Anonymous
Apr 15, 11:03 AM
Why guys ask if a lady is virgin
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In my opinion, the biggest reason why guys asked about women's virginity is because if the guy is a virgin, then he also want to marry a virgin. He is inexperienced and want to marry an inexperienced virgin also.
I've seen a lady's comment on Instagram that, "if you are a blank canvas waiting to experience intimacy for the first time, you should go for someone like you. So you can experience, learn, and adjust together"
And what she said next, I think is another reason a virgin man seek for a virgin woman...
she said, "going for someone nonvirgin will compare you to her previous sexual partner/s is highly risky"
like she said too, the guy will have self doubt like "what if you are not enough?, what if she finds you lacking experience?,"
I think it's a valid reason for a virgin man that feared Allah and saved his virginity for marriage to ask a girl if she's a virgin.
Look, anybody can do zina (Allah ka tsare mu), but if I feared Allah and saved myself, what's wrong with me seeking to marry a virgin woman?
Note:
1) I'm not refering to someone that was raped or the myth of hymen/first night bleeding.
2) You might ask what if she has repented, well... that's great Alhamdulillah but... That is between her and Allah, not the guy's obligation to marry her
3) And no it's not "kaddara" if you planned or follow a guy to a secluded place and had sex with consent.
Wallahu a'alam 😊
