kamar month nawa ko shekara yakamata namiji ya tura parents nasa gidan su wacce yakeso??

I was just 13 yrs old when I started leaving with my aunt actually I was a boarding student that time so I was not always in the house only during holidays time passes and everything was well I was done with secondary school she has three sons so,after school I was always at home so her two sons were attempting to touch me every now and then and the heartbreaking part even her husband a person I consider my father before all that maybe she will get a maid and then the maid will tell her that her husband wants to sleep with the maid and then she will say the maid is blaming her husband and her husband can ever do that and I also believed and always would he do that then my day came as well and I told he I can't I am see him as a father and he kept on disturbing me I told him that I will tell his wife about his doings he told me even though I tell her she will not believe and the annoying part of the thing is he is not the only person even his sons are birds of the same feathers I did not have anyone to tell and on the other side is the pressure of marriage from my aunt. so a day came and I was tired I told my mom what was happening she told me I should continue to protect myself and I know she doesn't have a say cuz she is her elder sister and the worst part of thing is I don't have peace of mind in the house I know it's a family problem and no one can solve it for me please who ever come across this should help me with prayers cuz it's only prayers that can remove me from this situation After this whole incident that's after sallah this man entered my telling me cooperate with he and give myself and I told him that I was fasting and he said if he comes back from the his trip I told my mother that's instant she said I should go out of the house and hide I did what she said After that when nobody was at home my mom came over and she said I should get married and I said to found love is hard and some people is selfish and not all guys likes chubby girls and then if someone like me is not like or love is just I want to use your body. sometime if I sit and look my situation I just wish to be dead and sometimes try to run away or try to kill myself but I always say everything will be okay in sha Allah ☺️ sometime I think i am a burden to everyone the topic is always about me I don't want why I am the worst daughter my parents ever had that why they gave me away to someone but only Allah knows cuz at this point in time I feel everybody is fed-up with me like I am a burden to everyone that's how I feel cuz everybody want to get rid of me

How many people have gotten a match from the match making site? since I joined it is still same people I'm seeing everyday and then the new comers. Request are not being accepted also. The story never changed

