I have a problem that I've been battling with for the past ten Years,I am addicted to masturbation, i don't know how to Stop it, All my efforts to get rid of this bad Habit went down the drainI got married few months ago, immediately after s** with my Husband I will hide and perform the act again, the problem is eating me up. Please I need your help and advise me

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How can we tackle the issue of Child Abuse in Northern Nigeria. Let's discuss

my girlfriend cheated on me after 3 yrs of relationship I am heartbroken and can't trust any girl again. Kuma all because the guy is from abroad and is rich. dama haka Mata suke? abin duniya ya dame su ba mutum ba. I am thinking if I continue like this (no girl friend) and don't get married what will happen? Good or bad please say your opinions

I have finished exams and would go home in 3 days, my boyfriend said I should come and spend 1 day with him soboda idan na tafi baza mu sake haduwa ba sai next semester. shine nake neman shawara tunda boyfriend dina ne Kuma zamuyi aure after graduation zan iya zuwa ko kuma ya kuke gani?

i just feel like getting this off my chest, jiya na zo zan hau machine ban san meya faru ba kawai se dai naji wando na ya yage. kuma in public i was so embarrassed kuma yagewan sosai. A haka na koma Gida na fasa zuwa inda zan je to change. i know we all have these moments in life so share yours too.

ZINA A TSAKANIN 'YAN UWA MUHARRAMAI ---------------------------------------------------------------------- ---------------------------------------------------------------------- KU DAURE KU KARANTA HAR ƘARSHE. Binchike Na Musamman Akan Yadda Dangin Miji Ko Dangin Mata Suke Lalata da Yayan Yanuwansu..... Aunty Ummancy Shin Iyaye! Ko kunsan Akasarin Kananan Yara 'Yan Uwansu Na jini ne Ke Soma Lalata Dasu? Wannan bincike ne na Musamman da yake bukatar Karatun ta Natsu domin daukar matakan da suka dace waken shawo kan wannan Matsalar da take neman zama ruwan Dare a Tsakanin Al-umma. Al-amarin yanada ban tsoro, akwai takaici a cikinsa Cin Amana shi ne abunda wannan binciken ya gano dangane da yadda 'yan uwa na jini ne suka fi yawaita bata yara mata da aka aminta dasu aka saki jiki da su. Daga watan Janairun na Shekarar data gabata zuwa watan Janairu sabuwar shekarar nan ta Dubu Biyu da Sha Tara 2019, Wani Mutum da matarsa sunyi aikin baiwa samari da 'yan mata Shawarwari wanda yawansu a cikin littafin su na adana bayanan sirri na irin wadannan mutanen suka kai Dubu Goma sha Biyar da Dari Uku da Goma sha Daya. (15,311). A cikin wannan jimmilar Dubu Takwas da Hamsin mata ne, Dubu Biyar da Dari Bakwai 'yan mata ne wadanda basu haura shekaru Ashirin da Biyar 25 ba. A cikinsu Dubu Hudu da Dari Biyu da Hamsin sun taba zina, Sannan Dubu Uku da Dari Shidda 'yan uwansu na jini ne sune suka Fara yin Lalata dasu. Wannan yasa muka yanke shawarar fitowa da wannan binciken namu domin kowa ya gani musamman iyaye domin nazari da kuma daukan mataki na kiyaye afkuwar ire iren wannan lamarin. Babu shakka Addini da Al-ada sun baiwa 'yan uwa damar kusantar 'yan