I am not a bad gal, but why do I feel like I am incomplete, something doesn't feel right. I have this crazy fantasy of the kind of spouse I need or want, I have always wanted a romantic, caring, hot, dark and amazing spouse. I have been to weddings and events and see such people, but they never ask me out(am I a potato?), for crying out right, I am beautiful(not praising myself but I know I am), I have had relationships in the past where I thought I will get married to them but it never worked out, Men are either selfish or deceivers. I am heart broken and struggling to live and find peace within myself.

sometimes After one strong relationship After we break up then goes into another relationship we find it unsatisfied. The main reason is "Those who we sincerely love and broke up with them serve as Frame of Reference to those who we currently date and Anytime they fail we try to compare them with our Frame of Reference from their we find the relationship unsatisfied. instead of walking out in relationship mend those problems with your partner. And to Avoid unsatisfied relationship never compare your current relationship with the past one

no offence please but ladies can u date q guy dat is not fluent in English?

ok I've been with this guy for over 2yrs now,I don't know if I should call it dating but I think we are dating ..lol. Well he is a nice nd soft spoken guy but then he doesn't give me the attention nd tym if I complain he will apologise and quell me its tge nature if his work dat is causing it,wen I asked 2at he does for a living,he said he is an agent so I'm guessing DSS ne,sometimes we go months without hearing from each other nd wen he comes back he will tell me he went to a location fir work,he never tells me details of his work or location he went to.....please wat do u suggest I do....should I 3nd the relationship,bcus I'm getting tired...I feel as if I'm not dating. or should I still stick to him?

i moved to Nigeria last year and it's cuz I was not happy so I went to stay with my uncle and after 1 mouth he passed away so I moved to stay with my sister that got married and 1week ago she was giving birth and she passed away but she gave birth and just just 1 day ago my so called boyfriend broke up with me and he was not the best but I loved him so much. I feel so lost and alone and I don't even have anyone to talk to and I have to stay strong for the baby and mama ! I am so sad and heart broken by everything!

please idan da akwai wanda yake ko idan akwai wanda yasan meyin pens (customized one) Wanda ake rubutawa suna ba na biki ba for gift please irin for special person dinnan😀 please please 🙏🙏

pls who is experiencing what I'm experiencing in dis platform most guys will send u request after some friendly chats u will just c request cancel I will just b like what just happened 🧐🧐 like are dey scared of u 🤔 I'm even tired of the matchmaking ma May Allah just grant us pious spouse

I am finding it difficult to find a real suitor for marriage.it not easy seriously at 31 years,the thinking is too much though I have been praying day and night for a good spouse insha Allah.i just wish I could get married very soon.now I realized late marriage is not easy but Allah has already destined some of us with it.Ya Allah Grant All the unmarried with the righteous and pious spouses Allahumma Ameen.

Hello All. This is a question am asking honestly the arewa Members if truly what some are aspiring in partners is honest, cultural and possible. Firstly let me start with Men. You see a description of a desired partners as if She should just be created for him. Tall, slim, Educated, humble, religious, bla blu bla as if all his sisters, nieces and cousins are like tha. However, though for the ladies, it's not bad wishing everything good, many don't know how to manage relationships. You behave as if you are doing the man favor. you want so much and still do shekara just aspiring yet jettisoned. I have experience with a lady that all the 3 days we met, it was a request from eating outside,to having birthday by the corner and to or buy this for me. it's not our culture a lady having so much request ba Kunya. This made me to think of Truly members are serious !!!

