Hy guys please I hope someone will understand me I lost my dad last year and things have been though all those uncles and aunties has vanished into a thin air even those I thought loved nd really care no one is willing to help unless I have something to offer why does it really have to be like this. I'm not willing to get rid of my pride as a lady for anything all I need is help from a kind hearted person. some one should please come to my aid i'm stuck and really need a way out I don't want to make any wrong decision. No insults please

Assalamu alaikum AMM dan Allah a tambayamin wai yaushene yakamata mutum yasan genotype dinsa, kuma yaushene yakamata aje ayi gwaji a asibi na HIV, Genotype, drug etc kafin soyayya tayi nisane ko kuma sai bayan an saka rana ?

LeT me start from the beginning years ago I was in secondary school SS3 you know most of the people when they reached SS3 class they will start acting as big boys so me ba yabon Kai bah I was so gentle ba ruwana da kowa then a young,Loving and caring lady came into my life, my life became more and more sweet as in I was in SS3 Amma in in deeply in love you know whe something is new to you how you will feeling it. alright let's come to the mistake I did by then she care about her isma'il everything her isma'il, even her brothers and sisters know about me much more as every day she is saying my name we became more closed Together Alhamdulillah you know ban bari shedan ya shiga tsakaninmu bah as everyday I praying and doing my azkar, every this young and caring lady will call me like I'm the girlfriend she's the boyfriend, she doesn't care about anything people saying about us, insha Allah I will not forget as she came to our house only to see me and I was not around a lokacin she met my sister tho she knew her Ashe lokacin tafiya zatayi and the journey will take her for like up to 2 to 3 months before she came back to our state tho we are from the same state lokacin anyi Hutu ne a sec school dinmu taje holiday ne a wurin yayar ta she was not around, on my birthday she sent her frnd instead to give me the gift she already packed since before she left as in "wance on his birthday" pls help me give it to me tho wayar ta lalace Amma she still used her anty's phone to call me "to cut the story " come to the last part and worst of my life that I've seen till today just like that I started showing attitude to this lady I don't know what's gotten into my life by then I begin to started losing her we will be chatting randomly nd not caring for each other the worst thing I did to dis young lady is that haka kawai na rabuda ita ba fada ba komai and after THAT ever since I didn't have courage to fall in love again though I try but in only last for 3 months 10 days so my brother idan Allah ya baka mace Mai sonka don't show her attitude or ka walakanta ta baa wulakanta mace xaka zo kayi Dana sani wlhy. may Allah (S.W.T) see us through may he also sustain and bless our life with good partners Amin. Allah yasa wannan ya zamo darasi ga yan uwana Maza thank you and pls DONT INSULT ME NAGODE.

Assalamualaikum...... please I need an advice on this issue please. I met a guy in my school last semester and we became friends. We talk on phone mostly throughout the Asuu strike. when we resumed he told me everything about him and how he is willing to take it to the next level. what I noticed about him is that he is into taking weeds and when I confronted him he confessed about but he has not been taken it since when we met. Now the question is should I accept his love or should I just tell him the truth that I can't be with someone who is into drugs? please I need advice on it

Aslm plx meya sah maxa da yawa suke bawa mata wahala the moment suka ganeh kana mugun son su, it make me feel duk maza haka suke bansan dadin so bah cox at the end ni nake shan wahala ina saurin fara son mutum and when i say i love you i mean it ina kaunar mutum ne har zuciya ta kuma ta tsakani da Allah, and bana double dating ina bawa mutum all attention dina time,care and respect but at the end ninake shan wahala amma one thing da nake dashi shine idan na fara ganin changes a gunka ka fara mun acting like autan maza then xan kyale ka no matter how yanda nake son mutum. duk da ina shan wahala sosae ignoring wanda nake so kuma fitar da abin a zuciya ta is not easy at all but da addu’a nake samun saukin komai. bana iya jure wulakanci wallahi duk irin son da nake mah i can’t force you to care about me, loyal and i can’t force you to be the person i need you to be cox sometimes the person you want most is the person you are best without I know i can’t get the relationship i need from someone who’s not ready to give it to me . All i need wlh is true love, care,respect and time but can’t find someone whom loves me for the sake of Allah but Alhamdulillah duk irin situation dinda nake ciki bana mantawa da ubangiji da kuma addu’a kuma ina samun relief sosae wallahi and abinda nasa a raina a kullum shine soyayya da aure lokaci ne idan lokacin ka yayi xaka yi and maybe jinkirin alkhairi neh cox ko yaushe xabin Allah muke nema amma sometimes I’m feeling like na hakura da all this soyayya gaba daya cox ina shan wahala though the love teaches us lesson and make us stronger

