Dec 31, 08:59 AM

DATING A GUY/LADY ABOVE YOUR LEAGUE/LEVEL

I don't know if it's just me but I find this phrase of "dating above your League" kind of weird. I mean come to think of it, what is the league even about? is it about financial league, physical appearance league, intelligence league or whatever league it is that we use to analyze compatibility between ourselves and potential partners? Because at the end of the day, we are all HUMANS so I don't think that phrase should exist especially in the dating world. Many at times the whole ideology of dating some one above your league is fueled by people with really low self esteem. Now, If I'm being realistic, I agree that certain people might not be our cup of tea just like we are not everyone's cup of tea because as humans we all have our own "types" or "specs", or maybe we are not just compatible or attracted to them which is fine, or maybe we don't share the same values as them etc but it still doesn't mean that you are above their "league" or you are better than them because I've noticed that most times, that phrase is usually used in a derogatory manner if that makes any sense. I think that we need to start looking beyond the superficial stuff like how much do they have in their bank account, how good looking they are, what type of car do they drive,the latest gadgets they use etc(Which is not a bad thing to have don't get me wrong🤷🏾‍♀️) but focus on more important things like if they have values, if they are kind, if they have integrity, if they're hardworking and responsible, if they have respect for you and other people in general and If they show up for you etc. Superficial stuff should be like an icing on a cake and not the main cake itself. While character and values should be the cake which is still delicious even without the icing(I just have to use cake as an example in this context as a cake lover😂) Finally, I might have some conflicting opinions, because this is actually not a right or wrong type of thing but it's just my own opinion so you're free to disagree.

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Dec 31, 09:31 AM
aaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh huncle i luv u, dis write-up jst made my day my headache has finally disappeared 😥😥😰😰😰 tnx soooooo much ooooooo
Dec 31, 09:32 AM
Khadeejert Dec 31, 09:31 AM

aaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh huncle i luv u, dis write-up jst made my day my headache has finally disappeared 😥😥😰😰😰 tnx soooooo much ooooooo

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My pleasure dear 😊 I'm glad it was helpful
Dec 31, 10:18 AM
Dec 31, 10:36 AM
This guyyyyy! 👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽
Dec 31, 10:38 AM
hilis someone should summarize this for me😁😁
Dec 31, 10:39 AM
good saying 👍
Dec 31, 10:50 AM
But for me when I say a girl is out of my league I'm referring to the kind of life she's used to if she's from a rich family. She's used to a grand lifestyle. Her weekly expenditure is probably more than what I earn in a month. So you see it would be unfair to make that kind of person my wife and then be unable to give her the life she's used to. Even though some wouldn't mind as long as all their basic needs would be met satisfactorily. But I believe a guy should marry a girl he can upgrade her life or at least maintain what she's used to in her father's house. My own opinion too.
Dec 31, 11:29 AM
Msahyus Dec 31, 10:38 AM

hilis someone should summarize this for me😁😁

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no one is out of the other's league regardless of gender, status of any kind, age , beauty, you name it
Dec 31, 11:49 AM
Haidar Ali Dec 31, 10:50 AM
But for me when I say a girl is out of my league I'm referring to the kind of life she's used to if she's from a rich family. She's used to a grand lifestyle. Her weekly expenditure is probably more [...] But for me when I say a girl is out of my league I'm referring to the kind of life she's used to if she's from a rich family. She's used to a grand lifestyle. Her weekly expenditure is probably more than what I earn in a month. So you see it would be unfair to make that kind of person my wife and then be unable to give her the life she's used to. Even though some wouldn't mind as long as all their basic needs would be met satisfactorily. But I believe a guy should marry a girl he can upgrade her life or at least maintain what she's used to in her father's house. My own opinion too.
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I agree with u👍👍👍👍
Dec 31, 12:16 PM
Haidar Ali Dec 31, 10:50 AM
But for me when I say a girl is out of my league I'm referring to the kind of life she's used to if she's from a rich family. She's used to a grand lifestyle. Her weekly expenditure is probably more [...] But for me when I say a girl is out of my league I'm referring to the kind of life she's used to if she's from a rich family. She's used to a grand lifestyle. Her weekly expenditure is probably more than what I earn in a month. So you see it would be unfair to make that kind of person my wife and then be unable to give her the life she's used to. Even though some wouldn't mind as long as all their basic needs would be met satisfactorily. But I believe a guy should marry a girl he can upgrade her life or at least maintain what she's used to in her father's house. My own opinion too.
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you sounded like someone I know, kuma gashi sunan haidar... anya kuwa😂
Dec 31, 01:10 PM
Anonymous #1 Dec 31, 12:16 PM