I have been trying so many times I don't know how to make payment sena gama sa order nazo payment se a saka mn order closed Dan Allah ya akeyi?

guys ina neman shawarar ku inaso na fara hada aure wlh abun yana damu na Mata na kukan aure maza nayi I will use my energy and resources

At around April 2021, I met with a person on Twitter. I always admire him, his ways, the styles, intelligence, smartness and all. And so I decided to slide into his DM after about two months of following each other's handle, and luckily enough we became friends. I could vividly recall the night he came to my school just so we can see each other, it was the first time I allowed a stranger visit me. I was so nervous and uncomfortable around him, but he was all nice and gentle and before I know it muka saba. There was a day I asked him why and how are we friends despite us having different personalities, his reply was "I'm a bit choosy and have small circle of friends, but you have captured my attention in some way" that statement sticks to my brain just like how a metal sticks magnet. Ever since then I fall for him, though it was not my wish wallahi, but with everything about him I fall more deeply and y'all know some desires are attached to every heart. The little attention he gave me with some calls Ya sanya na Fara loosing concentration a school, all my day dreams was just to talk to him. I was writing exams Amma naqosa na gama kawai sabida yace zaizo after I'm done with it. That year Nasan Allah yaji tausayina ne kawai yasa nayi passing results Dina coz i didn't focus at all and early that year I lost my second mother, gashi na fada Soyayya Things weren't easy then to be honest. That particular night after my exams yazo waje na and we had a walk, something I always wished for, kamar kada ya tafi. Don't get me wrong idan nace yanda yake somehow miskili da Jan aji ga ilimi 😍 yasa kullum yake qara burge ni, I particularly have that taste in men. There was this day I wrote something on my status, the comment he sent me was like a green light, kamar dai go ahead haka, maybe he wasn't aware I was referring to him, Allah masani. Kawai na dauka go ahead ne na qara zurmawa 😅 har Award naci akan Poem din da na rubuta that year kuma dama it was about him. Hmm na tuna ranar Faculty week en mu i invited him to come for the movie night, and he couldn't make it then coz it was a short noticed. Ranar nayi kuka har idona ya kumbura, all my emotions reappeared right before me that night and I was just crying har bacci ya daukeni 😭 lover girl saurayinta yaqi zuwa 😂😂 To cut it short, after like 8months together na gano cewa he's about to get married, I tried so much to get the feeling of my chest and of wanting to be with him from my head, but all work in vain. At last I had to confess to him, thinking that will make me let go off him and forgets everything more easily. I stated to him everything one night like that, I told him will not forgive myself for doing that and also can't be with a person I proposed to ko da zai ce Yes 😂 Barazana ce coz nasan ba zai ce Yes din bama. But i actually hate myself coz It makes me become\feel less of a lady. Immediately after all i wanted to say to him, I blocked all his access to me. Not more than a month after the incident he called me, and I couldn't answer because I want to forget all about him, and so I sent him a text pleading not to call me ever or else I will fall all over again. Wallahi har yau I still haven't got over it, I have his contact to check his last seen on WhatsApp, i check his tweets duk da nayi blocking dinshi. Believe me I pray day and night not to attach myself with something not written for me. AstagfiruAllah I don't know whether I'm just praying by mouth and do not really meant it by heart. And I can't say whether I love him for the sake of Allah, or it's just based on my personal interest. Whatever it is dai I know I always think good of him. But I'm really afraid of the so call love becoming an Obsession I think ya zama infatuation ma already 😣, I want the burden off my chest wallahi, I want to give people chance amma abin ya gagara. Wallahi har ga Allah ina so naga nayi moving with my life but I'm finding it difficult, I just don't keep any relationship, once a guy starts showing some interest nake nuna mishi we're just friends. Kai there are thousand things worth more worrying about than this ma, thought Marriage is equally important and I believe akwai rahama a ciki da sauqin samun Aljannah. Amma Ni nawa case din once na Fara tunanin aure toh fa zanji shi nakeso nayi spending life dina dashi harda future life dinmu nake fantasizing Mtsww Waya Sani ma ko Aljani ne 😂 iska ke wahal da me kayan Kara. Yanzu dai the Main issue is mun dawo muna waya sama sama, although bama chat. Amma false hopes da fantasies dina sun dawo, gani nake kamar akwai hope. on the 30th last month ya kirani muka gaisa yace he will come to my school one of these days, since then nake counting and just can't wait to resume coz I know zaizo din, ba qaramin qoqari nayi ba just to avoid calling him a waya sabida yanzu na koyawa kaina haquri akan abinda bani da iko akai. Ba yabon kai inada haquri dai dai gwargwado don ko a gida bana zaben abu duk Wanda aka bani shikenan, but once nayi pointing abu nace ina so then kowa ya sani I definitely and overly like the thing. My friends blame me that yanda nakewa other guys attitudes shysa bazan iya bawa kowa chance ba, that I'm the one not opening my heart to others blah blah blah, Sai kace ance Son wasa nakeyi da zasu wani ce laifi na ne. Although halina ne watsawa mutane qasa a ido can't count Wanda na basu false hope nazo nace na fasa daga baya, qila ma shi yasa Allah yake hukunta Ni akan laifuka na Astagfirullah, but I just wish they can feel the way I feel, ko qila dai nice nake Zuzutawa coz I'm too emotional, amma nikam na yarda da So Halitta ce kuma ina girmama shi sosai Yanzu. Kai Allah dai ya raba bawa da wahala, Amma son Maso wani beyi ba, ga babu qima wai fa har fadawa guy en nan nayi ina Sonshi kuma Yanzu nake qosawa yazo na ganshi abin kamar a film. In essense don't condem anyone you see loving something\someone excessively, instead pray for them wasu suna iya qoqarin su suga hakan be faru ba. Everyone have different way of perception, being it pain, sadness, love or anything else. shiyasa wasu mutane basu iya son Abu ba, kamar dai Ni. Don nawa kam ma ya zama foolishness, ga gaskiya ina gani amma na rufe Ido, qila ma na gama dagewar nawa ma yazo shi din ba alkhari bane, how funny 😂 Anyways Allah ya mana zabi mafi Alkhairi, at long last walau Mutum ya samu abinda yakeso walau be samu ba, we'll all day one day. Duk kuma shikenan fah, how scary the life is, Mutum ya gama shirme ya Mutu a saka shi a rami Chan bayan gari. Allah dai yasa mu dace, Ameen. Thank you 😊

