My husband is abusive, I need advice
Anonymous Nov 3, 10:15 PM

My husband is abusive, I need advice 0

Asslm, good evening ma/sir pls I need urgent advice I got married this year March me and hubby are always quarreling ever since we got married I don’t have peace of mind in my marriage, whenever I saw him I will be irritated and if he’s not around am always happy😭whenever we get into quarreling he will start hitting me and pounching me and I now there’s no single love left for him in my heart again please I need your advice 🙏😭😭 I am tired of the marriage. THANK YOU🙏🥺😩🥵😭 AND NO INSULT PLS
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Anonymous #2 Nov 3, 10:27 PM
subhanallah....this is uncalled for, hitting and punching is unmanly, but communication is always the key, either direct or thru parental intervention..i wunt advise ki rama but stop giving him chnce t beat u by becoming silent when he initiates the quarrels.
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Ahmadu20 Nov 3, 11:01 PM
you got married just March of dis year and you are already punching each other, the story no clear... give us the full story
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Anonymous #4 Nov 3, 11:29 PM
inalillahi Subhanallah And Baki Mai wani Abu ba da kuke samun issue and how come daga quarrel he start beating and you edure it kiyi shiru bafa a shiru in dis type of case please tell your parents let them or someone of a fatherly figure know you just got married and now beating and punching please talk to someone it not something you keep quiet
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Anonymous #1 Nov 4, 04:29 AM
so heart touching na farko u shld inform someone dat u knw ur hubby yana jin maganan shi kinsa waensu mazan ba kunya garesu bah ba kowa suke saurara bah and plsss don’t allow him to hit u again idan kinga he will do saw is better for u to run away if he is used to dat is impossible for him ya daina hitting naki u re his wife not his slave and kema if u knw u re doing something bad dat he don’t want u shld stop it and lastly addua kai kukanki wajen ubangiji and he will surely answer u baccin dare ba naki bane my sister wake up and prayer😫🤲Allah ya bamu mazaje nagari 🙏🏾
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Fatima Alfa Nov 4, 06:55 AM
Allah ya kyauta,keep on praying all will be fine insha Allah.
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Anonymous Nov 4, 07:27 AM

That’s the only truth I know I have my own fault too but immediately I know I wronged him I will apologize Wallahi am tired I don’t love him anymore
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Anonymous #2 Nov 4, 07:28 AM

re u sure u married him with ur parents consent??
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Nasssss9 Nov 4, 07:33 AM
Im sure there are people he listen to and respect, report him to them, it is better to find a lasting solution than to be a slave in ur own comfort zone...Please be hasty so that u can live a happy marriage!
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Anonymous Nov 4, 07:33 AM

yes but before that my grandma refused because she knows the kind of people they are in there family so I insisted is him I want but I later found out my grandma is right even his mother is against the marriage but his elder brother which happen to be my aunt hubby really like me so he pleaded that please I should accept to marry him brother but ever since I did the marriage I don’t have peace of mind and even my father doesn’t like him because he’s rude to my father infact all my people if am to tell my dad about the beating part he will never allow me to stay again and am just 22yrs😭😭
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Ahmadu20 Nov 4, 07:43 AM
from my observation, there was never love between you guys. you both married each for one reason or the other but it was never for love so I guess you guys are now reaping from that reason and until you both found the reason to love each other without conditions attached to it, this will definitely continue...
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Anonymous Nov 4, 07:46 AM

Dama you’re with me to see how am doing, Wallahi duk abun da mum nasa kokuma friends said that’s what he do follow, I don’t have a say in this house
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Anonymous Nov 4, 07:48 AM

hmmmmmm...you’re right but I did not marry him for any reason gaskiya but I don’t know for him, I do sit him down and ask him what I did to him to deserve this kind treatment from him he said I should not ask him any stupid questions again next time
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Anonymous Nov 4, 07:54 AM
Anonymous #2 Nov 4, 07:59 AM

if i get u right, u re staying now dae a gidanshi because u re afraid of bcoming bazawara at 22, hence u couldn't tell ur dad
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Anonymous #5 Nov 4, 08:07 AM
sorry sis for dis ur kaddara, buh dere r something that we humans already see d red flags buh still go ahead ND do it, firstly, u said ur grandma n dad was against it, wen u pple were dating, du u see in him sum1 u can marry ND live with, it's very important I know dat dere s red flags buh u ignored it, d mistake we children of nowadays make s if we want something we don't look at d implications ur dad doesn't lyk him I don't see d reasons why u got married to him @first place, albarka iyaye is very important, d mistake has already been done, js go bk to ur apologize ND tell him what u r going thru, I know he loves u, s better to leave alive than leave dead. our life precious, don't allow any man put such pain on u, insha Allah everything will b fyn, pray pray ND pray ND seek for guidance from ur elders. thank you.
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Ahmad Muhammad kamba Nov 4, 09:17 AM
subhanallahi, this is very scary, wheat some men's are doing is totally bad, nd it's Haram. beating or heating a woman is totally Haram Islamically. my sistr my advice here is you report him directly to ur parents, let's them knw what is going on btw you two
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Anonymous Nov 4, 09:25 AM

Noy am not actually scared of been divorcée people that are not up to my age are not longer in there husband’s house am just scared of what people will say but I come to think of it if am to follow what people might says after I left my hubby’s house I will definitely not grow
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Anonymous Nov 4, 10:07 AM

when I told my uncle yesterday the question he asked was that if am pregnant I told him no he said okay I should not try and be pregnant ohh I should not allow history to repeat itself again
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BabyG Nov 4, 10:21 AM
hitting and punching is the last thing anyone should take in a marriage, involve ur parents and find a solution to the problem if not it’s better to leave.
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Yasmeen Nov 4, 11:56 AM
May Allah intervene. abun babu dadi
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Suleiman Mukhtar Ibrahim Nov 4, 12:10 PM

My dear sis,not like I'm encouraging you to leave your marriage, but I think it's better you come out alive if all necessary action has been taken jn the last 8 months and still your not having peace in your home.
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Ahmad Muhammad kamba Nov 4, 12:18 PM

you shouldn't allow history to repeat it self how? how can you be pregnant for him , Yana dukan naki Zaki iya samun cikin 🙂 i don't think idan shawaran uncle dinki is a good advice to take! what If u're pregnant for him, nd still yna dukanki. kokuma bayan kin haihu yaqi ya daena halinshi
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Jibril saeed Nov 4, 07:04 PM
keep on praying
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Anonymous #6 Nov 4, 08:55 PM

He meant is, since she's not yet pregnant for him, that she should not try to get pregnant for him. so thier divorce can be easy,smooth and fine without any connection and I think that's fine.
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Anonymous #7 Nov 4, 09:31 PM

yeah, he's right 💯, don't b pregnant for him. bcx d alama mijin naki I'm sorry to say baisan darajar macce b. ko a gaban yaranki zai iya dukanki
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