I feel scared to travel and go out at night. when you know these criminals are roaming freely and there is no one to protect you. The Government doesn't care they are just after looting public funds Us that the issue is affecting what can we do? lets discuss, share you ideas

Hello everyone. So my issue is that I went to visit my sister in one state, the house she is living in are two apartments. Her neighbors where newly married couples, the got married April and the wife is even pregnant. To be precise when I first saw the husband gaskiya I liked him though he is slim but still good looking, and we do have issues with the wife coz she is not friendly. I catch some feelings for him gaskiya and I love him, kuma I want him to marry me. I don't know what to do and you know as a lady I can't go and tell him that I love him, his love is actually growing day by day in my heart and I don't even think he noticed what I'm going through, he is really friendly gaskiya. Please help a sister.

Please someone should help me, miye yasa haryanzu banida girlfriend

I am a lady in her early 30’s and has never been in a relationship before. I don’t know why men don’t approach me . I don’t know why most of them think that I am already married . When I asked my friend she said it’s because of the way I dress and that I am too quiet and that I don’t go out. It’s really making me insecure and feeling unwanted. What do I do to get a suitor? Now that my younger ones are getting married it’s making me more and more depressed. Don’t get me wrong I am happy for them but it makes me wonder when my turn will come.

What's your view on this matter? It seems like most of men dating at the age of 18 to 22 are always left shattered, and it's obvious that 90% of the girls they've been dating will finally get married to someone else, but it really hurts when someone loose the one he have been dating since when he was 18-22 after many years. What's your advice to young men within 18-22 in relationship?

Aslm Da Fatan Kuna Lapia I need your advice about my girlfriend we have at lease almost 9 months with her and I love her she love me but the problem is two days din nan gabadaya naga ta Chanza ba kamar Yadda take a ba gabadaya wasu irin abubuwa take yi mun wanda bana gane Kansa saboda a can da sai muyi wajen 30 minutes to above muna waya da ita but yanzu sai ta ga dama take daga mun waya idan nayi mata magana ma Akan abubuwan da suke faruwa sai take ce mun wai ai ita haka take policy dinta ne kawai a haka kuma da ba haka muke da ita ba wlh tana sona ina sonta amma yan kwanakinnan na kasa gane kanta gabadaya wlh inaso in cire ta gabadaya daga cikin zuciya ta but I can’t so I am seeking for your advice please what should I do about this issue

Lets have some fun and share our embarrassing moment stories and cheer. Mine was, just yesterday I attended a wedding event and I fell down, the food & drinks I carried all spilled on me. So embarassing. I slipped on a banana pill ?. Please post yours

Assalamu alaikum. Please help me and share this with yan aji I need advice please. I'm in relationship with this girl for almost 7 months now since then I've never felt like I'm in relationship, I can't remember when last she called or even flash me sometimes I used to asked her to come online kuma abu kadan wai ita bacci takeji and if I asked her about something reasonable that will lead us to a serious conversation sai tafara "hmmm" "ok" and those boring replies, I once asked her why she's doing this wai ita batason tambaya kuma she's I don't care type, I was doubting if she really loves me and even if we're on call sai dai inta magana sai dai tace uhmmm ko eh, kuma koda nayi magana don taji dadi sai dai tace: "uhmm nagode" idan kuma nayi mata message to impressed her and tell her how much she mean to me the answer is always "Awwwn! Thank you so much" she have never take her time to send me any love message neither on WhatsApp nor SMS or any other social media platform, she's only telling me this words as a way to prove her love to me "sweetheart" "I love you" and "LOML" only since when we're in relationship to date, wlh I'm so confused about my relationship with her, I love her much and I don't want to loose her but I think I gotta quit but I still need your advice, wlh I treated her with all care she deserves, I can't even imagine how much I've been pampering her but duk a banza nayi hakuri sosai sabida fushi da gaggawa baida amfani ammah I'm so discouraged banajin dadin yanda take treating dina na mata magana several times in a such way da zata fahimci matsalan yin haka but taki canjawa kuma she doesn't want to see me with any girl kuma batason friends dinta suce nayi kyau wai kishi takeji idan hakan yafaru, please advice me.

When i tell people i don't want kids they get shocked. personally i don't see anything if someone says he wants to get married but does not want kids? Some even try to bring religion into the matter. is it haram or wrong? i guess none. so meye a ciki wai?

