my struggle with Homosexual thoughts
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Anonymous Dec 6, 06:06 AM

my struggle with Homosexual thoughts 1

Good morning everyone. I saw a post on lesbianism earlier. Wallahi I have never mentioned this to anyone before, this is the first time and I just want to create awareness, and I don't know if there are people like me. I have found myself attracted to girls for more than 10yrs now. I even dream of having sex with girls, but I have never acted on it because i know it's a serious sin and gaskiya Ina tsoron Allah. Even tho I have never acted on it, I feel like I'm still commiting a sin by just imagining it. i have heard people saying that people are not born that way, wai iskanci ne kawai, I never asked for this, I just happened to find myself in this situation and I always pray about it. I wish I could stop all these dreams and imaginations but unfortunately, I think it's just part of who I am. The good part of it is I'm in a relationship with a great guy, and will be getting married by next year insha Allahu.if you have any addu'a or advice that'll help me, please share with me under the comment section. I pray that Allah continues to guide us to the right part.
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Sadeeqsak Dec 6, 06:25 AM
Ameen summa Ameen kina “Azu billahi minasshaitanirrajim” da yawan istigfar. Sannan in kina kallon Porns to kiji tsoran Allah ki daina yawanci daga nan ne.
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Anonymous #2 Dec 6, 07:53 AM
wow 😯 .. sorry to ask I think the rate at which some of northern sisters arw speaking out about this lesbian stuffs is alarming cox wtf ? please what’s the causes of this, what’s d cause pls ?? cox it’s very rare among other tribes to hear them say anything related to lesbianism, yes I know some indulged in d act, but mostly for money sake not cox it’s really in them.. but it seems like my sister their is real not for the money cox mostly d ladies are from well to do family (they lack nothing mostly) hmm may Allah forgive our shortcomings. Amin
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Haidar Ali Dec 6, 08:39 AM
Allah has different ways of testing each and everyone of us. Some are born physically challenged, some were born healthy and become disabled or sick throughout their lives, some are born different in the sense that they are neither male nor female or are both. All these are tests. Being attracted to the females could be how you have been programmed naturally or it could be as a result of some environmental or kind of things you're exposed to Wallahu a'alam. As for solution to your situation, if you can, you should be observing night prayers (qiyamul-layl or tahajjud). I believe it will greatly help. Lots of istighfar too is a great remedy to a whole bunch of things. I pray Allah SWT ease your affairs and ours too. Ameen.
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Anonymous Dec 6, 09:17 AM
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Wow, I never knew there were ladies like me. I honestly feel a lot better now hearing from you. Thank you so much, may Allah always guide us
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Taqiyyah Dec 6, 11:16 AM

there are a lot than you think actually, we just can never come out. despite the fact that we're struggling, people think it's a choice, it's not. it's never about choices, coz I knew I liked girls ever since I was 7, I just didn't know it at that time until I grew up. it's hard, it's really hard, and I hope people will one day understand.
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Anonymous #1 Dec 6, 12:34 PM

Subhanallah I am sorry to hear, as much as we believe it’s not our fault we most suppress our thoughts and stay away from it, no one is going to understand you as it’s not natural you fall to be in less than 1 percent. May Allah guide us and may he not make intrusive thoughts win over us. Jazakallah khair sister
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Nasssss9 Dec 6, 10:10 PM
Im glad u are getting married, u will forget about all those thoughts with time insha Allah, Allah ya yaye miki yar uwa
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Marmee Dec 10, 09:21 PM
1st of all pls try not to be looking at that which is attracting you on ladies. Do alot to zikr da istigfar. ki na yin kiyamul layl purposely for that reason. whenever you have such feelings or thoughts pls remember that Death is certain but you don't know when, where and how it will pick you. Akwai kwanciyar kabari. what will be the outcome in rai ya fita in the process or shortly after?in shaa Allah this will help you get rid of wannan mugun tunanin and lastly kina gode wa Allah da Ya sa baki taba aikatawa ba.Allah Ya tsare mana imanin mu, Amin.
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Abu Jaafar Dec 11, 03:16 PM
You should move closer to Allah with AZKAR, QIRAATUL QURAN AND NAWAFIL PRAYERS. By moving closer to Allah, all these kinds of taughts will leave you. We are all humans, we make different kinds of taughts but Allah in his infinite mercy has forgiven is such, he only punish is for our actions not taughts, so move closer to Allah and be free
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Habiba B yusuf Dec 19, 04:31 PM
we have d same thought but mine immediately I start imagining I woke up
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