Slm yan aji.......I don't know why but I found this funny.....my boyfriend ask me to called him yesterday so I called he didn't pick and I decide to drop 30misscall for him😂😂to yanzun yana fishi dani bayan shi yace na kira.....so yanzun in lallabashi in bashi hkr ko in kyale sa ya sauko da kanshi bcoz ni daga karshe haushi ya bani bcoz after all the miss call he decide not to call me back yazo online jiya sai jaraba yake min abun har ya bata min rai....yanzun what's your advice guys

I think there are still people out there who will settle for simplicity during a wedding, but the main problem arises when other people start throwing shades and their unnecessary opinions which wouldn't make the couple life any better or pay their bills instead. I'm writing this to remind us all that every person has their life to live. and they shouldn't let their lives revolves around people's judgement. because people will always have a thing or two to say.

Hello everyone,dan allah ina son a bani shawara plsss. Ina da saurayi for almost 3 years amman kuma a shekarun nan da muka dauka sau 2 ya taba xuwa gurina har nayi complain na gaji. kullum sai dai ayi waya kuma garin mu daya dashi ballantana yace bama kusa da juna. Amman bai taba chanja min bah. Kuma again wani abu 3 year muna dating amman ko sisi basu taba hada ni dashi bah hasali ma birthday din shi da yaxo last year na masa gift na almost 20k amman shi da birthday dina yaxo sai kashe wayan sa yy ranar sai daga baya ya kira ni wai bashi da lpy kuma danasa aka min bincike aka ce min lapiyan shi kalau,amman ban nuna masa nasan karya yake bah, na biye masa har yace min ya warke, Amman koh wishes na 1 line dai bai min bah har yaw baice min komai bah, Yayi banxa da maganar . Shine kullum idan na tuna abinan yana bata min rai nake gani kamar ba sona yake bah yana tare dani ne a second option enshi. Kuma yanxu iyaye na sunce na fito da mijin aure kuma shi kadai nake da kuma ina tunani kamar wannan bah mijin da mutum xai aura bane Dan allah ku bani shawara na fito dashi koh na nemi wani saurayi dan naga kamar ba sona yake bah

Assalam malama good evening pls help me post dis, Dan Allah Maza aji tsoron Allah adaina yaudara pls in kasan Baka shirya aure ba kar kayi Wasa da zuciyan mutum,malama ina dating boifrnd dina for over 4yrs yasan Bana Kula kowa sai Shi yanzu ance infadamasa yafito wallahi tunda namasa maganan ko picking call dina yadaina sai text ya turomin wai he is not financially stable da zai iya aure yanzu Malama abun it hurts da I was thinking of ko Banda kyau ne da zai iya aurena and I really want to get married Pls hide my ID

assalamu alaykum pls I need an advice on how to approach my crush .I have been crushing on him for 2yrs now and I can't tell him I love him am sacred he might reject me .pls advice me on how to tell him