ALAMOMIN DAREN LAILATUL QADRI : 𝐓𝐀𝐌𝐁𝐀𝐘𝐀❓ : Assalamu Alaikum malam Dan Allah meye alamomin lailatul qadar da falalarsa kuma Ya ake gane daren lailatul qadri? : 𝐀𝐌𝐒𝐀❗️ : Wa'alaikumus Salaam Warahmatallahi Wabarkatahu Allah ﷻ ya fifita wani dare a cikin watan Ramadan ya ba shi wata daraja da ɗaukaka ta musamman, kuma ya keɓance shi da wata falala ta musamman wadda bai bawa sauran darare ba, wannan kuma zaɓi ne da ganin dama ne daga gare shi maɗaukakin sarki, domin yana yin abin da ya ga dama a cikin halittarsa. Allah ya ce, “Daren Lailatul Qadari ya fi wata dubu alheri” (Alqadri : 3). Ma’ana aiki a cikin wannan dare ya fi aikin wata dubu ba a daren Lailatul Qadari ba. Allah Mai Girma Da Buwaya ya ce, “Aminci ne a cikinta har zuwa ɓullowa alfijir”. (Alqadri : 5) Ma’ana dukkan wannan dare alheri ne, babu wani sharri a cikinsa tun daga farkonsa har zuwa ɓullowa alfijir. Dare Ne Mai albarka. Allah Ya ce, “Haqiqa mun saukar da shi a cikin dare mai albarka. Haqiqa mu masu gargadi ne”. (Addukhan : 3). Abdullahi dan Abbas ya ce, “Yana nufin daren lailatul Qadri”. A Cikinsa Ne Aka Saukar Da Alkur'ani. Allah Yace “Haqiqa Mun saukar da shi a cikin daren Lailatul Qadri” (Alqadri : 1). A Cikinsa Ake Qaddara Dukkan Abubuwan Shekara, Allah ya ce, “A cikinsa ake rarrabe kowanne lamari abin hukuntawa” (Addukhan : 4). Allah ya ɓoye wannan dare don musulmi ya yi qoqari da himma a goman qarshe ta Ramadan, musamman ma a dararen da suke mara, waɗanda su ne daren 21, 23, 25, 27, 29, saboda faɗin Manzon Allah ( صلى الله عليه وسلم ) “Ku kintaci daren Lailatul Qadri a cikin marar goman qarshe ta Ramadan” [Bukhari da Muslim ne suka rawaito shi]. Wasu malamai sun yi bayanin cewa daren Lailatul Qadri yana yawo a tsakanin waɗannan darare (Wata shekarar wannan, wata shekarar wancan) saboda a yi aiki da dalilan da suka zo a kan haka baki ɗaya. 1 – Dare Ne Mai Haske, Babu Zafi Ko Sanyi A Cikinsa. An karbo daga Jabir ɗan Abdullahi – Allah ya yarda da shi – ya ce, “Haqiqa ni an nuna min daren Lailatul Qadri, sannan an mantar da ni shi, yana goman qarshe na Ramadan, dare ne babu sanyi ko zafi a cikinsa, kuma mai haske ne, ba zafi ba sanyi (mai cutarwa acikinsa)” [Ibn Khuzaima ne ya rawaito shi]. 2 – Rana Tana Fitowa Da Safiyar Daren Fara Tas Ba Haske Tare Da Ita. Yayin da aka tambayi Ubayyu dan Ka’abu – Allah ya yarda da shi – a kan alamomin daren Lailatul Qadri, sai ya ce, “Alamar da Manzon Allah ( صلى الله عليه وسلم ) ya ba mu labari ita ce, rana tana ɓullowa a wannan rana babu haske tare da ita” [Tirmizi ne ya rawaito shi]. Manzon Allah ( صلى الله عليه وسلم ) ya ce, “Wanda ya yi tsayuwa daren Lailatul Qadri yana mai imani da neman lada, an gafarta masa abin da ya gabata na zunubansa” [Bukhari da Muslim ne suka rawaito shi]. An karbo daga Aisha – Allah ya yarda da ita – ta ce, na ce, ya Rasulallahi, idan na dace da daren Lailatul Qadri, me zan yi addu’a da shi? Sai ya ce, ki ce; اللّٰهُمَّ إِنَّكَ عَفُوٌّ تُحِبُّ الْعَفْوَ فَاعْفُ عَنِّيْ “Allahumma Innaka Afuwwun Tuhibbul Afwa Fa’afu Anni*” Ma’ana “Ya Allah kai mai afuwa ne, kana son afuwa, ka yi min afuwa” [Tirmizi ne ya rawaito shi]. Allah ne mafi sani.

karin haske akan mutumin dayagama azimi ba sabon Allah yayi yagode wa Allah kuma yaroka yafiya Allah yayafemasa Akan zunubansa dayakeyi and then angama azimi tunkan aje sitta shawwal ya aikata zina yakuke gani

Am i the only one thinking that hamisu breaker isn't the one?

salam alaikum guys,so when someone tells me he's in love I used to laugh because I never really believed in love sometimes I just get into relationships for fun and killing of time I used to wonder if I would ever find someone that I really love to the extend I will think of getting married here I am madly in love with my ex closest friend who has a girlfriend though he doesn't really love the girl but he's still dating her and most of the people he knows likes him with the girlfriend but I'm really obsessed with him and I feel I can't leave her for him most especially when I see him with her I've done a lot of prayers and I've even gotten more closer to me god I'm depressed because of him and I feel I can do anything to get him my friends are trying to make me leave him but it's not just working the obsession keeps increasing every day I really need advice what should I do it's really affecting my mental health I was taken to the hospital and the doctor said I have anxiety disorder and I'm sure it's because of him

Sallah is coming and i was thinking of buying sallah cloth for my gf wasu sunce mun qara in bayar da kudi. What do you think? (Girls/Women) Kudi da Kayan Sallah wanne kuka fi so???

