I committed murder and I haven't known peace since then
Anonymous Mar 11, 09:22 PM

I committed murder and I haven't known peace since then 0

My husband was an abusive person in our 5 years of Marriage, until towards the ending of 2020 when I poisoned him, and made up a cover up story which everyone believed and he was buried, i have been living with this guilt for almost 3 years now but it feels like forever, i am really bothered and just becoming a crazy person. I can't hold it anymore, I am scared of my ending and going back to Allah. Please advice me on what to do, don't judge me please I have already deeply regretted it, despite the hell i went through with him i made the worst decision of taking his life
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Safiyah Ahmad Mar 11, 09:31 PM
Inna-lillahi wa inna ilaihi Raji'un, sister what made you commit such a grave sin haka? you let emotions control you, you should have left the marriage instead. This is big case hmmmm
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Anonymous Mar 11, 09:35 PM

I know, i am looking for solutions now please i am loosing my mind. I can't justify what i did, the abuse i went through was very severe and I let anger & revenge control me like that. I need help and advice
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Nameer Mar 11, 09:38 PM
Inna-lillahi wa inna ilaihi Raji'un
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Abdulmalik abdulkarim idris Mar 11, 09:38 PM
subahana lillahi
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Anon 123 Mar 11, 09:42 PM
Just go to his parent and be be honest with them ……… one who kills deliberately. He is to be killed in retaliation (qisas) unless the victim’s next of kin let him off or agree to accept the diyah (blood money). Sister you killed a believer deliberately, there are three rights which are connected to that: the rights of Allah, the rights of the victim and the rights of the victim’s next of kin. With regard to the rights of Allah: if you repent sincerely to your Lord, then Allah will accept your repentance . With regard to the rights of the victim, he is not alive so you cannot put things right with him. The matter has to wait until the Day of Resurrection, With regard to the rights of the victim’s next of kin, which is the third right, you cannot be absolved of this until you hand yourself over to them. there is no other way to go about it……..Shaitan tricked you 😭 Inna lillahi wa inna ilaihi raji’un . Dear sisters Divorce is always an option to an abusive marriage
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Anonymous #1 Mar 11, 09:47 PM

Why are you asking her questions she already answered even before asking.... + she knows it's a grave sin kaman yadda kika ga tayi mentioning.... let's stop judging people dan Allah ba aikin mu bane na Allah ne... not like akwai abinda zai yi justifying what she did though..... Allah ya raba mu da mummunan kaddara ya kuma sa mufi karfin zuciyan mu
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Bhillyamin Mar 11, 09:51 PM
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Anonymous #2 Mar 11, 10:09 PM
Kinga hajiya the damage has already been done..nth u say or do that will bring him back ...kita istigfari like be addicted to it....Allah me gafarane da Rahama.... Mutum ma ya kashe mutum dari ya shiga aljanna bare ke..so dear be addicted to istigfar.., zumunci and sadaka...
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Ramatu salihu Mar 11, 10:43 PM
just go to any Islamic scholar for advice
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Msahyus Mar 11, 11:29 PM

there are sins da idan mutum ya aikata and ALLAH (swt) ya suturta maka shi you have no right to expose yourself as it's another sin on its own[and mind you I'm not justifying her actions]. kawae dai I suggest she does the normal hukuncin kisan kai i.E the fasting, ultimate taubah e.t.c wallahu taala Aalam
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Msahyus Mar 11, 11:31 PM

via phone/ anonymously things like this should only be kept within self and his creator الله
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MuhammadS Mar 11, 11:40 PM
Tab! nidai I'm speechless wlh. wannan dai yayi yawa...
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Msahyus Mar 11, 11:44 PM