uwansu koda kuwa mata da maza ne, Da wannan ne shima Shedan yayi Alkawarin sai yayi amfani da wannan damar domin ganin ya cusa son zuciya a tsakanin muharramai domin cutar dasu. Akasarin wadannan 'yan matan basu wuce shekaru 10, zuwa 13 ba a lokacin da akai masu wannan Mummunan Aikin ba " Wata daga cikin Yaran da akaba Shawara ta Bayyana yadda ta tsinchi kanta a cikin wannan Mummunan Lamarin tace: Bani mantawa ni dai kanin mahaifiyata ne ya soma lalata dani, tun ban yi wayau ba yake haba-haba dani har lokacin da na soma wayau. Kamar yadda kika ganni inada girman jiki domin wasu idan na fadamusu shekaruna basa yarda saboda yanayin jikina, Nayi saurin fito da Nonuwa tun kamin na soma Al-ada. "Akwai wata Rana ne da shi kawuna ya zo Gidanmu a lokacin kuwa babu kowa a Gidan sai ni kadai, Kuma daman can ya sha yi mani wasannin banza yana taba mani nonuwa tun ma bai kai haka ba, A wannan ranar ne dai ya samu yayi Lalata dani, A gaskiya ba wai ya tilastani bane, domin tunda na soma wayau na gane yana sha'awata duk da nasan kanin mahaifiyata ne, yakan mani wasannin da ni kaina inaso idan muka faki idanuwan mutane. Kuma daga wannan ranar na soma sanin Da namiji a dalilinsa". Binciken namu ya nuna cewa cikin wadannan 'yan matan da 'yan uwansu na jini suka soma lalata dasu, kannen iyayensu mata sunfi yawa. Domin kashi 70 cikinsu kawunansu ne suka Fara Kauda/keta budurcinsu, Wanda masu karatu zasu fi tunanin 'yan uwansu na 'Dan wa da Dan kani ne zasu fi aikata hakan, amma ina wannan sune ma suka zo kashi na uku baya ga mazan iyayensu mata. Sai 'ya'yan yayye ko kanne a na uku da kannen mahaifa sai kadan daga wadanda iyayensu da suka haifesu ne suka soma yin Lalata dasu. Wannan yasa muka sake dubawa domin sanin ko mi yasa su kanne iyaye mata suka fi yawa cikin mutane masu lalata da jininsu. Sai muka fahimci cewa irin yarda da Amana da uwa take yiwa Dan uwanta yasa maza masu wannan halin cin wannan Amanar. A duk lokacin da aka ce ga 'yarku ta fita da Dan kanin Mijinta ko Dan yarta ko kanwata, ana kaiwa wani lokaci hankalin iyayen bazai samu natsuwa ba, cikin abunda zai shigo ransu kuwa harda tunanin Lalata a tsakaninsu. Haka nan da za ace kun fita kun barsu a Gida su Biyu nan ma babu kwanciyar hankali kuna tunanin komai na iya faruwa. Amma idan da kanin matarka ne ko kaninka babu wani abunda zai zo maka na tunanin wani Al-'amari irin wannan ko da kuwa dukkaninsu kusan shekarunsu guda sabanin Dan wanka ko kaninka ko na matarka. To fa anan gizo yake tsakar. Da wannan aminta ne da kuma haramcin dake tsakaninsu yasa ake kauda kai. " Wata Yarinya itama ta bayyana yadda kanin mamanta har ciki yayi mata, tachi gaba da cewa, Domin tun ina karama yake dorani akan cinyansa har na soma girma sai ya rika goga mini Azzakarinsa a gabana kuma ya tsoratani da cewa kada na fadawa kowa. Yana matukar nuna mini kauna, kuma iyayena sunyi matukar yarda da shi, Shike kaini makaranta shike daukoni. Da zani ummura da Aikin Hajji dashi aka hadamu, A lokacin da na nace inason zuwa Dubai naga Garin saboda yadda dashi aka hadamu aka bamu kudin hotel na kwanaki 10 kowa da dakinsa amma