Hi I was married 4yrs back without knowing the man is mentally ill everything happened in a rush the first meeting to marriage happens in 2months time and we just meet once face to face the 2nd was during wedding (it's my qadr) I was treated very badly by him I was beaten up many times he slap me in any misunderstanding I suffered alot in those 8months before my parents got me separated from him though he didn't divorce me untill after I spent another 8months in my parents house saying he loves me he will not divorce my father threaten him of going to court before he handed the divorce paper now I really want to get married and am very afraid of been married again I use to feel why would I go back to that terrible life but deep down I feel I want my own home, my own family, I want to see my own children how can I overcome this ???

I write this with a heavy heart, there is a new addictive substance out there it is Porn. It all started about 4 years ago. i use to see people online asking of how to cure this problem and saw few sheikhs address it. In my head i was thinking "how can someone be addicted to porn?, its simple just don't watch it shikenan". ofcox i don't watch at that time but i saw people who were addicted to it as weak. i Never understood what this really was. I studied abroad in a very good university with good grades, i use to have alot of compliments from my lectures and collogues of how smart I was in my studies. Finally I was about to graduate and comeback to Nigeria to start a Bright and productive life. I finished my exams 1month before i returned so i had like 1month free time. 1 thing lead to another and i started watching that filthy thing (porn). I came back to Nigeria normal but i would watch this thing after 3 -4 days, it started to become more frequent. i developed an addiction of Porn and Masturbation and realized when it was too late. It is very compulsive and powerful, i will watch it everyday and ejaculate but I started fighting my urges to recover but failed. I tried my best even during Ramadan I would watch this thing while fasting (I hated it). I will wake up in the morning with a crazy anxiety, can't eat or focus on anything until after I watch it and ejaculate then i will feel normal. It became like a drug I cried as a grown man and felt ashamed to talk to anyone about it. It started to affect my life seriously, anything i start i can't focus on it because porn and masturbation addiction. I was into business and i lost alot of money and opportunities because of this thing. About 2 years elapsed and I have lost total control to a part of my mind. There are things I never imagined of doing as a noble person but this filthy thing made me do it. I still regret the day I sexually harassed a girl close to me and she cried because she never thought i will do this to her. I never in my right mind would do that but this filthy thing has dominated my mind and its overriding my own mind. Its a very painful experience to watch yourself being control by porn & masturbation. Because of it i have travelled to different places and isolated myself in hopes of healing but it only lasts for some days and it comes back with full force. I have lost my Iman and stopped praying because of ejaculation requires bath and over the span of 2- 3 years, it affected my prayer schedule and gradually i started missing then stopped even bothering about it. i feel bad i have tried and tried. Last week I feel I just want to end my life. No one knows about this in my family. I have lost a lot of opportunities because of this. i can't achieve anything My brain is Hijacked i don't know what to do. but before i go please know the dangers of porn and avoid it. Please before it does the same to you. Stay away from it. I don't want any innocent soul to go through this miserable experience, Its a very powerful substance that's highly destructive. I think ending my life would be better, i feel miserable and sad. I have tried all i can but no avail.

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Please what do u all think abt a female proposing to a male.Am currently in luv with a guy by I don't want to say anything to him yet bcs of our different way of thinking especially here in d north. Please what should I do,Note,been praying constantly abt it.

I just want your personal opinion of a good salary in Nigeria for a single guy that is just starting his career. Thanks

This has long been debated. I bet everyone has his/her own reason. Lets hear what each other reason is for choosing which. Mine is that Android (Note 20 Ultra) 1. The S pen is something else you have to try it to know it should be part of any phone where you can use it as a remote to snap pictures, sign documents or control your media content etc 2. Multitasking allows me use or open 5 n more applications in a pip screen which an iPhone can't 3. The battery life lasts me 1day n half 4. Reverse wireless charging allows me charge my other phone wirelessly 5. The camera is perfect n can even zoom at the moon 6. Samsung Dex allows me transfrm my phone to a computer n use a tv monitor 7. Expandable storage to 1terrabyt 8. Use of Google home to automate appliances 9. Google maps n Google sky applications

aslm,i have something that is troubling me in my intimate life i was married to one beautiful wife six years ago and we fruitfully blessed with two fine kids Alhamdulillah.But when ever i intend to to have intimate with he, if i want to reach my orgasm and have a maximum satisfaction i have to go far away and starting thinking of old girl friend imagining am doing it with her.In most occassion if did not have that kind of imagination i will not cum.it is detereoting i need your recomendation on how to curb this problem and i love my wife i dont know why this is happen to me it eating me, am i the only one this happens to❓ will that be a problem❓am waiting for your suggestion,recommendation and comment.THANKYOU

