Every single woman of age 18 and above has at least been asked once of when she will get married or been mocked at mostly by males or by married counterparts. I know what you are thinking, she is a feminist, right ? Well I'm not, but feminist or not, the truth is the truth. Just like someone can't know exactly when they will die so is when they will get married. The question " when are you getting married?" Or the phrase " get married, you are getting old" have pressuring effects, girls subjected to this kind of pressure tend to settle for anyone that comes their way out of desperation. And where desperation comes, love, understanding, and value leave. The males on the other hand feel that there are plenty fish at the sea. So the marriage that is suppose to be full of love happiness and loyalty would be a marriage governed by desperation on the woman's part amd the mentality of "plenty fish at the sea" on the man's part, culminating in divorce, and where divorce thrives, higher level of depression, anxiety, poorer self-concept and psychological distress happen. These effects are not often spoken of like the global warming but its effects are consuming us bit by bit on its own ways. To males and married females who exact these pressures on the single ladies, my question is what gauratee you, you will not give birth to female child and what guarantee you she wouldn't be subjected to the same sort of pressures, so we are virtually all on the same boat, unless you do not give birth to a female child or has no female siblings in which case you are saved by default. So think twice and think deep. To all those single ladies out there, know that just because you don't find love, does not mean that you are not worthy of it.

pls is the registration,once? or I will have to renew it some other time?

i want to post my profile, for matchmaking. A definite no for me is someone who drinks and or smokes. i am scared that if i post that, some people who smoke or drink would still, apply for a match and hide it. pls should i include that criteria or not. thank you

Hello Arewaup and all. whats your success record on Matchmaking platform. Also if I post email and my details including no, DOB and others would it be visible to all or only to the admin.

How do I register please?

Baka cika makaryaci ba,Har sai lokacin da zaka iya yiwa kanka da kanka karya😢 saidai ka yaudari kanka amma ba zaka iya ba,cikin duniya zaka iya yiwa kowa karya,amma ba zaka taba iya yiwa kanka karya ba kuma aduk sanda kake yiwa wani karya kamar zaman kana yiwa kanka karya ne,toh kasancewar ba zaka iya yiwa kanka karya ba inaga ya zamanto ciwa kana yaudarar kanka ne, ku daina yaudarar kanka ,shi wanda zaka fadawa gaskiyar fada masa gaskiyar 😀💚 Allah yasa mufi karfin Zukatan mu🤲🏼

kaduna guys🙋🏼‍♀️

My life has been okay until 4th of September 2022 the day i committed a sin and also found out last weak to have been infected with HIV, Something i never thought i will do. i am tired of life suddenly and been depressed for almost 2 month, everyday is a pain for me and disappointed no one knows this except that i posted here, i CANNOT face my family with this devastating news, everyone sees me as a Good person which i am, I finished school and been working since 2 years ago in a very good government organization. My family are proud of me but i still went on to engage in something that has now ruined my life is the most painful part. I don't really want to live anymore. The guilt of Zina and my reputation in the eyes of people hurts deeply. I wish something happens and i die without anyone finding out my true story, All my plans and life goals have faded away. Please pray for me and my wish gets granted

Asalamualaikum. I am honestly confused on what to do hence my message here today. I beg you in the name of Allah please give me your honest opinions. This is a secret i have never shared with any living being until today. over Twelve years ago, 2010 i lost my mother. My dad got remarried 2011 and his marriage failed thereafter. He was in a very dark place so he sent me and my sister to stay with one of my mother's friend for a while. I was 13 at that time. During my stay there, her nephew of twenty something years was also staying there. That wicked human being raped me in that house and I couldn't tell anyone till this day. He has been begging for my forgiveness till this day. I don't think I can find it in my heart to forgive him. The problem now is that I'm about to get married and I don't know if I should tell my to be husband about it or to keep it between me and Allah. What should I do?

Hello. I want join the Matchmaking platform but really I find it difficult to send my ID card because I am already a family man with grown kids and am in my early 50s and interested in adding another partner. I also love my present partner. However, my confidentiality is really key. so how do I get along in this sojourn with the Arewa app.

Good day everyone. I would like to talk about some of the effects of over thinking. As everyone knows,over thinking doesn't solves problems instead it adds to your own problems and hence making you sadder and more depressed by the day. Most of the times people resort to sitting alone and thinking all the time, some think it's okay to be thinking all the time till they can't stop anymore and would later end up regretting. Some of the effects of over thinking include; depression, negative thoughts, sad face, it also have effects on our mental health and many more. It's never too late,speak out, tell your close ones of your worries and problems and also avoid sitting alone most of the times,mingle with your friends, go out and catch some fun and also remember that Almighty Allah is aware of your situation and he have a better reason for putting something in your life.