I have come here to write on a lot of striking issues that has lots of comments cos I know that thing that is disturbing every one.. please don't come for me, all I try to do is neutral and educate great minds. it may be long just have patience and read with an open educated and civilized mind I know no one taught us about sexuality. in fact in the northern homes to mention sex... hahahahah is a taboo. in aka ji ka ce sex se ka fada a Ina kaji. so most people tend to find out about things in their own way. wallahi brothers and sisters all am going to say is I am writing not from an ignorant point of view but from real education and research basis, I did my research and tourough findings for 10 years leading me to talk to high end world class scholars on the course of my research. in Islam the only way mentioned where u can satisfy your sexual desire is through marriage no any other way.. I'll do a post on (MASTURBATION) later.... this is a rule in Islam and some other religions.. it is called a compulsory rule because you have no option that to follow that doesn't mean other ways does not exists. but they want to test your patients to see if you can abide by the rule no matter how hard it is so u can earn jannah the bitter TRUTH no one wants to hear is then comes SEXUAL BEHAVIOUR where no one understands except you.. feeling attracted to same gender or both gender or attracted to any kind of person or attracted to any intelligent person regardless of gender, some even attracted to Animals. some are healthy but don't even have any atraction...... these are all human biology, different people have different feelings and their feeling is valid, but of course the actions are not valid...... I came across a world class Imam who says he is attracted to same gender, (I won't mention his name, do your research) I had a conversation with him and it was productive. one thing is the moment we don't feel some kind of way, we tend to see problem in anyorder thing. feeling any kind of way sexually is valid, but the action is not. Regardless of what people think or say nature is nature.. most people are living in bondage because they are afraid what people will say.... now let me CRACK it for you guys..... your wife may be attracted to ladies..... your husbands may be attracted to guys..... I have come across many married people that are attracted to their gender with out their partner knowing.. do you think because you are attracted to same gender then you can not have sex with the opposite........ ATRACTION IS DIFFFERENT FROM SEX. know that and know peace, what you feel sexually does not in any way defines you... people have weird feelings. I have educated people under this light and now they are living happily just knowing they are no less of a people. do you think the punishment for ZINA is different from same sex ZINA... then you may be joking... you can naturally be attracted to anything but the only differce is how far you have gone in restraining... remember " wanda ya fi wani shine wanda ya fi wani storing Allah" SO no matter how you feel just know that you are valid... for those interested in talking further I can provide you with a means to talk to me...... and those that wants rant under the comment section please do in a knowledgeable way for learning..... what do you think about instead of talking sh*t about people that have different kind of sexual behaviour, I think it's better if we tell them you are valid but don't go astray stay on the lane... I come in peace ✌🏽

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Good morning everyone. I saw a post on lesbianism earlier. Wallahi I have never mentioned this to anyone before, this is the first time and I just want to create awareness, and I don't know if there are people like me. I have found myself attracted to girls for more than 10yrs now. I even dream of having sex with girls, but I have never acted on it because i know it's a serious sin and gaskiya Ina tsoron Allah. Even tho I have never acted on it, I feel like I'm still commiting a sin by just imagining it. i have heard people saying that people are not born that way, wai iskanci ne kawai, I never asked for this, I just happened to find myself in this situation and I always pray about it. I wish I could stop all these dreams and imaginations but unfortunately, I think it's just part of who I am. The good part of it is I'm in a relationship with a great guy, and will be getting married by next year insha Allahu.if you have any addu'a or advice that'll help me, please share with me under the comment section. I pray that Allah continues to guide us to the right part.

Dan Allah Dan Annabi Food vendors ku taimaka ku rage kudin classes inku alot of us wish to join but the prices is to high for us to pay ko na 1week 10k nei ku taimaka du dinga yi ko dan promo nei na 2 days a taimaka mana

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Assalamu alaikum jama'ar Arewaup forum. Barkan mu da war haka. Dan Allah idan akwai wanda ya san ko nawa ake yin irin video invitation din nan da ake yi na aure haka. Wata ce take so ayi mata sai ta tambaye ni, ni kuma ba san ko nawa ake yi ba shine nace bari na taho nan na tambaya ko kila a samu wanda ya sani. Nagode.

