Been going through the comments on ArewaUp IG page. I've noticed some ladies commenting on mens' profile who are looking for "tall, fair and *slim* chick" asking what about us? The chubby and dark or short girls, who will marry us. Dear sisters, some men only care about looks and just want arm candy. They try to impress others at the cost of their desires. The bad news is, some slim chicks get fatty fat fat FYI after 1 baby, some even b4 having a baby, I wonder if they get replaced or stop being loved by those husbands. Don't forget, everyone is entitled to what they want too. I was a slim girl who became chubby and I've accepted my looks. Believe me, there are men out there who want to marry chubby ladies. But that shouldn't define you. Live your lives and don't let other people define you. Work on your intellectual capacity, your financial stability. Get hobbies, find your happiness and you'll exude confidence. That will attract good men, realistic men. Please do not depend your happiness on love however you look. And this, in my opinion will avoid depression. Salam.

I am a 22years old young lady who is so worried and doesn’t know what to do...I have a big problem I am a final year student and d first born to a family of 6, I fell in love when I was 17years that was my first love and I never taught he wouldn’t be my husband to be but unfortunately he cheated me and deceived me leaving me with a scar in my heart cox I looses my virginity to him mistakenly which I totally regretted doing that but I got to heal myself knowing I was forced and was too young then...After breaking up with him I was so Afraid to fall in love again thinking I will surely fall into another mans trap...I hated men and also didn’t want to fall in love again despite I have a lot of lovers pushin and begging me to be their wife...but all are lies!!! I later recover the pain and ache and gave it a try again but unfortunately I fell deep in love with someone who doesn’t care about me I did dat again and again giving chance to men thinking they truly love me but no they are all bunch of liars I broke up with them without any fight or argument I will just one day wake up and can’t find them again I got worried Day by day because any man I dated I always present them to my family thinking they are the right ones. My mum got worried all times and ask if I always do something bad to scare them away and Wlh as far as I am concerned I don’t do anything despite being sincere to them cox I love everyeach of them with all my heart .. because after some months most of them tried coming back to my life but I denied them cox they hurt me and I can’t bear it anymore so all I do was to make them my friends and most atone they all say how they wish I am their wife how they wished could get back together,a lot even says they have never met a girl so patient and kind as me someone who doesn’t care about a man who is rich or poor sincerely speaking Alhamdulilah I am not materialistic... I tired making my mum happy by telling her everything is Allah’s will and all I need from her is her prayers.....I haven’t been into any relationship for some times and I decided to give your platform a try and I met two people so kind and caring at first I wasn’t so much interested but I got instead to the first one due to his caring towards me ....I trusted him and fell in love with him but still it didn’t work Cox he isn’t so open to me seems like he has covers a lot of lies to me so I decide to step back not to hurt myself again ....while d second is just like a caring friend which I still don’t know where our relationship is heading cox he has a girlfriend and I see no reason for me to fall in love with him cox he got someone else... what I am disturbed with is how can I find a true love ....How do u know someone truly loves you... And all I believe in is if I cheated on anyone or betrayed anyone Allah will surely punish me and if I didn’t May Allah Reward me ........

