I need your help, i am the one wrong here
Anonymous Apr 6, 09:43 AM

I need your help, i am the one wrong here 0

I work in healthcare,this lady I plan on marrying we are in a long distance relationship. I work till evening and we normally chat during the night. we didn't talk during the day this certain day and we had a quarrel . I recently had promotion and I'm having a hard time creating time for talk during the day except at night.I'd like to know if I was the one in the wrong here . Here's the chat [4/4, 5:47 PM] My World: amore [4/4, 5:47 PM] My World: πŸ˜” [4/4, 6:51 PM] My World: Iftar Mubarak ife [4/4, 7:18 PM] Me: Baby [4/4, 7:18 PM] Me: Thank you [4/4, 7:22 PM] My World: You're too busy to even say hi tunsafe [4/4, 7:22 PM] My World: Haka akeyi? [4/4, 7:24 PM] Me: Sorry Not my fault [4/4, 7:27 PM] My World: My fault? [4/4, 7:27 PM] Me: Nope but understand [4/4, 7:28 PM] My World: Hmmm [4/4, 7:32 PM] Me: What brought hmmm here now [4/4, 7:32 PM] My World: You now [4/4, 7:33 PM] My World: Instead of apologising properly you're saying "sorry not your fault [4/4, 7:33 PM] Me: Apologize? [4/4, 7:33 PM] Me: For working ? [4/4, 7:33 PM] My World: Yes [4/4, 7:33 PM] Me: Wait you expect me to chat like before ? [4/4, 7:33 PM] Me: Do you even know what I was doing ? [4/4, 7:34 PM] Me: You can't even ask me how was work [4/4, 7:34 PM] My World: Sorry Mr busy no vex [4/4, 7:34 PM] My World: Bye [4/4, 7:34 PM] Me: Good night Two days later [4/6, 8:09 AM] My World: Sannu [4/6, 8:12 AM] My World: Pompous [4/6, 8:58 AM] My World: You sent this to me yourself but i don't have it anymore.......you said no man can be too busy with the woman he loves . ,and that's just the fact .there's no way you'll be too busy from morning till night that you won't be able to say a word to the person you claimed to love,even if you owns the place ..hmmm ,i told you the night before that day that I'll be done with *****(a computer school), but what did you do?no call no messages throughout the day ?have i ever treated you that way?or because I'm not working and you felt you're the busy one here do you know how busy my schedule's are?or you think in a relationship you only talk at your convenience time ? You were saying was i expecting you to chat me like before?like you just started this week?of course it's almost 2 weeks since he left and we've been talking so you didn't start that day,you were saying that i couldn't ask how your day went ,did you ask about my day too?or you're the only human here,you only think of yourself, our cousin's son had accident that day and killed someone, did you ask of my day?but just trying to talk to you you started talking like you're talking to your child ,you feel this relationship you can do what ever you like and I'll be just there accepting every shit you bring .no I'm not desperate, you can't treat me anyhow you like and expect me to just sit back [4/6, 8:58 AM] My World: If you're done just say it ,not attitude [4/6, 9:42 AM] Me: We were talking normal, we talked in the morning,I happened to be busy that certain day. I wasn't free till in the evening,I replied your messages, you asked me is this how it's done I apologized and said it wasn't my fault ,I asked you to understand. Do I normally go the whole day like that without chatting ? You went ahead with it , asking me to apologize ’properly’, I asked you apologize because I was busy at work ? You got angry and I got angry too and said goodbye . How did I talk to you like a child?for all the times you've had to go off for a reason or the other I've never asked you to apologize or something like that. I get it You had a rough day,I should have reminded earlier about ****** but there's nothing wrong if you had simply told me about your day and reminded about ******* as I tend to forget easily . I was the calm one that day ,I apologized but you kept on pushing it till I couldn't take it.
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Nameer Apr 6, 10:22 AM
Mallam you are the one at fault y. Je ka gyara zaman ka da Beb naka. Mata lallaban su akeyi not using harsh words. U r always busy yakamata the first thing da zaka fara shine ka fara bata hakuri.
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MuhammadS Apr 6, 10:57 AM
lol I think she's jealous. just call more often a zauna lahiya πŸ˜…
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Zee Abdul Apr 6, 11:17 AM
I think when she said "You're too busy to even say hi tunsafe" you should reply in a softer tone. like sorry, kin san i'm more busy at my workplace now, but you have been on my mind, something like that.
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Nasir Mujahid Apr 6, 11:21 AM
Men & women have different emotions, As a man not saying 'hi' since morning is not a big deal to me, even for 2 days, I just don't know why women make big deals out of trivial or small things. Women are too emotional, know that and adjust. Most of them are like that
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Ize Apr 6, 12:12 PM

