Should i proceed with this relationship?
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Anonymous Sep 30, 07:40 PM

Should i proceed with this relationship? 1

I was talking with my girl friend who i intend to marry and she said if i was broke she wouldn't marry me, I said she is joking, me i must marry her, she said ita sam bazata yadda ta auri wanda beda kudi ba. i was shocked and started having seconds thoughts on the relationship, i am into the relationship sincerely and this thing she said discouraged me. if i happen to loose money or wealth that means she can leave me. I am an agent that sells cars and also into real estate this type of work kuma beda tabbas, sometimes you will make good money, and sometimes kaga har 1 month maybe ka samu 50k to 100k or even nothing in some cases, wata sa'i kuma you can make a million naira on one house deal, it has many ups and downs and that is what i have been surviving with. I am thinking if something happens and my deals go wrong the one person i hold dear to me which will be my wife, i cannot really count on her because she meant what she said. Please those with experience should advice me, should i continue with the relationship or end it and find someone else? am i safe and getting married to the person that will stay by my side in difficult times?
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Anonymous #2 Sep 30, 07:53 PM
I don't even know what to advise, but deep down inside u, u know what to do, think ND follow ur instinct, our instinct is always ryt.
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Anonymous #3 Sep 30, 10:14 PM
I think you should communicate with her and have a sincere conversation
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Anonymous #1 Sep 30, 10:19 PM
hmmm,first of all ur a man a nawa qaramin tunanin da kudin da kke samu a yanxu find something to do as in ka kara samo wani sanaan da zae kara mka source of incomes din ka kana namiji bae kamata ka tsaya da sanaa daya ba wanda kasan baka da tabbas dinnsa ko wanda kke da tabbas yanxu ya aka kare kae investing en money en ka a wani business en yadda idan wnn kofar ta toshe akwae wata
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Anonymous #1 Sep 30, 10:21 PM
and lastly pls and pls da ake cewa mata basa son talaka ba talaka ne ba sa so ba talauci ne basaso idan kuma da wanda yake son talauci pls ya fadamin,Abunda Annabi muhammad s.a.w yaxe anemi tsarin shi ae ya kae abun gudu pls shi namiji da jajirjecewa aka sanshi da neman na kansa na halal wadatar zuciya da kuma sauke nauyin da Allah ya dora masa....
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Anonymous #1 Sep 30, 10:25 PM
and the main point here is ka duba halayen ta kaff kagani is she a wife material?ta cahn cahn ci xama mata kuma uwar yaya tarbiyyar ta addininta yanyin muamalar ta da mutane kyawawan halayen ta if Yess ka rabu da tunanin wae xata qika randa baka da shi i guess kae kanka bka san talauci bare ita Right? so in dai da so da kauna fahimtar juna yiwa juna uxuri girmama juna a tsakani wlh fada kawae take and may be tana fadin haka ne dan ta kara xaburar da kae ka kara qaimi wajen neman na kanka.. Thank you
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Kifayat isah Sep 30, 11:18 PM
why don't u follow ur mind and what the outcome
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Anonymous #4 Oct 1, 08:33 AM
Hmmmm this is a very sensitive conversion, ita ta fadi gaskiyar ta and she left u thinking. Amma zan iya cewa 80% na mata if not more irin tunanin my kenan, kuma zai iya yuwuwa ta iya zama da kai a ko wani hali. Istikhara is the answer to ur problem.
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SaleemYahaya Oct 1, 09:23 AM
Gaskia idan har da gaske kake kuma kasan bazata canja ba ta fahimci ya rayuwa take tou kayi ta kanka domin wataran tabbas ranka zai 6aci.
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Anonymous Oct 1, 09:45 AM

Thanks for your advice, but i am doing well and expanding the business, buying more cars and selling them off, i also have 2 houses da akwai yan haya a ciki. gaskiya Alhamdulillah ina making nothing less than 200k profit a wata averagely, which is okay but i am just saying kin san yau da gobe baka san meze faru ba, Allah ze iya jarabata to loose some wealth and my income may reduce shine nake tunani yanzu irin wannan matar ya zata min idan na shiga wannnan yanayin amma ba fata nake ba. ina hangen nesa ne but my business and investments are okay
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Maleesah Oct 1, 10:05 AM
Well to me this is a RED flag,she's into you for the money and she CLEARLY said that.U are not safe getting married to her because sometimes love is not enough
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Anonymous #5 Oct 1, 12:28 PM
let me say something that can add to your decision. The same way men go Physical looks in a relationship, it’s the same way women go for successful men or men they believe have possessions, because that is how it is, each gender has what its wants, but a man is free to say he wants this and that in a woman but the moment a woman start saying what she wants in a man then it becomes a controversy and talked down. its okay for women to want rich men its their way of connecting to the male Gender. as long as that is not the only thing they care about.
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Ahmadu20 Oct 1, 04:01 PM
I will advice you if for example u are giving her a monthly upkeep of maybe like 50k reduce it to 30k, den tell her things re hard for now. wait and see her reaction, from there you will find the answer your searching for...
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Uncletee Oct 4, 08:39 PM

wannan kuma u can never know the person that will stick by you when u are down..sanin gaibu sai Allah..as someone had adviced u earlier, if u think she is a wife material, go ahead n marry her..don't forget istikara
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Onlyhalal Oct 11, 07:27 PM
1st of all how old are you because if she’s not interested I am
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Mustapha muhammad mustapha Oct 12, 07:56 AM
study her very well, do did she like you? was it because of your wealth or looks? if yes, then leave her.
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