I know Islam has already permit me to beat her, I just want to know if it's justified in this case.
1. I told her to stop working when she gives birth to our first child in few months, she said she would only take a break and resume. I told her that so that she can take care of the kids and and spend more time at home doing wife duties.
2. If I ask her to do something she will say her opinion, she won't do it straight away.
It has been on my mind to beat her maybe she will become obedient, but i just wanna be sure, pls tell me what you think about it
My dear brother beating your wife can never be a solution to your misunderstanding, maybe u made her believe u will allow her to work wen u guys were dating , be soft on her make her believe u will make up for some of the goodies she might think she might lost if she is to stop working and remember the ssying of our beloved prophet(s.a.w) who says " there are battles u win with your tongue that you dont win with a sword" Allah ya kyauta
Don't lay a finger on your wife no matter what...there other ways to handle every situation you just have to think
Sit down and talk with her like a grown up man, why do you have to involve violence and domestic abuse? babu kyau wallahi. Have a conversation and understand each other
Just imagine someone more powerful beating you while he can actually talk to you to understand each other, brother put yourself in her shoes.
Thank you all for the replies, we had a conversation about it and I am thinking we should separate in peace because of our differences
That's great but just a point of correction they way you said Islam gives you right to beat her is out of context. pls go and find the verse in the qur'an and find out it's actual meaning. You are suppose to hit her lightly only if necessary. Allah yasa mu dace.
That is alao actually not the true meaning of the verse. The verse gave a three step process in solving disagreement with the third being tapping not hitting with a miswak/hankerchief (some thing light that will cause no mark, injury, etc.) Has he taken the other first two in this situation?, and if he knows tapping her will not bring reconciliation, don't even do it instead involve people from both sides of the family to solve it. Just a gentle correction sister
Salam alaykum brother. It is a crime in islam to beat/hit your wife brother. Do you know in sharia it can be grounds to annull the marriage if you do do? Where is the love, the mercy and patience that you are ordered to show towards your family.
Men are care takers of women in islam not so that they abuse them,order them around and what not. But so that they can provide for and protect them and deal with them in mercy and kindness.
We are all answerable to Allah for our actions we we should be careful with hatming his serbants especially those that we are married/telayed to lest he will deal with us in the same way we treat those in our care. May Allah protect us. This is why i believe all married people need to know their rights and limits in a marriage before getting married May Allah guide us all.
Your wife is an adult that is capable of understanding you. talk to her so that you can come to an undetstanding and reach a middle ground so that you can save your marriage.
May Allah increase us in understanding amin.
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