you sounded like someone I know, kuma gashi sunan haidar... anya kuwa😂

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ko dai shi din ne 😅😅
Dec 31, 02:40 PM
first before saying anything thanks for being a cake lover😂🙏🥰that league stuffs is really something else, like you will see a guy and be attracted to him and someone will be like he is totally out of your league Dan masu kudine,Koh kuma yana da kudi and some other stuffs😩😊 to the extent I feel now that there are certain people I can't even dare to have a crush on because they are out of my league 🥺😞
Dec 31, 02:42 PM
Khaleefa Dec 31, 09:32 AM

My pleasure dear 😊 I'm glad it was helpful

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trust me, it really was.
Dec 31, 05:46 PM
👍🤍
Dec 31, 08:18 PM
Haidar Ali Dec 31, 10:50 AM
But for me when I say a girl is out of my league I'm referring to the kind of life she's used to if she's from a rich family. She's used to a grand lifestyle. Her weekly expenditure is probably more [...] But for me when I say a girl is out of my league I'm referring to the kind of life she's used to if she's from a rich family. She's used to a grand lifestyle. Her weekly expenditure is probably more than what I earn in a month. So you see it would be unfair to make that kind of person my wife and then be unable to give her the life she's used to. Even though some wouldn't mind as long as all their basic needs would be met satisfactorily. But I believe a guy should marry a girl he can upgrade her life or at least maintain what she's used to in her father's house. My own opinion too.
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that's it
Jan 2, 03:16 PM
Haidar Ali Dec 31, 01:10 PM

ko dai shi din ne 😅😅

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bari dai in gani😁.... Are you from kt?
Jan 2, 05:19 PM
Anonymous #1 Jan 2, 03:16 PM

bari dai in gani😁.... Are you from kt?

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No I'm not. Kila dai masu sunan yawanci haka muke😁😁
Jan 3, 11:34 AM
Haidar Ali Jan 2, 05:19 PM

No I'm not. Kila dai masu sunan yawanci haka muke😁😁

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maganan ka hakk😁.... Toh nice meeting you mallam aliyu from other side
Jan 3, 06:15 PM
Anonymous #1 Jan 3, 11:34 AM

maganan ka hakk😁.... Toh nice meeting you mallam aliyu from other side

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Nice meeting you too Mr/Mrs anonymous
Jan 3, 10:16 PM
Haidar Ali Jan 3, 06:15 PM

Nice meeting you too Mr/Mrs anonymous

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Miss Actually... I thought if u see the name zaka gane ni,that was why I hide it in the first place 😅. Ashe ma ba wanda nake tunani bne
Jan 3, 10:22 PM
Hauwa'u B Jan 3, 10:16 PM

Miss Actually... I thought if u see the name zaka gane ni,that was why I hide it in the first place 😅. Ashe ma ba wanda nake tunani bne

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Hahaha! Got you. Ni din ne dai da kike tunani I've been suspecting for a while now, tun da naga notification lokacin da kika yi liking previous comment dina.
Jan 3, 10:23 PM
Haidar Ali Jan 3, 10:22 PM

Hahaha! Got you. Ni din ne dai da kike tunani I've been suspecting for a while now, tun da naga notification lokacin da kika yi liking previous comment dina.

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seriously 😮 okay prove me then
Jan 4, 08:30 AM
Hauwa'u B Jan 3, 10:23 PM

seriously 😮 okay prove me then

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🤣🤣🤣 Why should I prove you when you're not a math equation?
Jan 4, 01:50 PM
Haidar Ali Jan 4, 08:30 AM

🤣🤣🤣 Why should I prove you when you're not a math equation?

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malam Ali kar muyi haka abeg 😅, just a hint na ka gane ni that's all I want.... if you give that hint zan tabbatar wanda na ke suspecting ne,shikenan sai zance ya mutu 🤷‍♀️
Jan 4, 02:39 PM
Hauwa'u B Jan 4, 01:50 PM

malam Ali kar muyi haka abeg 😅, just a hint na ka gane ni that's all I want.... if you give that hint zan tabbatar wanda na ke suspecting ne,shikenan sai zance ya mutu 🤷‍♀️

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😄😄 Just kidding, we don't know each other. Was just pulling your legs
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