Before I start I'd like to say "yes I know I'm wrong " . So, approximately a year ago, I met this lady on Facebook, I made a comment on a certain page,she saw it and decided to message me . We started talking,it was solely based on friendship and nothing more nothing else. She told me she's depressed,my comments usually make her laugh and shed like us to be friends. But as time went on feelings started developing in both us. We chat almost all the time and we stay in the same state . However, before anything even started I noticed somethings were off about her, I went to her timeline on Facebook and noticed some things I would consider as red flags but as it is in my nature I always like to think good of things and I gave her the benefit of doubt . The relationship started,i fell in love ,so hard like I've never felt before. We met after a month,she would come to my work place and bring lunch for me. I felt I found my soulmate . However,I noticed a few things were off about her, she doesn't want to meet my colleagues and she doesn't want me to introduce her to anyone close to me . She requested that I shouldn't call unless she calls me first, and she doesn't normally chat anything after 9, I thought maybe it's due to the rule of their house. She also tried all means to avoid me coming to her house to see her parents Nevertheless, I shrugged all of it away . This certain day we met at a restaurant we normally converge regularly,I noticed a few things were off about her . That night she told me she wants to make a confession,that I should forgive . I was thinking maybe it's because she didn't pick my call that evening or something. What she told me shattered my system. She confessed to me that she's married, she's staying with her husband and they have two kids. I was shell shocked . She told me how her husband use to treat her badly and all the things happening between them,how she nearly committed suicide one time . Common sense said I should have ended things ,but problem was I had already fallen madly in love with her and I don't want to run away and leave her with the monster she described to me . She gave me assurance that they'll soon get divorced and we can start planning about our future. I knew it was wrong,I saw myself as her knight in shining armor,I felt it was a sacrifice worth making,I just need to endure until they she ended things with her husband. We continued communicating and meeting in secret . Everything about the relationship was forbidden but I have to confess I've never fallen in love with anyone like I did with her. As they say, people can't really hide their true character forever, the infidelity aside I noticed she has anger issues, she's ungrateful , I frequently buy gifts and things for her ,whenever I don't it becomes an issue. I noticed she never accepts her fault and She's very good at manipulating her wrongs into right and turning the tides on me. As always I'll apologize and let things slide. The relationship kept on going with no sign of changes, I felt disturbed but I kept on with it. It reached to a point where I could no longer continue,I couldn't sleep in peace , I was always deep thoughts. I confided a friend about everything and he opened my eyes to things . I was being manipulated and used right from the beginning. I decided to end things with her ,I explained things to her bit by bit and how it's affecting me ,I couldn't continue with that relationship if she can't end things. I told her I still loved her and I will be there when she's ready. She showed no sign of care ,remorse or anything. In fact she just made it look I'm the one who was playing her and she's the victim. I ended things there and I never looked back . It was a draining experience for me and a life lesson. I'm asking for God's forgiveness everyday . Its a trauma I'll have to live with for the rest of my life.
Jul 23, 12:22 PM
please what's your opinion on checking habiby's phone
Jul 23, 12:02 PM
dan Allah mutum zai iya shan rubutu wai dan yasamu mijin aure wlh I'm confused
Jul 22, 04:50 PM
Slm pls I just finished sch recently and I've been thinking of a business to do that won't consume much of my time by going out always because gaskiya am hoping for a marriage life that I'll have time for my family. pls advise me on any kind of because I can do as a lady da yake tafiya sosai.
Jul 22, 11:47 AM
I and my bf met last year, everything goes well that I introduced him to my family and he did the same, kafin nayi accepting nashi yace he is still a student and still hustling, so shi mai karamin karfi ne, I still accept him that way saboda arziki na Allah ne sai daga baya yake bani hakuri akan ya min Karya that he studied abroad and works with federal government, seriously karyan ya min zafi, I was like if he tells me the truth will I love him for what he has? but forgave him and life goes on, life goes on and started to borrow money from me duk da Yana daukan salary ban San me yake Yi da kudi ba, Kuma wlh ko kyautan 1k Bai taba min ba, Haka nake basa in ya tambaya thinking that zai bani since he has the source, Amma shiru, nazo Ina bukatan kudin in nayi magana sai yyi fushi, sometimes he blocks and unblocks me kullum cikin Yi min alkawarin da bbu Ranan cikawa, yazo ya daina Kira na sai ya ga dama, online sai ya hau baya min reply, Ni Kam sai ganin ikon Allah nake, Wai a hakan he wants to marry me, halayya kala kala, I have hundreds of reason to say no to him but ended up giving him another chance two days back I ended the relationship because all my efforts to make it fruitful is useless he does what he felt is right. shine yazo Yana ta min habaici a status Wai na yaudare shi, Dan Allah meye laifi na wlh the pains he made me go through is unimaginable, wasu abubuwan bazan iya fada ba saboda munin sa.... wlh maza irinsu su ke Bata was sauran mazan suna, right now I have many proposals but my mindset keep telling me that duk daya suke duk da nasan cewa akwai na gari, true love don't exist nowadays, I am trying so hard to adjust and start life afresh but I still think about him, but in Sha Allah I believe that one day I will delete him from my memory..... Ni da soyayya munyi hannun Riga 😂😂💔
Jul 22, 10:58 AM
Dukkan Dan Adam Mai sabo ne mafi alkairin masu sabo shine mia tuba. Na ga an tattauna akan cin bashi daga wasu manhajoji, sai nayi mamaki yadda abin ya zama kamar babu komai, sai kawai mu cewa kanmu lalura ce kuma muyiwa kanmu izinin cin kudin ruwa. Kudin ruwannan shine Allah Ya ce Mai cin shi ya shirya yaki daShi a kiyama. Ya kamata muyi kokarin lura da kyau mu kuma Kara sanin addininmu, Dan wannan ba abin wasa bane, ko da mai unguwarku aka ce za kuyi yaki ai ba abin wasaa bane ballantana da Rabbil Izzati kuma a taron kiyama. Kuma mu sani kudin riba rushe dukiya yake komai daren-dadewa. Allah Ya warware mana Ya hore juriya da karfin Imani.
