Anonymous
Dec 31, 07:20 PM
Is it my duty to cater for her needs before marriage?
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I'm just confused of recent, I feel like I'm already playing the role of a husband before we even get married . She wants me to attend to her financial needs , actually she has no one to help, not that she doesn't have anyone but she's not the type to beg .
If she asks for something and I try to remind her that I'm not yet her husband she'll tell me stuffs like what's the difference, if we are married what excuse am I going to bring ? I don't want to think she's being insensitive but I feel she's asking me too much of recent . This month she asked for anko money (10k), her neighbor needed help and she sought for my assistance (2k), I sent money to her (7k) , she got I'll and I paid for her treatment (9k) ,weekly data (1500),if sbe wants to go out I send her money for transport. This evening she's asking me for money for cream, perfume, shower gel, and other make up kits and I told her I don't have because I intend to put a boundary on it .
Not that I'm stingy or anything but I feel she should understand sometimes, I'm running my masters degree, paying for my siblings fee in higher institution, not to talk of personal and family projects . What should I do to curtail such behavior of incessant billing ? She loves me no doubt and she's not a gold digger that I know about her , she's just someone who likes being spoilt .
