LONLINESS IS A GATEWAY TO SO MANY EVIL
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Anonymous Dec 19, 10:12 PM

LONLINESS IS A GATEWAY TO SO MANY EVIL 0

Hey fam pls i need your advice i am a very lonely lady with health issues and i easily get depressed and angry easily too i am currently serving in a ministry Alhamdulillah with a friend a made in camp,she is like an elder sister to me and a supporter when i break down.so she travelled home for this christmas break while i stayed back here.the problem is since she left i have been so lonely,and so i got really closed to this guy at my ppa,we were really cool friends nothing attached....but since last week he got a new apartment and as been asking me to come over that hes bored,i declined like twice but accepted the 3rd time,cos i was so bored and lonely .i slept over at his place,at first nothing happened but during the night when we were done playing and gisting we actually ended up doing some touchy stuff but no sex though. i dont really know but since then i think he as changed,hes not that close again and he keep giving excuses when i call or even want to tak to him. i feel so ashamed of myself,i wished i never went there....i feel its because of that pls i need your advice on how to gain my respect back and how i will continue with him in office pls help me....i am so angry at myself
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Anonymous #1 Dec 19, 10:21 PM
I'm sorry to say but you can never gain back that trust, he slept with you..what do you expect?? obviously he has loose interest in you, even if he hasn't change..deep inside him he have no value for you. Please ladies we need to be very careful, bn lonely should never be a reason for commiting a sin and downgrading ourselves. May Allah make it easy for you
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Anonymous Dec 19, 10:26 PM

Aameen i'm sorry to say but i feel you were harsh and also he didnt sleep with me. i have never slept in a guys house,it just feel weird and i am feeling bad for doing so....also,i dont want him to trust me but need some advice on how to deal with my worries since we see at office everyday. if you cant advice me pls dont add to my worries thank you
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Anonymous #2 Dec 19, 10:40 PM

May be you didn't read the post well. Unless what you mean by "slept with you" is different from what we're thinking.
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Anonymous Dec 19, 10:42 PM

i even specified that "no sex though" i just felt weird cos i have never been in this situation before.....pls helo me out on what to do i dont want to jeep malice...we work in same office
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Nyla Aliyu Dec 19, 10:48 PM
Okay "Touchy stuff" seek Allah's forgiveness and don't worry about the guy, I guess you should just act normal and move on with your life. The reason why I said this it's because that's a fact, after all men are unpredictable.
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Nyla Aliyu Dec 19, 10:52 PM

Always welcome
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Anonymous #2 Dec 19, 10:53 PM
I think the best course of action is to beg Allah's forgiveness even though you didn't have sex, you still sinned by the play and touchy stuff you mentioned. Do lots of istighfar, it will greatly help. As for the guy, maybe he's upset he didn't get his way with you, maybe he's also angry that the devil got the better of him and almost led you two to commit a heinous act and so he's trying to stay away from you so as not to repeat the same thing. Wallahu a'alam. Try as much as you can to forgive yourself, forgive him and move on with your life. pretend you're strangers or just work place acquaintances. Again lots of istighfar. It does wonders to the life of a Muslim beyond our imagination. Any and every aspect. Whether you're in need, in danger, worried, you name it. May Allah forgive us all for we're all sinners and the best of us are those who seek for His forgiveness.
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Anonymous #2 Dec 19, 10:58 PM

It's a good sign that you regret your actions. There are those that do worse and feel no remorse. As much as I'd like to tell you to bother yourself no more, I don't think anyone conscious of Allah will. But be thankful it didn't get worse than it did.
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Anonymous #2 Dec 19, 11:01 PM

You're welcome. Glad to help anyway I can.
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Anonymous #5 Dec 19, 11:48 PM
Hmm Allah y kyau
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Anonymous #3 Dec 20, 03:15 AM
Hey baby. Alhamdulillah since there wasn't any penetration. His change of attitude is because you didn't give in to his demand for coitus act. For you, it's natural that you feel the way you feel because you have been let down. But again, you should thank God that he changed suddenly because supposing he didn't, there's high possibility of ending up penetrating you by the time you stay with him for more than 2 days. Kindly reduce expectation you place on human beings no matter who's involved. Human being will always disappoint. About your loneliness, please make friend with yourself. Take yourself out. Go to Zoo, May Allah bless you, comfort you and guide you. Sending my Prayers and love.
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Sadeeqsak Dec 20, 09:59 AM

Seek Allah's forgiveness and never think of sharing same room with ant man, just move on and even forget that such a thing had ever happened. Don't think of reassociating yourself with him
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Anonymous #3 Dec 20, 10:00 AM

Which state and town are you serving?
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Anonymous Dec 20, 10:46 AM

Asaba Delta state
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Meenerh MG Dec 20, 02:04 PM

definitely nothing wlh.. mata suna kan making this one mistake and I wouldn't be tired of saying that duk namijin daya buqaci wani abu daga gun ki daya shafi zina toh na rantse miki da Allah baya sonki.
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Anonymous #3 Dec 20, 02:40 PM

Oh oh. We're very very far away from each other (Kano). But we can be online friend if it's okay by you
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Meenerh MG Dec 20, 03:45 PM

wlh fah sister ... if u tried touching even my nails checking out nake ma.. I don't take such things from guys
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Nyla Aliyu Dec 20, 04:06 PM

wlh, rayuwan neh sai a hankali and mostly yanzu they show such interest a first day
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Sabir Dec 20, 09:10 PM
Just seek forgiveness from Allah and ignore the dude, silence is also an answer, keep ur distance and live your life.
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Anonymous #4 Dec 20, 10:27 PM
Dear Sis, I'm glad that you already feel bad about what you did. repent to Allah and let go of him. Just go on with your life and ignore him. what has happened has already happened sai dai a kiyaye gaba. about the anger and depression, make the Qur'an your best friend and In Sha Allah zaki samu sauki. May Allah make it easy for you.
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Husnar sarkinya Dec 21, 10:04 PM
Honestly u av to. That's the first thing or lemme say reason to avoid any guy. All guys are such. U should thank God that it's not sex u two had. So no matter how maintain ur dignity
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Husnar sarkinya Dec 21, 10:08 PM

Just be yourself and whenever you are together nva show by any chance that u Eva knows anything happen between u like that.Dont feel guilty at all. Be calm always and be the normal u.As if nothing happened.Domt let it show in your face. Sometimes our face betrays us. Try as possible as u can. By doing that it will come to a pass. but if u fail too he will just continue acting like that
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