I'm yoruba girl wish i love to marry responsible hausa man ...please i need ur advice

It's important to have a clear picture of the type of person you wish to spend the rest of your life with but at the same time i feel social media has created unrealistic expectations with regards to that. Why? 1. It creates unrealistic expectation when you Constantly Seeing "Perfect couples" Online Makes You compare your Marriage or partner to be To Stages Moments, most people want a romantic partner but you have to realize that your partner Is a Human not a content creator. 2. It Amplifies small Problems A Minor Disagreement suddenly feels Huge when You Read Posts About " Red flags" Or "Deal Breakers. When you ask questions on social media, majority will ask you to leave and only few will try to view it from a neutral lens and give you solutions for it tk work out. Not Every Issue Is Toxic, it Could Be Just Normal Relationship Struggle. 3. It Distracts you from gratitude and you start noticing what your partner lacks instead of appreciating the good things they have. Don't settle is a phrase the whites created to betray people. There are no 10/10 out there. 4. 4.It Feeds Dissactifaction.. The Perfect Vacation, Perfect Gifts, perfect body and Perfect Gestures Online Can Make Your partners Efforts seem Small. 5. . It Makes You Emotionally Check Out Scrolling Becomes Easier Than Talking, Comparing Becomes Easier than understanding. You don't sit to talk about things as two adults. You'll rather run to social media to seek validation. Everyone will love to have a loving partner but when social media starts to define your expectations it becomes dangerous.

Assalamualaikum barkan ku da warhaka, to ni dai gaskia na rasa ya zanyi ina neman wacce zan aura amma daga zarar naje ni sai nace am serious ga abunda ya kawo ni, kawae daga nan sai naga sunyi loosing interest an fara hi hi ni kuma sai naga cigaba da tafiya ta.

you know it's all kind of confusing me yanda ake putting dinshi in our local language, "mallam zai duba miki ko akwai haske" and if mallam says babu haske, I'm expected to just leave the relationship in one way or the other. I feel like I'm putting faith in the mallam instead of Allah. The thing is I've being doing it on my own about this particular guy for more than 4 years, almost every single time I pray, but I'm just still confused about the outcome because things are just so unclear, one day we are doing well and the next day otherwise. Sometimes I feel like I'm the problem, I'm being impatient and too demanding (because even though I'm really patient, I'm also hot tempered), but when I look at it I really believe I'm giving it my best and only asking for what is right, I can't just settle for the least. Since he came home and they've started talking about the wedding, it has being really really unimaginablely difficult, I cried half of the nights before I became immune to the changes in his behaviour, sometimes I feel like it's a NO answer from my istikhara while sometimes I remember that shaidan wants to destroy anything good we do, a typical example is marriage. and I can also remember hearing how people hardly made it at that point, so I always consider being patient and trusting the process, though I'm really exhausted, we dated for 6 years plus, there's a lot of ups and downs. So I told my sister everything and asked for her advice, then she suggested one mallam that did istikhara for her sometime that we should try him, she still managed to have his contact so she called him and gave him our names, now mallam yace akwai alkhairi sosai but it's one girl that loves him and wants to separate us that's why things are being complicated, I don't really believe him but I'm more confused 😭

Sometimes I sit with myself and think: maybe I’m the problem. Maybe I want too much. Maybe love is not meant for me in this life. But deep down, I know I’m not asking for too much , I’m just asking for the right thing. For something genuine. For someone who sees the good heart I carry and says, “That’s the one.” After losing my fiancé ,someone I was with for six whole years — it hasn’t been easy. Trying again, starting over, and hoping again… it’s been draining. And every time I think I’ve found someone serious, it turns into disappointment. A new kind of silence. A different way of being left behind. And then the pressure comes from home. My parents look at me like I’m just too picky, like I want a man who is perfectly perfect. But what they don’t understand is — I’m not asking for perfection. I’m asking for peace. For effort. For intention. For someone who wants marriage, not just conversations that lead nowhere. I’m tired. I’m patient, but I’m tired. I just want someone I can talk to someone who sees me, understands me, respects me, and says, “Let’s build something real. maybe Allah see us through , a simple girl who's pouring her heavy heart,