Am a type of guy thats too quiet and care alot, am too emotional, i dated about 3 times, all i end up with heartbreaks, they always take advantage of me and break me.... Ist that being kind and too emotional is wrong or what? Or ist that true love is hard to find. and i observe those that come with good intentions are the ones that ladies reject. Why?

Spoil Your Wife, She Is Totally Yours! Dear Married Brothers in Islam, there is no happiness in this world than being Married. Always say Alhamdulillah for such a darling Wife *ALLAH* SWT has blessed you with. Appreciate your woman's effort. Thank her for completing half your deen. Thank her for making you her Husband Thank her for making you the King of her empire. Tell her you love her. Tell her you have many responsibilities towards her Tell her she is your Queen She deserves your prayers. So, pray for her. She needs your love, support and care. She needs your companionship. She needs your warm hug and trust. Don’t forget to wake her up for prayers. Don’t forget to pay for all her expenses and cook her favourite dishes once in a while. Assist her in household chores too. Don’t forget to dress her up as you used to when you were newly married. Don’t forget to be good to her as ordained by the Sunnah of our Noble Prophet Muhammad (SAW). And don’t forget that she is a human being who is bound to make mistakes. So forgive her unconditionally and wholeheartedly. Be mindful there Is No Perfect Marriage! May Allah (SWT) bless all our marriages and make it easier for those searching for soul mates. Aameen

LESSON TO THE NORTH Dear North. Below are the photographs of nine SARS Officers accused of killing innocent Nigerians. The suspects and the victims are all southerners. The SARS officers are not Muslims.The Media company exposing the story is a southern media company. Today, we have a collective reasonable decision coming from the SOUTHERN YOUTHS demanding for Justice for the victims of SARS OPPRESSORS, demanding adjustment and reform of the Nigerian Police. The beautiful part of it was when the protest erased ethnicity, political and religious differences. The concerned southern governors and their state assembly members supported the staged protest. The Vice president of Nigeria Osinbajo, Speaker Federal house of representative Femi and most southern celebrities supported the protest. All because they want sanity in their region, because they meant well for themselves and that they are quick to identify with any challenge disturbing their peace. You guys have earned my respect. I've seen the reason you all want to get separated from Nigeria. I am humbly impressed. You really have a good reason. WELCOME TO THE NORTH In the North, it is prohibited to criticise government, if the president is a Northerner and a Muslim. In the North, it is forbidden to demand for your own safety against Boko Haram, Bandits, Rapist, Kidnappers ravaging the North if the president is a Northerner. Muslim Northern Army General was kidnapped and killed in the North. Other top Military Muslim Northern officers were killed in the North by NORTHERNERS. Assistant Commissioner, of police kidnapped, DPO kidnapped, DSS officials kidnapped. All the above atrocities were perpetrated by Northerners in the North. Countless innocent poor villages killed and ransacked by killer bandits and Boko Haram. Yet, we all sleep well and wake up normal as if nothing is wrong in the North, because the president is a Northerner and a Muslim. The only right you have as a Northerner is to keep quite, sit down, get killed and blame foreigners and southerners for the odious incidents being perpetrated by our own people upon our own people. In the North we are not protesting because the President is our own (Northerner, Hausa Fulani and a Muslim) but we all agreed that we are being killed on a daily basis by our own people in our own villages and cities within the North. Religious leaders knows how bad we are hit in the North, but they are quick to give defense to the failed government. Once you protest against the failed government and demand for justice, you will be be wrongly profiled. The killings in the south is less than 1% of the total sum of 100% of the killings in the North. But they have beautifully organised themselves, conducts themselves and demand for Justice for their people against their own people (Mind You, all lives are the same) This is the story of the North. The home of cowards and careless educated youths, the home of ignorance and negligence. My heart is actually bleeding right now. ©️ABDULLAHI IBRAHIM JOS