I am a graduate passionate about business, my dad had promised to give me 1m in the next 2 weeks too start a business but i will have to sell the idea to him. Please any suggestions? something profitable with less volatility as i am aware business in this economy is really challenging. I will appreciate any suggestion or advice

About the 25 year old that posted concerning her difficulties few days ago.. Now to assure you of not being alone or Maybe yours maybe a little much better I'm a 25 year old, growing up in a family filled with females didn't really give me the idea of befriending outsiders, my mum was my best friend but few years after loosing her and my father reality Dawn on me, I have no friends at all but jst acquaintances, I always find myself behaving awkward and weird outside and in the midst of people, I always find myself feeling as though I do not belong there. In my 25years of life, I have only dated once and even that wasn't really a serious dating, I feel I'm not attracting any tangible man at all yet my brothers, sisters and acquaintances claim I have the type of body attractive to men. My dear I have learnt to live all by myself to love myself and wait for that destined man from Allah (swt) although there are times also yearn for love but what do I do? Nothing other than to be patient... I hope this little piece can bring you atleast a little peace and calm knowing you are not alone not are you different from every other human out there...

Ever since i was little i have always been shy, i get anxious when i am around people and i find it hard to make friends even when i do we tend to part a few weeks later. I attended 3 different secondary boarding schools with hopes of changing the story but i end up with the same results. When i was in Jss3 i discovered m@sturbating and it helped me a lot. I stopped bothering if i had friends or not as i was satisfying myself. I was really tall for my age back then and i stood out amongst my peers. Then i had a growth spurt and i gained 5 inches within a year and people started seeing me as someone older than his age. I started getting advances from women way older than me but i wasn't interested as i unfortunately got addicted to m@sturbation. Now I've gotten all i've always wanted but i kept pushing people away. I graduated from Uni in October 2020 and between then and now i have been in 5 different relationships and i was the cause of the failures i didn't cheat but i didn't care about my partners' feelings as i almsot immediately didn't see the need for intimacy immediately we start dating because of my addiction to m@sturbating. I made a commitment to stop masturbating on September 15th and this past one month has been hard, the addiction and urge are starting to fade. But i still find it hard to feel anything for anyone, i've done researches on how to make whoever i fall in love with happy also how to connect but nothing positive has come out of it, instead i keep fantasising on how I'll treat my princess right even when i know i am emotionally unavailable. Are there any off the book tips i can get from my brothers and sisters on this platform. I plan to be a husband and father in next couple of years but i am scared i will become a terrible one. I don't want take an innocent woman from her parents and then treat her in an inhumane manner. Assalamualaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuhu. ❤️

as salam alaikum. I want to address something here, why is it that someone will send a request to someone and the person will take weeks b4 accepting it or rejecting it honestly wlh is annoying. I sent a request to a guy 4days ago and he immediately accepted so I sent him "as salam alaikum " immediately but till date no reply which is annoying wlh. and I also send a request to some this last month and it's still pending. pls arewamatchmake pls address this issue saboda ba dadi 😡