assalamu alaikum I'm a young lady who is so full of life since my day one I grew up hearing my story as a jovial little girl that everybody loves toh yanzu I'm grown up alhamdulillah I'm a kind of lady who wishes to have a man that will give her that love and attention a man with the intention of marriage. like I have so many ways to Express love to someone I always learn about that but I haven't gotten the right man I feel like I'm in a wrong generation I'm a girl who loves a lovey dovey man cuz I'm a lovey dovey person but I haven't met the right man to Express those. I've been in a relationship where the man tells me I'm too good for him and I deserved better it happened to me more than twice and they tell me that same statement of"i deserve better" SO WHEN WILL I MEET THE BETTER PERSON " the society has made me hide my real self although I'm a happy person regardless I'm supposed to enjoy baby girl treatment 😭 not that men like that don't exist they do but I just see them doing that to other women and I feel those women are lucky to have the life I wish to have(not that I'm jealous of them ) I'm even happy for those ladies. my kind heart and loving heart is fading away due to meeting wrong men 😔 sometimes I feel like I'm under a spell or something (asiri) because whoever I met as a man tells me how wonderful I am and we never really breakup due to fight issue we just split because they think I deserve better 🤧 or they just ghost

My father's behaviour is harmful to my mental and emotional well-being. I am a widow aged 34,he doesn't allow me make my own choices. Career wise😭 nasamu admission a KASU sau biyu after finishing secondary. He never allowed me go because,medicine was what he wanted 4 years went just like that.I later found out he wanted me to study medicine so he can brag to his family members.I obeyed him and got admitted into the university to study medicine , amma dayake ba rabo an issue came up and i changed my course. He is constantly monitoring and interfering in his my decisions and activities. Like my phone calls with my suitors, banda ikon waya da sauri😭. He sits and watches me through CCTV in his room idan ina zance a tsakar gida.He is never happy if been approached da maganar aurena. My father gets happy any time my relationship fails. In anzo maganar neman aurena he doesn't even give listening ears. He says to me insamu aiki kawai shine damuwarsa. He told my mother cewa nina taba aure basai nayi aure ba kawai insamu aiki kawai. Yahanani neman aiki , nasamu aiki har guda biyu nayi aiki dasu yace nabari aikin nadawo gida zai dunga bani albashi duk wata. Idan zai bada kudin yayi gori yana cewa ba aikin danake nakarbi kudi. I have never disobeyed him, with all these i believe he is doing it to protect me. Bayada buri wadda yawuce nayi aiki uniform( force).I was recently invited for a job interview in Abuja, i seek his permission and he approved for my trip. Bayan nadawo sai yacemun wai ina abunda nagadama acikin gida naje abuja yawo😭😭i cried my eyes because wallahi rabona da wani da namiji tun mijina yana raye. Mamana saitayi ta bani hakuri tacemin komi lokaci ne inyi biyayya. My problem now he monitors and interferes in my activities and decisions sabida ina gida agabansa, he told me cewa dazarar kinsamu aikin (uniform) din danake miki pursing kinsamu freedom😭. I don't have freedom to have suitors or move freely saidai na zauna agida bana zuwa ko ina?Sannan banason aikin uniform din dayakeso yakaini i have tried talking to him to get something related to my field. Amma yaki😥 infact he has threatened not to get the job, yace nafita nabar mishi gida, inbiyashi kudinsa. Narasa meke mindadi

assalamu alaikum everyone so recently my aunty gave my number to a good friend of hers muna hira da shi sosai lami lafiya ni dai I'm a graduate currently pursuing my master's almost done, and I'm currently working in a private organisation I'm doing fine alhamdulillah but the man is a car wash man(me wankin mota) he's not all that educated but he really wants to marry me. the reason I'm worried is 1. when we get married he won't meet to my standards I even doubt if my parents will allow that 2. he's a genuine sweet man, gentle, kind, resilience he has every qualities of a good man kuma ya iya soyayya da magana me dadi 3. ni ba me wulakanci bane sam!! I really don't know how to let him know that we are not in thesame standards for marriage. I really need people's advice on this kuma idan na kawo miji gida na ce musu me wankin Mota ne za'a samu babban matsala my dad will never agree to that