am a young lady brown in color chubby with full shape Alhamdulillah so I have been into different relationships sugar daddies in ne yaran be da de matasa masu tashi my problem dayasa nake rabuwa dasu Majority of them ask for sex, which I told them I'm not ready for unless i got married So many of them, some told me that men does not consider a lady being a virgin or not any longer so I still did not take it as a reason enough to give out my virginity now the main problem is, I asked almost 3% of 5% if they are ready su fito funny enough sai inji Ana cewa haba too ae kin fi karfin haka ke matan manya ne to mutane da dama suna fadan haka sai na fara tunanin maybe is true considering the way I am with full body shape and lots more sai nazo ya Zama kaman am being deceived by that bani kula yara thinking they are not my type sai ya zama like since haka na dena kula kowa and I have a vry a feelings and I want to get married simply because bani so in bada mutunci na a waje wlh am doing my very best to control myself abin ya fara fin karfi na

why can't we have a whatsapp group from this furum ladies Only? or ladies and men with a good intension i think it may help. sai a ware normal group da iya admin group duk mai wata damuwa should talk to one of the admis directly su kuma sai suyi forwading to normal group hiding ones iD in shawara ce a abayar in taimako ne sai ayi bincike sosai agano sai ataimaka ai irin sadakar da annabi yace tafi lada ayi da dama hagu bai sani ba.what do you think?😊

please the men on arewa matchmaker should either accept a request or just decline instead of leaving someone pending for weeks it is not nice at all you literally putting a part of someone's life on hold