Assalamu alaikum. I don't know how to begin ma. Well, I've come across several posts where people talk about HIV/AIDS positive people or they themselves are carriers of the disease and the comments that follow are very unpleasant, not all though but majority. there's this notion that most people have, and the notion is that anyone with the disease got it through indulging in immoral acts. whereas it is not always true. some got it at saloons koh wurin masu yankan farce, some right from birth, some were victims of wickedness, some were infected and they don't even know how or when they got infected. some were transfused with the blood of a carrier. all these mentioned could be intentional or not. I myself am a carrier. we discovered I had it during my junior secondary days kuma none of my family members has it kuma mun fi ashirin a gidan mu. though a lokacin bamu kai yawan haka ba. we didn't know how I got it but then I suspected it was from a barbing saloon but my parents believe it was when I had blood transfusion while I was still in primary school (Wallahu a'lam). Wanda ma yayi min donating jini a lokacin ya zo ya rasu before we discovered I had it. I never want to say or think he was a carrier cos he saved my life when I needed it kuma malamin mu ne a islamiyya kuma daya daga cikin aminan baba na ne a lokacin har Allah ya karbi rayuwar sa and above all kuma bamu da tabbacin haka but Allah knows best. tun a lokacin da Dr. din yayi informing din mu hankalin mahaifiya ta ya tashi ta fara kuka Dr. din yayi ta bata hakuri yana ƙoƙarin kwantar mata da hankali ni kuma ko a jiki na. har Dr. din yake fada ma mama na duba da yadda ko reacting ban yi ba ba lallai ne na san abin ma da ke faruwa a lokacin in jin shi. Ni kuma duk na san ko meye ke wakana, na san abin da aka ce ina da shi but it never distributed me as I believed it was a test from Allah and qaddara ta ce, there's no way I could have escaped it. kuma a haka nayi ta rayuwa na with that in mind and I also believed (still do) that duk ciwon da Allah ya saukar akwai maganin shi kuma zan warke da izinin sa. Bayan nan akayi advicing din mu mu je inda ake ba masu irin ciwon magunguna. After the first set I was given I switched to what people refer to as Islamic medicine su habbatus-sawda, some mixture of honey garlic and other ingredients, some packaged traditional medicine from India and Egypt etc. and alhamdulillah, magungunan suka karbe ni. my viral load reduced from over 40,000 copies/ml to less than 400 or so copies/ml(can't recollect the exact figure) har aka ce mana my system is no longer threatened by the virus it can even fight off the virus on its own without medication. so we became laxed. I stopped taking my medication as at when due har virus din yayi growing resistance to the drug and re-multiplied. I had to change my therapy and also adopted the use of ARV drugs. now I'm still battling with it. A duk tsawon lokacin nan babu wanda ya san ina da shi. i have never in my life say this to any soul until now. a family din mu ma daga iyaye na sai my elder siblings ɗina 3 kuma su ma ba ni na faɗa musu ba. Yanzu ma da nake faɗa a nan it is because there's something bugging me and I want to find a way out. So all these years it never distributed me until now that I intend to get me a spouse I really want to have to choose a spouse from unlimited options but it seems that dream is near impossible. the way people discriminate, the way they see us carriers you'd think that Allah has never created any creature as disgusting as us. this limits my options to carriers only. it's not that I'm wicked or something that I want to spread the virus. hasali ma I've been taking measures to see that no one gets it from me. I have my own clippers, nail cutters, etc which I don't share with anyone. a haka ma wasu kallon marowaci suke yi min ko mai ƙyanƙyamin wasu, basu san ba haka bane 😅. Ciwon nan like any other sickness ana warke wa (I've herad stories kuma In-sha Allah one day it is my story that will be said). Kuma akwai cigaba a fannin kiwon lafiya da har kaga mace mai ciwon tana dauke da juna biyu ba tare da mijin da abin cikin ta sun dauki ciwon ba kuma ta haifa abin ta ta shayar dashi lafiyar sa lau. I have never for once dated koh irin da wasa haka ko irin soyayyar secondary school ɗin nan. I don't even have female friends. just a few acquaintances and those that are family. So now I really need to but I don't know how to go about it. I have seen girls I'm really into, I still have crushes but when I remember my condition, I feel so much discouraged. Like how do I do it? should I let us get to know each other, fall in love then break the news? or after knowing each other then tell her before things get serious? I really don't know which is the better option. I know some might say why not na je inda ake karban magani zan iya samu a wajen. Gaskiyar magana ban taɓa ganin masu ciwon inda nake karban magani ba. except for once da na je na samu wata mata da mijin ta su ma sun zo karban magani. kuma sun kai over 50 years, ita matar ke da shi. It's like the place I go have a timetable they follow to see their patients at different times a for confidentiality or something. Kuma suna da patients din sosai cos ina ganin files din mutane da yawa. and there's no way I could ask for other patients details. And you can't tell who's infected or not. duk da naji wasu suna cewa akwai wasu alamu da idan mutum na da shi toh yana da ciwon but the signs can be found on healthy people too. Damn! I said a lot. Please help a brother. What is the way out? p.s: fal yaqulu khairan au liyasmut. Akwai hisabi.

Dear Arewa up, Please in your next update I suggest it should allow users to be able to add more than one category when posting in the forum. Like one could need an advice concerning their relationship. So they can choose 'advice' and 'relationship' as the categories. Thank you.

My husband to be has changed drastically, ive known him for 12years now and it seems halinshi baya canzawa.... we parted three times in these years and finally wai hes back for marriage and gaskiya ni deep down im scared of aurenshi.... hes these kind of men that are jealous and bitter kan ci gaban rayuwan mace, he wants to always be at the top, ga boye boye, ko abu ya ajiye wallahi sai ya rufe da kaya, idan yana magana kikazo gefenshi sai ya ajiye, baya magana ta normal call sai whatsaap and other social media channels, baya chat baya video call baya duk wani abu da saurayi da budurwa sukeyi.... idan yazo wurina hira se yace min yanada meeting.... kullum cikin sauri da nuna yanada abun yi... to the extent that ive started questioning myself whether im boring or he has started loosing interest... to cut the story short yanzu haka yayi bugging line dina yanajin abunda nake discussing with other people and he reacts to discussions din🥲..... Idan yayi tafiya se yayi 5days be kirani ba,kuma babu text ba call nothinggg like i said earlier.... PLEASE ADVICE ME ON WHAT TO DO... aurenmu is soon....

as salam alaikum. pls I want you guys advice I met this guy on arewamatchmaking we started chatting and talking on phone 📱 it was really good, so we met one day and kuma yayi min sosai shima yace nayi masa. so bayan yan kwanaki Sai yake ce min Wai ai ance Wai Sai dai ya auri yar dangin su ba bare ba Wai ba'a san hali na ba, I was so sad 😭 har kuka nayi sosai wlh yace min shi yana sona sosai da sosai. Sai yace xai cigaba da musu magana koh xasu chanxa ra'ayin su tom har yanxu muna soyyayya Amman iyayen sa basu yarda ba har yanxu. Tom pls in cigaba da kula shi koh kuwa kawaii in hakura?

Honestly I think there’s one thing that’s is very Alarming and i feel no one is talking about it the rate at which lady think getting married is the only source of HAPPINESS or being in a SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP, I just don’t know why we have that mentality like why????? What about making that money? What about being HAPPY? What about learning a new skill, doing that business you’ve always dreamed of doing? Why can’t we see the other aspect of life that doesn’t involve being worried About marriage of relationships We're all are going to be Happy when the time is RIGHT. But before it’s comes please let’s be happy with other aspects of our LIFESTYLE.