Assalamu alaykum, good afternoon Arewa MM.. I am an active member of the platform, i want to share something with the platform. Sometime ago u strongly partook in giving me advice to not give up while i was at the verge of loosing following the horrible moments with my previous life. Alhamdulilah i am doing well now, thanks to you and others. But i think something changed within me, i have become too immune, timid, nonchalant about relationship, love and marriage, now i feel like maybe i was born to remain single and alone, God knows i have tried and i was extremely patient and embraced what crossed as part of my fate,. I am deeply praying, to become soft like i used to, now my brain, heart, mind thinks like a robot now, i now try to love me, take care of me, and never stressed me again.. Emotionally trauma is like an automatic ticket to early grave if one isnt prayerful and patient.

Assalampls ina neman shawara wurin yan uwana akwai wani friend dina Amma yanda muka saba ya zama kamar brother na coz munyi 15 yrs tare komai ina iya fada mashi he is always there for me a koda yaushe when I need help nd advice from him yanxu ni dai duk duniya banda na mijin da nike so in aura kamar shi nd I knw he has a girl Amma wata zuciya na ceman I should just tell him how I feel abt him pls a bani shawara in fada mashi ko kar in fada mashi

I thought we were over this thing called tribalism, I was actually rejected simply because of my tribe and nothing else am the type that speak fluent Hausa in shot you can never find the ascent of Yoruba on my tongue people hardly believe that am yoruba unless i speak because my mom is hausa, that doesn't change the fact that i'm yoruba and i'm proud to be one I've been with this guy which we really love each other as in I was really into this guy, he is really the type of guy I prayed for and when I met him it was a dream come true for me, Am the type that trust easily and falls in love so easily so long as am okay with you because I know what I want. We were doing great not until I noticed some changes, I asked him severally but he wouldn't just tell me what the problem his, until we had an issue which actually came from me that gave him the chance he have been waiting for. His family forbids him to marry Yoruba his mom to be precise, he had no option than to opt out of the relationship. Guys the breakfast ehhhn sha I tried so hard to get over it because I really loved this guy. Share ur view on this 😇

Assalamualaikum Good evening family please I need ur urgent and sincere advice my husband is someone who spent almost all his life abroad so his ways and lifestyle differ from the northern life his more of the western life my husband is a very good man and has all the quality of a good husband but my problem with my husband he doesn't take 5 daily prayers serious 😥😥 it's breaks my heart alot please brothers and sisters advice me on how to go about it I love my husband so much I can't watch him go astray 😥😥 kullum Ina kiyamun lailli Ina fada was Allah he should touch his heart I believe Allah will put an answer to my prayer please advise me 🙏 I will be waiting for your answers Allah yasaka da alheri.

pls in the match making group after ur list is up to 10,can someone be able to send your request? or u have to remove someone before you see there request?

Assalamualaikum barkan mu da Rana ena Neman Karin bayani akan waya dace da yabada auren yarinya a dangi akwai lokacin da Wani yake shirin zuwa wajen baba nah sai kanwar baba na take cewa daddy na Bai da hakkin yabada aure na sai dai kanin shi kuma mahaifi naneh over all senior his the first born of the family just because my dad is a simple man they are taking him 4 granted so what happened now yanxu mahaifi na yabada aure na shine Abu yazama abun suka a dangi wai suna fushi dashi Dan meye Bai NEMA izinin suba kafin ya amince kananun magananu from all angle sun sa mum dinnah a gaba as if my parents don't have right over their children again as if my parents commit a crime please tell me did my parents go wrong my dad ordered my fiance to travel and go and greet each one of them but still yet har yau ba Wanda acikin su yamin fatan alheri akan aure Nan Saida sharrin kala kala please advise me.

These are words that are becoming common just of recent and i have no idea what they Mean.

I have a confession to make. Please don't judge me for I'm only seeking for advice. I am a lady of 27yrs, but I'm addicted to masturbation. I started since I was in boarding school at 14yrs old. I really don't remember how it started, but if I could turn back the hands of time to reverse it, I would. I used to masturbate every single day, but now, it's just like twice a week. I just want to stop it completely but I don't know how to. I used to have sex before, but Wallahi I have repented Alhamdulillah, I haven't done it in a long while coz wlh Ina tsoron Allah sosai, Amma na kasa daina masturbation. Please I need an advice, and as I said earlier, please don't judge me for I'm only human and I'm not perfect. wannan jarabawan daga Allah ne. Thank you

I dated this guy since secondary but seems I love him most while dating I met his friend a very friendly one and became close to him.actually my bf hardly call or visit but this frnd does visit then one day I fell ill like very ill let's say spritual issues to an extent I myself don't like the medication I was on this guy never call or visit ,but this friend is always with me he visits to check on me like everyday he keeps me company for like 6-7month I got back to my feet only for this guy to say I cheated on him.its really a long story that I can't complete here but please guys tell me did I really cheat on him?

