Hello,please i am in need of serious assistant i am in a relationship with a lady that i met on this platform that lead us now to marriage proposals but we r seriously having issues of argument mostly everything i brings to her is not OK for her it will become a problem and she will be shouting at me on phone although we are not closer to each other now but am seriously afraid if it will be the same thing after our marriage because i even complain to the platform before now please i am in need of advises because the wedding is December .

Salaam. Ina neman shawara da addu'a pls. Akoda yaushe na shiga class ko na dau books na don karatu sai inji jiki na ya mutu ina jin bacci, kuma ko kadan ban iya baccin rana ba. Kuma bana fahimtan abunda aka karantar da ni ko na karanta. Abun kuma ya fara min da dadewa.

So I'm new here please pardon my mistakes. I used to have intense emotions towards my partners,the last relationship I had ruined me. Don't get me wrong but I never met this person in person. He appeared to be very kind and loving even though he was impersonating someone else. He never asked for anything from me (money or nudes) but he always disappeared n reappear with some lame excuses but because I was deeply into it, I had hope that he was going to change. He hurts me alot n made me so happy alot,so it was hard for me to decide to let go or not. At a point he broke up with me n I was broken inside out,did things to helped myself moved on n I actually investigated n got to know I was in love with another person's pictures and another person's voice. I felt stupid n foolish,I was never a fan of video call. So to cut the story short it's almost 2yrs now but it's like I've caged my heart and I don't seem to know how to love,commit or build relationships, I have trust issues and I don't feel like any guy is understanding and patient enough to go through the stage of healing with me. I've ruined so many relationships and marriage proposals because I'd rather be quite than tell my story to any guy that comes to me, I have the fear of being judged, heartbroken again n I really don't want to go through what I went through the last time,I almost lost my faith n I had to battle with my heart n pray alot to accept the fact that Allah never tests us beyond our capabilities, I run away n ruin my relationship with any guy I start becoming close to or having some kind of feelings towards him. I want to get married but I think I need help to overcome my fears. Please anyone with idea on what to do should help me. Thank you ?

Can we get opinion of ladies on what they mean by man who's financial stable. Is a hustler or self employed man financially stable? What's that financial stability about or what level of income comes under it?

I'm in my early 20s but I'm into older girls, I'm so confused about this because I don't see any possibility of having any of them neither in relationship nor being a spouse to any of them. I tried as much as I can to stop thinking this way but I've found it so difficult, I prayed to stop crushing on any older woman or my age mates but nothing has changed. As I keep being in touch with most of them, I realized that majority of Arewa girls have one perspections, they believed that an older men are more responsible and caring than the younger ones and majority of them make it obvious to me that they can't accept any younger man or their age mates expect one who's older than them with the minimum of 5 years. I believe men are always men irrespective of their ages, but having a one with less anger issues, who can understand you and treat you right is a blessing and priceless not number of age. Please advise me on how to stop thinking this way, it's killing me deeply since I have no hope on my desires ?

Assalamualaikum I also have this problem of masturbating and watching phorn it really disturbing me I have done several things to overcome this attitude Amma I can't help... the worst part of it is am always depressed because I am experiencing oppression from my guardians..and with this my nasty behavior I'm worsening the situations.. don't know how to overcome it. I have tired several method on how to get rid of it Amma kamar shedan yanason yafi karfina all my thought is when I get married I will stop amma ba Anki ayi zancen aurena dukda nafitar damiji aureba ga different kinds of oppression wlh mlm I have a more serious problem aside from this one my mum tana cikin matsala i want to be a responsible person in life i want to be productive..ihate what I'm doing wlh as I'm writing this kuka nakeyi at least I have had enough of all the oppressions in my life right from tender age(what I say sometimes is..is because of my illegal behavior shiyasa Allah yake jarabata da iftilai iri iri) I have read tips on how to get rid of addiction..kamar abin kirki zan bari and after some time i will start again... please is there anything I can do someone should help