I feel scared to travel and go out at night. when you know these criminals are roaming freely and there is no one to protect you. The Government doesn't care they are just after looting public funds Us that the issue is affecting what can we do? lets discuss, share you ideas

Hello everyone. So my issue is that I went to visit my sister in one state, the house she is living in are two apartments. Her neighbors where newly married couples, the got married April and the wife is even pregnant. To be precise when I first saw the husband gaskiya I liked him though he is slim but still good looking, and we do have issues with the wife coz she is not friendly. I catch some feelings for him gaskiya and I love him, kuma I want him to marry me. I don't know what to do and you know as a lady I can't go and tell him that I love him, his love is actually growing day by day in my heart and I don't even think he noticed what I'm going through, he is really friendly gaskiya. Please help a sister.

Please someone should help me, miye yasa haryanzu banida girlfriend

I am a lady in her early 30’s and has never been in a relationship before. I don’t know why men don’t approach me . I don’t know why most of them think that I am already married . When I asked my friend she said it’s because of the way I dress and that I am too quiet and that I don’t go out. It’s really making me insecure and feeling unwanted. What do I do to get a suitor? Now that my younger ones are getting married it’s making me more and more depressed. Don’t get me wrong I am happy for them but it makes me wonder when my turn will come.

What's your view on this matter? It seems like most of men dating at the age of 18 to 22 are always left shattered, and it's obvious that 90% of the girls they've been dating will finally get married to someone else, but it really hurts when someone loose the one he have been dating since when he was 18-22 after many years. What's your advice to young men within 18-22 in relationship?

Aslm Da Fatan Kuna Lapia I need your advice about my girlfriend we have at lease almost 9 months with her and I love her she love me but the problem is two days din nan gabadaya naga ta Chanza ba kamar Yadda take a ba gabadaya wasu irin abubuwa take yi mun wanda bana gane Kansa saboda a can da sai muyi wajen 30 minutes to above muna waya da ita but yanzu sai ta ga dama take daga mun waya idan nayi mata magana ma Akan abubuwan da suke faruwa sai take ce mun wai ai ita haka take policy dinta ne kawai a haka kuma da ba haka muke da ita ba wlh tana sona ina sonta amma yan kwanakinnan na kasa gane kanta gabadaya wlh inaso in cire ta gabadaya daga cikin zuciya ta but I can’t so I am seeking for your advice please what should I do about this issue

Lets have some fun and share our embarrassing moment stories and cheer. Mine was, just yesterday I attended a wedding event and I fell down, the food & drinks I carried all spilled on me. So embarassing. I slipped on a banana pill ?. Please post yours

Assalamu alaikum. Please help me and share this with yan aji I need advice please. I'm in relationship with this girl for almost 7 months now since then I've never felt like I'm in relationship, I can't remember when last she called or even flash me sometimes I used to asked her to come online kuma abu kadan wai ita bacci takeji and if I asked her about something reasonable that will lead us to a serious conversation sai tafara "hmmm" "ok" and those boring replies, I once asked her why she's doing this wai ita batason tambaya kuma she's I don't care type, I was doubting if she really loves me and even if we're on call sai dai inta magana sai dai tace uhmmm ko eh, kuma koda nayi magana don taji dadi sai dai tace: "uhmm nagode" idan kuma nayi mata message to impressed her and tell her how much she mean to me the answer is always "Awwwn! Thank you so much" she have never take her time to send me any love message neither on WhatsApp nor SMS or any other social media platform, she's only telling me this words as a way to prove her love to me "sweetheart" "I love you" and "LOML" only since when we're in relationship to date, wlh I'm so confused about my relationship with her, I love her much and I don't want to loose her but I think I gotta quit but I still need your advice, wlh I treated her with all care she deserves, I can't even imagine how much I've been pampering her but duk a banza nayi hakuri sosai sabida fushi da gaggawa baida amfani ammah I'm so discouraged banajin dadin yanda take treating dina na mata magana several times in a such way da zata fahimci matsalan yin haka but taki canjawa kuma she doesn't want to see me with any girl kuma batason friends dinta suce nayi kyau wai kishi takeji idan hakan yafaru, please advice me.

When i tell people i don't want kids they get shocked. personally i don't see anything if someone says he wants to get married but does not want kids? Some even try to bring religion into the matter. is it haram or wrong? i guess none. so meye a ciki wai?

Am a type of guy thats too quiet and care alot, am too emotional, i dated about 3 times, all i end up with heartbreaks, they always take advantage of me and break me.... Ist that being kind and too emotional is wrong or what? Or ist that true love is hard to find. and i observe those that come with good intentions are the ones that ladies reject. Why?