Good communication is often underrated in all relationships, be it parent to child, siblings intending partners and even married couple.. Am a lady so I will talk from our point of view. I have always wanted someone who I can communicate well with, someone I will be able to say anything to without being judged.I have notice most men lack good communication skills... Is either they let the lady steer the conversation, and contribute so little to the conversation that will make her feel he is not interested. And with time the lady will suppress so many things she wants to say. We ladies tend to overthink... We create many scenarios in our head when we don't understand your actions.. And sometimes those scenarios makes us so paranoid we react in the wrong way. We are wired differently pls guys learn to communicate well. There's no harm in picking up your phone and texting 1.babes I will be too busy today do not worry incase you don't hear from me 2.You did this and am not happy. 3.i need some space, no you didn't do anything wrong... Am just trying to sort some things out. 4.thank you I like it when you do this 5. I love the affectionate you 6. It's been a rough day I need some love. 7.i love this and this about you and I will love you to improve on this and this... Please guys we need good communication. Learn to show your emotions.. I take God beg una.

dear future hubby, if you are ready drop ur contact: ammiratu1234@gmail.com Note : serious one please 👏

Salaam, please hide my identity. My biggest problem is I'm actually into drugs, I've become addicted because I started that a decade ago. At this point, I don't take drugs just to get high but to survive. I tried embarking myself on withdrawal but whenever i try doing that, the process becomes very hectic and can never resist it. One thing i thank God with is the fact that ever since I started that, i never joke or play with academics and that's what made me what i am today. Moreover, I'm not trying to please myself but i don't take drugs during daytime but only at night. Atimes i sit down and cry whenever i think about my situation. I'm 27years old, a graduate, a lecturer and currently running my MSc. It happens I'm the youngest in the school I'm undergoing my postgraduate program and even in the institution I'm working. Ever since i started my undergraduate program, I don't give any priority to women. I've been asked out by lots of classy babes but i never find any of them attractive. It's not as if they're not worthy or my taste, they are. A week ago, i was sat down by my mum, dad and my grandma. They suggested i should definitely find someone and get married because it may likely make me change and become more responsible than I am. As for now, I'm not in any serious relationship. And I'm sure no parent will give his daughter to someone of my character. And the worst part is whenever someone hears drugs, It'll be exaggerated but wallahi the only thing i take is codiene and rephanol and wallahi Tallahi I don't get high any longer because my system have become used to it. And no body will even believe i smoke even an ordinary ciggerates because it doesn't show in me. Please help me out and suggest a positive measure to tackle and overcome this issue. Thanks

I'll would like to ask some of you guys that would refuse to respond to request for weeks! Do you feel so special because someone expresses their interest in you, so you treat them with such disdain. A lot of people here are dead serious about finding a spouse. You don't owe anyone any explanation weather you choose to decline or accept a request, but you sure owe the person that has shown interest in you the decency of response.

I don't know if true love still exists

Assalamu alaikum. i know there are alot of people on this matchmaker App both Men and Women, they all have what they are looking for. what i dont understand is why ive not received a single request from anyone one yet and the ones i send gets declined 😢. you see one most men profile they looking for Hausa or fulani or kanuri or shuwa. toh mu suran tribes din fha. aren't we desirable?

nidai na kasance mace ce mai zurfin ciki bana iya bayyana abinda ya dameni ko zai cutar dani saboda Ina ganin kamar na tonawa kai na asiri ne kuma mutane suna ce min na gyara halina saboda idan nayi aure zan sha wahala shin menenen illar yin zurfin ciki akan abinda Idan ka fadawa wani zai fadawa abokinsa kuma magana ya bi duniya 🙏😭😭😭

Salam I am a warrior I will just like people to know a little about us majority na lura we find it hard to have that special someone who is ready to spend the rest of his life with you mutane da sunji problem Dinka they will say ai ciwo ba mutuwa bane da kace if der ready they should meet ur parents sai su gudu sometime i feel depressed wasu kuma it's ur body they want,Wanda zai zo da gaskiya aure ka yake son yin shi yace he's ready you explain to him ur condition and He's genotype is perfect and his ready his family will be against it ace ai lalura yake son ya kwaso mu family they won't agree no matter what ya kamata mutane su sani fa Sickler (warrior)mu mafa mutane ne kamar kowa we have feeling too far muma fa diyan wasu ne fa and our parents and family love us too We have our difficulty yes and challenges but we still have our hearts desire muma mutane ne kamar kowa kowa nason ya ga Shima yayi aure. it very hard to see sickler dat is not hard working most of us duk da challenges da muke facing na pains no matter how you explain to people they won't understand the pain we go true wallahi we still work hard we keep pushing. Da addu'a da support of our family and love one's Allah ya bamu mazaje nagari Ameen Nagode

there's this guy I saw I started loving him I had pure love for him because if I get the chance with him I would love to marry him though he has a wife and a daughter I followed him on Instagram he followed back he then post his daughter's picture and I replied by saying mash Allah he just liked the message and didn't say anything from that I feared that if I force a conversation he might stop replying and I really love him honestly

How prepared are you to get married? What is the one thing that is stopping you?

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