to keep the story short, I'm planning to get married in 6 month. everything is in place Alhamdulillah but I found out she has been raped at the age of 17 and she had been asking me to send Mai parents Dan ayi finalizing maganar Ni Kuma tunda naji labarin nayi confirming it actually happened I have hesitated but she doesn't know. yanzu I just want to know what you guys think about it before I decide whether to marry her or not I dont want to discuss it physically with anyone. pls help with honest opinions
Did she told you that she was raped..u have to hear her story first,then make your decision on wether to marry her or not.im sure she's just a victim and if she is then u should pity her and marry her!!
You are the one getting married what do you really want? Does virginity mean so much to you? Will you be able to live with her like that without judging her every time? This is your decision and yours alone because you understand yourself better, you can try asking her or talk to her about it. You can't possibly believe what people tell you about her without hearing it from her own perspective.
yh, I agree with you it's something that is not her fault so why blame her. Kuma if he truly loves he will feel for her and marry her not leave her.
Bro marry her is better raped gal dan to marry d ashawo most of d gals u c wlh ba virgin bane
I am a bit confused about marrying a raped girl and I got the news all of a sudden. I just want to see if other people see it as normal and something not to worry about, dan dai hankali na ya kwanta da abin. I still lover her Amma Naga ta rage value in my eyes after hearing the news maganar gaskiya. I don't want to ask her Kuma it would be uncomfortable and awkward I know, Banda confidence din yin maganar da ita kawai se in ji wani iri.
You see this is exactly what i was afraid of, look it's better to back off now and she'll find somebody else to take her as she is, you're already doubting this relationship cases like this later result in maltreatment, marriage is no joke, don't take a step you are not so sure of. Respect her and leave i think it'll be best.
I don't think he should marry her, it might result in bigger problems in the future, they should go their separate ways they'll find better choices.
Thanks for your point of view, I'll think about it.
You have a very good point but wat about the poor girl,bro i will suggest you sit her down and talk to her like a man,hear her side of the story if you really love her,nobody knws how she might feel when u dump her cos for her mind,she dey happy say she get husband then all of a sudden,you don't love her,please don't do that to her,u might end up loosing her and then marry someone that is even worse..soo please bro give a chance and u trust me,u will even love her more!!
thank you for saying this, people dont understand that marriage is not something you do out of piety or remorse for a spouse, that will only lead to big problems in the future.
Wallahi i rather die unmarried than to marry someone out of pity, it doesn't even make sense.
Sosai ma kuwa, saika hadu da single girl but she's not virgin bayan Kai atunaninka a virgin ka aureta. Ai gara ka auri wadda kasan komai nata ma kafin ayi aure akan wadda zaka aura daga baya kaga abinda bakayi tunanin gani ba.Allah yasa mudace amin
That's not the fact sister kice wasu daga ciki but adena kudin goro
If she was actually raped, it is not her fault. But some women hide behind 'rape' to cover their childish indiscretions. If you are having second thoughts now, it will get worse after marriage.
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