I’m incapable of loving anyone
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Anonymous Oct 5, 09:29 AM

I’m incapable of loving anyone 0

I’m a lady in my late 20s, still single, I used to love with all my heart and soul, with all that I am but every time I would get my heart broken and my time wasted by the one I love. Not even broken but shattered. The first few times I got my heart broken each time I cried and got depressed but at the end I was able to pick myself back up and was ready to give all my heart out yet again, and I did just that. Fast forward to my last heartbreak, after it happened I just gave up on love all together, I have healed and moved on from it and I’m happy again. I have quite a number of suitors interested in marrying me but I just can’t bring myself to love anyone anymore. I feel like I’m incapable of feeling love, the person I’m with now really loves me and wants to marry me but I just can’t love him or anyone else for that matter. What do I do? I’m not hurting but I don’t feel anything, I feel dead inside.
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Haynoh Oct 5, 10:43 AM
you are in your late 20s, I think if he really wants to get married, and he really wants to marry you. give him a chance, but the islamic way, let him meet your guardian first. show himself to them. make everything official. and don't delay the marriage if you all about him is ok with you. maybe he is the one Allah kept for you so that you will appreciate all after the heartbreaks.
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N F Oct 5, 12:09 PM
your mistake was falling in love in the first place. Learn to guard your hearts.
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Anonymous #1 Oct 5, 01:14 PM
aunty try another one you might get the best of all, you can't stay single in your life as a lady besides aure shine rufan asirin mace Allah ya Baki nagari 👍
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Anonymous Oct 5, 10:07 PM
Guys she didn’t say she won’t marry o.. I think her challenge is not being able to feel love for the person. Unfortunately it happens.. I know because I’m in the same boat as you.. most of the time when someone says “I love you” to me I do say it back but i don’t actually feel it even though I want to and I try to.. and it’s not because there’s anything wrong with the person it’s just me.. so sorry sis Allah ya yayemana a hada da addua.
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Musa Abdullahi Oct 6, 08:02 AM
In the story of Yusuf and his brothers is a lesson to those that reason. Poster calm down I'm sure your case is not worse than that of Yusuf A.S, so open your mind first if you get married then open your heart for your husband and love him as you please. Psychologically its not even right to give all your heart out, that's your mistake, learn to love people in a moderate way, while also believing that anything can happen.
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Ahmad Aysha Oct 6, 11:40 PM

We don't have control over that so I don't think is a mistake. Is just love giving to the wrong set of people.
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Ahmad Aysha Oct 6, 11:42 PM
Do it in the halal way, be prayerful over it, if he is good to go Alhamdulillah, be with him for the sake of Allah the love will come naturally. Have fate
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Anonymous #2 Oct 7, 11:49 PM

I guess you're new to the app. But as the anonymous author even if you comment you will always be "anonymous" and other anonymous commenters have numbers attached to "anonymous". Eg anonymous #1, anonymous #2 etc
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Maryam Alkali Oct 10, 09:06 AM
hmmmm...all I have to say is that ...you should be very sure on who you will open ur heart to just to avoid break up
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