Khaleefa
Dec 31, 08:59 AM
DATING A GUY/LADY ABOVE YOUR LEAGUE/LEVEL
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I don't know if it's just me but I find this phrase of "dating above your League" kind of weird. I mean come to think of it, what is the league even about? is it about financial league, physical appearance league, intelligence league or whatever league it is that we use to analyze compatibility between ourselves and potential partners? Because at the end of the day, we are all HUMANS so I don't think that phrase should exist especially in the dating world.
Many at times the whole ideology of dating some one above your league is fueled by people with really low self esteem.
Now, If I'm being realistic, I agree that certain people might not be our cup of tea just like we are not everyone's cup of tea because as humans we all have our own "types" or "specs", or maybe we are not just compatible or attracted to them which is fine, or maybe we don't share the same values as them etc but it still doesn't mean that you are above their "league" or you are better than them because I've noticed that most times, that phrase is usually used in a derogatory manner if that makes any sense.
I think that we need to start looking beyond the superficial stuff like how much do they have in their bank account, how good looking they are, what type of car do they drive,the latest gadgets they use etc(Which is not a bad thing to have don't get me wrong🤷🏾♀️) but focus on more important things like if they have values, if they are kind, if they have integrity, if they're hardworking and responsible, if they have respect for you and other people in general and If they show up for you etc.
Superficial stuff should be like an icing on a cake and not the main cake itself. While character and values should be the cake which is still delicious even without the icing(I just have to use cake as an example in this context as a cake lover😂)
Finally, I might have some conflicting opinions, because this is actually not a right or wrong type of thing but it's just my own opinion so you're free to disagree.