Jul 21, 11:43 AM
I am finding it very difficult to fall in love and I don't know why, it's been good 3 years now that we've splitted with my Ex and since then I've never fall for any man and honestly I don't have feelings for my Ex though. what I felt to understand is that is it that my feelings are faded or I don't get the man I like yet. can any one help with advice?
Jul 19, 11:38 PM
SIRRIN MAGANIN MATSALOLIN ISTIMNA'I Gameda magance matsalar Istimna'i wato namiji yadinga wasada zakarinsa Harya biyawa kansa bukata wato har yakawo Mace kuma tariƙa sanya yatsunta afarjinta kowani abu daban domin tagamsar dakanta masu wannan aiki aɓangaren maza da mata mafiya matasane sunayine dan gujewa zina saboda sunada matsananciyar sha'awa kuma yin hakan haramne sannan yanada illoli masu yawan gaske ga maiyi mace ko namiji Rashin ƙarfin gaban namiji yakasa gamsarda iyalinsa Ramewa mara jin magani Ɗaukewa mace ni'ima da sha'awa Akwai matsaloli dadama Amma ga maganin Insha allahu Asamu Fasa kwari Da Tafarnuwa Da Masoro Da Kanumfari Da Jan kajiji Da Kulla Da Citta mai ƴaƴa Sai adakasu atankaɗe Sai ahaɗa dagarin zogale Dagarin ganyen magarya Amma waɗancan abubuwa Chokali 3 za'asa garin zogala dana magarya sukuma kowane chokali 5 za'asa sai acha kuɗasu Sai akwaɓa da zuma mara haɗi ariƙasha chokali 2 safeda yamma koda dare to insha allahu za'asamu lafiya izini salati 10 ga rasulillahi saw, Allah y bawa kowa lfya Amin.
Jul 19, 08:25 PM
Assalama Alaikum.. ya Salam😭💔Jama'a naga Abu..saboda sakaci Koh mene zanci ace wai diyarka tayi ciki har ya Kai 8 months Baka sani ba💔💔💔😭😭Innalillahi wa'inna Ilaihi Raji'uun Kai Allah ka yafe min😭Can you imagine matar nan diyar ta cikinta tayi ciki har ya Kai 8 months 3 weeks Amman bata sani ba sai kawarta ta kula..Dan Allah iyayi adinga kula dan Allah 😭
Jul 19, 06:02 PM
Assalamualaikum Wani Abu ne yake damuna wallahi, I want to talk on online loan apps" wallahi bashi masifa ne once ka fara amsan bashi shikenan sai ya bi maka jiki especially those online apps, I'm a victim and har yanzu na kasa overcoming. Idan kana neman taimako na kudi babu me taimaka maka sai kaci bashi kuma mutane suyi ta maka surutu wai me yakaika chin bashi well, some of us lalura ce take samu chin bashi we have no other option except for the online loan apps. A Instagram na fara ganin advert and something in me start telling me I should apply coz I'm in serious need, mind you the interest is very high I borrowed 26k and I'm paying back 34700 almost 8k interest, at first bai dameni ba coz I'm in need sai da lokacin biyan kudi yayi, could you believe sai dana kara chin wani bashin from different app sannan na iya biya. that's how abin ya fara yanzu jarin ma banda shi saboda na gama kwashe kudin na biya bashi. I'm telling this saboda mutane su bi a hankali da wadannan online loan apps
Jul 19, 02:23 PM
I am a male, mid 30s not married and quiet doing fine. I thank God for having a lot of my life together but I am getting bothered from sexual feeling that are distracting me and making me do things that i usually wouldn't do. I am sick of it and tired. I am really sick of it and i wish to get rid of it permanently. Any suggestions please. Thanks.
