My girlfriend got married recently, we had a misunderstanding while we were dating so she gave another person a chance and they are now married. But even before the marriage she never stopped loving me because she realized she over reacted and she regrets it. Now she’s calling me and constantly chatting me up that she misses me and she can’t even go a day without crying over me. It has gotten to a point where her husband complained that she was with him physically but her mind wasn’t. She still gets jealous over me, dramatic as if we’re dating. She told me she can’t even enjoy making love to her husband unless she thinks of me. Please how do i make her concentrate on her husband because I don’t want her to do anything she’ll regret. I can’t marry her now because she obviously didn’t think i was worth it the first time.
It seems like you don't love her anymore, the best thing to do is to gradually start cutting her off, and keep reminding her about her husband anytime she starts telling you how she feels about you.
Dear poster first I'll commend you by saying Allah ya karama haskeh da shiriya cikin lamurranka
For you to have man up and stand against what she's trying to indulge you into...you must be a strong and brave man..sannu
Dear poster the first step to take is for you to cut her off completely...i mean total cut off
Don't give room for 'zamuyi zumunci'..dont
Shaitan is trying to use that girl to lure you into the dreaded haram
Don't just delete but block her on all possible platform
Remember that a single simple hi or hello can lead to do many things...you know deep inside you you still feel a thing for her cos you can't unlove someone you truly loved so the best is to fight against your emotions and cutting her totally off is the first step
Second step please don't shade her anywhere.. Say a sincere du'a for her asking Allah to set her affairs and sense of judgement right so she understands she's treading on a wrong path
You also pray for guidance over your nafs
And lastly please don't let the husband be aware of this development
Ka rufa mata asiri, kaima Allah zai rufa ma
I hope you find some help in this
You've said it all. Jazakallah. May Allah see him through
Dear poster my advice for you is to try cutting off all connections with her even it means blocking her because she might also feel u re playing along. And most of all pray hard.
This is a very serious issue, you have to just cut her off, stop communicating with her if she insists tell her the truth kawai, what she's doing is wrong she is married already her relationship with you has to be over. idan ka dena bata attention she will divert it to her husband. if you say you want to continue communicating and help her concentrate on her marriage you will make the relationship between you guys firm and harder to end. just close your eyes and make that deicison! shikenan. ita kuma Allah ya shirya ta
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