Anonymous
Mar 29, 04:06 PM
Do I have to accept you because you repented?
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Here is my take...
"Everyone has a past", right but... We are responsible for our past. if a man/woman committed a sin, you should absolutely not tell anyone BUT... What if someone that is serious about marriage ask?
See, I've seen a lot of people (especially women) get angry whenever a man ask if a lady is a virgin. To be honest, there's a reason men asks. For example, a man stayed away from zina all his life, saved his virginity till marriage, and hoping to find the same virgin woman to marry. And then there's a woman who engaged in zina... It's not the matter of "ai she has repented" or "that was her past", yeah that's great that she has changed, Alhamdulillah... But her repentance is for disobeying Allah.
Therefore, a man has absolutely no obligation to marry her just because "ai she has repented" but if he knows and he don't mind, great!. If he said no, please understand that IT IS NOT A SIN or "he is not religious".
But now, if a guy is not a virgin, he engaged in zina as well, he has absolutely no right to demand to marry a virgin woman.
Besides, there is a reason why in islam the dowry of a virgin is not the same as that of a nonvirgin.
So why will selfish reasons allowed us to keep giving these stupidity (of people committing zina) a pass by saying "ai that was her past" or "she has repented ai"?
if you don't want complications in the future then don't disobey your Lord and call it "qaddara"...
We are all sinners...
May Allah guide, protect, forgive, and keep us on the straight path.