When I was 13 I went to a boarding school. My parents thought it will be good to send me to school to learn English and proper manner in school. On my first year, the director was very friendly towards me, saying he knows my dad well thats why. I have my two sisters there with me. But one is a senior and never cares while the other is out for friends and fame. On my second year, the director started being touchy towards me. At first holding my hands and telling me its okay because he considers me a daughter. I believed him and allowed him hold my hands on different occasions. But then it became worse when he started calling me to his office telling my matron that I have a call, he would hug me and feel me telling me am a good girl. And then he will reward me. I thought it all normal since I had no one to tell me right from wrong. My sisters are busy with themselves and my parents concern was my result. After the midterm test we went home. My mother's first question was how is studies. And my father's words were let me see your results. My mother always tells my sisters right from wrong but still deems me too young. After the break, the director continued as soon as my legs entered the school. I let him feeling good. I liked the feeling of his hands roaming my body and his mouth sucking my tits. It felt wrong but still feels good so I let him and instead of pushing him, I pulled him closer to me making him touch me more than before. He started moving down from my mouth, to my breast and then down south. During another break my mother thought I am old enough to know all the grown ups stuff. So she told me its not good to let a man touch you and so on. At the time I was too obsessed to care and kept praying for the break to be over. I learnt the method of seduction by myself not knowing. At the time I thought I will have to get his attention to touch me again, so I did everything not knowing I am doing something else. It became part of me, when I walk I draw boys attention, when I look I've worn them over and when I smile, all the bad boys drools. So I thought it was normal for girls to attract boys attention. So it was easy making all the staff and students fall for me. But mostly the offer I got was to touch and have sex with me. As time goes by, I learned the truth and tried to restrain myself from touching and letting myself to be touched. I got expelled when I rejected the director at the age 16. Feeling scared I didn't tell anyone fearing that I will get beaten. My dad is very strict and my mom supports him all the way. We never have a mother-daughther experience and talk. Its just school. I avoided my parents making them think I love school when in reality I hate school but its better than staying with them, at home when not at school, I became addicted to porn. My mother believed a maid more than me, sometimes I wonder if they are my real parents or not. At home. All the offers I got from guys were to have sex. I had been fingered by many men even girls, but never had sex atleast. Any man that says he loves me will end up lusting over me. At first I thought thats how men are. But at the end realised that I make them do that. Some say I make them hard by my voice others by my looks some the way I walk. I want to have a good man for once in my life but its hard. Even if he is serious at the end he will try to touch me and I will hate him and myself, the cycle continues. I thought I wont get married but then he came. A very well-known and respected man, all say good things about him and he wants to marry me. He spends on me, but then as time goes by, not even two months into the relationship he started touching me. Sucking, kissing feeling and then bj came soon enough. So on instinct I started disliking him but then my parents announced him as my husband. He is double my age, and still thinks we are perfect, his daughter is older than me. All I want to do is die and rest. But then he wants me to change my attitude and habit, I should change for him and then he will marry me. I should always obey without a word and apologise when not at fault and then he will marry me. I dont want to get married because I dont think I can let any man order me and make me do things I dont want to all in the name of love. I dont know what love is and I am not even sure I am a virgin and I definitely don't want to get married. But my parents are forcing it on me. He told me clearly that he wants to marry a virgin not a second hand. Am confused as on what to do am just 19 and I dont want to be in a relationship where I can't change even I want to. I need a way out but all doors are closed. Please if anyone have something useful to say or advise apart from insults, please help me i need your help please ?

Aslm dafatan kowa lfy Allah yasa haka ameen dan Allah ko zaku fadamin sunan staka da English

Why re men so heartless, why date a lady and deceiving her if ur nt ready for marriage. Pls if ur nt ready dnt commit or show fake affection. Pls thanks

I know this questions is really odd, but i just want to know if what i observed is true, just like 2 weeks ago i started having a body odor i never smelt before and usually banda body odor. i became paranoid actually but then i started smelling it on other people. ni dai har yanzu i am confused. idan na fita public na hadu da mutane especially idan sunyi zufa se inji exactly irin smell it. i don't know if anyone has experienced it. ba a fi 2 weeks ba da nayi noticing. please i need your answers to make sure i am okay. A new body odor among people.

Salam my brother and sisters in Islam. I need you guys to help me with your prayers. There’s nothing I want more than to see myself in my husband’s house. I pray day and night for Allah to grant me my wish. All I want is to get married. Please help me pray so that my wish is granted

With the Increment of Fuel Pump Price and Electricity Tariff, it is directly proportional to increase in food stuffs, transport and other basic necessities, because they all depend on this two important factors(fuel and electricity). Is the government trying to frustrate us the more with the already perilous situation in Arewa?

I and my husband where friends I didn't know he used to have a crush on me back then until when he got angry and stopped talking to me we reconnected again then made his intentions known towards me and told me about his past which I also I did...we both agreed to stay with each other and started building our home together and then he started to cut off all his flings he had but there is this particular one who has refused to move on and our wedding pictures has even gone viral......she keeps sending my husband texts messages with different numbers because he blocked all her numbers that she is the one who loves him and I used jazz to hook him and all she keeps even messaging me until I blocked her number this kind of girl is desperate and can even do anything to have my mai gida , he doesn't hide things away from me .....he even told me we have to be strong in our prayers because alot of pple do not want our marriage to work...we both had a church wedding and an Islamic wedding and also a court marriage.....all we do is ignore her dis kinda of girl can arrange for me to be kidnapped or something to be done to me ...how can I tackle such a bipolar person .....

Assalam. Pls and pls my brothers and sisters, this issue of profile picture is VERY serious. Someone previously drew our attention on this matter, but haryanzu no improvement haba jama'a. I don't think it will cost anyone anything to quickly scroll down their gallery to upload a picture in my opinion. Nobody here on the platform i strongly believe, has anything to hide because we are all here for a serious matter so why not complete your profile with your picture? As suggested earlier i support that admin should find a way to make it compulsory maybe is the best way out saboda gaskia personally abun yana yimini ciwo as i look through profiles. I am sure that if picture weren't important it wouldnt have been part of it in the 1st place. This is not intended to offend anyone pls but the 2nd thing i want to draw our attention to is pending requests. It does not feel good to be left on pending for uncountable weeks...it's just like ignoring someone. REJECT or ACCEPT and be done with it. Don't keep someone's hope high and hanging hence, i urgue us all pls muji tsoron Allah and do what is right. No need to feel bad to decline a request if not interested is better than pending. Nagode, and may Allah help us all.