my ex always wants us to be talking 24 7 nd nd I'm not d talking type , infact I got bored that part of d reasons he broke up wit me .. there are men wo want communication 247 a day .
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Anonymous #1 Apr 6, 12:29 PM

at list she will be happy ko ma ba babe din sa bane buh ai zuciya tana son kalamai mai kyau mostly if she's angry with him
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Anonymous #4 Apr 6, 01:43 PM
guy,u are on the wrong side if u ask me,some peoples live language is attention nd its not bad or wrong if your babe seeks for your,go back nd apologise to her nd den u both can discuss on the communication in your relationship,the little tym u will give her counts my guy
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Xynb ibrhm Apr 6, 02:39 PM

not at all yarda yayi mata magana bai kyauta ba atlist ko da asuba ne bfr ya fita he can text her
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Nasir Mujahid Apr 6, 04:38 PM

Ofcourse not all men are what i described, but Majority are. Also not all women like too much emotional stuff, but a Majority do.
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Anonymous #5 Apr 6, 06:33 PM
you're the one at fault sincerely. Ladies like to be spoken to softly. you should have said something along these lines - Sorry baby, kin San yanayin aikin ne, it's really becoming stressful. I barely had time for myself today, I've been up and down.... you'll see how she'll immediately calm down and start caring for you.
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Anonymous #6 Apr 6, 10:14 PM
Assuming you can text her every morning showing your care and telling her you're off for work if you get time zaka kirata all this won't happen, mufa Mata abu kadan zakayi mana a zauna lfy Abu kadan Kuma ayi tashin hankali
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Dr A A Apr 6, 11:52 PM
mace fa rarrashin ta ake koda itace tayi ba dae dae ba idan tanajin shagwabar ta to kai ka ajiye duk abunda kake ji ka mata abunda take so idan kayi sau biu ko 3 mata sunada saurin tausayi so zaka kara shiga ranta nd shikenan ka gama saye zuciyata kuma zatana ma uxuri ko yaushe manta kawae bai zama doli ta tambaika ya aiki ba sabida kaine a gabanta ba aekin ka ba. nd kai kuma haka ya nuna cewa kabawa aekin ka mahimmaci fiye da ita note: idan bakayi hankali ba ko kuma allah bai hadaka da budurwa ko mata mae hakuri ba Hmmmm srry
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Aiichatour Apr 7, 06:55 PM
lets be realistic, there are certain ladies that will expect you to talk to her 24/7. but you have some other things to do, please. if you can just send a good morning message and go to work to me its very ok, ya kamata ta duba taga kalan aikin da kakeyi, and your commitments as well. to me, if she’s she also value the relationship, if you didn’t call then she should call or send a message , there is nothing there. ita kanta gf din inda tanada wasu abu da takeyi a gida, like some business am very sure wata rana aiki zaya dauke mata hankali har ta mance bata kiraka ba, ko ta kasa baka enough time da zakuyi communicating.
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Anonymous #7 Apr 7, 07:24 PM
You need to explain the nature of your work to her clearly. Send an early morning message before you leave for work, wishing her a fruitful dayπŸ˜„. Then you talk again after closing from work. Apologise when you are wrong. If you are still having issues after all these, then it's not meant to be. Because you can't be in a relationship when you don't understand and appreciate each other.
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Ayman555 Apr 7, 10:28 PM
With tearful eyes πŸ‘€ I am telling you that you didn't match.... period!!! you didn't add up as you didn't click... so is better you understand the bitter truth and leave peacefully... otherwise this is just the beginning.... many more misunderstanding will be coming... Also there's no respect between the two of you.. .. that's bitter truth about you two... Allah ya taimaka
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Anonymous #8 Apr 8, 05:05 AM
ji matan sai goyon bayan ta suke yi
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Anonymous #10 Apr 13, 12:48 PM

24/7 communications? abeg pls it's exhausting, infact this my own doesn't want me to talk to anyone else, just him him , like I can't mk friends nothing. i shouldn't go out cox men or guys will look at me, he monitors me online like wth πŸ€¦β€β™€οΈ. it was so exhausting I swear , I want to talk, I enjoy talking but haba 24/7 is too much pls
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