We are engaged and i want to break up with him, advice please
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Anonymous Feb 3, 09:18 PM

We are engaged and i want to break up with him, advice please 1

Assalamu Alaikum good evening everyone don Allah ina neman shawara ne Munyi engage da wani ne sai na gane cewar na fishi addini and kuma background dinshi ba familyn da ake son ayi aure a irinshi bane kuma gashi da rowar tsiya nayi nayi ya fahimci bana sonshi yayi haquri ya nemi wata Allah ya hada kowa da rabonshi sai kuma na kasa bazan iya mishi wulaqanci ba saboda ba halina bane Amma na fara shawarar ko na saka a kirashi someone that he doesn't know or in sayi new sim in gaya mishi magana ko in saka wani namiji ya kirashi ya mishi magana na kasa Don Allah what's the best solution I want a religious husband for my kids
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Anonymous #1 Feb 3, 09:45 PM
Wa'alaikumus Salaam Have you tried discussing with your parents?
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Anonymous Feb 3, 10:26 PM

my dad is late my mum is insisting while everyone is against and if har brother din baban nawa yaje zaice a fasa
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Anonymous #2 Feb 3, 10:41 PM
don't live a Life that you will regret, because marriage isn't a part time living. is something har abada in Allah ya kadara. try to convince your mom., if she' didn't listening to you talk to people your mom will listen to them her relatives. so that they will convince her
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Anonymous #1 Feb 4, 06:14 AM

Allah ya ji ƙan shi da rahama. Ya kyautata makwancin sa. I understand you now. So it's best to let him withdraw in order for you not to have problems with Mom.
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Anonymous #1 Feb 4, 06:20 AM

Yeah that's it. Let her understand that you accepted him without knowing his negative side. Now that you know you don't want to go further with it. She'll probably contest if she so much desires you marry him. She might say you're bringing up excuses to avoid marrying him. But let her understand what's at stake, yours and your kids' future. If she still insists toh, I won't advise you to go against her wishes gaskiya. Sai dai ki dage da addu'a for the best
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Anonymous #1 Feb 4, 06:32 AM
But come to think of it ma, he doesn't even know you're not interested. Ba wulaƙanci bane to me gaskiya if you inform him of how you feel. I think it's better you let him know than to lead him on, making him think you have mutual feelings. If he is sn understanding person and wishes to live a happy life of marriage, he could back out and will appreciate that you told him. Maganar kin fi shi addini is something else. Dama ai uwa aka sani da tarbiyyar yara, uba is not always around. Unless rashin addinin da kike nufi is very extreme and probably close to zero. So I think you should try and let him on it as early as possible. If he still insists on marrying you, then talk to your Mom. If she also insists then submit yo the will of Allah. Anything wey concern parents (especially mothers) when it comes to conflicting decisions dey always fear me. An ce abun da babba ya hango, ko yaro ya hau saman mount Everest bazai hango ba. And I trust your Mom baza ta so abun da zai cutar da ke ba. As long as it doesn't go against Islamic rulings just close your eyes and accept it. But try to make her understand first. Allah ya tabbatar miki da alkhairi
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Anonymous #2 Feb 4, 06:46 AM

you have said it all, isn't about kinfi Shi adine, the question there did he have religion knowledge even little and did he follow teaching of islam, doing what is halal and leave what is haram. because we are not born to be equal but do be difference
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Anonymous #3 Feb 4, 01:56 PM
Wa alaikum Salam. Sister me annabi yace?? look for someone with DEEN and CHARACTER it was really emphasized.That’s what you need to know. Addini ya riga ya fadamiki is left for you to choose.Tarbiyya kuma ta mutum biyu ce don’t let anybody tell you otherwise. You marry someone as you see them not to change them.During the courtship you were needed to look into this kinayi kina istikhara bawai sai da abu yayi nisa ba. Although it is not too late kifito mishi a mutum and tell him ga reasons your values don’t align speak up this is your life. And since your family are involved you tell your male representative as well. Nan gaba always do istikhara and supplicate on someone who is good for you, your iman and your future. Ana aure ne with someone who makes you a better muslim and the pathway of jannah easier.
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Anonymous #4 Feb 4, 03:50 PM
can you put everything in English please 🥺
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