dear poster the best and most important advice I can give you is 1. in no way possible should you share this with someone as it's a sin on its own in Islam 2.find a way to ask an Islamic scholar via phone/text anonymously on the Islamic ruling of ur case 3.Tawbah,Tawbah,And Tawbah (like ultimate repentance till death as ur case is not a little one) 4.increase your ibadat,(khushoo in Salah) إِنَّ الْحَسَنَاتِ يُذْهِبْنَ السَّيِّئَاتِ ۚ ذَ‌ٰلِكَ ذِكْرَىٰ لِلذَّاكِرِينَ(surely good deeds take away evil deeds this is a reminder to the mindful). 5.if possible ki koma islamiya and let me repeat my self never share a secret ALLAH has concealed as it's another sin on it's own (والله أعلمُ)
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Msahyus Mar 11, 11:47 PM
dear poster the best and most important advice I can give you is 1. in no way possible should you share this with someone as it's a sin on its own in Islam 2.find a way to ask an Islamic scholar via phone/text anonymously on the Islamic ruling of ur case 3.Tawbah,Tawbah,And Tawbah (like ultimate repentance till death as ur case is not a little one) 4.increase your ibadat,(khushoo in Salah) إِنَّ الْحَسَنَاتِ يُذْهِبْنَ السَّيِّئَاتِ ۚ ذَ‌ٰلِكَ ذِكْرَىٰ لِلذَّاكِرِينَ(surely good deeds take away evil deeds this is a reminder to the mindful). 5.if possible ki koma islamiya and let me repeat my self never share a secret ALLAH has concealed as it's another sin on it's own (والله أعلمُ)
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Anonymous Mar 12, 05:17 AM

I could have done something to myself if i hadn't post this, at least i am getting a slight relief for the first time.
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Anonymous Mar 12, 05:19 AM
I appreciate all those that shared their advice. Thanks
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Anonymous #3 Mar 12, 06:25 AM

