why do Abuja guys think it's okay for them to just invite a lady to their place?
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Anonymous Oct 18, 01:09 PM

why do Abuja guys think it's okay for them to just invite a lady to their place? 1

I'm not an Abuja babe, however I do stay in Abuja sometimes. I've met a few guys here in Abuja, mostly on social media, they seem nice then as the conversations start getting deep my guy will now say I should come to his place mu yi hira and mind you he doesn't even know me well enough to know whether or not I'm "that kind of girl", and I don't dress anyhow o I'm always in my Abaya. Wallahi there's this person I started talking to, respectable looking person and mature too. I told him I'm in Abuja, we exchanged contacts and all I was blushing thinking maybe I found my future husband😂 he gave me a call and we talked fine and the next thing that came out of my niggas mouth was that he would do Uber for me in zo wajen shi mu yi hira😳 on the first day we started talking o!! Honestly ayam tired, I find it very disrespectful Wallahi. What's this wayward behavior? Mutum na murna thinking an hadu da responsible guy then suddenly sai ka ce in zo wajen ka? Haba! It's a HUGE TURN-OFF, you guys should stop this nonsense please. But come o, why do they actually think it's okay to just invite a lady they don't even know to their place? Is it an "Abuja" thing? I mean where are our Morals as Muslims? Where's our Hausa/Fulani cultural teachings? Our ancestors must be rolling in their graves right now!😤
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Anonymous #1 Oct 18, 01:37 PM
😁 I no dey abj so how fa
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Anonymous #4 Oct 18, 01:57 PM

if u cant say anything substantial, just keep quiet she is serious not joking
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Zee Abdul Oct 18, 02:12 PM

if you cant make a relevant comment just leave.
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Zee Abdul Oct 18, 02:14 PM
Well, its unfortunate as i have heard this multiple times. Its among the signs of the end times, Zina will spread and people will not be shameful of it. So abun se dai Addu'a Just block them once they hint this type of things, and hope to meet someone responsible. but note that most of those guys on social media dama yan iska ne. especially masu bin mata ta DM and all that.
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Anonymous #4 Oct 18, 02:19 PM
why not start dealing with them? The one that asked you t come with an uber, you should have let him sent it, then just ignore and leave him with the uber guy. irin start dealing with the fools. Also its better you avoid men on social media
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Anonymous #2 Oct 18, 05:05 PM
I think among other reasons, a key one is the rampant trooping of ladies into Abuja for bariki. As an average well doing guy in Abuja, one faces numerous advances from ladies on a daily basis and surprisingly majority of these girls look normal 'home girls' that one would think they are responsible but ina. There are normal irresponsible guys and also ladies to match. So, when one constantly encounters the bad ones which I strongly believe are the majority, one becomes accustomed to seeing every lady as a potential bad girl; you will be surprised the ones that turn down such requests are very very few. It's actually a f**d up place and I will never recommend someone to seek to find a potential spouse on the streets here.
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Ahmad Aysha Oct 18, 06:39 PM
This issue is not just in Abuja, is every where Allah ya sa mudace kawai
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Anonymous #3 Oct 18, 10:59 PM

reading this just breaks my heart but it's the bitter truth. what then will happen to the good and Innocent ladies that spent all their life in Abuja, any guy you come across just wants to spend time with you. The thing just tire me. Ebi like say na to pack bag and relocate to another part of the country 🥺😂.
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Musa Abdullahi Oct 19, 11:44 AM
the thing is Abuja is a center with all sorts of people. majority are not indigenous people of Abuja, so they use that opportunity since their relatives are not their to do bad things. when they intend to get married kuma they'll go back to their state and do that. so abuja is not a suitable place to find a husband or wife.
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Muhammad Musa Muhammad Oct 19, 02:22 PM
it's normal a wajan 'yar bariki but total madness ne, Kuma bbu responsible man da zai fada Miki hk. haka bbu responsible woman da zata saurari irin wannan mutane.
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Anonymous #5 Oct 19, 04:18 PM
absolutely nema same happened to me yan Abuja (wasu)maganar Allah sai ahankali you guys seriously need to change 😩
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Anonymous #2 Oct 19, 06:55 PM

It's unfortunate actually. There are always exceptions though and what I believe strongly is like what the Qur'an has stated - The good are for the good and the bad are for the bad. But for me on a good day when I meet a lady here in Abuja and she tells me she's here visiting her aunty or uncle I can't help but fit her into the stereotype because that's how majority of them claim but meanwhile they are just here to do bariki and go back.
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Anonymous #2 Oct 19, 06:56 PM

Depends on who you are and where you go.
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Anonymous #3 Oct 19, 07:22 PM

yeah the Qur'an has said it all,and what is meant for you will always meet you where ever you are. lets not judge a book by its cover. I grew and was brought up in Abuja, with the above, my heart is at ease knowing that Allah is in control of everything!
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Anonymous #4 Oct 20, 05:46 AM

well, i see
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Ayeeshar ummi Oct 22, 01:15 PM

Ok,but you can't conclude that abuja is not a suitable place to find a partner. The people that are engaging their self in those acts are there and the ones that don't are also there. Please don't generalize it.
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Ayeeshar ummi Oct 22, 01:26 PM
My dear sister I was born and brought up in abuja, all my life has been in abuja just few states that i have travelled to. I want you to believe that it is who you associate yourself with and where you go to that matters, someone said the same to me when I was in zaria and minna but I won't generalize it at all the guys there. And also IT IS NOT AN ABUJA THING IT IS AN IRRESPONSIBLE GUY THING.thank you.
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Bashabdul0 Oct 29, 07:04 AM
is not only an abuja thing.. this is common within our youth everywhere within the nation. most of us have adopt cultures outside our own, thinking is a way to be part of the trend and civilization. you met someone today and tomorrow the conversation changes to this and that.
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Nabila d muhammed Nov 9, 06:11 AM
Is just to common in abuja
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Danmsani Nov 10, 09:21 PM
Ni i feel girls from the other beliefs suka saba musu shine kawai
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