Jun 6, 02:35 PM

Am i the only one who is scared of getting married?

I'm an emotionally complex person, I've never had a serious relationship until I finished higher institution. Girls do ask me out right from secondary school down to higher institution but I've noticed once such occurs, i lose interest in them.... I might be crushing on you but once you make the first move, i withdraw. At some point, i felt i was cursed... Till i met two ladies. I love both of them and I'm not a fan of polygamy but if i was given a choice between them i wouldn't be able to choose. The first one, we connect on okay level, she loves me so much and gives me her time.... This has me drawn to her... I had to leave due to her anger issues, I can't even express myself for fear of getting into a quarrel. The second person, she's everything i could ever wanted, we connect well, we love each other but.... She's always busy as she's a nurse. I met her parents and talks about marriage were on ground.... At first i tried to tolerate her work load, but as time went on i wasn't happy, we would go for weeks without talking on the phone, we were having a conversation one time and she asked me to promise to never ask her to choose between her marriage and her work... Because she wouldn't be able to choose. I had to withdraw... It was very painful because i still love her but i had to do it for our own good. She hates me now but i tell myself it's better than for her to hate me when we are married... I don't want to be that husband who squashes his wife's dream. Ever since then i lost interest, i find dating stressful, whenever i meet any lady and we start to talk, there's this feeling that comes to my mind that says this lady doesn't love you she's just desperate to get married. And i believe it to be true. Most of the ladies i meet don't care if I'm a good person or not. Once we talk and they know I'm single and working. The next conversation is come and meet my father. There's this lady i met, we've been talking for 3 days only and the next question i received was when are you coming to greet my parents. I was shocked. You don't know me, what if I'm a woman beater? Etc... Sometimes... I berate myself for pushing all these people away, I'd like to think maybe I'm being too picky or maybe my intentions are right? What are your frank assessment of me?

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Jun 6, 07:56 PM
There is nothing wrong with you. Is it good to have a teste on the type woman you want to live with in the future. I dont blame you living nurse you did the right thing, the pain of living her is temporary. is good to feel the pain than regret in the future time. nowadays most woman are eger to get marry as soon guy approach them and they notice he has a job doing the next thing they will start talking about marriage. all I can say try to give other people chance the right partner will come
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