Cont'd After being assigned to teach the secondary section Islamic Religious Studies,I made a resolve within myself to keep whatever hidden feelings I had for Aisha at bay . I'm her teacher now ,I need to be professional as possible. I can't allow some stupīd feeling ruin my job for me. The first time I walked into her class to teach I managed to keep a straight face and I didn't even look at her direction . Soon we began interacting , just greeting and things like that . Everything was going smoothly till the day of vacation,I sat with a fellow female teacher discussing ,she came by and collected the teacher's number,she's good friends with the teacher . I tried my best to look casual and not bothered by her presence . Later that day ,at night around 7, I was watching movies at home when a boy came into our house and said my friend is calling me outside . I was wondering which of my friends would that be ,stepping outside ..... I saw Aisha ,for the first few seconds I lost my train of thought and almost stammered . What are you doing here ,what if someone sees us ? Different questions floated into my head at the same time but I couldn't find the voice to say it out. We greeted and she said she just wanted to have my number . I gave it to her and went back home wondering what the hell is happening. The next night I received a call from a strange number , I picked it and heard her voice,we talked,I asked her about school, we were just beating about the bush for nearly Five minutes until she told me ,she wanted to collect my number in school but she didn't want to attract anyone's attention . We kept on talking till she hit the nail in the coffin,she told me she likes me ,she doesn't want my reply now ,that I should think about it . My heart started beating, relationship or my work ? The next day I had already made up my mind .I picked up the phone ready to tell her what's on my mind before I chickened out . To be continued -M-

Sometimes I wonder if certain things happen for a reason or we are just facing the consequences of our actions... I am a 25 year old lady who life is currently dealing with(relationship wise), Well here is the story. I was supposed to get married this year but then I don't think that will be happening anymore. Before all this drama I have been unlucky in relationships there was always something wrong with the relationship or he was one of those guys who wanted something else... ps I've made my own fare share of mistakes too but I've learnt from them... fast forward to the present I'm not sure if it was love I felt for this person or if I mistake the feelings I had for love or if I was just desperate to be in a relationship like everyone else at the time. I was going through a though time few years back and he was just there for me and then we got close and started a relationship again( I've know him before and at that time he was not someone I wanted to date at all) this time it was different and well not bad but I didn't know if it was love or not but I went ahead with the relationship. 2 years later he wanted us to get married and I was okay with it even though it didn't feel like a good or bad idea I was just there feeling plenty things at once... I sha wanted to get married so... they came to fix date and all that and for some reasons it got postponed twice now I am very i don't want to get married but families are now involved by the way this person has previous issues attached to cheating, lies and lacks boundaries with other women and is generally insecure about my friendships outside the relationship.However, he has begged and apologized severally and says he has Changed but I can't get over the fact that he did all those things and I doubt him all the time... I once cheated in the relationship and I didn't lie about it and he forgave my own mistake. but even after I still moved on and looked past all this he still does it again and still begged when I found out. But all this cheating and lying aside he loves me and tries to make me happy even when I'm not being so nice...Does this make me a bad person that I am unable to let go and trust him again? Anyway I have decided to not go ahead with the marriage because I feel I might regret my decision also because I don't think I love this person enough to want to get into something as serious as marriage but then all these thoughts and feelings are not going away even after I have prayed. So do I over look all the flaws and mistakes in the relationship and focus on the love he has for me and maybe I might be able to reciprocate after marriage or not but if you are in my shoes will you proceed with all these or just move on???

My marriage is just months, and I am pregnant I am Yoruba by tribe so is my husband When we we're courting I got to know he has a very big extended family where is mom is the 3rd wife... I came from a family where it is only my mum and dad and we were brought up with lots of Islamic knowledge and ways.... Few months to the wedding I told him I am not interested because I am afraid of his family, I don't think I can deal with the stress of a big Yoruba family in which he is the only Sunni among them ...... He begged me not to worry and even said we won't be living in the same state as they are so as to avoid the drama, he gave me lots of assurance But it is not it anymore I love my husband and he loves me But with the family trouble I feel I can't stay in this marriage I got lots of scenarios and I noticed my husband doesn't have a say in the family, even though he talks about what he wants or not he is always not answered 1. He said he doesn't want any singing and dancing during the wedding in their own house.... His mum said that he is the first born and she have never had a wedding they had the singing and dancing, he had to pack his friends to another place 2. He said he doesn't want the Yoruba ritual of performing ablution when they bring the wife home, I was told to do it and I had no choice... And this moments I knew what I entered My MIL calls my husband and says there is one wedding or that wedding I am suppose to go and he tells me..... I had to stop it by telling them I am working , in the space of 8 months I only went for 1 wedding .. When I got pregnant my husband told his mum She was happy Early Ramadan I was calling all my in-laws to say Barka for Ramadan shocking for me everyone is asking me how I was feeling and how am I faring ( I am shocked and sad ni dai in my house we don't say anything about pregnancy until when people see it, just like what the prophet said) I wanted to talk to him about it, but it will be as if I am attacking his mum, since it is his mum that is telling them, I asked someone that is also in an extended family she. Said that is how it is done. My siblings came to stay for the holiday, he told his mum, his aunt called me when school resumed that when are my siblings leaving .. I was shocked cuz must you tell them everything The worst of all is that He told me I am going to give birth in my MIL house that is not my problem, but the problem is they do ritual again, a woman that just gave birth is not allowed to eat salt, sugar or maggi until after 7 days WTF I asked him, he said I will talk to my mum about that But it just for talking sake I will just have to through this trauma too Sorry for the long post But this is it I am not use to this life style I am used to the lifestyle of me my family and few people I feel I knew I can't talk to my husband because it will be as if I am attacking his family So I thinking after delivering my baby I am walking out of this marriage But I don't know if it worth it Please advice me 😭😭😭 I didn't even tell my husband my exact pregnancy month because he said I will have to go to my MIL place on my 8th Month I am open to counselling and therapy if someone feels I am over reacting

