They don't want the responsibilities that comes with it... Some are not experienced with siclers so they have this believe kullum suna asibiti. So someone who is looking for a wife to take care of him and his needs zai ga kamar wahala ne. But akwai siclers da suke shekara basu samu attack ba. I have two siblings that are siclers.one is late shine yake da chornic one the other one zai iya yin one year bai tashi ba. Siclers are very caring and ga karfin hali.they hate piety so they try as much as possible to overcome their pains.

One of the major reasons is because men generally marry to get stability - stability in themselves, their spouse and children - and this stability concerns many aspects of life including health. Men therefore tend to avoid not only sickle cell survivors but also other women that frequently get sick by their nature as spouses based on what they see or hear about in the society. And there is generally no much awareness that sickle cell survivors can live near normal lives. One key thing that distablizes men is instability with issues relating to their families - we all remember how our fathers used to get so worried when we fell ill as children especially if it becomes frequent, and how that applies if it's our moms that got sick. A sudden call to a man when he's at work or on business trip that his wife or child is very sick and admitted in the hospital can put him off-balance. Just this week, I was going on a work -relared travel and our driver received a call that his daughter is sick and almost unconscious, for the rest of the 2 hour journey he was not himself and I had to take over the driving for our safety - that's how it gets; he had to be excused for the remaining 3 days because he went back home the next morning. Men are not typically emotional but are very pitiful especially to children. So the instability in family that men fear could result from marrying sickle cell survivors even if themselves are AA tends to make them cautious and go for other options which overtly appear more stable. As a health professional I have an idea about how men handle health issues relating to their wives or children and for the most part it negatively affects their other aspects of life when it's a frequent occurrence. Interestingly, more awareness is being created about sickle cell disease and more and more people are getting the stigma out of their heads and accepting the true reality about sickle cell survivors.

it's very true cause am one of them, it's been awhile since I had an attack.

I totally agree with what you said, definitely a healthy husband needs a healthy wife to care of all his wants and needs.

Masha Allah.

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