Jul 19, 10:57 AM
you and your best friend planned an outing and you dressed on that day did everything then you call him/her and they'll say they've relocated to another country?
Jul 19, 07:39 AM
Kawai a gina mana bandakuna na WANKAN KAR TA KWANA domin zamu koma kekuna ne pa. Kunga kam lamarin sai da wanka. can you ride a 🚴 for an hour trip in these sunny days ?
Jul 18, 12:16 PM
I have a fiancé ,he is average in deen ,and very brutally honest . I talked to him about stopping his interactions to his female friends after marriage yace abun ne mai wuya ya daina. Is it sth I should be worried about? The crazy thing is this man doesn't feel guilty about it . I'm scared . My brother introduced us , we clicked and got parents involved .When he told me he has 'chicks' I did my best since the beginning of the relationship to show him it is haraam for him to establish relationships with women who are “strangers” to him unless with in purpose of marriage . Please does talking to many girls makes him a womenizer . Should I break up the engagement. My sister told me even her husband has girlfriends not girlfriend ma 😭 Wai it's the new normal. By Allah I love this Man so much but What I don't understand is they want me to close my eyes and choose a person who knowingly wants to go astray as the father, and role model for my future children🥹. Ni rashin guilt din na damu na.
Jul 17, 11:42 PM
Assalamualaikum. Ladies and Gentleman good evening how's work may Allah help us Amin. Please my dear people i want you to help me with an advice on what to do i found my self in a situation where by i need women like i want marry becouse this i didn't understand myself at all. Ina shiga cikin wani yanayi da ni kadai nasan irin halin da nake ciki Inason aure saboda na isa auren to amma matsalar duk lokacin dana nemi wata yarinya da sunan aure sai an samu wata matsala hakan ya kawo dalilin rabuwarmu and mostly the problems is not from me or the ladies no it's i have two on ground now the grandfather of the girl say they'll not give me the girl to marry her father and mother and their relatives like me but the granfa says no and the can't go against his command now i have to leave that one. Getting another one the girl like me like tomorrow no dey and the mother of the girl too like me the problem with this other is that babanta yayiwa wani dan kanwarsa alkawarin yarinyar duk da cewa ita yarinyar bata so amma baban yaci gaba da insisting i even call him on phone and ask for his permission to send for introduction mutumin nan yace a a ai sun riga sun gama magana a kanta dan haka inyi hakuri duk da cewa yarinyar tace in kwantar da hankalina ni take so dan haka ba wanda zai aura wancan tunda bata sonshi amma gsky abun yana bani tsoro gashi kullum bukatar yin auren karuwa take Alhamdulillah 🥰🙏 Allah subhanahu wata'ala ya tsare ni ban taba zina ba kuma In shaa Allah har karshen rayuwata ba zanyi ba amma gsky ina cikin yanayi. Am so sorry 😔 for the long typing 🥸 endeavour to read and advice your fellow brother. Thanks may Allah bless us all.
Jul 16, 05:44 PM
If you were to given the option of choosing between a stingy man and a womanizer for marriage ,which will you pick( with reasons)?
Jul 16, 12:22 PM
Never settle for someone who treats you like a backup plan. Someone who puts you second instead of making you a first priority. Never settle for someone who picks and chooses when to answer your texts. Someone who makes you wait for a reply. Never settle for someone who tells you how much you mean to them, but never proves it. Someone who says all of the right things, but never does the right things. You should never be treated like a second choice. You should never be a part of the background. An afterthought. You should be the first and only person they think about when they wake up in the morning. You should be the person they can't wait to see, the person they're eager to text back. Wait for someone who shows up on time. Someone who follows through on their promises. Wait for someone who calls you up to deliver good news, because you're the first person they thought of telling. Someone who makes an effort to include you in their life. Wait for someone who has an actual interest in what you have to say, not someone who wants you to be quiet so they can talk about their day. Not someone who is secretly thinking about other things while you speak. Wait for someone who makes it clear they care about you, that they're willing to commit to you. Please, never settle for someone who puts you second, because you deserve to be a first priority. YOU DESERVE GOOD LOVE. ☝🏻❤️
Jul 16, 11:57 AM
which of these defaults can you accept in a Partner Snoring Sex addiction Bad cook Laziness Non chalant attitude Body odour Mouth odour 👀👀
Jul 15, 10:39 AM
Kuna gani ya kamata ango yai changing SIM Card in ya tare?! sometimes mata akan masu changing.
Jul 14, 10:20 PM
What’s the most important quality you want in a partner? What’s your love language? Have you ever been in love?
Jul 14, 09:31 PM
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