As a Muslim I believe Allah SWT Has predestined everything but addu'a and good deeds use to help in reshaping it. When it comes to marriage; please what do we actually want? 1, The right person ( spouse). or 2, The perfect person ( spouse). I'm definitely sure that Allah SWT in His infinite mercy and wisdom Has brought us the right person at one stage of our lives or another, but we felt that's not as perfect (a person) as we want. We aren't perfect either, why do we then want the other to perfectly suit all we want/ desire? Why do we create an imagination and base our hopes on it? Many people have abused others due to the fact that they didn't match their expectations either physically or financially but not morally. Do you think Allah will let it go without consequences? He made a choice for you, but you abused it. We hypocritically say we want "zabin Allah" while in reality we're not sincere with it. You don't know the position of the person you mocked/looked down upon in the SIGHT of Allah SWT. Allah SWT knows what is in your heart even if you think the person doesn't know. Allah SWT will surely pay you back in His own way. Allah SWT gives all of us what we actually deserve. So if you're married to a monster ( husband or wife) note that you deserve it. If you doubt it go back history lane in your life and remember how many people have you mocked,looked down upon, abused , insulted, taken advantage of or taken for granted. Do you expect all that to go in vain? Allah is the Judge and He's THE MOST JUST OF THE JUDGES. Whatever you get , you deserve. May Almighty Allah pay everyone accordingly. So blame none but yourselves. You want a sincere and honest spouse;are you sincere and honest? You want a God fearing spouse; how God fearing are you? You want a respectful spouse; how respectful are you? You want a perfect spouse; how perfect are you? You're wasting your time and deceiving yourself by saying Allah's time is the best. When is Allah's time? When in reality you're suffering from a curse laid upon you by Allah for mocking/rejecting/abusing what He gave to you. Some of the delays or bad things that happen in our lives are actually due to a curse laid upon us for our evil doings. The mistake we make is, we think that the repercussions of our actions will only come in the hereafter. That's a lie. Whatever you are facing is well deserved because it's the result of your actions. Allah knows what is in your heart and He'll definitely give you what you deserve. Blame none but yourselves. If you want to live a good and peaceful life work on yourself. WHATEVER YOU SOW,YOU SHALL REAP. I'm waiting for comments.