Strict parents!!
Anonymous Oct 25, 06:45 PM

Strict parents!! 1

can we pls talk about strict parent? they've done more harm than good to the society, Iam a victim. Iam 22 years old and Iam just about to start uni, I've got admission 2 times at Cotonou which I was denyed to go by my mom bcos of what people will say and what people have been saying, note- she was the one that brought the idea at first which I put my all in it to gain admission but latter changed her mind for only God knows why, yes I have lapses which every human being does, I can't be 100% but Iam 80% when it comes to obeying my mom bcos haka ta hani ne auren saurayina bcos Dan Niger ๐Ÿ‡ณ๐Ÿ‡ช ne, I grew up with a single mom, despite my dad being alive he was never there he's rich and from a very rich family which my mom is middle class, he never payed my fees my granddad from moms side did the everything since I was young (rip), mamata tasa Na shiga wani hali a yanzu haka... I use to be chubby but wallahi Iam slim now duk na lalace bcos Iam emotionally down, I have heart problem which she knows and I got it through being depressed and overthinking Iam the only child but I don't knw why my mental health doesn't matter to her....wallhi nayi kuka harna gaji๐Ÿ’”,anytime I try talking to her she never listens Sai tace bana da hankali wai hakan ya kamata Dan Allah? what if Na shiga wani irin Hali zuciya ta kaine ga barin gida? 80% of girls that are outside wallahi is coz of parent, yanzu 1months kenan inata rokon ta to let me travel bcos Gaskia I wanna be away for sometime but taki yarda babu abunda banye ba, she even said nayi abunda zanyi ta gani๐Ÿ’”๐Ÿ˜ญ, Iam emotionally drained subhanallah! pls pray for a sister, wallahi I've done my best dun kawai mutuwa ya rage mun a yanzu koh Yaya take so rayuwata ta kasance ban sane ba๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ’”๐Ÿ’” I will be in the comment section, jzk๐Ÿฅบ๐Ÿคฒ๐Ÿป
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Suleiman Mukhtar Ibrahim Oct 25, 07:21 PM
so sorry about how you feel and I understand how you feel but please try talking to people you feel she listen to and respect alot and let them try to talk to her.may Allah make it easy for you .
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Anonymous #1 Oct 25, 08:00 PM
SubhanAllah.. Dan Allah Kar kiyi abun da jawo matsala between you and maihaifiyan ki.. The fact that you have come out to say it now, I believe Allah zaya kawo mafita Insha'Allah.. Try and talk to her over and over again.. May be there's something she is seeing that yoh are not.. Remember, she is you mum and she loves you too.. Allah ya kiyaye๐Ÿ™๐Ÿฝ
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Boubar Oct 25, 08:50 PM
Sometimes it is best to put one's self in the shoe of the person one is accusing before one takes a stand against the person. Your mom obviously had learnt some life lessons that you haven't and may not encounter throughout your life. No parent makes a decision to deliberately harm their children, although I believe there are very rare exceptions. The best and ideal way to raise a child is by both mother and father together, when this doesn't happen challenges come up. Your mom should be highly commended for bringing you up thus far all by herself to this level where you now believe you are of age to make decisions for yourself. I believe the first person to cheer that woman is you not anybody else. She has gone through a lot to mould you through childhood to your current stage of early adulthood, and with what is currently going on in the society regarding moral decadence and the rest you can't expect her to be less protective of the child she laboured her life to raise. From your perspective you see it as strictness, also try to see it from her own angle as fulfilling responsibility as a parent. Going far to study especially for girls is disliked by many parents not only your mom, just like many other parents don't want to marry out their daughters to strangers. There are many options that are easier and less risky. If you are having challenge with conventional Nigerian universities why not try National Open University, NOUN? There are also other universities such as International Open University IOU, formerly Islamic Online University where they offer a lot of bachelor courses online and with scholarships; there are also many other options that you could explore without traveling far to study. For the most part what we all need is to understand why people do what they do and sometimes excuse their actions if they are valid based on the angle they are acting from. At this stage it's for you to start thinking of reciprocating to your mom for the sacrifices she has made for you, one of which is respecting and reasoning with her decisions about your life. Based on what you presented here, I personally have not seen blatant strictness, except if there are other really strict things that are happening. On this, all you need is to discuss other options with her which she thinks are better than your choice.
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Herr Oct 25, 11:19 PM
may Allah make it easy for us but she may have her reasons but keep praying.
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Meenah2 Oct 27, 04:27 PM
sister dnt make mstkes ull regret more dn dis ur mom have her reasons nd I knw dat reason s jus bcus she loves u..u jus wnt understand dat nw but lter n ur lyf jus pray nd be patient pls
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Nasssss9 Oct 27, 10:51 PM
Allah sarki baiwar Allah, i feel very very sad for you, don't ever give up in ur du'a, Insha Allah one day u will forget about all this. don't ever give up, Mahakurci mawadaci
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Fatima Zaarah Dec 13, 11:56 AM
may Allah make it easy for you
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Marierie Dec 13, 08:20 PM
Sis I understand what you're going through. may Allah make it easy for you
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