Jan 4, 09:44 PM

Advice, i have not been lucky with relationships

Slm ma'am 🙏 please I just need an advice am 22yrs , student in my finals ,never been lucky when it's. Comes to relationship,the highest is 2 month den we done ,am still intact never had sex before,when I give them the condition of no sex ,at first they tend to comply then later on switch off,never been loved and cared for before,all I ever asked for is to feel what it means to be truly in love, don't know if am cursed or probably am the problem,am just so confused 💯

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Jan 4, 09:48 PM
Don't worry dear...the dinki Wil come.
Jan 4, 10:07 PM
nothing like curse in sha Allah kawai komai lokacine.one thing I will advice you more shine keep your dignity dont feel any insecurity insha Allah your purity will stand for you soonest.
Jan 4, 10:59 PM
Did I read "cursed" ? By who?Shaitan ?That's the only living being that will curse you and his curse is meaningless. My dear remain intact for your Lord and creator knows your situation and He'll definitely protect you if you put all your trust in Him ..
Jan 5, 09:43 AM
Nothing to be confused about. You should be proud of yourself, keep your head held high. You just haven't met the right one yet That your condition is what drives them away. After a month or two they probably realize you mean it and they won't get what they want and so they japa. Trust me even the bad ones want to end up marrying a chaste lady. Amma Allah ba azzalumin kowa bane, you reap what you sow.
Jan 5, 09:51 AM
But then again, you should look inward. Check yourself to see, perhaps you are not doing something right for instance you don't show affection or you have the I don't care attitude, the manner you speak or any other thing dai that could be the cause of guys dissociating themselves with you. If there is none then I guess it's your condition that chases them away and if that is the case then just keep being you. But I refuse to believe every guy is after being in bed with you. Not all guys are like that. Unless maybe you're talking of 2 to 3 guys you've been in relationship with.
Jan 5, 04:54 PM
Komai lokaci ne Allah ya mana zabi mafi alkhairi.
Jan 5, 05:54 PM
Please I beg you in the name of Allah, don't let any pressure make you fall for Zina
Jan 5, 05:55 PM
Anonymous #1 Jan 5, 05:54 PM

Please I beg you in the name of Allah, don't let any pressure make you fall for Zina

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You're a rare gem, irin ki muke nema,
Jan 6, 06:37 AM
subhanallah dear poster u aren’t cursed dnt say words like that, I jst believe those that left u weren’t meant for u , Insha Allah a man that will love u sincerely will locate u soon
Jan 6, 11:18 AM
it's just time sister, I can also Relate to this so well.....but what keeps me going is knowing that it's a trial from Allah to see if you will be patience....Cox Allah loves As-sabirun
Jan 6, 01:32 PM
we are on this page together....so sad😭 but i know one day everything will be fine
Jan 7, 06:30 AM
Jinah Aisha Jan 6, 11:18 AM

it's just time sister, I can also Relate to this so well.....but what keeps me going is knowing that it's a trial from Allah to see if you will be patience....Cox Allah loves As-sabirun

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Exactly..
Jan 7, 02:13 PM
Bafferh Jan 7, 06:30 AM

Exactly..

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yeah
Jan 7, 02:21 PM
Jinah Aisha Jan 7, 02:13 PM

yeah

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May Allah makes it easy for all of us
Aug 8, 09:00 AM
every human have his/her destiny, and destiny can only be delay but not change. just be patient, Allah's time is the best. am sure the rightful man will show up soon and you gonna enjoy the best of the best relationship. Any guy/man who genuinely loves you will not be after the sexual pleasure of some few minutes. rather he will respect and cherish you the way you're even without giving condition. Nothing good comes easily, only those who likes you for sexual pleasure won't withstand that and will always want to rush things. Just remain calm and be prayful, insha Allah your prayers will be answered.
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