Salam alaikum, This topic was discussed on Instagram recently by Mr. Khaleeepha and some other brothers and sisters. Some people were just discussing about rawan ido, having expectations and other reasons.This is my take on it. MATA! Mu kama kan mu dan Allah. Wallahi we are too loose now adays all in the name of wanting and keeping a man. Have "standards" and i mean modesty and kama kai. A guy will start chatting u up and suddenly, you're in love, he'll request for nudes, ki tura, start dirty talks, phone sex etc.. ku hadu, ya shafa ki, some sex right away.. please how will the men want to settle down with us. They are also sceptical about finding a good wife (as if they haven't done their part of the sin). *Note* There is literally nothing you'll do to keep a man, he will leave you when he feels like it. Then we think Allah zai barmu ba punishment. How about the other ladies that are pious and want to settle down amma mun bata masu kasuwa? I believe if men are starved of any physical contact b4 marriage, they would make more efforts in getting married. We keep saying ba maza, lol. There are alot out there. We are feeding them. WHY GET THE COW WHEN THEY GET THE MILK FOR FREE? Please let's ammend our ways. Salam

The truth about love When you are in love, you only see the nice things about that person. This is because the bad side isn’t revealed to you. But when you are married, you spend every second of your life together. You will be exposed to the good and the bad. It isn’t as pretty as it is in movies. I request you to put your life in perspective. It’s easy to rebel and defy Allah when you cannot see Him. It’s easy to choose someone you can see, assume that you have found the best part about life and tread on the borders of haram. The problem is that when you slip, no one will come to rescue you. No one except yourself. You’ll have to carry yourself and go to Allah because you will have nowhere left to go. It isn’t too late. You think you are in love right now. But ask yourself, how can something that doesn’t please Allah ever bring any good to your life? The time has come to understand this relationship you share with the person you think of as your lover.

I meet a guy recently abu kadan sai yafara min fada nagaji da irin halin gaskiya just yesterday I was making call with my cousin bro sai yakira I cut the call and pick he's call the first thing he said is kida waye I told him wit my cousin ta inda yake Shiga ba tanan yake fita ba at last yace in zaba ko shi koh cousin bro kuma bai taba Kira yaji Ina waya dashi ba.....I have decided zan rabu dashi for my own good i need your advice on this pls

Why are men always not liking too slim girls and dark .All profile indicate Not too slim and not dark?

Been going through the comments on ArewaUp IG page. I've noticed some ladies commenting on mens' profile who are looking for "tall, fair and *slim* chick" asking what about us? The chubby and dark or short girls, who will marry us. Dear sisters, some men only care about looks and just want arm candy. They try to impress others at the cost of their desires. The bad news is, some slim chicks get fatty fat fat FYI after 1 baby, some even b4 having a baby, I wonder if they get replaced or stop being loved by those husbands. Don't forget, everyone is entitled to what they want too. I was a slim girl who became chubby and I've accepted my looks. Believe me, there are men out there who want to marry chubby ladies. But that shouldn't define you. Live your lives and don't let other people define you. Work on your intellectual capacity, your financial stability. Get hobbies, find your happiness and you'll exude confidence. That will attract good men, realistic men. Please do not depend your happiness on love however you look. And this, in my opinion will avoid depression. Salam.

I am a 22years old young lady who is so worried and doesn’t know what to do...I have a big problem I am a final year student and d first born to a family of 6, I fell in love when I was 17years that was my first love and I never taught he wouldn’t be my husband to be but unfortunately he cheated me and deceived me leaving me with a scar in my heart cox I looses my virginity to him mistakenly which I totally regretted doing that but I got to heal myself knowing I was forced and was too young then...After breaking up with him I was so Afraid to fall in love again thinking I will surely fall into another mans trap...I hated men and also didn’t want to fall in love again despite I have a lot of lovers pushin and begging me to be their wife...but all are lies!!! I later recover the pain and ache and gave it a try again but unfortunately I fell deep in love with someone who doesn’t care about me I did dat again and again giving chance to men thinking they truly love me but no they are all bunch of liars I broke up with them without any fight or argument I will just one day wake up and can’t find them again I got worried Day by day because any man I dated I always present them to my family thinking they are the right ones. My mum got worried all times and ask if I always do something bad to scare them away and Wlh as far as I am concerned I don’t do anything despite being sincere to them cox I love everyeach of them with all my heart .. because after some months most of them tried coming back to my life but I denied them cox they hurt me and I can’t bear it anymore so all I do was to make them my friends and most atone they all say how they wish I am their wife how they wished could get back together,a lot even says they have never met a girl so patient and kind as me someone who doesn’t care about a man who is rich or poor sincerely speaking Alhamdulilah I am not materialistic... I tired making my mum happy by telling her everything is Allah’s will and all I need from her is her prayers.....I haven’t been into any relationship for some times and I decided to give your platform a try and I met two people so kind and caring at first I wasn’t so much interested but I got instead to the first one due to his caring towards me ....I trusted him and fell in love with him but still it didn’t work Cox he isn’t so open to me seems like he has covers a lot of lies to me so I decide to step back not to hurt myself again ....while d second is just like a caring friend which I still don’t know where our relationship is heading cox he has a girlfriend and I see no reason for me to fall in love with him cox he got someone else... what I am disturbed with is how can I find a true love ....How do u know someone truly loves you... And all I believe in is if I cheated on anyone or betrayed anyone Allah will surely punish me and if I didn’t May Allah Reward me ........

