Do good men still exist? Am i right to back out?
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Anonymous Nov 20, 01:17 AM

Do good men still exist? Am i right to back out? 1

Assalamu alaikum. There's this thing that has been really bothering me lately. do good men really exist? I keep wondering to myself bcuz all the guys I tend to meet are not what I wish for. I mean they are funny, nice, sensible and mostly religious alhamdulillah. The only problem I have with them is asking for inappropriate pictures, asking to make sex call so they can relieve themselves, asking very personal and uncomfortable questions. I mean all I want is someone that have self control and knows how to speak to a lady. I don't ask for much. but it seems I'm always unlucky with horny men. and for me it's a big red flag if you ask for my inappropriate pictures or to make erotic calls. I mean if I'm your wife it's cool but I'm not. it's like a normal thing to most guys which I find very uncomfortable. I tend to back out in any relationship that requires this bcuz I feel very uncomfortable, do you think I'm making a mistake by doing that bcuz I think I've left way too many guys bcuz of that which makes me start to think are there really good guys left?
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Sadeeqsak Nov 20, 02:09 AM
of course yes!
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Anonymous #1 Nov 20, 03:47 AM
Who so ever fears Allah, Allah will create a way out for him, life is a test and you will continue to go from one test to another. So will you pass this test? or will you succumb to temptations or your desire? How do you call someone who does this kind of things as a religious person, I'm particularly surprised about that statement you made, truth is they're not religious. Lastly also check yourself very well, is there anything you do that make this men horny? or is it the things you like about em, because there's a saying that "it's not all men that are bad, it is your taste in them that's bad" meaning may be it's the type of men you like. sai a duba a gani If you're less than 22years I'm interested in giving it a try
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Anonymous #2 Nov 20, 04:12 AM
Assalaamu alaykum wa rahmatullaahi. How old are you please lady?
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Darma Sadiq Nov 20, 04:52 AM
You re on the right way… and never regret ignoring guys with such act. Just keep ur mind clean and keeping praying, someone with same mindset with you shall come ur way insha Allah
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Anonymous #7 Nov 20, 05:29 AM
hhhhm
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Anonymous #3 Nov 20, 07:57 AM
they are many sef....just keep praying and continue leaving those irresponsible guys....ur type will meet u oneday insha'Allah...perhaps on this app too
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Nasssss9 Nov 20, 08:26 AM
There are many many good men faa, give it time, insha Allah u will meet someone nice and responsible..
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Anonymous Nov 20, 10:41 AM

honestly I wouldn't say there's anything I do to make them horny and I don't even know who they really are for me to like that abt them. it's bcuz I don't like that abt them that's y I tend to leave. some of them say my voice only can make them horny which I find very surprising, I mean I don't think I've a great voice, I just have a voice which I use it to talk. and I don't even know why I said they're religious cuz yeah if they were they wouldn't do that. you're probably right, I have bad taste in guys. and unfortunately I'm 22
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Anonymous Nov 20, 10:41 AM

Wa'alaikummus salam. I'm 22
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Anonymous Nov 20, 10:41 AM

thank you
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Anonymous Nov 20, 11:00 AM

Alhamdulillah. looking forward to having one my way.
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Anonymous #2 Nov 20, 12:31 PM

Could you please leave your email address here? Thank you
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Trustee Nov 20, 04:10 PM
ofcoz mana ....ana nan da yawa ...
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Anonymous #4 Nov 20, 04:13 PM
So sad wlh... Torturing people psychologically. Someone said to me that he didn't expect me to be innocent at my age. That this is 21st century. If obeying Allah is kauyanci, lemme continue my kauyanci. Allah yasa mu dace...Amin
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Anonymous Nov 20, 04:43 PM

Allah ya nuna mana su 🙏
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Trustee Nov 20, 04:45 PM

Ameen yarnan...
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Trustee Nov 20, 04:47 PM
no..know this ba duka aka taru aka zama daya ba..
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Anonymous #5 Nov 20, 05:16 PM

which state are you from?
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Maryam Sulaiman Nov 20, 06:04 PM
Hmmmm... May be 5% out of 100
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Anonymous Nov 20, 06:07 PM

Hakane kam.
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Anonymous Nov 20, 06:08 PM

Bauchi
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Fatima Alfazazi Nov 20, 06:17 PM
It's nice to know that I'm not the only one facing these types of problems nowadays😇😂 May Allaah protect us from this evil that is becoming a norm.
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Maryam Sulaiman Nov 20, 07:18 PM

Wlh is not only you... That is why I quit all relationships and concentrate on what will be of benefit to me. Cox I don't have time for rubbish. 🙄🙄
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Anonymous #4 Nov 21, 03:59 PM

felt like giving up at some point. But there are good people out there. Komai lokaci ne
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BabyG Nov 22, 05:15 PM
you’re not making any mistake, mazan ne yawanci sun koma haka, like you said, it’s a big red flag and a turnoff for me sef. kiyita addua Allah zai kawo maki mafi alkhairi a gare ki Insha Allah.
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