Pressure over marriage on men
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Anonymous Nov 9, 01:45 AM

Pressure over marriage on men 1

Salam everyone, my issue is a bit contradicting. I thought it's only women who are pressurised over marriage issues. I'm young within the age bracket of 26/27. The pressure mounted upon me about marriage is more than you think. My attention was called 3 times within a week (by my mum in particular). I'm actually a lecturer in one of the institutions in my jurisdiction and if not for ASUU strike, I'd have been through with my MSc by now. I'm definitely worried and confused. Is it that they're tired of me or what? I think I'm actually very young for that. Others men are getting married in their 30s. And another issue is the fact that I'm not in any relationship right now. Where should I start from?
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Anonymous #1 Nov 9, 03:02 AM
that’s how some parents and relatives are, just try to make them understand that marriage is time, and they should pray for the best for you cos rushing can lead you to something else
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Tijjani Muhammad Nov 9, 05:25 AM
there's different between man and woman indeed you are woman don compared your self with man. woman have certain time unlike man
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Abubakar Usman Nov 9, 06:15 AM
Waalaikum assalam bro. Prophet Mumammad pbuh said: ya ma’asharal Shabab man’istata’u minkun al’baa’a fal’yata zauwaje. (oh! you the youths, if any of you have a means (financially) then you should get married). so bro you are not young as long as you are at your above 20. since you are a lecturer that means you lecture both ladies and guys… it shouldn’t be much difficult for you to spot a nice lady within your students… finally shytan always look for guys like you in order to spoilt their paths and iman. may Almighty Allah guide and protect you bro. Ameen 🙏
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Anonymous #2 Nov 9, 07:13 AM
Walaikumusalam, well I do not think your parents are tired of you but rather they want something good and benefitting for you, they do not want you making mistakes especially as a young lecturer that you are not to talk of you being financially stable.. I feel you should take things slowly and carefully InshaAllah you will find yourself liking the idea with time... I'm sure your mum is eager to see her grandchildren from you😁 besides remember you will be getting a double reward for it( fulfilling half of your Deen and making your parents happy)
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Anonymous #3 Nov 9, 07:21 AM
listen to wat u mom said 🙂look for a spouse and settle down kayi aure tinda mom naka tana son haka idan baka da galfrnd u shld inform ur mom she will look for a nice gal for u☺️and abt others dat u re saying d re up to 30 mayb d re jobless mayb some kuma re doing bad things shiyasa d don’t want to settle down so u ain’t suppose to compare urself wit others mayb u re d first male in ur family ur mom want to see her grandchildren shiyasa takeso kayi aure kawai mama da nema maka matan aure
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Usman fatima Nov 9, 07:56 AM
that’s how parents are nowadays, and just know that they want the best for you, may almighty Allah grant you with someone that will bring peace to your life
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Abubakar Usman Nov 9, 08:10 AM

oh yeah I forgot to mention the rest... thanks for the reminder
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Nasssss9 Nov 9, 07:03 PM
Brother they are giving you the best advice, it is better to get married on time since you have the resources.. I will get married today if i could Wallahi..But i will advice you to take your time bro
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Ahmed001 Nov 9, 07:24 PM
sister may Allah guide u thru and bless u with Ur heart desires amen
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Sumaiya Aliyu Nov 11, 08:07 AM

this was the same Hadith I wanted to quote... Thank you!!! hahaha but this "within your students" din toh! Allah yasa a dace
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