Muslim men i date, always hurt & disappoint me
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Anonymous Dec 2, 11:24 AM

Muslim men i date, always hurt & disappoint me 0

I am writing this here cause I literally don't know who to talk to... I am a Christian girl but all the men who comes into my life are Muslims.... I don't have any problem with Muslim men as I like the religion itself and hence I do not segregate. But I don't know.... should I am unlucky or is it my fate....they all hurt me in one way or the other and its sad cause I have pure intentions towards them... I am scared.....soooooooo scared of marrying WRONG. It scares me to marry someone who will make my life a nightmare.... What do I do? All I want is a small home and a simple family with a man who loves me, adores me and feels me... What do I do?
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Darma Sadiq Dec 2, 11:37 AM
ohhh no… sorry for that, but if i may ask in what way… they hurt you, ignore you, heart break or cheat on you?
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Ibrahim abdullahi Dec 2, 11:44 AM
Masha Allah I like your spirit and mentality.. you're every man's dream..u just need simple life ...I pray may the almighty Allah give us woman as a wife like u
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Darma Sadiq Dec 2, 12:17 PM

okay... i grab 🙏🏻
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Anonymous #1 Dec 2, 01:37 PM
dear sister I’m putting this to you today wit no sugar coating anything , find urself a Christian guy for marriage, the chances of u marrying a Muslim man is 1-5 percentage out of 100 💯 , they will use u nd go, first they will give u sweet mouth, use u to his satisfaction den leave u giving flamy excuses.. I’m a Muslim nd I’m saying this to u even we their follow Muslims they do same to us not to talk of u a Christian that some of them see as a non-believer .. go go nd get u a Christian guy for marriage.. ( especially if he’s a northern guy) I repeat again many will come ur way for zina (fornication) not marriage.. may Good grant u ur own bones 🦴 of bones. Aminn
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Reerah Dec 2, 02:11 PM
Muslim guys hmmm I hope you find the right one
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Ibrahim abdullahi Dec 2, 02:26 PM

what u said is not true and will never one...there are always good and bad one in any religion..may be she's didn't come across the good ones
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Anonymous #1 Dec 2, 02:41 PM

na really hmmm 😃
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Darma Sadiq Dec 2, 03:29 PM

she's absolutely right... that's just the truth of it. Mostly in the north... we have such mentality 💯
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Anonymous #1 Dec 2, 05:38 PM
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I'm from the north nd I'm a Muslim
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Anonymous #2 Dec 2, 05:42 PM
This is actually more of a men thing generally. Whether black or white, Muslim or Christian men or women have some fundamental similarities in behaviour. So your issue could be perpetrated by any man irrespective of any identity. Heart break, deceit, cheating and all sorts are meted out by men and women in their own respective ways. You see it as only a Muslim men's thing because as you said, it's mostly Muslim men that come into your life, probably because of the environment you live or grew up in. Just like one of the commenters said who identified as a Muslim female that even them experience similar things from Muslim men; you would also find similar report from Christian ladies who only date Christian men. Bottom line is men will be men and women will be women no matter what.
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Anonymous Dec 2, 06:01 PM

thank you Ree🙏
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Anonymous #1 Dec 2, 06:03 PM

it's more common Among our Muslim brothers from the north.. than other Muslims brothers form other ethnicity which's wrong , cox our religion prohibits such ask , that's why it pains me... such habits among other religions is normal..
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Anonymous #2 Dec 2, 06:10 PM

May be that's your perspective based on your personal experience. But I still maintain that it's men's thing generally. Yea I agree if Muslims and even Christians practice their religion fully this won't happen but we all know that's not what obtains. If you travel far and wide and relate with other cultures you would realise it is not isolated to any specific people. It's just like bringing the old Hausa rhetoric about Zaria men 😁 and womanizing, we all know that in the current state of the world and even the North men of other states cannot be considered any different from Zaria men regarding women issue.
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Anonymous #3 Dec 2, 10:21 PM

May I ask for your email address please? Thank you.
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Anonymous #4 Dec 3, 04:36 PM

exactly maybe she didn't come across the good ones cause good guys are hard to get Gaskiya but sha just keep praying
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Feesah Dec 4, 12:35 AM

i was going to say this! you are right! especially northern guys. they date christians for zina escape. just the way christian church guys date muslim girl for fornication. that is even a topic on its own. when Muhammed and amaka are bestie just know it is a serious zinaaa going on there🙄🙄🙄 like sau we no know🤣🤣
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Anonymous #5 Dec 6, 07:26 AM
I haven't comment for long, but I have to here.....Muslim men??? like what? How does been Muslim has anything to do with what they do to you?? why do you choose to identify them as Muslims, why not other things that they have in common or are they Islamic scholars.... Please clarify!
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Aye'sha Dec 6, 03:23 PM
my case is the opposite. I'm a Muslim girl, but I attract christian guys the most (and girls sometimes). that's a problem for me because my religion doesn't permit me to marry a Christian guy. funny enough, the couple few I've dated are the most wonderful set of guys I've met, as opposed to the Muslim guys... and if it were permitted, I'd go for any of these christian guys over the Muslims I've dated. Now, I don't know what it is about me that attracts them to me... I had to stop myself from making friends with Christian guys because they ALWAYS end up falling in love with me (and sometimes, me with them). But what does one do with a love that will yield nothing?
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Anonymous Dec 6, 03:25 PM

ohhh dear....I wish we can both hug eachother 😣😣....a love that yields nothing is a road that leads to tears unending
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Aye'sha Dec 6, 06:35 PM

Really. it's sad. Just pray about it😊 that's all one can do in situations like this. Here's a virtual hug anyway 😄🤗
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