a daki guda muke kwana. " Kuma bazaka taba ganin wasu alamun cewa akwai wata alaka ko soyayya a tsakaninmu ba. Domin ana ganin shine mutumin da nake shakka da tsoro iyayena kuma basusan shine mutumin daya lalatani ba, Ya zama bana iya barci idan ba a jikinsa ba, gaskiya abunda yasa ma nazo wajenki #Aunty_Ummancy inaso ne ki bani shawarar yadda zan daina sonshi ina son yin Aure tunda nasan bazan Aureshi ba". Masu Auren maza sunada yara mata suma suna cikin wannan masifar, domin binciken ya tabbatar da cewa mazajen wasu matan sun taimaka matuka wajen lalata musu yara duk kuwa da haramcin Auratayya dake tsakaninsu. Ga Bayanin wata Yarinya tace "Ina da shekaru 10 a duniya mahaifiyata ta Auri mijinta bayan mahaifina ya rasu, Tun bamu shekara a Gidansa ba ya soma nuna alamun yana son yin Lalataa dani. Da yake shi ba wani mai tsauri bane, yana da son mutane kuma yana daukata tamkar 'yar cikinsa duk da yanada wasu yaran matan amma basu kaini shekaru ba. Yana daukanmu muje ya mana sayayya amma nawa daban yake mani,Tun ban fahimceshi ba har dai na soma fahimtarsa. Akwai wata rana mahaifita ta fita unguwa nayi wanka ina shafa mai kawai sai naji ana wasa da nonuwana ta bayana kamin dai nace wani abu aikin gama ya gama, kuma daga wannan ranar lokaci zuwa lokaci muna yi. sai dai da kansa yace mu daina kuma gaskiya ya daina amma ni kuma na saba inada samari da nake samunsu idan ina sha'awa, sai dai kamar yadda na fadamiki yanzu na samu wanda zan Aura shine na miki bayanin matsalar da yanzu ake ciki", Wannan ma mijin mamanta ne ya soma lalata da ita. Hirarraki suna da yawan gaske, Sai dai abin bukata shine iyaye su fahimci irin hadarin da suke ciki domin sanya idanuwa a inda zasu iya saka idanuwan. Sai dai kuma irin wasu da iyayensu da suka haifesu da yayyensu ne suka soma lalata dasu su kuma yaya za ayi? Da akwai 'yan mata uku cikin wadanda muka baiwa shawara biyu cikinsu iyayensu da suka haifesu sune suka lalatasu, guda kuwa wanta ne uwa daya uba daya. Bayaga mata, cikin maza suma mun samu wadanda kannen iyayensu ne suka soma koya musu Lalata, wasu kuwa 'yan uwan iyayensu ne suka yi luwadi dasu wal Iyazu Billah. Manufar fito da wannan binciken shine mu na bada shawara ga Al-umma su fahimci babu abunda zuciya bazata iya aikatawa ba idan Mutum ya baiwa shadan damar yin hakan. Yanada da kyau iyaye suyi iya abunda zasu iya yi domin sauke hakkin dake kansu na baiwa 'ya'yansu da yaran dake karkashin kulawarsu. Kada iyaye su dauka wane bazai iya yin haka ba, haka kuma kada iyaye suyiwa na kusa dasu mummunar zato ko fahimta, illa dai wannan binciken yana son ya ankarar da iyaye ne su fahimci yanzu haka akwai abubuwa marasa kyau dake gudana a cikin gidajensu ko dai basu maida hankali wajen ganowa ba, ko kuma an tsorata wadannan yaran da ake cutarwa akan kada suyi magana. Allah Ya shirya, Ya kuma tsaremu da iyalanmu Ya bamu ikon sauke nauyin tarbiyan dake kanmu Ya kuma sa mufi karfin sha'awan mu Amin. Dan Allah duk Wanda yaga sakon nan da kuma karanta shi har karshe ya fahimta yayi kokarin Kaishi gaba domin wasu su ankare su Amfana Allah ya zaunar damu lafiya Amin.

