that too is becoming a problem.... I don't know what to do? Ban son shiga hakkin sa wlh coz kar na janyo fushin Allah but hes not someone you can have a conversation with and be open, everything you say can be used against you. Limiting interactions with him right now is the only way I keep my sanity. am I overreacting????

Evening guys.... please I need an advice on this..... will be 33 this month and I don't even have a boyfriend let more of a fiance. so my dad decides to pair me up with a cousin of mine.We don't even know each other but I have heard lot about him from my elder sister.... he do call time to time and after the first three meetings he stopped calling and even if I called him he won't pick and won't call me back. have been worried gaskiya Dan I have started thinking ko banyi mai bane or maybe something is wrong with me. we even met at a family gathering and he didn't utter a word to me. he followed us to the car when we were about leaving he chatting with my elder sister and younger ones it's just as if am invincible.... don't know what to do. should I let my family know about it? cuz they really want it to work.

May Allah make it easy for us all

Assalam. I am someone who loves lovemaking in a stylis way. I love deep cuddling, romance and extreme intimacy. I love to enjoy diffrent sex styles/position with my wife. Unfortunately this girl doesn't learn. It is sad that I watch a lot of porn videos I have been exposed to so many sex styles. Because of these things, I made a decision that I will not marry a Hausa girl because I know our Hausa girls are not that romantic and they pretend to be shy atimes. I married this Igbira girl I met at ABU during my undergraduate studies. This girl unfortunately is not diffrent from what I run for in Hausa girls. Even simple doggy style, this girl will not bend for me she will be "No I don't want do that" she will just lie on bed looking up to ceiling and open her legs for me to drill. This is only position she allows me do. I am already bored of this as I feel as if I am making love wth a dead body. I tried to engage her in a cowgirl, wheelbarrow, reverse cowgirl, snowgirl e.t.c but this girl doesn't cooperate. Food she no de cook. She goes to school to teach both in afternoon and evening. From my part, I try to do everything within my pwer to make this girl happy. I even renovated her parents house in Okene and her sister who attends BUK in Kano lives in our house, I give her transport money and atimes even pocket money. My question is, do I have right to force this girl to make love with her the way I want, the style I want, or she is the own with sole right to decide how I sleep with her? Please advise me on what I should do about this. My wife is 27 years and I am 34. It is been 3 yrs since we married. We have 1 daughter.

"Salam, please I need advice. I met this married man 3 months ago - a kind and gentle man - and we both fell in love. He's someone I can describe as perfect husband material. However, his marriage is just 3 years old, and he said he can't get married now and he is asking me to wait for him for 3-4 years before we can get married. I'm in a dilemma because I don't want to lose such a good person, but l also can't wait that long because I'm already 25 years old and feel the pressure of time."

I'm yoruba girl wish i love to marry responsible hausa man ...please i need ur advice

It's important to have a clear picture of the type of person you wish to spend the rest of your life with but at the same time i feel social media has created unrealistic expectations with regards to that. Why? 1. It creates unrealistic expectation when you Constantly Seeing "Perfect couples" Online Makes You compare your Marriage or partner to be To Stages Moments, most people want a romantic partner but you have to realize that your partner Is a Human not a content creator. 2. It Amplifies small Problems A Minor Disagreement suddenly feels Huge when You Read Posts About " Red flags" Or "Deal Breakers. When you ask questions on social media, majority will ask you to leave and only few will try to view it from a neutral lens and give you solutions for it tk work out. Not Every Issue Is Toxic, it Could Be Just Normal Relationship Struggle. 3. It Distracts you from gratitude and you start noticing what your partner lacks instead of appreciating the good things they have. Don't settle is a phrase the whites created to betray people. There are no 10/10 out there. 4. 4.It Feeds Dissactifaction.. The Perfect Vacation, Perfect Gifts, perfect body and Perfect Gestures Online Can Make Your partners Efforts seem Small. 5. . It Makes You Emotionally Check Out Scrolling Becomes Easier Than Talking, Comparing Becomes Easier than understanding. You don't sit to talk about things as two adults. You'll rather run to social media to seek validation. Everyone will love to have a loving partner but when social media starts to define your expectations it becomes dangerous.

Assalamualaikum barkan ku da warhaka, to ni dai gaskia na rasa ya zanyi ina neman wacce zan aura amma daga zarar naje ni sai nace am serious ga abunda ya kawo ni, kawae daga nan sai naga sunyi loosing interest an fara hi hi ni kuma sai naga cigaba da tafiya ta.

you know it's all kind of confusing me yanda ake putting dinshi in our local language, "mallam zai duba miki ko akwai haske" and if mallam says babu haske, I'm expected to just leave the relationship in one way or the other. I feel like I'm putting faith in the mallam instead of Allah. The thing is I've being doing it on my own about this particular guy for more than 4 years, almost every single time I pray, but I'm just still confused about the outcome because things are just so unclear, one day we are doing well and the next day otherwise. Sometimes I feel like I'm the problem, I'm being impatient and too demanding (because even though I'm really patient, I'm also hot tempered), but when I look at it I really believe I'm giving it my best and only asking for what is right, I can't just settle for the least. Since he came home and they've started talking about the wedding, it has being really really unimaginablely difficult, I cried half of the nights before I became immune to the changes in his behaviour, sometimes I feel like it's a NO answer from my istikhara while sometimes I remember that shaidan wants to destroy anything good we do, a typical example is marriage. and I can also remember hearing how people hardly made it at that point, so I always consider being patient and trusting the process, though I'm really exhausted, we dated for 6 years plus, there's a lot of ups and downs. So I told my sister everything and asked for her advice, then she suggested one mallam that did istikhara for her sometime that we should try him, she still managed to have his contact so she called him and gave him our names, now mallam yace akwai alkhairi sosai but it's one girl that loves him and wants to separate us that's why things are being complicated, I don't really believe him but I'm more confused 😭