following the kind of pains i'm going through, life has shown me shege

Choosing the wrong life partner might be due to family pressure, pair group or the society. Dear She/He, this is a lifetime matter. No matter the pressure you're in, endure it till the right time comes. Better marry late than wrong. Rush in = Rush out. keep praying especially in this Month of Barakah. I pray Allah Accept the silent prayer's of each & every one.

Haka kawai saurayina yadaina daga wayata banyi masa komaiba yaxanyi dashi please

I was 18,fresh out of secondary school with high expectations and hopes for my future . I started a teaching job so that I can have something to do while waiting for admission into higher institution. All my life ,I've never ever fallen in love ,I get scared by the thought of it,at that age I couldn't look at a girl eye to eye and have a normal conversation,not even my female classmates ,I was that shy . There was this certain girl, a few streets away from my house, we don't talk or share anything in common ,they normally pass our house when going to Islamic School in the evening. For the sake of privacy I'll refer to her as Aisha . The first time I met Aisha was when I was in Ss2, my school and hers had a football match . My mind was on the action going on in the field when I heard someone tapped me from my back . A girl came behind me and said someone wants to talk to me,she pointed at a small clique of girls sitting ,In their midst was Aisha. My mind started beating, I tried to pay attention on the football match but my focus was clouded . I left the field and went back to class , berating myself for not having the guts to accept her invitation. Two years later, I found myself teaching in the same school she is attending. Luckily for me I was given primary class to teach while she is in secondary. For the first week I couldn't see her in the school, I subtly asked my younger brother who's also attending the Same school if she's still attending the school. He said yes that it's because the session just started that's why . The next week I was outside observing the assembly when Aisha walked in and casually joined the queue . Everything was going okay till our eyes met,then the second time ,then the third . I looked away and walked back to the staff room . I tried to avoid her by all means. Some days later ,the school director called me into his office ,he asked if I can teach Islamic Religious Studies to the secondary as their Former teacher had left and I'm the only Muslim teacher in the school. I gladly accepted. Walking back to class ,reality of the situation dawned on me ..... I'll have to face Aisha , and worst teach her ....(to be continued) -M-

Pls how can a person know if a lady is a virgin or not?

Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Remember often the destroyer of pleasures: death.” Source: Sunan al-Tirmidhī 2307 Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Al-Nawawi Anas reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Remember often the destroyer of pleasures: death. Verily, no one living a hard life remembers it but that it expands his contentment, nor one living in prosperity but that it constricts his vain hopes.” Source: Musnad al-Bazzār 6987 Ibn Umar reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Remember often the destroyer of pleasures: death. Verily, no one living with plenty does so but that it diminishes his vain hopes, nor one living with little but that it increases his hope in Allah.” Source: al-Mu’jam al-Awsaṭ lil-Ṭabarānī 5780 May Allah guide us all and make us amongst the inhabitants of jannatul firdaus

Abu Sa’id al-Khudri reported: The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Whoever recites Surat al-Kahf on Friday, a light will shine for him between this Friday and the next.” Source: al-Sunan al-Kubrá lil-Bayhaqī 5996 Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Al-Albani Abu Darda reported: The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Whoever memorizes ten verses from the beginning of Surat al-Kahf will be immune to the False Messiah(Dajjal)". In another narration, the Prophet said, “From the last ten verses of Surat al-Kahf.” Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 809 Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Muslim