Assalamu Alaikum hope every one is doing good.. pls and pls i need some one to understand me, Kowa da kalar jarabawar da Allah yake masa ko? to ni injin tawa a bangaren so take🥺 ina da saurin son mutum musamman idan me kula ne like caring person i had my first love when i was 16-17 munyi soyayya dashi kaman ba gobe soyayya fa wadda ake kira soyayya wadda in bamuji muryan juna ba arana daya abun bazai misaltu ba and hes ready to settle at that time and you guys know that soyayyar gsky ai aure ba, to yamin maganar aure at that time gsky naji tsoro thinking that iyayena bazasu yimin Aure 16-17 ba haka kawai nake tunani karshe dai in takaita labarin ina son na karanci harkan lafiya and shi kuma baya so haka na hakura. in shot ya zo yai Auren sa badan baya sona ba sai dan yaga am not ready nai aure alokacin, nagama cuta da rashin lafiyar da zan bawanda yasani agdan mu🥺 na tausayawa kaina rabuwa da wanda kke so akwai tsananin ciwo bana wasa ba nayi yaki da abun nayi addua sallahn dare Allah ya yaye min sonshi amd Alhamdulillah ya yaye min. sai kuma me again bayan yan shekara daya hka da watanni na fada wata soyayyar amma me da saa na🥺 idan ma ya girmeni shekara daya ne yadda ake min komai agda haka ake masa tsakani da Allag A dangin mu bazaa taba yarda na Aure shi ba saboda am just 20 now ni macece lokacin da ya shirya aure kila ni kuma lokacin ya kuremin ba kuma lallai shi a gdan su ayadda ya aure ni ba i love him far beyound imagination and he loves me too saboda son da yake min wallahi har kamar tsoro tsoro na yake ji maman shi zata iya cewa yayi abu beyi ba amma ina fada kaman yankan wuka yayi soyayya fa muke ta bugawa a jarida...toh shima yanzu ya nutsu ya gane nima kuma nasani Amman tsoron rabuwa da juna muke nayi addua shine kadai abunda yake ceto na komeye Arayuwa no matter what bana gangancin nan na sake da addua da wasa da sallah, Allah ya fara yaye min sonshi Amman shi kuma fa🥺????.and AGAIN kuma ni gsky ina tsoron fdawa wata soyayyar ina da saurin fadawa so kuma in inason mutum Allah ne shaida na da zuciya daya nake sonshi ni kawai shi nake so koda mutum zai tamin abu ina shanye wa wlh kamar mayya kamar mara zuciya hka nake Amma duk randa nai zuciya na bar shi ,barin da matacce ykewa duniya hka nake dan kar rubutun yai yawa buh i have alot to say dan Allah some one should help me dan Allah ni banida yawan kawaye.

Akwai wani post da na gani a arewaup batun wata lesbian anan. Gaskia I relate to her. Abun yan na ci min rai. I don't know who to talk to about it. Iyayena zasu iya disowning nawa ko ma worse su aurar dani zuwa ga kamar old man or something, which is my worst fear. Banason anything daze hada ni da maza. Poster dan Allah ki yimin magana zan so Muyi chatting. No homophobia in the comments please.

I'm what majority will describe as slim. So a lot of guys might find my taste or preference(s) in a lady rather odd or weird, and would wonder how my taste is such, because majority of guys prefer the slim to average body type ladies to chubby plumpy type ones. I think majority of chubby or plumpy ladies have more of the well-rounded front and back lady figure than slim to average ladies, although there are slim to average ladies that are buxom and curvaceous. If a lady is slim and still buxom and curvaceous, then fair enough I can opt for her. But if a lady is as strikingly beautiful in the face as Barbie or Rapunzel or Jasmine or any of the other Disney princesses(all of them are slim), she's a 10/10 in facial beauty, she's so beautiful like the "son kowa qin wanda ya rasa" type of lady, but she hasn't got the well-rounded front and back lady figure, especially especially the front figure, if she's not curvaceous or buxom, then wallah I don't consider her my wife material. That's just me. An averagely beautiful looking lady in the face that is chubby, plumpy but curvaceous, voluptuous and buxom is my "son kowa qin wanda ya rasa" or rather, "so na qin wanda baya son irin ta". Although I can and will opt for a slim to average body type one that's curvaceous and voluptuous. May Allah grant my wish. Allah ka azurta ni da irin daya daga cikin su. PS: What say you house people about this complicated preference of mine? ....Of course hali and tarbiyya and addini are the most important things to look for. Yes I know looks isn't, aren't the most important thing(s) to look for. But you know, these most important things are subjective. Meaning every one has got their respective levels of how much they consider okay for hali, tarbiyya and especially addini. We men are visual creatures. That's why the first thing that attracts us to a mate are the visuals. We subsequently judge based on our respective individual levels if the potential mate's hali, tarbiyya and addini are okay, if they suffice for us. And then subsequently again, we get to enjoy the looks of course while they last, and we finally get back to zaman mutunci and amana and jin qan juna and soyayya, because the beautiful looks that attracted you to them in the first place have faded due to saaboo and/or shekaru or girma. Wallaahu ta'aalaa a'lam.

Shi takeso Amma bai shirya Aure ba Bata sonsa Amma ya shirya Aure Menene mafita ko shawara?😥😓😞