Assalamualaikum good morning everybody how are you doing how is everything? Pls admin keep me anonymous.... So I need your advice on this please I met a guy on this site on this arewamatchmaking the guy seemed cool at first like he actually loved me so I thought that maybe this is the guy for me but it wasn't like that, suddenly on one fateful night while you're chatting on WhatsApp this dude asked me to send him my nude picture that he is feeling somehow like his sexual urge that I should help me with my nude picture so that he will calm himself and I was like no gaskiya I can't do it saboda Ni ba Yar iska bace.... He got really mad and didn't even talk or chat with me for several days I also ignored him so now what should I do pls I need your advice.... Cos ever since he asked me to send my nude pic the love I have for him has reduced.

I am a young person of 28yrs that has been blessed with what i have always wanted at my age, a comfortable life. Alhamdulillah i have everything more than what an average 28 yr old has. i have 3 houses in Abuja, lagos and kaduna with a very good stable income however i have started a life i don't like and i want to stop. about two years ago i found out the girl i loved and wanted to marry was only after my money i spent more than 7million on her within just 1 year and i was very heartbroken after that that i decided not to trust any woman again i don't wish the feeling of heartbreak on anyone its horrible it affected me badly this was someone i dreamt we'd have life together but she was just after my money i ended the relationship and moved on. i started having lots of girls around me and sleeping with them, i can't count the number of girls i have slept with including the daughter of a known politician, whenever i travel i most of the time have a girl in my house which i'm not married to but lately i feel bad because after Allah has blessed me and given me a lot this is not a way to live my life in his disobedience. I feel like a horrible person i want to stop but i'm so used to the lifestyle and changing would be difficult because i'm not planning to get married my experience with women have thought me to just use them and move on. I need to get rid of my sexual desires in order to stop this haram lifestyle it may sound like a crazy idea but i was just wondering if anyone can offer me some advice or suggestion and I needed somewhere to let my worries out

I am just wondering and sick of it too.. anytime I talk with a guy or send a voice note through WhatsApp.... they always say my voice turn them on and wallahi I don’t change voice I don’t know what to do because I left a guy because of this... I thought he’s a bad guy, and yanxu abin na ta Kara yawa because is now any guy I met help me pls....

Seriously what am going through presently hurts me a lot... because I love and care too much... there is a guy I love too much and started feeling like I can not do without him because Wlh am so obsessed with him he has finally realized it and he’s now giving me attitude, I thought I can get him off my mind but noooo I couldn’t And this has been happening anytime I am in a relationship I got a heart break it pains

Please how do I get in touch with one's that send me request which I accepted. Tnx

Ending of 2019, a girl proposed to me and we became friends. I used her a lot, slept with her and booked rooms several times to satisfy myself and she agreed because she was so into me. Just about a month ago she's fallen for so much and talking about marriage. I actually want to leave her now but I know she will feel miserable and I feel bad when I think of that. Whats the best way I can leave without breaking her heart into peices. I"l appreciate any advice.

I love him but I don't think he loves me back he takes me as a friend what should I do? I don't want to lose him

Hi I was married 4yrs back without knowing the man is mentally ill everything happened in a rush the first meeting to marriage happens in 2months time and we just meet once face to face the 2nd was during wedding (it's my qadr) I was treated very badly by him I was beaten up many times he slap me in any misunderstanding I suffered alot in those 8months before my parents got me separated from him though he didn't divorce me untill after I spent another 8months in my parents house saying he loves me he will not divorce my father threaten him of going to court before he handed the divorce paper now I really want to get married and am very afraid of been married again I use to feel why would I go back to that terrible life but deep down I feel I want my own home, my own family, I want to see my own children how can I overcome this ???