When I was 13 I went to a boarding school. My parents thought it will be good to send me to school to learn English and proper manner in school. On my first year, the director was very friendly towards me, saying he knows my dad well thats why. I have my two sisters there with me. But one is a senior and never cares while the other is out for friends and fame. On my second year, the director started being touchy towards me. At first holding my hands and telling me its okay because he considers me a daughter. I believed him and allowed him hold my hands on different occasions. But then it became worse when he started calling me to his office telling my matron that I have a call, he would hug me and feel me telling me am a good girl. And then he will reward me. I thought it all normal since I had no one to tell me right from wrong. My sisters are busy with themselves and my parents concern was my result. After the midterm test we went home. My mother's first question was how is studies. And my father's words were let me see your results. My mother always tells my sisters right from wrong but still deems me too young. After the break, the director continued as soon as my legs entered the school. I let him feeling good. I liked the feeling of his hands roaming my body and his mouth sucking my tits. It felt wrong but still feels good so I let him and instead of pushing him, I pulled him closer to me making him touch me more than before. He started moving down from my mouth, to my breast and then down south. During another break my mother thought I am old enough to know all the grown ups stuff. So she told me its not good to let a man touch you and so on. At the time I was too obsessed to care and kept praying for the break to be over. I learnt the method of seduction by myself not knowing. At the time I thought I will have to get his attention to touch me again, so I did everything not knowing I am doing something else. It became part of me, when I walk I draw boys attention, when I look I've worn them over and when I smile, all the bad boys drools. So I thought it was normal for girls to attract boys attention. So it was easy making all the staff and students fall for me. But mostly the offer I got was to touch and have sex with me. As time goes by, I learned the truth and tried to restrain myself from touching and letting myself to be touched. I got expelled when I rejected the director at the age 16. Feeling scared I didn't tell anyone fearing that I will get beaten. My dad is very strict and my mom supports him all the way. We never have a mother-daughther experience and talk. Its just school. I avoided my parents making them think I love school when in reality I hate school but its better than staying with them, at home when not at school, I became addicted to porn. My mother believed a maid more than me, sometimes I wonder if they are my real parents or not. At home. All the offers I got from guys were to have sex. I had been fingered by many men even girls, but never had sex atleast. Any man that says he loves me will end up lusting over me. At first I thought thats how men are. But at the end realised that I make them do that. Some say I make them hard by my voice others by my looks some the way I walk. I want to have a good man for once in my life but its hard. Even if he is serious at the end he will try to touch me and I will hate him and myself, the cycle continues. I thought I wont get married but then he came. A very well-known and respected man, all say good things about him and he wants to marry me. He spends on me, but then as time goes by, not even two months into the relationship he started touching me. Sucking, kissing feeling and then bj came soon enough. So on instinct I started disliking him but then my parents announced him as my husband. He is double my age, and still thinks we are perfect, his daughter is older than me. All I want to do is die and rest. But then he wants me to change my attitude and habit, I should change for him and then he will marry me. I should always obey without a word and apologise when not at fault and then he will marry me. I dont want to get married because I dont think I can let any man order me and make me do things I dont want to all in the name of love. I dont know what love is and I am not even sure I am a virgin and I definitely don't want to get married. But my parents are forcing it on me. He told me clearly that he wants to marry a virgin not a second hand. Am confused as on what to do am just 19 and I dont want to be in a relationship where I can't change even I want to. I need a way out but all doors are closed. Please if anyone have something useful to say or advise apart from insults, please help me i need your help please ?

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