Apr 26, 08:05 PM

my ex girl friend is begging for reconciliation after 3 years of break up

Dear Arewa up community I hope this message finds you well. Approximately three years ago, my relationship with my ex-girlfriend ended due to her involvement with another individual. At the time, she openly expressed her feelings for this person, leading to our separation. Since then, we have had no communication. Recently, I reached out to her via WhatsApp to greet her. Following our initial exchange, she began expressing remorse and requested reconciliation. She is seeking forgiveness and hopes we can rekindle our relationship. I initiated the contact, and while I still have deep feelings for her, I am uncertain about the appropriate course of action. I find myself reflecting on our past and contemplating the possibility of giving our relationship another chance. I am seeking advice on the following: Should I consider reconciling with her? What questions should I ask to understand her past actions and current intentions better? How can I ensure that any decision I make is in my best interest emotionally and mentally? Your insights and guidance would be greatly appreciated as I navigate this complex situation. Thank you for taking the time to read my message.

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Apr 26, 10:51 PM
Apr 26, 11:02 PM
Muhammad Musa Muhammad Apr 26, 10:51 PM

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advice is urgently needed though I have already accept her because I still love her just that I'm afraid she'll dump me again I'm finding it difficult to fully trust her like I did before
Apr 27, 09:47 AM
Anonymous Apr 26, 11:02 PM

advice is urgently needed though I have already accept her because I still love her just that I'm afraid she'll dump me again I'm finding it difficult to fully trust her like I did before

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bro I no trust that gender no more. if you're ok with ur decision then reconcile with her period! to me once we asunder then no going back! she broke up with you because of someone who she assumed is better than you and now after 3 yrs she wanna come back to you, bcos maybe he leaves her about a yr or 2 years after she broke up with you and nobody show interest in her. be wise bro. wlh once you leaves me for another I'll let you go forever ๐Ÿ–•
Apr 27, 09:47 AM
You already lost when you reached out to her first, so you are the one looking for reconciliation not her!!! Once you leave a girl, never, for any reason initiate contact first! You obviously love her more than she loves you, but your desperation has beclouded your reasoning. Sheโ€™s only showing remorse because she has no alternative, even if you come back together, she will still dump you if she finds someone better
Apr 27, 02:16 PM
Nasir Ahmed Apr 27, 09:47 AM
You already lost when you reached out to her first, so you are the one looking for reconciliation not her!!! Once you leave a girl, never, for any reason initiate contact first! You obviously lo[...] You already lost when you reached out to her first, so you are the one looking for reconciliation not her!!! Once you leave a girl, never, for any reason initiate contact first! You obviously love her more than she loves you, but your desperation has beclouded your reasoning. Sheโ€™s only showing remorse because she has no alternative, even if you come back together, she will still dump you if she finds someone better
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๐Ÿ’ฏ that's just the Fact Bro pray For the Best wish You all the Best ๐Ÿ™
Apr 27, 02:45 PM
Muhammad Musa Muhammad Apr 27, 09:47 AM
bro I no trust that gender no more. if you're ok with ur decision then reconcile with her period! to me once we asunder then no going back! she broke up with you because of someone who she assumed is[...] bro I no trust that gender no more. if you're ok with ur decision then reconcile with her period! to me once we asunder then no going back! she broke up with you because of someone who she assumed is better than you and now after 3 yrs she wanna come back to you, bcos maybe he leaves her about a yr or 2 years after she broke up with you and nobody show interest in her. be wise bro. wlh once you leaves me for another I'll let you go forever ๐Ÿ–•
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I don't trust them either ๐Ÿ˜ญ but Allah ya jarabceni da sonta I can't resist her offer . I'll just continue praying Allah ya tabbatar da Abu mafi alheri
Apr 27, 04:02 PM
Anonymous Apr 27, 02:45 PM

I don't trust them either ๐Ÿ˜ญ but Allah ya jarabceni da sonta I can't resist her offer . I'll just continue praying Allah ya tabbatar da Abu mafi alheri

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ok then send ur folks ASAP to make it official.
Apr 27, 04:29 PM
Anonymous Apr 26, 11:02 PM

advice is urgently needed though I have already accept her because I still love her just that I'm afraid she'll dump me again I'm finding it difficult to fully trust her like I did before

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you have made a mistake accepting her back. you have tolerated her mistake, she will not value u as a man, she will leave u soon as she gets another persons don't be a simp
Apr 27, 04:34 PM
Respect yourself first. If she left you once for someone else, she showed you how little she valued you. Donโ€™t let loneliness or old feelings make you forget your worth. Youโ€™re not a backup plan. Move forward โ€” better women are out there who will choose you the first time.
Apr 27, 06:37 PM
Anonymous #2 Apr 27, 04:29 PM

you have made a mistake accepting her back. you have tolerated her mistake, she will not value u as a man, she will leave u soon as she gets another persons don't be a simp

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wlh kam
Apr 27, 11:13 PM
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Apr 28, 08:28 PM
Reconciliation can be complex, especially if trust has been broken. B4 seeking reconciliation, it's essential to reflect on the reasons for the breakup and ensure u and ur ex are genuinely committed to rebuilding the relationship. Consider having an open and honest conversation with your ex- abt what happened, taking responsibility for her actions, and ensuring she listens to ur perspective. It's crucial to establish clear boundaries and work on rebuilding trust. However, above all top it up with prayers. Allah doesn't jst put people or remove them from our lives without any reason except to either learn from our experiences with them or some other tangible reason
Apr 30, 04:32 AM
Muhammad Musa Muhammad Apr 27, 04:02 PM

ok then send ur folks ASAP to make it official.

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yes we've made arrangements for that ending of this year we would involve folks and probably 2027 wedding you all are going to be invited just wish us well bro it's actually going well now
Apr 30, 12:30 PM
Anonymous Apr 30, 04:32 AM

yes we've made arrangements for that ending of this year we would involve folks and probably 2027 wedding you all are going to be invited just wish us well bro it's actually going well now

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you're not ready๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚ she'll probably replace you with someone again. since you already know each other, why taking so long before involving family.
May 4, 09:01 AM
Muhammad Musa Muhammad Apr 30, 12:30 PM

you're not ready๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚ she'll probably replace you with someone again. since you already know each other, why taking so long before involving family.

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wannan yayi nisa gaskiya... jikin shi zai gaya mai
May 5, 12:50 AM
Anonymous #3 May 4, 09:01 AM

wannan yayi nisa gaskiya... jikin shi zai gaya mai

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๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚ wlh
May 29, 09:22 AM
before reconsidering to reconcile with her ,think about wat made u broke up with her in the first place is it something serious or not
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