I write this with a heavy heart, there is a new addictive substance out there it is Porn. It all started about 4 years ago. i use to see people online asking of how to cure this problem and saw few sheikhs address it. In my head i was thinking "how can someone be addicted to porn?, its simple just don't watch it shikenan". ofcox i don't watch at that time but i saw people who were addicted to it as weak. i Never understood what this really was. I studied abroad in a very good university with good grades, i use to have alot of compliments from my lectures and collogues of how smart I was in my studies. Finally I was about to graduate and comeback to Nigeria to start a Bright and productive life. I finished my exams 1month before i returned so i had like 1month free time. 1 thing lead to another and i started watching that filthy thing (porn). I came back to Nigeria normal but i would watch this thing after 3 -4 days, it started to become more frequent. i developed an addiction of Porn and Masturbation and realized when it was too late. It is very compulsive and powerful, i will watch it everyday and ejaculate but I started fighting my urges to recover but failed. I tried my best even during Ramadan I would watch this thing while fasting (I hated it). I will wake up in the morning with a crazy anxiety, can't eat or focus on anything until after I watch it and ejaculate then i will feel normal. It became like a drug I cried as a grown man and felt ashamed to talk to anyone about it. It started to affect my life seriously, anything i start i can't focus on it because porn and masturbation addiction. I was into business and i lost alot of money and opportunities because of this thing. About 2 years elapsed and I have lost total control to a part of my mind. There are things I never imagined of doing as a noble person but this filthy thing made me do it. I still regret the day I sexually harassed a girl close to me and she cried because she never thought i will do this to her. I never in my right mind would do that but this filthy thing has dominated my mind and its overriding my own mind. Its a very painful experience to watch yourself being control by porn & masturbation. Because of it i have travelled to different places and isolated myself in hopes of healing but it only lasts for some days and it comes back with full force. I have lost my Iman and stopped praying because of ejaculation requires bath and over the span of 2- 3 years, it affected my prayer schedule and gradually i started missing then stopped even bothering about it. i feel bad i have tried and tried. Last week I feel I just want to end my life. No one knows about this in my family. I have lost a lot of opportunities because of this. i can't achieve anything My brain is Hijacked i don't know what to do. but before i go please know the dangers of porn and avoid it. Please before it does the same to you. Stay away from it. I don't want any innocent soul to go through this miserable experience, Its a very powerful substance that's highly destructive. I think ending my life would be better, i feel miserable and sad. I have tried all i can but no avail.

Good morning I am yet to receive a request I hope I have’nt done any mistakes during the registration. Thank you

Please what do u all think abt a female proposing to a male.Am currently in luv with a guy by I don't want to say anything to him yet bcs of our different way of thinking especially here in d north. Please what should I do,Note,been praying constantly abt it.

I just want your personal opinion of a good salary in Nigeria for a single guy that is just starting his career. Thanks

This has long been debated. I bet everyone has his/her own reason. Lets hear what each other reason is for choosing which. Mine is that Android (Note 20 Ultra) 1. The S pen is something else you have to try it to know it should be part of any phone where you can use it as a remote to snap pictures, sign documents or control your media content etc 2. Multitasking allows me use or open 5 n more applications in a pip screen which an iPhone can't 3. The battery life lasts me 1day n half 4. Reverse wireless charging allows me charge my other phone wirelessly 5. The camera is perfect n can even zoom at the moon 6. Samsung Dex allows me transfrm my phone to a computer n use a tv monitor 7. Expandable storage to 1terrabyt 8. Use of Google home to automate appliances 9. Google maps n Google sky applications

aslm,i have something that is troubling me in my intimate life i was married to one beautiful wife six years ago and we fruitfully blessed with two fine kids Alhamdulillah.But when ever i intend to to have intimate with he, if i want to reach my orgasm and have a maximum satisfaction i have to go far away and starting thinking of old girl friend imagining am doing it with her.In most occassion if did not have that kind of imagination i will not cum.it is detereoting i need your recomendation on how to curb this problem and i love my wife i dont know why this is happen to me it eating me, am i the only one this happens to❓ will that be a problem❓am waiting for your suggestion,recommendation and comment.THANKYOU