To my dear brothers and sisters for Allah’s sake if you are not ready to settle for marriage please stop wasting time and create hopes for people.Yanzu abu ya kai ga za ayi gaisuwa and fixing date daga baya sai su fasa just for unnecessary reasons Haba jama’a!

Please my brothers and sisters as well those pending requests pls if u r not interested pls decline it, Dan Allah ba dadi abar mutum pending dinnan, in baka/ki da interest pls don't leave it pending, pls in kasan ki san kin samu suitor pls indicate ko adan cikin description dinka ne or disable the account as simple as that, wlh abun da ciwo sae ka tura request sae abarka pending kawae haba mana. Pls mu gyara.

Assalamu Alaikum warahmatullah. I wish you all the very best in your life my fellow Muslim Brothers. There is something I observed since I joined match making plat form and it's something that really happens now in the society. I know everyone has its taste but this issue is something that you have to consider. The prophet (SAW) said when choosing spouse you can go for background, beauty, wealth, but the best one is to go for someone that is religious. But I noticed that most I did not say all but 85% of the brothers are looking for a girl that is slim and fair. Am writing on behalf of all dark and chubby ladies out there who are looking for a good spouse. Then what will happen to us we that we are not fair and we are not talk. This is the reason why many of the sisters nowadays used to bleach there skin so the will find spouse or attract our brothers. And that is a reason some of our sister that are fair and slim will say that the will not marry someone who is poor because the see that most men are looking for fair and slim. Please we have to be guided there are so many dark and short sisters that are pretty and have moral background that you will make a perfect home together out there. I hope I did not torment anyone with my words and I hope there will be a certain change. Remember beauty lies in the heart of beholder and remember beauty used to fade with time. And marriage is not something that will finish easily, it's a long life matter. Thank you for your time.

Assalam 'yan uwa how is sallah preparations moving?... Pls how is it possible not to receive any request from anyone for up to 3months? Could it be possible that no one likes what's on my profile? Or are they intimidated by it they are afraid to approach? (sorry to say that, is just me wondering). Could it be my age? I'm 30yrs of age am i old? Or maybe my tribe because most profiles indicate they are in need of hausa/fulani so what abt us other tribes? Pls i want to know, are all the brothers here taken? I have several declined and pending requests but i still dey wait my husband to arrive. I am a woman and i challenge us all to remember why we are here in the first place. If u set ur mind to love for Allah's sake then every thing else is secondary. Nagode for ur attention y'all. Salamu alaikum.

Even though restriction of movement is lifted but schools are closed and offices are only partially working. Ni gaskiya na gaji. kuma in a country like Nigeria we all know they are using it to do corruption. i saw in the news paper today that Lagos state government spends N1-million on each patient. Imagine. what do you guys think ??? please share your opnions

Salaam, don Allah atayini posting. Ina son in San Mesa wasu mazan in sunyi aure suke sake neman wasu matan a waje? Wani zaka ga mutun na da mata harda yara kuma yana neman wata awaje kuma bawai aurenta zaiyi ba. Ni I want to stick to only one mace. Ina tsoro kar nima in tsince kaina a irin halin nan.

I am a female in my mid twenties, pursuing my career and an entrepreneur. i actually want to achieve alot but the issue is most of the men that are interested in me, will want to put limits to what i can achieve. i want to have self freedom and pursue my career as an independent woman. lately i'm thinking i may not get married because i would rather choose my ambition. so what are the disadvantages of living such a life as a lady, please i want your opinions. Thanks

Am female 27 years old, divorced, with 2 kids, an entrepreneur, am seeking for a man from the age of 40 and above. Divorced, a widower, or even married. Or Even infertile ( a man who can't have a child), I want a God fearing Muslim with at least minimum of Islamic knowledge. Ma shaa Allah am cute. A man with halal means of income he must not be reach please.

Why is it that some people's profile page doesn't open amd shows error. And some messages received can't be read either

I am having a complain about does that will be filling out request without saying a word.Someone will send you a request or you send a request to someone after it has been accepted daga hlo Hy shikenan or something wslm shikenan,there will just be filling up ur request.If u r nt interested plsssss don't accept someone when u r nt ready plss