Breaking up hating each other is better than breaking up when you both care for each other. I met her at a very fragile stage, she was heartbroken, i felt more like her older brother. She's definitely not my type. She's not a bad person but we are not really compatible that much. As friends we would be okay but relationship, marriage? That's a disaster. She's someone who is comfortable with a simple message for a day. Whereas i crave attention. She's hot tempered and I'm someone who is carefree and hates drama. I'm someone who likes a patient understanding partner whereas she's someone who likes to jump to conclusions. I have my own shortcomings as well, There are other mismatches which i can't disclose here out of respect for her. Am i a bad person if i end things because i see red flags that will cause issues for us in the future? I'm someone who dislikes drama and I'm told most women are dramatic. This is the second relationship I've had to end when we both care for each other. Maybe I'm being impatient with women? You don't have to respond. I Just want to clear my head I'll be dropping the message i sent as a picture. Tell me what you think if you can relate

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You have 1000 naira to spend on your ideal partner. Pick wisely. For the women 🧍‍♂️ Build Your Man – You Have ₦1000 Only 1. Pays Bills Without Complaining – ₦500 2. Extremely Faithful – ₦400 3. Funny & Playful – ₦300 4. Emotionally Available – ₦300 5. Helps with House Chores – ₦200 6. Ambitious with Clear Goals – ₦400 7. God-Fearing – ₦300 --- For the men 🧍‍♀️ Build Your Woman – You Have ₦1000 Only 1. Submissive & Respectful – ₦400 2. Good Cook – ₦350 3. Naturally Beautiful – ₦300 4. Peaceful (No drama) – ₦400 5. Financially Independent – ₦350 No ₦1100 spending here Choose your ideal partner carefully and let's see who you’d build.

Salam...good afternoon everyone ya aiki da qoqari, Allah ya temaka ameen. Please I'm a Biology graduate about to complete my Master’s degree at BUK, Kano. I volunteered with UNICEF working as a Ward Supervisor since 2023,facilitating social and behavioral change mobilization, resolving non compliance, community dialogues, microcensus, and antenatal/immunization data collection and transmission. Our work was recently terminated as majority of the wards were declared free of those issues, or so we were told. I’m now looking for any NGO or organization in need of volunteers please in Kano. I have a strong passion for community work especially in health sector as kano still faces challenges in maternal and child health, low immunization rates and poor antenatal care. Some communities still struggle with health misinformation and poor services. I want to contribute towards improving access to quality health care services kn underserved communities as i have plenty of time. I also run a business that sustains me so salary isn’t a must. I just want to learn, connect, and serve humanity.

Assalamu alaikum good evening pls I need advice from you and yan aji A marriage proposal came to my dad seeking for my hand in marriage but I have a boyfriend even though the boyfriend isn't ready to marry me even in the next 2year to come🥲 I'm 24 years old I love my boyfriend I really do but I don't know what to do, my father didn't tell me he asked my mother if I'm seeing someone and she told him "yes" but the problem here is if I'll tell my dad that my current bf isn't ready to marry me he'll get really furious Bcox my dad isn't the type that force his children into something they don't want to especially important things like marriage but what he hates the most is rejecting marriage proposals. I don't know what to do I don't want to disappoint my father by telling him my bf isn't ready to marry me. what should I do pls🥲💔

Assalam Alaikum I don't know why it's so hard for me to make friends,not even friends alone I don't even have a boyfriend, Maybe I'm not doing something right, But I don't really see myself like I'm a bad person I've good relationships with my family But when it comes to having friends ,I don't know why it doesn't work I'm a female tho🤧

Dan Allah this istikhara da akesa mallami yayiwa mutum akan aure, is it good or can it be part of shirk?

Hello Everyone, Anyi sallah lafiya, Allah ya maimaita mana. Ameen Anyone willing to lend me a listening ear😩? i have so many things that i need to say and i got no one to say to. ps i am a girl.

Shin Islam ya haramta aure tsakanin Dan Izala da darika? give reference please

Assalamualaikum arewa up family. there is something that has being bothering me. there is this girl we meet few days a go. we are getting to know each other but this girl keeps talking about marriage is like she is desperate to get marriage she never cares about love discussion like if I talk to how about how much she loves me and other important things about our future she never reply or she would gives an incomplete reply she would not shows interest about the conversation but when it comes to marriage she'll be nagging asking when I'm I coming to see her parents what year is going to be our marriage and stuffs like that. and she told me early that her dad Is trying to give her out to a already married person if she didn't provide someone. and she said she doesn't like him. I'm afraid this girl never loves me she is only trying to escape marrying that elderly man. I'm afraid of marriage without love. I'm afraid of being trapped in a home where love doesn't exist where issues will be raising due to absence of love pls I'm seeking for advice on this I'm totally confused but I still truly loved her just that I'm doubting her love towards me