I wanted to ask , is it possible for shyness to be too much ? Am often told am too shy and I should reduce it , And that how can I get married if am being this shy ? This is what alot tell me . I don't really like going out except it's for going to visit my relatives or seeking knowledge because of how shy I am , I don't look at people much ( females ) not to even talk of men , even when am with my friends , am still very shy . Or at times when I see someone I know , even when am wearing my niqab I feel shy to talk to them not to talk of me not wearing the niqab , but Alhamdullilah I muster the courage to say Salam because it's what our religion teaches . Even talking alot of times when am with people , I feel so shy to talk much except when absolutely necessary if not I just smile and listen to them . Shyness is part of Iman Alhamdullilah , May Allah bless us all and increase us in goodness and guide us to the straight path . But I wanted to ask , can shyness be too much ?

I work in healthcare,this lady I plan on marrying we are in a long distance relationship. I work till evening and we normally chat during the night. we didn't talk during the day this certain day and we had a quarrel . I recently had promotion and I'm having a hard time creating time for talk during the day except at night.I'd like to know if I was the one in the wrong here . Here's the chat [4/4, 5:47 PM] My World: amore [4/4, 5:47 PM] My World: 😔 [4/4, 6:51 PM] My World: Iftar Mubarak ife [4/4, 7:18 PM] Me: Baby [4/4, 7:18 PM] Me: Thank you [4/4, 7:22 PM] My World: You're too busy to even say hi tunsafe [4/4, 7:22 PM] My World: Haka akeyi? [4/4, 7:24 PM] Me: Sorry Not my fault [4/4, 7:27 PM] My World: My fault? [4/4, 7:27 PM] Me: Nope but understand [4/4, 7:28 PM] My World: Hmmm [4/4, 7:32 PM] Me: What brought hmmm here now [4/4, 7:32 PM] My World: You now [4/4, 7:33 PM] My World: Instead of apologising properly you're saying "sorry not your fault [4/4, 7:33 PM] Me: Apologize? [4/4, 7:33 PM] Me: For working ? [4/4, 7:33 PM] My World: Yes [4/4, 7:33 PM] Me: Wait you expect me to chat like before ? [4/4, 7:33 PM] Me: Do you even know what I was doing ? [4/4, 7:34 PM] Me: You can't even ask me how was work [4/4, 7:34 PM] My World: Sorry Mr busy no vex [4/4, 7:34 PM] My World: Bye [4/4, 7:34 PM] Me: Good night Two days later [4/6, 8:09 AM] My World: Sannu [4/6, 8:12 AM] My World: Pompous [4/6, 8:58 AM] My World: You sent this to me yourself but i don't have it anymore.......you said no man can be too busy with the woman he loves . ,and that's just the fact .there's no way you'll be too busy from morning till night that you won't be able to say a word to the person you claimed to love,even if you owns the place ..hmmm ,i told you the night before that day that I'll be done with *****(a computer school), but what did you do?no call no messages throughout the day ?have i ever treated you that way?or because I'm not working and you felt you're the busy one here do you know how busy my schedule's are?or you think in a relationship you only talk at your convenience time ? You were saying was i expecting you to chat me like before?like you just started this week?of course it's almost 2 weeks since he left and we've been talking so you didn't start that day,you were saying that i couldn't ask how your day went ,did you ask about my day too?or you're the only human here,you only think of yourself, our cousin's son had accident that day and killed someone, did you ask of my day?but just trying to talk to you you started talking like you're talking to your child ,you feel this relationship you can do what ever you like and I'll be just there accepting every shit you bring .no I'm not desperate, you can't treat me anyhow you like and expect me to just sit back [4/6, 8:58 AM] My World: If you're done just say it ,not attitude [4/6, 9:42 AM] Me: We were talking normal, we talked in the morning,I happened to be busy that certain day. I wasn't free till in the evening,I replied your messages, you asked me is this how it's done I apologized and said it wasn't my fault ,I asked you to understand. Do I normally go the whole day like that without chatting ? You went ahead with it , asking me to apologize ’properly’, I asked you apologize because I was busy at work ? You got angry and I got angry too and said goodbye . How did I talk to you like a child?for all the times you've had to go off for a reason or the other I've never asked you to apologize or something like that. I get it You had a rough day,I should have reminded earlier about ****** but there's nothing wrong if you had simply told me about your day and reminded about ******* as I tend to forget easily . I was the calm one that day ,I apologized but you kept on pushing it till I couldn't take it.