unfortunately, that’s the reality of the world we live in today. however, remember it’s not worth it falling into haram while seeking for our livelihood because whatever is destined for you won’t pass you by.

Well, that's how the world works now, its give and take, especially to build connections or get favors and women are vulnerable in that aspect, however Men are at more disadvantage because as a Man, no one will even attempt to help you in such regard. That's why its good to hold on to a Man in your life as a Woman, be it your husband, Dad or brother because those are the ones that can help and uplift you genuinely without taking advantage of you. I'm not saying all Men are like this, but Majority are. You can still make it as an independent woman but the chances are slim especially if your coming from the bottom Try to learn a skill or something that you can do for yourself and elevate yourself in any way possible, ki tsare mutunci ki as a lady.

I will be very frank in answering your questions as Man, If a woman is to come to me, that is not my close relative, for me to help her with a Job or anything be it business or whatsoever, I will also make my request to let me user her. If i can get something of out it, then why not? Just a blunt answer.

Poster, it is difficult to get help for both males and females, infact sometimes you girls have more advantage than us. Unfortunately that's how life is, you just keep trying and never give up, surely after hardship comes ease. And not everyone will want to have an affair with you to help you, if i have the means to help 100 girls wlh I'll do it without demanding anything from them. If you choose to do bad to succeed you're sacrificing this world for the hereafter. Stick to your faith and put your trust in Allah, increase in Istighfar and always explore new things. If one didn't work out try another. There are a lot of opportunities if you have the interest you can print ur cv's and distribute across private schools you'll surely get a job, from there you can try to set up a small business and just take care of yourself. May Allah help you.

Yea unfortunately that's how it is. Both men and women actually face this challenge. But one key thing I learned over the years is that there are points you want to help someone genuinely but the person falls short of expectations or requirements; some times if it's job you may help someone to get shortlisted for an interview but the person fails to make it. There are cases where people want to get TOTAL help, meaning everything to be given to them without them totally deserving it. The key to getting it for yourself is to be highly competitive and skilled in what you are looking for, because there are opportunities that only duly qualified persons are taken. Second, know about where opportunities are, most people want job but they don't have subscription to any job advert services, or they don't actively search for such services - which are always available and for free. Third, always update your skills, learn and keep with trends - there are a lot of sites offering courses and skills with certifications and they are also free of charge or have financial aid available, such as Coursera, Edx, Udemy etc. Fourth, learn hard skills and hone your soft skills in a practical way - I know a lot of people that pushed themselves into where they want to work through volunteerism and later they were considered for the main job, eg if you want to work in sales go to the company or many of such companies and present yourself to work for free or for internship. Fifth, make sure you establish connections through friendships and favors - the world operates on a give and take basis, so know people in the area you want to work or even different areas and do them little favors such as just calling to greet, being there to support them morally when they encounter mishaps, just be there for them and they would feel indebted to you and would want to pay back; do you know that people who are successful don't receive gifts often and when you give them no matter how little they appreciate it? it could be you buying a good book and giving them. Sixth, make yourself visible, package yourself and make yourself marketable - create an impressive and standard CV putting all the skills and certificates you have acquired as I advised you up there, create a standard profile for yourself in professional blogs such as LinkedIn - do you know that a lot of employers search prospective candidates through LinkedIn, and even hire them?, part of packaging is to attend programs where you can network with people; etc. Seventh, find yourself a mentor, if you look around you will realise that people don't make it by themselves in politics, academics, business, etc, so if you want to get to know about opportunities and go far have a mentor or mentors - identify some people who are experts and high up in your line of profession or in the area of your passion and present yourself to them to learn, be ready to prove yourself to them and be ready to do some little work for them in exchange for their guidance and support in mentoring you on what skills, certificates and knowledge you would need to achieve in order to make it. There are lots of ways to build yourself but I'm tired of typing for now 😁. Arewa Up please create voice note here. Lol In a nutshell you can make it by following the right steps and only and totally relying on Allah while also leverage on means through humans to achieve your goals. Also note that it is not an easy fix to just make it, look around and see those that have accomplished something good or bad, they did not get it without deliberate plans and executing those plans. So follow these steps judiciously and dedicate yourself with consistency for the next 12 months and come back here to tell us what you have learnt.

modern world.. so many of we human now have corrupt mind such that we hardly do things for free. it is always give & take meaning trade by barter. in our so called country what count is who you know, which is why the son of nobody keeps suffering. just keep praying am sure Allah will make every better for you & us all.

yes! ladies have more advantage than we guys/men. but it's always one way the other, i.e when they have something to offer. which we all know is always a negative one.

you nailed it, Weldon.

well as much as you are complaining nobody wants to help, I am complaining too about not helping girls anymore. because helping a lady put me in so much troubles that I almost do what will made me regret my life. that's for the not so decent ones. helping the decent ones will always send negative signal as if you're in love and want to marry she can even start dating you without your knowledge and when you put a break to it she becomes heartbroken. I recently pose this question in my mind. CAN'T YOU HELP A GIRL FOR THE SAKE OF ALLAH WITHOUT HER THINKING THAT YOU HAVE A MOTIVE???

you are Right, most of us ladies have that mentality that if someone renders helping hands it means the person loves them, but girls are of many types akwai wadanda zaka musu taimako su dauka sonsu kake, akwai wadanda they just want to keep in touch saboda ko da shawara ce in sunga Kai mutumin kirki ne, but the worst type of girls are the ones that try to seduce and fall you into trap Allah ya tsare mu ya tsare Mana Imanin mu but that doesn't mean you will not help ladies, if you really want to help and your intention is clean and clear with your lord, go straight forward and tell her that I do it fisabilillah not because of love or something related to it Allah ya bada ladan niyya Kuma ya Kara budi

ohh really? share one of the stories please. just for the record

Thanks so much for giving us this advise it's not only for her it's for both of us

Some girls have negative thinking,. And there are not thesame so pls don't say that

You are most welcome.