Salamu alaikum. I hope this reaches you in the best of health. I want to know what people think. Ok this would be long so bear with me please. I am a 35 year old man with a wife and 3 kids, I am working with the government and earn handsomely Alhamdulillaah. I have never had a real love relationship with a lady since secondary school and I got married without doing such as well with my wife. So as I grew older up to this age, I've been having the urge to go into a real, honest, sincere and dedicated love relationship with a lady that some day inshaa Allaah will end up in marriage and this feeling/urge is as a result of me wanting to get a female partner that would stand as a friend, in fact my best friend and the compatibility should be there. Now mind you, I don't hate my wife nor do I want to part ways with her, but to sum up everything, we are not friends, I feel we are just husband and wife living together but that bond is not there, I give her her rights as a wife Alhamdulillaah but just the compatibility is not there and now that I am at this age, I need someone that I can have as a wife, best friend and compatible partner. Now I tried to adjust to the way she is but it's not working for me😥, I don't have any plans nor intentions of divorcing her as she's the mother of my kids and I want to keep being good to her. As for me, I just feel there's a huge gap in my heart that needs to be filled, I am a very emotional person and I feel I need a female best friend as a wife that I will share my emotional feelings with alone and would give her all my love as a best friend and a wife due to the compatibility and understanding that would be between us and I would also make her independent of my current family in separate locations if it's possible inshaa Allaah. Everytime I see married couples that are friends, I really feel like crying cuz that's what I feel I am missing. So I decided to try and see if I can get any buy unfortunately, the few ladies I have met were either after money or they wanted to get intimate, now I don't have a problem with that because I could control or check it but the fact that that is their priority, actually kills the vibe. So I was thinking what exactly the problem is, is it me that's the problem, if it's me, how do I solve it, or am living in a fantasy world or am I seeking too much, sometimes I even ask if what I want is even possible coupled with the fact that I have a family already and that's like a major turn off for ladies when they meet a man. Lately, I saw this lady on IG and I was actually infatuated but I really can't talk to her because a man with a family is a no no for most ladies these days, although I don't blame them because they might think he wants to just have me as a side chick and all as people say but I really wanted to give it a shot to see if it can work with her but then when I remember how these days ladies rush a man into marriage it kinda discourage me and Wallaahi whoever I get, it won't be my intention to waste her time whatsoever but she shouldn't rush me into marriage cuz I would really want to know her very well before making my decisions. Sometimes I feel I am asking for too much. So house, am I crazy or what? Please, advise me respectfully. Ma'assalam

slm yan gidan nan I have two guys in my life currently i was wt mr A since last 2yrs then suddenly Mr B came into my life after my dad passed away before I wasn't interested in Mr B bcoz it was like an arranged love(lol)so suddenly Mr A start losing interest on my bcoz he doesn't have money and stop contacting me bcoz he was struggling then suddenly Mr B start running on My head and All my family members knows about Mr B and wants me to marry him though I love him now and I am marry to marry him and Mr A has came back into my life again and want to win my love back while me and Mr B are going to be engaged soon and planning to get married 2024 Insha Allah so ku bani shawara how to tell Mr A about my relationship status

I was just scrolling through tiktok, when i saw this beautiful bride with her mom praying for her YAA ALLAH I you know more than anything I want to be married, ya Allah you alone know i have the purest intentions towards my partner. Ya Allah grant me a partner with deen and aqlaq

so i have this boyfriend that I really love him so much that i can't compare anything with him . so we went out together and he started touching me and I don't want to disgrace him there so I left him so we use to talk normal deh so he called me a certain day we talked everything was alright this guys hasn't called me since then it over a week now . note that I use to call him most of the time and sometimes he doesn't respond to my calls so this time I decide not to call him too . A friend of mine that knows him told me I'm a side chick 😭 and this guy is so perfect to my taste. pls what should I do ,should I call him and ask him what happened Neh

please kana tare da saurayi kana tambayanshi when zega iyayenka se yace wani abu kadan yake jira..mi hakan ke nufi ?