Musa Abdullahi
Aug 15, 07:45 PM
Patience is not always the answer...
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Assalamualaikum, so often when a person comes forward with an issue that is bothering them and asks for advice be it on this platform or another or even in real life, the first piece of advice people give is for the person to be patient. A lady will come to seek fo advice that her husband is a drunkard for example or a ritualist, or that he uses her in an unlawful manner, but people will advise her to be patient. Another will say her inlaws are over working her, and people will advise patience. A man will come seeking for advice on whether or not to continue dating a girl whom he knows clearly is not a good person, but he'll be advised to be patient, while there are plenty of women besides her. The list of examples goes on and on.
I am not a person that is impatient nor am i opposed to the exercise of patience in all matters, however, patience is not always the answer.
As a muslim i am very well aware that Allah loves the patient ones, He commended the patient ones, and He commands us to be patient in so numerous occasions. Patience in the Qur'an cannot be over emphasized. Notwithstanding, it is important that one should learn to know when to give up instead of deceiving one's self that better things are coming.
When Our Prophet SAW was in Makkah and his stay became virtually impossible Allah did not order him to be patient but ordered him to migrate. Likewise, when the wives of the Prophet SAW demanded that he buys them gold jewelries when he didn't have the means, he didn't ask them to be patient rather Allah Himself commanded the Prophet SAW to give his wives an option of whether to stay with him in poverty or that he divorces them.
In a nutshell, all I'm trying to say is we all should have a limit for our patience, because it is not indefinite. When things are not working out after several attempts and patience of course, i think its time to reconsider and let go. Sometimes letting go opens a whole new chapter in one's life, a chapter full of new exploration and experiences.
So if you're in any kind of situation and have been patient for long enough without seeing the fruit of your labor, then its time to let go and explore other things.