15 year ago there was no or little attention on the internet.. women then preserved themselves, took advise from their mothers and worked on themselves to become better wivies.. because no matter what a man builds a house but it takes a good woman to make it a home and bring forth a family.. So for this reason a man will always bring his eyes down in search of a wife.. fast forward to the present day.. 80% of the girls with big ass will not post a picture without taking a clear shot of their ass and some twerk half naked in a 60 sec video. which means hey boy don't you want to taste this body? Let's exciting for a guy to see a girl who smokes and all of that because it is believed that once she's high, she will be very easy to manipulate and not because that is the kind of girl he really wants for life.. You will say some guys really love girls like this, yes some guys will genuinely love a girl like this but just about 10%. Lastly most of them have this sense of entitlement, two days in a relation a guy already owes you money or should be responsible for your wig and all. Then those that are bit independent thinks they don‘t need a man. This is Africa but we keep chasing a course that is destroying us and our culture.. sex and attention is sweet but can we stop passing it around like an offering box and stick to one man. Men on the other hand, we have a roll to play because in one way or the other we have contributed to this.

Have you ever walked away from a relationship whilst you were still in love with that person? How can you quantify and relate the problem, the ensued psychological trauma and the feeling of guilt and not being good enough?

till this day i still regret and feel ashamed of something i did since during my university days (4years yanzu). i fear kuma it doesn't happen to my daughter or close relative. i actually drug raped a girl and left her unconscious kuma nayi threatening dinta not to tell or i will publicize her nude pix. tsakani da Allah nayi regretting kuma i wish i can see her and deeply apologize to her i dont know what got into me that day amma yanzu i am a changed person. i can try finding her through Facebook do you think i should send her an apology message i really want her to forgive me kuma ina so in bata hakuri kuma Allah ya yafe min or what is the best way i can achieve this? please don't judge me but advise me

Wednesday last week na bude whatsapp dinta naga chat din su da wani guy har yana turo mata hearts da love words ni kuma abin ya bani haushi da na tambaye ta she tried to defend the cheating and i slapped her out of anger, sai thursday kafin in dawo da yamma ashe har ta hada kayanta ta tafi se dai nazo kawai naga letter then i called her to apologize ni ma banji dadin marin da nayi mata ba gaskiya, na bata hakuri amma tace wai se na zo gidan iyayen ta anyi wata magana, nace mata there is no need bazan sake ba to har yanzu taki dawo wa, jiya nace mata zan zo tace a'a wai sunyi tafiya sai thursday zan iya zuwa ni na ji zaman gidan ma babu dadi i really missed her kuma nayi alkawari bazan sake ba. so yanzu not knowing what she told her family da har suka barta ta dade haka kuma banyi magana da su ba ya kuke ganin ya kamata inyi handling abin?

A Friendship or Cheat? There is this Girl whom we are attended same primary school (2004) with her, even then i can not actually remember her by face but she does know me well. We had no contact sai wani lokaci around 2010 a inda mukayi JAMB a same centre, even then it was a hello and hye from afar. I don’t know what went on with her daga lokacin, she got married, had a Child and at same time schooling. I can’t recall precise time damuka zama friends on Facebook; I’m not the that chat on Facebook rather i go through newsfeed and posts kawai. She’ll send me ‘hello, ya kake, kwana biyu ka boye ka manta dani(mu)’ haka dai gaisuwa kawai sai labarin struggle dinta a school and so on. A haka it got to the point we have a whatsApp group na primary school mates namu, daga nan we had each others contact and our formal discussion goes on, to cut it short we become friends sosai, in a way that all my relationship struggles tasani, she even advises me to date ita kuma da aurenta and nothing of emotion is between us. Toh, I started to think about it, shin idan husband (who’s a military) dinta found out me zance ko ya zatace ? Shin idan nine husband nata ya zanji ? (Actually I’m the jealous type, I cannot take it), there was a time datake fadimin cewa I’m her best friend; i was shocked danaji haka, and nima when i got married how would i face my wife about ita wannan ? *What do you think is the stand of our relationship? **Do you think we should continue?? ***What way zan iyabi dan datse tarayyarmu ba tareda bacin rai ba ???

