The Message Chapter #1: Why do most marriages fail?

Assalamu alaikum! 👋 lately on social media you would notice high rate of divorce mostly on norther part of Nigeria and most genders, (both male & female) stupidly (with all due respect 😊) blame each other, insult each other, and disrespect each other, and talk about solution that dose not reflect on themselves... even though most of us know that this is part of signs of the end days ☀️ but we have let our guards down so low to the extent that our Islamic knowledge is subconsciously fading and hardly reflects in our daily lives. so why is this happening???? well, there are various factors but the most terrible ones are our: 1- our ego 2- our stupidity 3- our environment 4- being disrespect from this point, I am going to use this platform to talk to my comrades (males AKA guys AKA men AKA boys) what ever you want to call it... I, personally blame men for causing most divorces (not all) because the act of divorce can only be executed by a man. as a man, we should be able to protect ourselves from allowing a female's natural instincts from leading displeasing Allah SWT both in action and in words. we should almost not react to all misbehaviors caused by a lady... that's their nature, the are created to behave in an unstable way. Abu'Huraira R.A clearly stated it in one of his Hadith that a female is like a rib born and can never be straighten even when you try otherwise it will break. another Hadith I can remember who narrated it: that the Prophet of Allah PBUH told one of his companions (whose wife was late) to marry a lady. He did and spent years with her treating her well with love and respect, when she passed away, it was revealed that he never loved her nor has feelings for her but yet that dose not stop him from treating her well. and all her thought was that he loved her so much. Guys what exactly am I saying here? you should marry someone you don't love? no not at all, love is part of the Islamic conditions to marry a lady but not the most important aspect nor is it what holds marriage together. so what exactly I am saying here if love is not the key to ever lasting marriage? just hold on a bit, I will soon tell you. another point, that is noteworthy, we, the men, we need to know that find a lady that will love you for sake of Allah is a privilege given only by SWT and not everyone man has or is destined to receive such privilege, but you could if you pray for it sincerely... Then what is the solution to this? what exactly I am holding from you my guys? The answer will be on chapter #2 of this eye opening secret for me I n which insha Allah I will post soon... believe me guys, what I'm about to tell you on the next chapter will totally change the way you think about marriage, I promise 😊 meanwhile, let's have an open discussion on the comment section to prepare ourselves in the best form before meeting our Creator. with heart full of love and respect for the Muslim brothers and sisters on this platform: Eid Mubaraq, Takabballalhu minna wa'minkum 😊 bissalam. @atta et ul