He wants to be intimate with me & our marriage is already in process
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Anonymous Jan 23, 02:24 PM

He wants to be intimate with me & our marriage is already in process 2

Assalamu alaikum... am here to seek for advice and prayers, am in dilemma, I have a boyfriend that we have been in a relationship for like 8yrs , but the relationship is on and off for the 8yrs not steady, around 2020 muka cigaba da relationship, I noticed he want to have sex with me which I deny, har mukayi fada but he still come back that he cannot leave without me, so around December 2022 he plan to take a step forwarder and I agreed, normal procedure are taken gaisuwar iyaye and finally date was fixed this January, the date fixed is 7month, we're happy and we started planning most of the part of lefe is done in less than 4weeks, so yesterday we are together I cooked his favorite he come to pick it up, so we're into conversation and he request for sex I ignore him and left, so earlier this morning I wake up to see his missed calls and messages, shi ya gaji bazai iya jurewa ba he need sex if not he will find it somewhere else idan nan yarda ba, to me I make a promise I'll never commit zina and pray it should not be in my destiny, ko za a sa wuka a wuya na bazan aikata ba, his words are unpleasant sometimes I feel like to tell him yaje yayi mana but I don't want to push him to do unlawful, and the way he keep pressuring me am depressed, I have this taught in mind I should involved my parent to know what is actually happening between us ko zai daina treating dina because na gaji, bana son mutuncin sa da kimarsa ta zube a idonsh, Ina sallar dare da addua kullum but astagfrullah...like my prayers aren't answered, please advice me😭🤲🏻
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Umar Abdulsalam Jan 23, 02:40 PM
this is not a small issue koma tayaya karki yarda da Dan banza
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Trustee Jan 23, 02:56 PM
hahaha 🤣🤣🤣 hmm kice masa yaje yayi dan ubansa...yana fadan haka ne dan kiji kishi kice yazo yayi...so Karki kuskura ko wasa ki yarda..i repeat Karki yadda wayo zai Miki...
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Ilhama Usman Jan 23, 03:18 PM
wlh karki yadda ki bashi hadin Kai kawai barazana yake Miki akan zaije gun wasu.kuma inhar da gaske y matsu din y fito mana ayi auren kawai a huta ai zaifi sannan tunda kina sonshi karki yadda iyayenki su San da wannan domin mutumci shi zai zube a idon su
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Rukaiya Muhammad Jan 23, 03:50 PM
SUBHANALLAH!!!your prayers are answered shiyasa baki yardaba,ai Allah ba Azzalumin bawansa bane,wani adduar xaka nema akan abu specifically saikiga Allah ya karbamaki ko maka tawani abun dabaki kobaka tsammaniba saboda shiyafi dacewa dake.kina ganin badan adduar ba zaki iya tsallekawa?ga advice dazanbaki,call him da rana yazo kifada masa kebazaki iyaba kuma you are not ready to marry fasiki so inyaga bazai yiuba pls kan abu yasake ja you guys should call it off.saboda wannan jarabawace kike ciki kuma bar abun da Allah ya haramta walh shiga raine dashi watarana ake tsoro is better ki kare mutuncinki da zunubin daxaki aikata.saikiji meyxaice.Allah ya bamu saa
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Saniieam Jan 23, 04:28 PM
If you agree to his wish against the wish of Allah, then be ready for the wrath of Allah. If he really loves you sincerely he should be patient enough to wait until after nikah. Why not bring the marriage to 2/3 months. If he loves you and has the means he can take care of the kayan daki even if your parents aren't ready/ capable. He can do everything after all he says/claims he loves you
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Anonymous #1 Jan 23, 05:05 PM
🤦🏽‍♂️ Wato al'ada or tradition na cutar mu da yawa. Da za'a yarda a daura maku auren yanzu in yaso kwa tare lokacin da ya shirya. Then, from a guy, kar ki yarda or else, he's going to dump you after, yace ya fasa saboda wani flimsy dalili. Idan da gaske yana son ki, babu inda ze je. Idan kuwa ya tafi, toh ki gode Allah da ya raba ki da shi saboda ba kwanciyar hankalin ki a tattare da shi.
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Meenerh MG Jan 23, 05:32 PM
yar uwa kar kiyi wannan kuskuren ko da ze ce zai fasa auren kar ki amince
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Sayyid hamzah Jan 23, 05:49 PM
let me tell you karki yadda koda wasa ki biye mishi mu maza sai ahankali kina bashi kanki wlh zaiyi wuya ya aure ki dole yanada manufa akanki wlh Allah yasa mu dace
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Ahjummaah Jan 23, 06:42 PM
😢😢😢
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Anonymous #2 Jan 23, 07:10 PM
Stay true to yourself, continue praying. Let him have his fantasies, you aren't answerable to him or any human except your creator. Allah ya baki mutumin arziki Amin
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Anonymous #3 Jan 23, 08:20 PM
Ki rabu da matsiyaci, kar ki soma yarda wallahi, ya kawo maganar auren ne don ya cimma burin shi. Ki ce idan ya kara maganar ku yi zina zaki rabu dashi
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Zaikardi Jan 24, 09:14 AM
uhmmm tell him yaje yayi kina yarda wlh story zai chanza wlh so keep on denying him ki bari Akai ki gidan shi wayoo kawaii yake son Yi Dan an ansa date na Biki ba shine an daura aure ba my sister no don't feel bad wlh
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Osman Abu-bakr Jan 24, 11:03 AM
kina bashi kanki shikenan kin Gama amfani. wlh bazai aureki bah. da ace zakiji shawara ma wannan ba Mijin Aure bane
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Anonymous #4 Jan 25, 03:17 PM
Bold of you to assume he isn’t already getting it somewhere, I employ you not to get married to this man because he doesn’t truly love you and he wants to use you and probably dump you, wallahi no man will even touch your body if he have the right intentions. Even if you eventually end up getting married you’d end up with a cheating spouse and you will probably end up being divorced due to infidelity. Please sister ponder against this and make a befitting decision for you and your future offsprings.
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