Spoil Your Wife, She Is Totally Yours! Dear Married Brothers in Islam, there is no happiness in this world than being Married. Always say Alhamdulillah for such a darling Wife *ALLAH* SWT has blessed you with. Appreciate your woman's effort. Thank her for completing half your deen. Thank her for making you her Husband Thank her for making you the King of her empire. Tell her you love her. Tell her you have many responsibilities towards her Tell her she is your Queen She deserves your prayers. So, pray for her. She needs your love, support and care. She needs your companionship. She needs your warm hug and trust. Don’t forget to wake her up for prayers. Don’t forget to pay for all her expenses and cook her favourite dishes once in a while. Assist her in household chores too. Don’t forget to dress her up as you used to when you were newly married. Don’t forget to be good to her as ordained by the Sunnah of our Noble Prophet Muhammad (SAW). And don’t forget that she is a human being who is bound to make mistakes. So forgive her unconditionally and wholeheartedly. Be mindful there Is No Perfect Marriage! May Allah (SWT) bless all our marriages and make it easier for those searching for soul mates. Aameen

LESSON TO THE NORTH Dear North. Below are the photographs of nine SARS Officers accused of killing innocent Nigerians. The suspects and the victims are all southerners. The SARS officers are not Muslims.The Media company exposing the story is a southern media company. Today, we have a collective reasonable decision coming from the SOUTHERN YOUTHS demanding for Justice for the victims of SARS OPPRESSORS, demanding adjustment and reform of the Nigerian Police. The beautiful part of it was when the protest erased ethnicity, political and religious differences. The concerned southern governors and their state assembly members supported the staged protest. The Vice president of Nigeria Osinbajo, Speaker Federal house of representative Femi and most southern celebrities supported the protest. All because they want sanity in their region, because they meant well for themselves and that they are quick to identify with any challenge disturbing their peace. You guys have earned my respect. I've seen the reason you all want to get separated from Nigeria. I am humbly impressed. You really have a good reason. WELCOME TO THE NORTH In the North, it is prohibited to criticise government, if the president is a Northerner and a Muslim. In the North, it is forbidden to demand for your own safety against Boko Haram, Bandits, Rapist, Kidnappers ravaging the North if the president is a Northerner. Muslim Northern Army General was kidnapped and killed in the North. Other top Military Muslim Northern officers were killed in the North by NORTHERNERS. Assistant Commissioner, of police kidnapped, DPO kidnapped, DSS officials kidnapped. All the above atrocities were perpetrated by Northerners in the North. Countless innocent poor villages killed and ransacked by killer bandits and Boko Haram. Yet, we all sleep well and wake up normal as if nothing is wrong in the North, because the president is a Northerner and a Muslim. The only right you have as a Northerner is to keep quite, sit down, get killed and blame foreigners and southerners for the odious incidents being perpetrated by our own people upon our own people. In the North we are not protesting because the President is our own (Northerner, Hausa Fulani and a Muslim) but we all agreed that we are being killed on a daily basis by our own people in our own villages and cities within the North. Religious leaders knows how bad we are hit in the North, but they are quick to give defense to the failed government. Once you protest against the failed government and demand for justice, you will be be wrongly profiled. The killings in the south is less than 1% of the total sum of 100% of the killings in the North. But they have beautifully organised themselves, conducts themselves and demand for Justice for their people against their own people (Mind You, all lives are the same) This is the story of the North. The home of cowards and careless educated youths, the home of ignorance and negligence. My heart is actually bleeding right now. ©️ABDULLAHI IBRAHIM JOS

Salam alaikum, This topic was discussed on Instagram recently by Mr. Khaleeepha and some other brothers and sisters. Some people were just discussing about rawan ido, having expectations and other reasons.This is my take on it. MATA! Mu kama kan mu dan Allah. Wallahi we are too loose now adays all in the name of wanting and keeping a man. Have "standards" and i mean modesty and kama kai. A guy will start chatting u up and suddenly, you're in love, he'll request for nudes, ki tura, start dirty talks, phone sex etc.. ku hadu, ya shafa ki, some sex right away.. please how will the men want to settle down with us. They are also sceptical about finding a good wife (as if they haven't done their part of the sin). *Note* There is literally nothing you'll do to keep a man, he will leave you when he feels like it. Then we think Allah zai barmu ba punishment. How about the other ladies that are pious and want to settle down amma mun bata masu kasuwa? I believe if men are starved of any physical contact b4 marriage, they would make more efforts in getting married. We keep saying ba maza, lol. There are alot out there. We are feeding them. WHY GET THE COW WHEN THEY GET THE MILK FOR FREE? Please let's ammend our ways. Salam