Leaving someone that you love
Anonymous Feb 1, 05:37 PM

Leaving someone that you love 1

Heartbreak isn't when you hate someone for breaking your heart. True heartbreak is when two couples love each other but can't make it work. Let me narrate my story. I'm a young guy of 29, I've only been in a relationship once in my life. I've been living my single life comfortably until early last year . I met this lady and she's everything I could ever want in a wife. I know I can never meet any like her ever. This is a certainty. We joke like childhood best friends, we love each other like couples in their 80s, and we understand and complement each other. In alternate universe she can pass for my twin sister. The only downside was that she's a nurse. I've made up my mind to steer clear of two categories of women when seeking marriage: nurses and military ladies. This is due to their workload . I loved her way too much to give up so I decided to give it a try at first I told myself I'll try to get used to it the night shifts, the early morning shift. She lives in another state so our relationship was long distance. Some months later, I visited her and her family in her state. I was welcomed and duly accommodated. I loved my Stay there. I could never imagine that this was me going to another state to see a girl but here I am several thousand kilometers from home. Things were going well till I left. We used talk on the phone almost everyday but when I came back we Can spend almost a week without talking on the phone. I excused it that it's work. I used to know about all the schedule for her shift but now I don't even know when it's morning afternoon or night shift. I've only ever been in one relationship all my life, not to brag I've had more than 15 girls openly ask me out. And I turned most of the recent ones down on the basis that I'm very busy and I won't have time to commit to a relationship But today this is me, begging for a girl's attention? Nevertheless I remained patient and when I finally got tired I complained to her, she said she'll change, she'll change for two days then revert back. The second time, we haven't talked much for over 4 to 5 Days, on the day she was supposed to be free and I was looking forward so that we can talk, and She went off since morning and didn't get back till evening. She came back apologizing, that she forgot to tell me one of their maid was getting married and she forgot to carry her phone with her. I told myself that it was the last time i will complain to her. She got really busy again. I stopped disturbing her to talk. I maintained the same energy and now we longer talk. She loves me but she's finding it hard to strike a balance between work and me. Rather than get married and it becomes an issue. I gave her a way out.We used to be close in love but now we are strangers
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Abusardeeeq Feb 1, 09:00 PM
This is ladies sometimes,i wonder why good people undergo problems the most no matter how careful...it's always come to this when a lady issa workaholic or a must be dedicated one like the aforementioned...it pathetic to read your story not been linear with you maintaining one from many,sorry.it good to be vivid about a situation,i feel she'll be self questioned for keeping you on hold without any info..friends to strangers,wow.you guys getting bck to what you were wil be easy and i believe you'll come back stronger cus this has open a ground for constructive conversation btw you two if this will work again..i love how you handled the situation from the point it started dangling to where it is...ALL THE BEST MAN.
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Anonymous #1 Feb 2, 12:08 AM
For me, I can be judgemental. So I think the girl did not like you when she met you, or you didn't meet up her expectation in a certain way, it couldbeanythingfrom big to small, personally I don't think she is busy or will be back to normal. She is 'too polite' or 'kind' not to tell you outrightly but she has given you all signs and excuses. Please respect yourself and take your tender heart to where it will be catered and cared for don't continue being blind to the truth that is staring right into your eyes, also don't demand for explanation as she has no regards, respect or appreciation of the love you have for her
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Muhammad Musa Muhammad Feb 2, 03:32 PM
tabπŸ˜‚ tunda na rasa mama ta bbu yarinyar da zata wahalar dni . nifa ynxu Duk abinda tayi mun shi nke mata. if she calls or flash zan kira ta. if I send her messages idan tana online ba tayi reply ba sai after 10,20 or 30 minutes toh nima ba zanyi reply ba sai wannan time din. make u no kill ur self because of woman
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Ibrahim 1 Feb 2, 04:28 PM
wow ur story too long ... can anyone summarize it for me?
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Anonymous #2 Feb 2, 05:21 PM
"True heartbreak is when two couples love each other but can't make it work"... This statement can never be more true. Was reading this message as though I'm the author, up until you mentioned she being a nurse. Went through the similar situation. Never dated in my life until I was 29 and have been comfortable that way just as you, in fact I stay away from relationships and girls in order not to catch feelings. Met someone I thought will end up being my wife. We so understood each other as though we were one being separated by two bodies. And all within a very short time. I have my checklist written down, this girl checked everything, something I thought was impossible. But as fate has it, we were not meant to be together, we had to go our separate ways not because we don't love each other. It was hurtful for both of us but there's nothing we could do. Till date we both have a thing for each other but we rarely communicate cos it's another hurt on it's own. Everything happened and ended in 2023 and I still can't even bring myself to be in another relationship. But yeah bro, I feel you did the right thing, it's better to quit now than later if she's unable to balance things. But on a normal, she supposed to be able to. But also not everyone can juggle two major things at the same time
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Jibrin Rayyanu Feb 3, 12:49 PM
Love as well as relationship is still complicated world on its own...If you both can't work it out physically just end it tho...I mean you don't need to cling to each other without resolving your issues. Long distance relationship is hard to maintain Walsh. .but the if its ment to be it will be
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Jibrin Rayyanu Feb 3, 12:50 PM
Love as well as relationship is still complicated world on its own...If you both can't work it out physically just end it tho...I mean you don't need to cling to each other without resolving your issues. Long distance relationship is hard to maintain Walsh. .but the if its ment to be it will be
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Jibrin Rayyanu Feb 3, 12:50 PM
Love as well as relationship is still complicated world on its own...If you both can't work it out physically just end it tho...I mean you don't need to cling to each other without resolving your issues. Long distance relationship is hard to maintain Walsh. .but the if its ment to be it will be
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Anonymous #3 Feb 3, 03:10 PM
Apart from the night shifts, nursing is a good job for women. Nurses working with FG or state govt have some days off, 5 to 7 days after each night shift and other days. Maybe there are other issues preventing her from communicating, I doubt it's the job. it'll be better if you sit down and discuss the way forward
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Nana Fatima ALIYU Feb 14, 11:26 PM

innalillahi 🀣🀣🀣
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Ibrahim 1 Feb 18, 09:08 PM

πŸ˜‚πŸ€£yes ooo
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