Assalamu alaikum! 👋 lately on social media you would notice high rate of divorce mostly on norther part of Nigeria and most genders, (both male & female) stupidly (with all due respect 😊) blame each other, insult each other, and disrespect each other, and talk about solution that dose not reflect on themselves... even though most of us know that this is part of signs of the end days ☀️ but we have let our guards down so low to the extent that our Islamic knowledge is subconsciously fading and hardly reflects in our daily lives. so why is this happening???? well, there are various factors but the most terrible ones are our: 1- our ego 2- our stupidity 3- our environment 4- being disrespect from this point, I am going to use this platform to talk to my comrades (males AKA guys AKA men AKA boys) what ever you want to call it... I, personally blame men for causing most divorces (not all) because the act of divorce can only be executed by a man. as a man, we should be able to protect ourselves from allowing a female's natural instincts from leading displeasing Allah SWT both in action and in words. we should almost not react to all misbehaviors caused by a lady... that's their nature, the are created to behave in an unstable way. Abu'Huraira R.A clearly stated it in one of his Hadith that a female is like a rib born and can never be straighten even when you try otherwise it will break. another Hadith I can remember who narrated it: that the Prophet of Allah PBUH told one of his companions (whose wife was late) to marry a lady. He did and spent years with her treating her well with love and respect, when she passed away, it was revealed that he never loved her nor has feelings for her but yet that dose not stop him from treating her well. and all her thought was that he loved her so much. Guys what exactly am I saying here? you should marry someone you don't love? no not at all, love is part of the Islamic conditions to marry a lady but not the most important aspect nor is it what holds marriage together. so what exactly I am saying here if love is not the key to ever lasting marriage? just hold on a bit, I will soon tell you. another point, that is noteworthy, we, the men, we need to know that find a lady that will love you for sake of Allah is a privilege given only by SWT and not everyone man has or is destined to receive such privilege, but you could if you pray for it sincerely... Then what is the solution to this? what exactly I am holding from you my guys? The answer will be on chapter #2 of this eye opening secret for me I n which insha Allah I will post soon... believe me guys, what I'm about to tell you on the next chapter will totally change the way you think about marriage, I promise 😊 meanwhile, let's have an open discussion on the comment section to prepare ourselves in the best form before meeting our Creator. with heart full of love and respect for the Muslim brothers and sisters on this platform: Eid Mubaraq, Takabballalhu minna wa'minkum 😊 bissalam. @atta et ul

I'm an emotionally complex person, I've never had a serious relationship until I finished higher institution. Girls do ask me out right from secondary school down to higher institution but I've noticed once such occurs, i lose interest in them.... I might be crushing on you but once you make the first move, i withdraw. At some point, i felt i was cursed... Till i met two ladies. I love both of them and I'm not a fan of polygamy but if i was given a choice between them i wouldn't be able to choose. The first one, we connect on okay level, she loves me so much and gives me her time.... This has me drawn to her... I had to leave due to her anger issues, I can't even express myself for fear of getting into a quarrel. The second person, she's everything i could ever wanted, we connect well, we love each other but.... She's always busy as she's a nurse. I met her parents and talks about marriage were on ground.... At first i tried to tolerate her work load, but as time went on i wasn't happy, we would go for weeks without talking on the phone, we were having a conversation one time and she asked me to promise to never ask her to choose between her marriage and her work... Because she wouldn't be able to choose. I had to withdraw... It was very painful because i still love her but i had to do it for our own good. She hates me now but i tell myself it's better than for her to hate me when we are married... I don't want to be that husband who squashes his wife's dream. Ever since then i lost interest, i find dating stressful, whenever i meet any lady and we start to talk, there's this feeling that comes to my mind that says this lady doesn't love you she's just desperate to get married. And i believe it to be true. Most of the ladies i meet don't care if I'm a good person or not. Once we talk and they know I'm single and working. The next conversation is come and meet my father. There's this lady i met, we've been talking for 3 days only and the next question i received was when are you coming to greet my parents. I was shocked. You don't know me, what if I'm a woman beater? Etc... Sometimes... I berate myself for pushing all these people away, I'd like to think maybe I'm being too picky or maybe my intentions are right? What are your frank assessment of me?