How to know who to trust/believe?
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Anonymous May 5, 06:14 AM

How to know who to trust/believe? 0

Salam, my story is short, i happen to be in my late twenties with no single boyfriend or suitor. My first real boyfriend was when i was 17, we dated for 4yrs and about to get engaged when i found out he had been hiding a very bad habit from me that was islamically not acceptable. Couldn't ignore the red flags 4 my future and that of my children, so I dis istikhara for a week and ended the relationship, that was the beginning of my lack of trust in men. This is 8yrs down the line and i still dnt trust anyone who approaches me, i c every man that approaches me as someone that wud waste my tym and cheat me in the end. Please need ur advise on how to overcome this and ur prayers. Jazakallahu khair
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Khadeejah Muhammad May 5, 02:44 PM
Keep praying sis inshallah Allah will choose the right best suitor for u...
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Anonymous #1 May 5, 05:35 PM
First of all you have to put it at the back of your mind that everything that happened to you is part of your destiny you can neither prevent it from happening nor undue its damages but you can learn from it and that makes it an experience. So since you had an experience then you have to change your relationship methods probably then you are dating one person at a time now that you had bad experience resulting from trusting one person at a time you have to give chance to more than one person as it will reduce the chances of reoccurrance of your first bad experience and also you have to believe that not all people are bad this will help you earnestly in overcoming your trust issues. Lastly hold on to prayer and salatul istikhara, may allah choose the best for you.
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Ayesha audu May 5, 06:30 PM
So one man messed up and then all men are like that?? i know its human nature to stereotype but you have to think beyond what your mind feeds you and have a broader look of the reality. i agree that some men especially yan Arewa have trust issues in relationships. but that's some portion of the men. The fact is that not all men are the same just like not all women are the same. you can't use one lady to judge all ladies. isn't it??? that's all i wish to tell you. Wishing you the best in your future relationship.
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Karim May 7, 12:32 AM

Assalaam alaykum WarahmatuLlaahi Wabarakaatuh. I found this very informative writeup for you. https://www.soundvision.com/article/7-etiquettes-of-seeking-a-spouse Pls read and digest, it's should anwers your questions and halay your fears Inshaa Allaah.
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