pray about it as much as you think about it 12years is not a joke your Aure is soon, we’re all hoping for a marriage that will last forever. I honestly feel you should talk to him about all this things and of hid not will to change his ways maybe then you should get marrying him a second thought but PRAY!!!!!!!!! Do your salatul Istikharah and let leave it to the Almighty Allah. Salatul Istikhara Allaahumma ‘innee ‘astakheeruka bi’ilmika, wa ‘astaqdiruka biqudratika, wa ‘as’aluka min fadhtikal-‘Adheemi, fa’innaka taqdiru wa laa ‘aqdiru, wa ta’lamu, wa laa ‘a’lamu, wa ‘Anta ‘Allaamul-Ghuyoobi, Allaahumma ‘in kunta ta’lamu ‘anna haathal-‘amra-[then mention the thing to be decided] Khayrun lee fee deenee wa ma’aashee wa ‘aaqibati ‘amree – [or say] ‘Aajilihi wa ‘aajilihi – Faqdurhu lee wa yassirhu lee thumma baarik lee feehi, wa ‘in kunta ta’lamu ‘anna haathal-‘amra sharrun lee fee deenee wa ma’aashee wa ‘aaqibati ‘amree – [or say] ‘Aajilihi wa ‘aajilihi – Fasrifhu ‘annee wasrifnee ‘anhu waqdur liyal-khayra haythu kaana thumma ‘ardhinee bihi Duas for Istikhara in English I seek the guidance of Your Wisdom and the assistance of Your Omnipotence, and I beg You for Your Magnificent Grace, O Allah. You are unquestionably capable, but I am not. You know what I don’t know, and You are the Knower. If You know that this issue [then state the subject to be resolved] is beneficial for me in my religion and my life, and for my welfare in the life to come – [or say: in this life and the hereafter] – then decree it for me, make it simple for me, and bless me in it. And if You are aware that this subject is detrimental to my faith, my life, and my future well-being, – [or, in this life and the next] – then separate it from me, and separate me from it, and ordain for me whatsoever is good, wherever it may be, and enable me to be satisfied with it. Whoever seeks the Creator’s guidance will not be disappointed, and who seeks the opinion of believers will be secure in his judgments.

meanwhile he could be working with a secret organization you not aware of maybe he’s an undercover officer whose movements need to be discreet you might not know so be positive about it but I believe no matter how busy he’s he just Atleast give you 20 mins out of his busy 24hrs or even a min to call n tell u he’ll be busy..attention n communication are part of my love language gaskiya

create a time ki zauna kuyi mgna dashi sosae , but don't let him go! 12 yrs b wasa bane

to be honest with you, in d first instance the 12yrs you took together is too much, nd u had enough time to know who he is. secondly ko kunyi aure zargi zeyi yawa why will he bugg your line to be listening to all your conversation, everyone has his own privacy, thirdly if he really loves you he will hv shown by gving u enough time nd hvn concern over you for waiting for him over good 12 years. lastly pray for the best from the creature

Sister. Run 💃🏃🏽‍♀️ because it won’t get better after the Marriage.

If this is the behavior for the whole marriage in the future then it's not worth the price of 12 years. She should leave him while she still can.

pls be selfish sometimes and let ur happiness be ur first priority, if you're not happy with the whole situation happening sister please back out and cry now than cry later in the future for a life time,Allah ya mana zabin alkhairi fid-dunya wal akhirah. Ameen.

better for her to run now than cry later...i have been in this kind of relationship 10years...believe me bazai canjaba...Allah ya musanya mata da mafi alkhairi

Ameeen I thought may b when they sit down nd talk may b abun ya daedaeta

irinsu daban suke wlh...they were just bitter by nature and trying to change them will only hurt her....12yrs of relationship and still bata iya changer shiba ba love bane,it’s just an obsession. in ta zauna a karshe sanda zai tashi yin aurenshi kuma he will just find a silly excuse ya rabu da ita da ba yanda zatayi or in ta aureshi there will never be trust a tsakaninsu cox daman can bai yarda da itaba

dear poster I’m also facing the same issue with my Boyfriend dukda dai shi gaskiya he is very caring especially when im sick and always want me to eat on time but matter of kira Kaida kai bayayi even when I call him sai yaga dama yake dauka if I want to get he’s attention saidai namishi text banda Lfy that’s when zakiga ya rikice that’s why sometimes I am really confused about him sosai Allah dai yashige mana gaba

Ameen ya hayyu ya qayyum abubuwan sai a hnkl da Addu'a kawai

Poster ya kike? kiyita addu'a.... i came to realise idan mutum na abu tsakani da Allah baka tabewa.. + addu'a...