Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullah
I’ve always tried my best to practice and abide by what islam teaches then I met this guy and we dated for almost 2 years before we broke up, he is so religious and helped me get closer to Allah.
I became so religious after we broke up. Now the issue is I feel I can’t marry a person who isn’t as religious as I am or even more
Recently I then met someone about 3 months ago and he’s a nice person but isn’t that islamically sound. I love him but I’m not sure I’m ready to marry him because sometimes he makes me do things islam doesn’t permit and he quickly gets angry whenever I refuse to, he claims I won’t be submissive after marriage if I try to argue or decline his request. He also complain sometimes that I’m too religious komai once ‘babu kyau’
He has seen my dad already akan maganan aure but I’m scared wlhi, I’m afraid he won’t let me practice my DEEN how I want. Please advice me on what to do
PS: I want to settle soon cos of course I’m getting older
if he won't let you practice your deen then it is a No for me but talk to your dad about it
The ultimate purpose of our lives is to serve Allah SWT, any other thing is to also help us serve Allah SWT. If you are on your deen as you stated, a guy that is not conscious of Allah shouldn't be on your list, you never compromise the the will of Allah for some mere affection. Truth is he should be ashamed and you should be more confident and proud not the other way round. Forgive my bluntness.
Wa’alaikummus salam sister. I would advice you to wait first and don’t rush into marriage with him yet. anybody that makes you feel uncomfortable and makes you do uncomfortable things doesn’t deserve you. don’t worry abt your age and focus on getting what’s best for you. keep praying to Allah to give you the best as he knows what best suits you. it’s better to wait and have the best then rush and regret. if you’re religious as you said then believe in Allah. work with what you feel in your heart, be sincere to yourself. if you still feel you want him then try to make him understand more abt Allah, try to make him understand you’re not being extreme rather you’re just looking out for the two of you. any relationship built on haram will have bad foundation to take your my sister. God bless. Allah ya bamu nagari 🙏
Assalamu Alaikum, Sister there many people in ur shoes too but all I will advice u is do istikhaara, charity and fasting u will never marry a man who is not ur husband and vise versa, by the way u know marriage is sunnah u have to complete those that are compulsory(farillah) before the sunnah, take ur time and focus on pleasing ur lord first everything in this world is destiny, it's already written and nobody can change this what ever u see accept it as ur destiny is what ur lord chooses for u. Just have faith sis may almighty chooses the very best for all of us.
I'll do that Inshaa Allah
Amin ya Allah, Jazakillahu khair
It's alright
Thank you so much
Amin ya Allah
Jazakillahu khairan
Run for your life, I say run my dear. He doesn't deserve you.
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