Do not expose your self, I repeat do not expose your self. please carefully read all. Views of the salaf and Sunni scholars concerning the repentance of one who kills someone deliberately and unlawfully Question : 182945 21/07/2015 Can the one who kills someone deliberately repent, or is it not possible for him to repent? What are the views of the salaf and Sunni scholars concerning that? Answer The fuqaha’ differed as to whether the repentance of one who kills someone deliberately and unlawfully may be accepted. The majority of fuqaha’ are of the view that the one who kills someone deliberately and wrongfully may repent (and his repentance may be accepted), as is also the case for those who commit other major sins, because of the texts which speak specifically of that, as well as the general texts which speak of the repentance of all people being accepted. That includes the verses in which Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning): “And those who invoke not any other ilaah (god) along with Allah, nor kill such person as Allah has forbidden, except for just cause, nor commit illegal sexual intercourse __and whoever does this shall receive the punishment. 69. The torment will be doubled to him on the Day of Resurrection, and he will abide therein in disgrace; 70. Except those who repent and believe (in Islamic Monotheism), and do righteous deeds; for those, Allah will change their sins into good deeds, and Allah is Oft‑Forgiving, Most Merciful 71. And whosoever repents and does righteous good deeds; then verily, he repents towards Allah with true repentance” [al-Furqaan 25:68-70] “And whoever kills a believer intentionally, his recompense is Hell to abide therein, and the Wrath and the Curse of Allah are upon him, and a great punishment is prepared for him” [an-Nisa’ 4:93]. The general meaning of the latter verse is to be understood in the light of the specific meaning of the verses from al-Furqaan. So what is meant is: his recompense will be Hell, to abide therein forever, except for the one who repents. Because the repentance of the disbeliever, by virtue of his entering Islam, is accepted according to scholarly consensus, it is more apt that the repentance of the murderer should be accepted. The wording used by the fuqaha’ differed with regard to what conditions there are for this repentance to be accepted and what may be waived as a result. The Hanafis said that the repentance of the murderer, in the sense of praying for forgiveness and showing regret only, is not valid; rather it depends on the approval of the heirs of the victim. If the killing was done deliberately, then it is essential to allow them to exact lawful retribution (qisaas), so if they wish, they may kill him, or if they wish, they may pardon him, and if they pardon him then his repentance is accepted and he is absolved of sin in this world. The Maalikis spoke in general terms of the acceptance of the repentance of one who has killed deliberately. Al-Qurtubi said: This is the view of Ahl as-Sunnah, and it is the correct view. The Shaafa‘is said: The gravest of major sins after disbelief is wrongful killing, but by means of lawful retribution or pardon, no one will have any claim against him in the hereafter. However, the right of Allah, may He be exalted, remains and cannot be waived except by means of sound repentance. Merely allowing lawful retribution to be carried out on him is not sufficient with regard to the right of Allah, unless it is accompanied by sincere regret for the sin and resolve not to do it again. The Hanbalis said: The right of the victim in the hereafter is not waived merely by repentance, as is the case with all other rights. Based on that, the victim will take from the hasanaat (good deeds) of the killer, to a degree commensurate with the extent to which he was wronged. If legal retribution is exacted on behalf of the victim from the killer, or the victim’s heirs excuse the killer from legal retribution, can the victim demand retribution in the hereafter? There are two points of view, as mentioned by the author of al-Furoo‘. Ibn ‘Abbaas and Zayd ibn Thaabit (may Allah be pleased with them) differed from the majority concerning the acceptance of the killer’s repentance. They were of the view that the repentance of one who killed deliberately and wrongfully will not be accepted, because Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning): “And whoever kills a believer intentionally, his recompense is Hell to abide therein, and the Wrath and the Curse of Allah are upon him, and a great punishment is prepared for him” [an-Nisa’ 4:93]. Ibn ‘Abbaas (may Allah be pleased with him) was asked: Can one who killed a believer deliberately repent? He said: No; (he has nothing) but Hell. Then he recited the verse quoted above, which was the last thing to be revealed concerning this matter and was not abrogated by anything. Moreover, this verse is a statement of what will happen, and such statements are not subject to abrogation or alteration, because Allah states about what will happen cannot be anything but true. End quote from al-Mawsoo‘ah al-Fiqhiyyah (41/30-31) Ibn Jareer at-Tabari (may Allah have mercy on him) said: With regard to the words “his recompense is Hell to abide therein”, the commentators differed as to what is meant here: -1- Some of them said that what is meant is that his recompense will be Hell, if He decrees that he is to be punished. Among those who held this view were Abu Majlaz Laahiq ibn Humayd and Abu Saalih. -2- Others said that what is meant is a particular man who had become Muslim, then he apostatised from Islam and killed a believing man. They said: What the verse means is: whoever kills a believer deliberately, believing it to be permissible to kill him, then his recompense will be Hell, to abide therein forever. This was narrated by ‘Ikrimah, the freed slave of Ibn ‘Abbaas. -3- Others said that what is meant is: unless he repents. Among those who held this view was Mujaahid ibn Jabr. -4- Others said that this makes the warning of Allah inevitable for the one who kills a believer deliberately, regardless of who the killer is, and He has not allowed him the opportunity to repent from his deed. They said: So everyone who kills a believer deliberately will have what Allah has warned him about of punishment and eternity in Hell, and he has no option of repentance. They said: This verse was revealed after the passage in Soorat al-Furqaan. Among those from whom this was narrated were Ibn Mas‘ood, Ibn ‘Abbaas, Zayd ibn Thaabit, and ad-Dahhaak ibn Muzaahim. Ibn Jareer said: The most correct view concerning that is the view of those who said that what is meant is: Whoever kills a believer deliberately, his punishment, if he is punished, will be Hell, to abide therein forever, but Allah may forgive and bestow His grace upon those who believe in Him and His Messenger, in which case He will not punish them by causing them to abide therein for eternity. Rather He, may He be glorified, may either forgive him by His grace, and not admit him to Hell, or He may add admit him therein, then bring him forth from it by virtue of His mercy, because of His promise to His believing slaves in the verse (interpretation of the meaning): “Say: O ‘Ibaadi (My slaves) who have transgressed against themselves (by committing evil deeds and sins)! Despair not of the Mercy of Allah, verily, Allah forgives all sins” [al-Zumar 39:53]. End quote from Tafseer at-Tabari (9/61-69) Ibn Katheer (may Allah have mercy on him) said: The view of the majority of the earlier and later generations of the ummah is that the killer may repent to his Lord, may He be glorified and exalted, and if he repents, turns to Allah, humbles himself before Him and does righteous deeds, Allah will turn his evil deeds into good deeds, and He will compensate the victim for the wrong that was done to him, and He will give him enough so that he will no longer seek redress from his killer. End quote from Tafseer Ibn Katheer (2/380) See also: Madaarij as-Saalikeen (1/392-399); Tafseer Ibn Katheer (6/124-130) Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allah have mercy on him) said: If you say: What do you say about the saheeh report from Ibn ‘Abbaas (may Allah be pleased with him) that the murderer cannot repent? The answer is one of two things: Either Ibn ‘Abbaas (may Allah be pleased with him) thought it unlikely that one who killed deliberately can repent, and he thought that he would not be helped and guided to repent, and if he is not helped and guided to repent, then this sin is not waived from him; rather he will be brought to account for it, or it may be said that what Ibn ‘Abbaas meant was that his repentance will not waive the rights of the one who was killed. End quote from Majmoo‘ Fataawa wa Rasaa’il Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (8/222) It was also narrated from Ibn ‘Abbaas in a saheeh report that he (the one who kills another person deliberately) may repent (and his repentance may be accepted). At-Tabari (9/67) narrated that he said: There is no forgiveness for the murderer, unless he asks Allah for forgiveness. Shaykh al-Albaani (may Allah have mercy on him) said: This was narrated by Ibn Jareer with a jayyid isnaad. Perhaps he meant that he will not be forgiven, according to his first view, then he corrected himself and said: unless he asks Allah to forgive him. End quote from as-Silsilah as-Saheehah (6/298) See also the answer to question no. 147017 And Allah knows best. Source: Islam Q&A
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Anonymous #3 Mar 12, 06:30 AM