Slm NB, Barka da sallah, Allah maimaita. We were supposed to get married 22nd June aka dage zuwa Sept 28th b4 I stopped it all last week. I started dating her 2 yrs during her first year exams at federal university Dutse, lokacin zani taifi karatu singapore, yenzu tana 300L ni kam na kammala msc infotech zan dawo gida July. Masala na shine tayi unknown friends sosai a school wanda gidan su baa sani ba. Ni kuma naji labari wasu lesbians ne, most boyfriends nata kuma masu HIT and Run ne. I want to forgiv and assume it's a mistake, but she is too patchy about it and whatever story version she told is way too watery. I had wanted to disbelieve all as rumour but zuciyana ba nasuwa. When i attempted bto close eyes, my sister warnd against her sketchy stance on the allegations and advised me to avoid love intoxication and think of future consequence. Ga shi bata son maganar especially about her intimate guy calld Bezo irin yaran masu kudin nan marasa tarbiyya who I was reliably told was just a Playboy not a student. I have moved on after calling it up lastweek because I didnt wanna just continue against my instict to whatever the consequence of marrying a green snake could be. But her aunt is now followinng up with much pressure to ensure we are back together, i don't want to come home and meet this issue again, please help me with advice of nb members.

i am a university student and my cousin is renting a 2 bedroom close to the school kuma shi kadai ne yanzu, his house mate has graduated. so shine nake tunani ko inyi moving dama ina so in canza waje i am not comfortable where i am but i am female and he is a male shiyasa nake neman shawara

Salam! Danallah taya mutum ze cire san wani a rashi? Saurayina ne ya dena kulani bayan ya kawo kudina kuma ni ina sanshi sosai kullum tunaninshi nakeyi duk na rame wlhy abin yana damuna inaso na cireshi a raina na kasa

 Pls keep me anonymous, I met this girl 4 years ago we started dating for months and our houses are not too far so we could see often then  jamb came she failed and attempted suicide but didnt die tho, i thought she was depressed so i became more close to her overlooking  the suicide  as months turned into years finaly she got admitted to the university but the course she was given is theare arts at first i thought it was  ok but later on i started seeing changes in her she stoped wear hijab started wearing bump shorts and what pains me most  is shes staying off campus at  guys place which i didnt know at first  and no guy will acomodate you feed you and wount touch you in school and not even one but five to six guys . So this made me started thinking i should just leave her with god or i should sleep with her as revenge pls shawara nake nema pls

Assalamu alaykum people,, well lemme start from the very start, well I met this guy last year, Masha Allah he's everything a lady needs, and me being young girl I fell for him, (he's my first love) everything was going well, we started dating, our love was the purest, gradually the love kept on increasing that when I don't talk to him in a day I feel incomplete, before we started dating when I asked him about his birthday he gave me the date, January, so ana nan then January came in, I wished him and prayed for him, then we started having little problems, he was always busy that we hardly talk a day, and ni kuma I was starting to get upset cause I needed him every moment, so he later told me about his busy schedule and he made some adjustments for Me and we fixed everything, he's this guy that each time I get upset with him he says "baby you know I love you" for the past 8 months, he called my name just 4 times I think, he's always like I love you more and most each time I say I love you. So last month I saw some posts on Instagram of people who know him wishing him happy birthday , and I decided to confront him, when I asked him he swore to me wai January ne, it was hard believing but he still managed to cconvince me that it wasn't that day, a day later, my best friend (she has him on Snapchat) saw his post with a birthday cake and a gift and the caption was "thank you bae for the bday" so she sent me the video, when I saw it, I was broken, I've never felt that way in my whole life, I couldn't cry when I saw it, so she comforted me and advised me not to confront him, some hours ago by 1am I broke down, I cried for hours, even while praying tears were flowing freely, I even fell sick with an issue of dehydration , a day later he called me, he noticed the nature of the call cause I'm very jovial, he asked if he offended me but I said no, he later promise that he'll never leave my side, the next day he called again and said I make him happy and ended the call with I love you most.. And the most funniest part is I still love him despite all the things I saw, well should I confront him? Or should I forget about it and keep on with our relationship cause love is patience...