Translation of Sahih Muslim, Book 37: KITAB AL-TAUBA (BOOK PERTAINING TO REPENTANCE AND EXHORTATION TO REPENTANCE) Book 37, Number 6662: Abu Sa'id al-Khudri reported Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) as saying: There was a person before you who had killed ninety-nine persons and then made an inquiry about the learned persons of the world (who could show him the way to salvation). He was directed to a monk. He came to him and told him that he had killed ninety-nine persons and asked him whether there was any scope for his repentance to be accepted. He said: No. He killed him also and thus completed one hundred. He then asked about the learned persons of the earth and he was directed to a scholar, and he told him that he had killed one hundred persons and asked him whether there was any scope for his repentance to be accepted. He said: Yes; what stands between you and the repentance? You better go to such and such land; there are people devoted to prayer and worship and you also worship along with them and do not come to the land of yours since it was an evil land (for you). So he went away and he had hardly covered half the distance when death came to him and there was a dispute between the angels of mercy and the angels of punishment. The angels of mercy said: This man has come as a penitant and remorseful to Allah and the angels of punishment said: He has done no good at all. Then there came another angel in the form of a human being in order to decide between them. He said: You measure the land to which he has drawn near. They measured it and found him nearer to the land where he intended to go (the land of piety), and so the angels of mercy took possession of it. Qatada said that Hasan told him that it was said to them that as death approached him, he crawled upon his chest (and managed) to slip in the land of mercy.
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Zainab sani kazaure Mar 12, 08:49 AM
ya Allahu ya rahman Allah k raba mu da mummunan kaddara Yar uwa kinyi babban kuskure arayuwarki duk girman laifin d ya miki be cancanci hukuncin kisa ba shiyasa ma,aiki sallallahu alaihi wasallam acikin hadisin Sa ya hane mu d yanke hukunci cikin fishi har sai d yamai maimaita sau uku amma de ynx me faruwa ta riga da ta faru kin riga kin aikita sai ki cigaba d adua d istigfari kuma kada ki sake ki fada ma kowa wannan zancen tunda Allah y rufa miki asiri kada ki to na kanki Allah y kiyaye na gaba
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Ahjummaah Mar 12, 10:05 AM

Nop bazatayi azumi ba tunda she did it intentionally
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Ahjummaah Mar 12, 10:08 AM
Allah ya ya yafe miki
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Nameer Mar 12, 10:52 AM

ok. thanks for the correction
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Ahjummaah Mar 12, 11:08 AM

🙏
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Msahyus Mar 12, 01:08 PM

don't even think of it idan ba 2:0 kikeson yi ba. now you have the chance of tawbah so don't even think of it. shaidan ne yake Neman kaiki ya baroki. I'll advice you to start watching Islamic videos on YouTube on channels like the daily reminder, one Islam production's, ILovUAllah, merciful servant e.t.c you'll find great videos of bad people who made taubah and had great endings. ALLAH ubangiji ya shiga lamarinki da mu Baki daya
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Boubar Mar 12, 06:30 PM
I will advise you get Mallam Daurawa's phone number and talk to him directly about this. Most of what you will get here would be judgemental and inadequate to address your problem.
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Deelart Mar 12, 08:38 PM
azumi 60 zaki sannan ki dage da istigfar da sadaka duk da Allah baya yafe laifin wanni rai dole sai shi zai yafe miki
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Maeesha Mar 20, 07:34 AM
kiyita istighfari, karatun Al-Qurani, Allah ya yafe mana gabadaya. maybe ki nemi maganin depression.
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Anonynous Mar 21, 07:00 PM
Innalillahi wa inna ilaihi rajiuna
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Habebaahh Apr 9, 11:18 PM
Hasbunallah,
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