Salam Alaikum arewa people,we all know exams are starting soon so please let’s pray for each other ???Allah ya bamu sa’a ya rabamu da carry over Ameen

what pushed me to ask this question is i saw a post on northern blog a story that was posted on this website about a girl that seduced a guy and some people on the comment section were saying its a made up story. i am not here to say if THE STORY IS TRUE OR NOT. but what i noticed is several times when a story similar to this comes up se mutane su ce ai basu yadda, suna nufin girls are not capable of sexual behaviors towards men but i am sure if its a story about a man that invited a girl to his home and seduce her people will be quick to believe. the question is Why??? i personally have an experience during my school days there was this girl that likes to touch me haka nan infact there was a day she hugged me in public and i was speechless i didn't stop her because i liked it anyway i just want to know the reason why people think like that and wallahi girls are capable of even rape if they had physical power over men. a dinga yin adalci

Salamualykum ...anty ina da wani dan matsala... Nayi aure fyn alhmdulilah... I living well with my husband da dangin sa amma matsalata dayane His click of friends... They compromise of 4male and a female.. Banda Matsala da male friends dinsa amma that female friend dince banso.... A Girl suke ce mata... Sun dauketa kaman gold.. Basu son ranta ya bace... Kyautata mata sukayi ko ince their world revolves around her... Komai A girl... Komai A girl.... Duk da itace sannadiyan haduwar mu har mukayi aure though she's not my friend i don't just feel comfortable with her They are two that are married... Naso yi ma dayan matan magana amma naga ko a jikinta.... Every last Saturday of d month suke haduwa.... Ayi hira a ci abinci...just to have fun... kaman normal policy dinsu kenan.... She's a student... Idan zasu je dubata a school... Kanan wani biki zasu....the importance they show her is too much.... Rannan danaa masa magana akai ranann bamu kwana lfy a gidannan ba Cewa yayi ida ba dan ita ba... Bai kai matsaayin da yake ba....she means a lot to him...na kasa bacci ranan.... Sanda aka kawo ni Amarya duk hirar da zamiyi sai ya saka A girl a ciki....A Girl kaza, rana kaza A Girl ta mana kaza....ko shopping suke raka ta....rannannya dawo da kayan shoping na tambayeshi wannnan kayan fah wai nawa ne....sun raka A Girl shopping shine tace ya siya min nima Rannan sallah injinsu suna cewa idan A Girl tayi aure fah sun shiga uku dan mijinta zai hana su ganninta....akwai wanda yake sonta a cikin su amma bai gaya maata ba...har suna zugashi ya mata magana su dadaita at least zasu san taxo gida Abin haushin har danginsa sun san A girl...rannan sisters dinsan da sukazo suke tambayansa yaya ina A Girl dinka...yace tana lagos amma ta kusu dawowa suma sunyi missing dinta...ni kuma wallahi banaso....duk matsalaar sa...sai ya fada wa yan click dinnan nasa kuma sai a ce bari a jira A Girl zata kawo shawara mai kyau Kuma karamar yarinya ce she is 22 Wallahi auty ina son in rabasu....bata taba shiga hakkina ba bata taba min komai ba amma banaso Dayan matar friend dinsa ko a jikin ta....rannan mijinta ya siyo mata abu ya bata ...har tambaya taka ina na A Girl....sai yace ai bata nan ta tafi lagos....a lagos iyayen ta keda zama...taje hutu gida...dan Alllah ya kuka ga alamarin nan...isnt it strange Dan allah yan aji ku ban shawara...please hide my identity